How to attract a Virgo Male (Page 2)

Thanks zeo. Your sweet.

if i give him time and space—??

Posted by cinder
Thanks zeo. Your sweet.

only when kissing haha

otherwise men are not sweet, men are tough and....tough grrrr

Posted by cinder
if i give him time and space—??

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you can but invest your emotional energy in other people and other things, dont expect something from him

i feel you want some justice for yourself, fair enough.

be good to yourself too, there are heaps of guys that want a passionate fiery sagittarius like you, right?

listen to some sad music, or find someone in the same situation as you. finding a connection with something helps dissipate the pain

time you are investing in being upset is time that you are missing to be found by mr right, correct?

of course you need the time to get better and feel better, this is certain, but dont spend more time than necessary

someone is waiting for you young lady.....

i dont know how pretty you are but they may not necessarily be waiting for you because of that, maybe the reason is the sadness in your eyes?

Ok Mr toughie! In answer to your question I have uploaded a photo! I am sure someone has my name on them...just too heartsick to think on it now! Have lots of friends and support so will try and soldier on!

Posted by cinder
Ok Mr toughie! In answer to your question I have uploaded a photo! I am sure someone has my name on them...just too heartsick to think on it now! Have lots of friends and support so will try and soldier on!

good to hear, go do something fun with your friends

and dont look so demure, give a smile

zeoblade a pimp huh 😛 who would have thought?

i am a gentleman or gentlepimp thank you very much!

We'll find out which of both you belong to, but in the mean time let me say you're a very welcome addition to the Dxp community, especially the Virgo board.

He hehehe! No such thing as a gentle pimp so lets stick with gentleman! I guess this whole thing has been very insightful...(now comes the philosopher sag!!) i really cant do hard or un communicative relationships! They really need openness and honesty and if thats not happening from the start I should just pull out! Its just that I can quickly see the potential in people and tend to jump in boots and all! Then I end up frustrated because others are not the same! I have to learn that others are different to me! But still...I think it would of been helpful had he said something earlier if it did not feel right or if he said he was not looking for anything other than casual. I dont know that he was...I think he couldnt make up his mind then I pushed to hard. Still I dont like to let things go so I will attempt the friends thing and somewhere hopefully we will find a balance!
And the photo is not too demure......I am not a shrinking violet type!

Thanks boom! Its too much of a mouthful so i'll just shorten it! In any case...Virgos seem kind of like hard work but like very sensitive and genuine people! Don't really know if I would be rushing to enter into a relationship with another tho!!! With all respect!

Virgos need a little more time and trust to develop an all-opennness policy, we're basically private people for the most part, BUT if we trust you completely we will be as open as any Sag would be.

Well I have done my dash with him! He has decided I am not for him...even though he likes me...and they say once a vrigos mind is made up then thats it! Isnt it—? I dont want to harbour hope that he will come back!

Posted by cinder
Thanks boom! Its too much of a mouthful so i'll just shorten it! In any case...Virgos seem kind of like hard work but like very sensitive and genuine people! Don't really know if I would be rushing to enter into a relationship with another tho!!! With all respect!

I dont blame you either! sometimes we require a little more patience than you're used to as a Sag (you can be an impatient lot lol, not in a negative way though) but chances are big if you find yourself a Virgo with considerable fire in his chart, he'll surely be surprisingly open from the beginning. To give you an example..I started dating my current cappy only like after 2 weeks of having met her, we got really serious only a few weeks after that 😄 We've been together for 2 and half years now.

Posted by cinder
Well I have done my dash with him! He has decided I am not for him...even though he likes me...and they say once a vrigos mind is made up then thats it! Isnt it—? I dont want to harbour hope that he will come back!

INdeed, this is an exasperating situation for a Sag, to know someone likes you but the practical considerations prevent it from the heart taking over? thats even unknown territory for me as a Virgo 😛 but I can imagine the textbook Virgo would make such a decision.

So i have a plan....and that is to give him some space to digest...then be friendly.....and then see what happens...if its meant to be it will and if not maybe we will just be friends...and have had time to get to know one another. In the meantime.. I am going dancing with friends on the weekend! And putting on a happy face ( though I may cry into my drink if I think no one is watching!)

That's a great attitude to have for the moment, obviously it gives you the chance not to keep any false hopes but at the same time keep things open and friendly with him, good luck! have fun and keep us updated 🙂

will do!

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
We'll find out which of both you belong to, but in the mean time let me say you're a very welcome addition to the Dxp community, especially the Virgo board.

thank you, i've joined to really understand our virgo nature and other signs. i think the opportunity to use our virgo ability to analyse is good exercise to test out our repetoire. i'm a chemist by trade so its quite natural for me to pick up a system like astrology and cross it with other personality systems like the zodiac, numerology, jung-meyer-briggs, etc and turn it into a multivariate periodic table of elements. the ancients used basic 4/5 element systems to classify things that expanded into modern day chemistry. so hopefully i dont get accused with the title of alchemist haha

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He hehehe! No such thing as a gentle pimp so lets stick with gentleman! I guess this whole thing has been very insightful...(now comes the philosopher sag!!) i really cant do hard or un communicative relationships! They really need openness and honesty and if thats not happening from the start I should just pull out! Its just that I can quickly see the potential in people and tend to jump in boots and all! Then I end up frustrated because others are not the same! I have to learn that others are different to me! But still...I think it would of been helpful had he said something earlier if it did not feel right or if he said he was not looking for anything other than casual. I dont know that he was...I think he couldnt make up his mind then I pushed to hard. Still I dont like to let things go so I will attempt the friends thing and somewhere hopefully we will find a balance!
And the photo is not too demure......I am not a shrinking violet type!

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astrology is not a pure science, its pseudoscience because of the limit of acceptance is low in terms of accuracy - especially since personality is multifactorial - too hard to predict with great accuracy. just remember to only use it as a preliminary for characterisation. its class type classification.

sagittarius is good with other fire and air. but it is really only a tendency, a probability. just there are fewer cases of unsuccessful relationships than with water or earth. at the end of the day, dont just predict soley based on your sun sign. for the same

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
We'll find out which of both you belong to, but in the mean time let me say you're a very welcome addition to the Dxp community, especially the Virgo board.

thank you, i've joined to really understand our virgo nature and other signs. i think the opportunity to use our virgo ability to analyse is good exercise to test out our repetoire. i'm a chemist by trade so its quite natural for me to pick up a system like astrology and cross it with other personality systems like the zodiac, numerology, jung-meyer-briggs, etc and turn it into a multivariate periodic table of elements. the ancients used basic 4/5 element systems to classify things that expanded into modern day chemistry. so hopefully i dont get accused with the title of alchemist haha

Posted by cinder
He hehehe! No such thing as a gentle pimp so lets stick with gentleman! I guess this whole thing has been very insightful...(now comes the philosopher sag!!) i really cant do hard or un communicative relationships! They really need openness and honesty and if thats not happening from the start I should just pull out! Its just that I can quickly see the potential in people and tend to jump in boots and all! Then I end up frustrated because others are not the same! I have to learn that others are different to me! But still...I think it would of been helpful had he said something earlier if it did not feel right or if he said he was not looking for anything other than casual. I dont know that he was...I think he couldnt make up his mind then I pushed to hard. Still I dont like to let things go so I will attempt the friends thing and somewhere hopefully we will find a balance!
And the photo is not too demure......I am not a shrinking violet type!

click to expand

astrology is not a pure science, its pseudoscience because of the limit of acceptance is low in terms of accuracy - especially since personality is multifactorial - too hard to predict with great accuracy. just remember to only use it as a preliminary for characterisation. its class type classification.

sagittarius is good with other fire and air. but it is really only a tendency, a probability. just there are fewer cases of unsuccessful relationships than with water or earth. at the end of the day, dont just predict soley based on your sun sign. for the same

sagittarius is good with other fire and air. but it is really only a tendency, a probability. just there are fewer cases of unsuccessful relationships than with water or earth. at the end of the day, dont just predict soley based on your sun sign. for the same reason that sagittarius spectrum is not monochromatic is the same reason that virgo spectrum is not monochromatic. well some people can tell the difference between one red and another, but some people cant

i just think you should spend more time on initial assessment, see what personality features will cause problems for you. different people have different stages of progression in their elemental control. if you have some general fundamental romance requirements like honesty, transparency, communication, etc then that might be enough. just probe the other person for their love philosophy as a shortcut, this will determine if you have the same love destination. then you can date to find if the way to get there is going to be in the same car

you are right,the photo is not too demure but if recently taken then who wouldnt understand your expression?

Well...he is still talking to me every night on FB.......

his guilty conscience.... booo

really zeo? Is that all it is....is there no slim chance if we maintain a friendship—

Oh dear........my friend stalked my love on FB and sent him a message saying that she was horrified he broke it off over skype, but at least it wasn't a post it! Then she told him she hopes he knows the damage he has caused! I had NO IDEA she was sending him a message till she rang me and told me what she had done! I am guessing he will be royally peeved with it and be angry about it and not speak to me?!! But Its not my fault!!! I didn't know she would do such a STUPID thing till she told me afterwards!! WHat do I do? I am not going to mention it because I really had no idea! If he brings it up and I am going to tell him I did not know because I did not!! But I am thinking he is really going to think its now way way to hard and just not speak to me—? I cant believe she did such a stupid thing and now I will have to wear the consequences! Things are going from bad to worse......and that one was totally left field!

he might feel guilty, but i think he deserves to feel uncomfortable, dont you?

be friends with him and then tell him all about your new bf haha

Funnily enough......my ex is sniffing around!!! But tho I appreciate it.....my heart is with the freaking virgo!!!

wow can you tell me what angle he worked to get you so hooked? i want to increase my chances

I dont even know his angle! Its because he is smart and unassuming, funny and kind........and yes...I feel there is so much more to know! If only he would let me in!!

since he's being a prick, just bash your way in, but if you're afraid to lose his friendship then maybe a more tactful way. you seem fixated on this guy. i dont know if its some unique quality or your own personal ambition

I think its my unique quality!! I just feel that if he likes me and I him...that must be something!! But the whole bit about him saying he doesnt know if I am the right one...that logic of his that doesnt let him be in the moment and just give himself over to me...that drives me crazy! We like each other..lets just jump in! But either he is just too analytial ( and has been hurt in the past thats a fact) or he just doesnt feel that fundamental something......but can virgos do the whole sleep with and be with someone 3-4 times a week if there is no emotion and its just sex? I also think that being friends will either let us get to know each other better and appreciate each others qualities and then get it together...or let us jus be able to be friends and gradually move past the whole lovers thing—?

Its probably all in my head...and he means what he says...yet I cling to this little hope....he likes me....

but maybe just not like that...

if you are really determined to get him, you have to address this fear of his. he's got to see that there's nothing to fear with you to trust you. maybe you can express your love philosophy to let him see your transparency

well, virgo can sleep with someone and being with them 3-4 times a week just to get off.... but we like to appear 'good gentlemen' or 'good ladies'

there is a big image thing with virgo, we look in mirrors to keep ourselves in check to keep appearances just like we are mirrors that reflect other people

i feel the friends route is the way to go because you have to be good friends before you can be lovers

you can test if it is in your head or not by trying to date other men. if you feel the feeling is gone after you meet another man, then it was just in your head. dont let people know that, it may be used to get something from you

Its not in my head...my ex that is calling me....wants to see me and have dinner...I cried in his arms after the split for gods sake...he wanted me...I felt nothing...and yet...Before I met the virgo...I would of done anything to stay with the ex........no other fit feels right except virgo man! Can you really truly do the sleeping thing without any feeling or emotion? My virgo says he had feeling and emotion....

i could sleep with a woman knowing we werent going to be in a relationship, but i wouldnt be proud of it and wouldnt want other people knowing about it because it would damage my reputation. its like looking at porn

but i feel at my age it would be detrimental to just sleep with women to get my kicks out of what i make them do, i would ruin my marriage potential. so i might as well get myself a wife and also get kicks about what i make her do because then its ok, right? what you do with your wife is your business and your privilege to as husband and wife

so given a choice, i choose to not just sleep with a woman, because the nights i sleep with women, i might as well be looking for a wife. i dont want to marry too late

I think thats a fair attitude and from what i read...most virgos like relationships, which is why i thought we were heading that way......anyway he just FB me to tell me he got my friends email and not to worry about it and to ask if i was ok?!! I just talked normally, said ok....sorry my friend emailed you and that i had to go and would talk soon........so does he still care? even a little? or is it guilt?!!! He didnt hide me...we went out for dinner and he met a couple of my friends....his parents found out about us.....— i probably read way too much into things!

just be friends for now and use friendship to see if some slow crystallisation can offer you any beautiful love crystals. thats what love is based on

to get with him you got to be able to know him, because we're trying to guess here, it means you dont know him

he doesnt seem to like people analysing him (strange and unfair) but he likes to analyse, right? you can use this to let him observe you as friends

and dont sleep with him yet or anymore until he makes a commitment. getting hot sex without having to maintain a relationship is unfair to you - worse case - you dont want to be used for sex. dont use it as a lure but it could be something he could get if he wants to make a commitment

love is a two way street

remember you have standards and dont have to adjust to his standards - he has to satisfy you too. and in doing so is very rewarding

Thanks zeo.....sound advice and i will take it!! We do need to get to know one another more......I will take the friend route! Keep me posted on the sag!

I really love how all of you try to help people. I like reading the posts, they are very informative. 🙂

ggrrr back with update. its been about a month since my virgo and i have seen each other...we are still talking all the time on FB. I have found that he is even being more open in our conversations. He has been away and just got home 2 days ago. we chatting and i said do you want to catch up for a drink soon? He messages yes but not sure when, lots of work. so i just let it go and say ok, when you have a window let me know. we both sign off with kisses. today i messaged him to ask if he is working today and tomorrow. he says tomorrow for a little bit. I say wanna have a drink? he asks tomorrow? i say yeah or this evening. he says...i think it would be difficult for me to see you! i (being obtuse) say...why...coz of work?! he says...yes and also just difficult to see you. I say but we are meant to be friends. we can meet somewhere neutral and you can go home after....he says he is not ready to see me yet. I ask if we are friends, and i am ok and you are over me there is no problem?...h just says not ready yet! xx.....so stupid...if he doesnt have feelings...shouldnt be difficult...if he does have feelings...why fight them? why not see how we are with each other? What is this?!!!! And what do I do next. I dont think i can ask or push again as thats what split us up in the first place!! gggrrrr!!!

Well.....thanks pandemonium! I have been patient, and guess what...after the whole i cant see you, he messaged me same night and asked if i wanted him to drop in! Of course I said yes......I kept calm and talked about everything but us! No pressure on him this time around...I guess if he came he made a choice that he was ok with it?? I also let him walk out the door and go home at the end of the night! BUT! as he was getting into his car i sent a message saying kinda wish you didnt go and viola....he didnt!! Still....I am taking your advice and will remain patient, cause I really dont know what he will do next! Part of me is braced for him to say it was a bad idea and go running for the hills again! So i think...I will have to keep my mouth zipped for a bit...see what happens!

Put on your Ryka running shoes...cause you're either running towards him...or running to get away! It depends on the day/time/weather! Oh! You better grab a running jacket cause it could get cold if you catch up to him. Oh! Make sure you have a water bottle because you might have to put out the burning fire that's been there and you didn't seem to notice it from the distance. Oh! You better wear a hockey mask to block the jabs if you dare analyze him. Oh! You better bring your decoder ring to understand the mixed signals that he thought were clear. Oh! Dare not catch him and ask any questions, just follow the pace he's setting and hope you don't get tired or fall in a ditch.

Ha ha ha ha....yep...feels just like that LGFR!!!

Interesting story, what a virgo is ur ideal man .... I am virgo of Sep 2 and my understanding about male virgo was .... we are reversible if people show us such an affection and interest. OR we cut the relationship for ever in any manner.
I have a sagi girlfriend and had decided a million times to break-up but always change my mind with her smile .... It is very true that we Virgos are insecure and may be he has fear that once you know him deep inside you will feel different.

I think it also worth no note that we Virgos are shrewd and calculative if we are suspicions

Hmmm well in my case with my virgo guy I didn't try. All I did was be myself. Which still gets me even to this daybecause I know how picky these guys get, and if u knew me, I wouldn't fit theit "type". I think it has something to do with being happy and friendly,confident,and able to have your own opinions that attract them. Any girl who tries too hard is just wasting they're time. Because more then likely your true self will show eventually and its just bound to be a problem for u and him. Keep it real and see what happens 🙂