How to show appreciation/love to Virgo?

I'd really
like to understand the love language of Virgo better. My guy is Virgo Sun, Virgo Venus, Taurus Moon, Leo Mercury, Aquarius Mars.

What does it take make them/you feel appreciated? Cared for? Loved?

Are you in a relationship with him? or just friend?

My husband. We rarely argue but occasionally have an argument about him feeling taken for granted or unappreciated. I appreciate him deeply, he's amazing.

Also my sister is Virgo Moon, Venus, & Mercury. Leo Sun.

In that case, I can't help you. You're stuck so stick it out!!! 😉 I'm just kidding. LOL.

I'm a girl by the way so I can't give an insight on how a Virgo husband wants to be appreciated. I know a little on how cancer husband wants to be appreciated cause I'm married to one.

I have a male friend who is a virgo and in order to make him feel appreciated I tend to blow smoke up his ass and give hims gifts, i.e. 4 tickets to LA Kings (when my husband and I can't make it). He is a great pal. Been friends for years from college days to post grad days. Good times! All before I met my match, the cancer hubby. I thought life was good but it actually can be better than good. LOL.

We have some very nice virgo guys in this forum but they hid in the shadow to preserve their awesomeness. I'm serious.

I keep replying to you so your thread stays on top for them to see and react accordingly. 😉

Do you verbally tell him you appreciate him? Do you surprise him with romantic gifts and places?

They love the little things a thank you card just cause would be nice 🙂

If you complain more than you say thank you then I could see why he feels that way.

Sweet well thought of romantic gifts that reminds him of good times something like that.

We're really low maintenance people..

You don't have to do much. Just make sure you notice our ways to support you. Even if you disagree with stuff we're saying or advising you about, show us you take it on board and are open to our ideas.

Be gentle. Don't be an emotional storm.

Above all, a Virgo will only cater to a person they see as strong. If we'd die tomorrow, our ideal partner would have it all figured out, the kids wouldn't go hungry or uneducated etc. You wouldn't fall to pieces. Be resourceful, it will ease our anxiety about taking care of everything.

Since this is a guy, surprise blowjobs wouldn't go amiss too.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
Do you verbally tell him you appreciate him? Do you surprise him with romantic gifts and places?

They love the little things a thank you card just cause would be nice 🙂

If you complain more than you say thank you then I could see why he feels that way.

I rarely complain, if ever. (I don't understand why anyone does. If there's a problem, fix it.) However what triggered this most recent argument (and what Always triggers) makes sense w/ his Leo Merc. CafeAstrology.com says, "..stubbornness in the face of criticism or over-sensitivity to anything less than praise is present.... With intellect and ego so closely tied, the ability to separate fact from fiction can be impaired." I left the front door open as I have a bad habit of doing and he always reminds me not to. Apparently he was feeling stressed today and so reacted by slamming it shut and muttering something. I told him I didn't appreciate the unnecessary reaction and he started to argue w/ me. So, my Libra balancing act came out and I reasoned, "When you leave food out and we have to throw it away which irritates me I don't react irrationally, slamming it into the garbage bin. I'd appreciate the same respect." I wasn't complaining. I was counter reasoning.

He took those few words and ran all the way out into left field with them. Suddenly I don't appreciate anything he does. Leo Merc, makes perfect sense. He feels criticized by "anything less than praise."

OctBaby, it's an interesting comment to make, simply because of the several Virgos I know.. I couldn't imagine any one of them walking down the aisle with someone who complained constantly.. or ever! lol

Thanks VirgoDragirl. What about you? What can your friends do to make sure you feel loved & appreciated? My closest female friend is Virgo Moon as well as my sister's several placements.

I verbalize my appreciation regularly out loud or texting, thanks for cooking, grocery shopping, orgasm, etc. 🙂 But i feel like the words get monotonous. I want to Show it more. I don't do many surprises or little gifts beyond holidays/special occasions. That seems like an obvious one! I am going to start thinking of romantic gifts like in the early dating days. Actually, my man loves surprise flowers, I adore that about him. 🙂

Damnanta- Yes, definitively low maintenance! Actually, what's interesting (and occasionally annoying tbh) about him is that he rarely offers advice. He says he feels awful for forcing his opinion on others in the past and I think he just hasn't found/become comfortable with a balanced approach yet.

Agree on the emotional storm, learned that early on. (Take note any Virgo-guy-dating-hopefuls 😉 ) The dominant placement in my chart is Venus Scorp which was a problem in the early days because I don't understand casual dating.. It's all good these days. 🙂

magma, Consistancy! ..is something I've been working on. He says that often. It's interesting how important that really is to V.

he likes flowers? hmmmm such a feminine as sign LOL.


oh ok I get it he just want to be praise like he is a king or something lol. He'll live.


I have moon in Leo so I kind of do that subconsciously lol I need to work on that its so annoying.

Posted by duchesslibro

What does it take make them/you feel appreciated? Cared for? Loved?

Nod in agreement often, let them correct you without debate, place a few "you're right" here and there during conversations and learn to sleep with your eyes open when they want to talk.


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Actually Phoenix, we very much enjoy debating with one another and I didn't mention he's Asc Libra. He is a lovely, lively, open minded conversationalist and relatively flexible. One of the primary attractions between us is the fun of intellectualizing together. He wouldn't like me to hold back my opinion and quite honestly, I'm incapable in my close relationships. I think that would have been a deal breaker from both our perspectives. His Mars Aqua gets off on intellectual persuits and my Moon is Gemini. I have an actual need for intellectual conversation.

magma, our indoors-only cat recently developed a desire to go outside. We don't want him go out at all. But, we have a baby and if i need to run out to the car (literally ten feet from the front door) baby will be in the play-yard in the front room and I just want to be able to hear. So it's become a habit and I understand it's annoying. My mommy instincts trump worrying about the cat.

He brings in 75% of the income, i get it. He can waste food if he wants because he pays for it. I just find that very foolish and financially wasteful.

Regardless, I wasn't addressing the food wasting as an issue that needs resolving. I was addressing the door slamming. To mention the food wasting was simply to show a comparison for things we each get irritated by and that his reaction this particular time was not cool.

What is exciting however is that we resolved this argument faster than any other we've had to date! Progress!! It used to be that he would get very oversensitive and irrational and shut himself off for days, weeks even. I don't think he's had many people in his life with Libra qualities. He seemed to anticipate unreasonable anger and poor conflict resolution. I however, can smooth nearly any problem right into silk. It's my superpower. 🙂 And I don't have to bullbutter or sugarcoat my way through it as I've read is supposedly common.. I never make a compromise I dont believe in. I can be quite stubborn and stick to what I believe to be important, (Mars Cap?) while still being openminded to a better perspective (Lib + Gem Moon?) I always want to make the best choice after all. Astrology is so interesting. 🙂

Posted by duchesslibro

I left the front door open as I have a bad habit of doing and he always reminds me not to.

Posted by duchesslibro

What does it take make them/you feel appreciated?

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If you aren't going to actually do/or not do those things in which irritates him, and just pass it off as unimportant enough for you to remember ... then you don't actually deserve to feel validated.

The only reason you made this thread was to get validated for purposely pissing him off. By you not closing the door, when you know it irritates him, then that equates to you purposely and intentionally trying to fuck with him.

You don't deserve to be validated, because you're are wrong.

You want him to appreciate you? You could start by shutting the goddam door.

Obviously, from what you have written ... you purposely push his buttons.


If you are getting grief from him .... you deserve it.

I don't have any need to feel validated by anyone besides my husband, whom I do not intentionally create negative energy for. P- I assume you are familiar w the qualities of Libra? I don't do things with the sole intention of irritating people, especially not people I love.

magma, I am interested in your perspective even if a different kind of situation. Maybe it would be helpful to another who might read this thread? 🙂

the only person i complain to is my momma lol

i usually keep a cool/laid back disposition around other peeps

bumi, what makes you feel loved & appreciated?

Posted by duchesslibro
I'd really
like to understand the love language of Virgo better. My guy is Virgo Sun, Virgo Venus, Taurus Moon, Leo Mercury, Aquarius Mars.

What does it take make them/you feel appreciated? Cared for? Loved?

my sister's man is a Virgo sun with Libra venus, Mars Leo.

We saw him over the weekend and he's growing a beard! 😄 😄

I wish i could tell you, but we don't live with them to "notice" anything hugely significant. lol

but open communication is good don't you think? Ask him, tell him, that you'd like to make him happy.

what i did notice is that they were super duper lovey dovey and cuddling (PDA style ). But other Virgos arent like that. My father's brother (he's a virgo sun) who we don't see often, is not like that.

I'd check up each placement, and the houses they're in. UPBRINGING! culture background ect that kind of thing.

remember, virgos in general like to be of "service" 🙂

if they love you, they will please you.

Posted by duchesslibro

I don't have any need to feel validated by anyone besides my husband, whom I do not intentionally create negative energy for.

I don't do things with the sole intention of irritating people, especially not people I love.

You can (say) whatever you choose to say in defense of your actions .. but, your actions are the proof in the pudding.

You chose to leave the door open, so your actions prove that you intentionally pushed a button that you knew would tick him off.

You chose to come in here to be validated for what you know is a wrong doing.

those ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ are your actions.


Talk is cheap ... your forked tongue can say anything it desires ... but, the truth is that you did something to him that you knew would piss him off, and you did it anyway.

in fact, somewhere in here you alluded that your reason for keeping the door open was more important than his feelings on the matter, which means you actually thought about what you were doing.


You're not going to fool me ... I can smell a lying bitch.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by duchesslibro

I don't have any need to feel validated by anyone besides my husband, whom I do not intentionally create negative energy for.

I don't do things with the sole intention of irritating people, especially not people I love.

You can (say) whatever you choose to say in defense of your actions .. but, your actions are the proof in the pudding.

You chose to leave the door open, so your actions prove that you intentionally pushed a button that you knew would tick him off.

You chose to come in here to be validated for what you know is a wrong doing.

those ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ are your actions.


Talk is cheap ... your forked tongue can say anything it desires ... but, the truth is that you did something to him that you knew would piss him off, and you did it anyway.

in fact, somewhere in here you alluded that your reason for keeping the door open was more important than his feelings on the matter, which means you actually thought about what you were doing.


You're not going to fool me ... I can smell a lying bitch.

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"The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so sure of themselves and wiser people so full of doubt."

P, you've got quite a bit of Aries in your chart, don't you? 🙂

Skillfully deflect his "outbursts" with a calm, loving, but distant, but genuine tone. Something like "...you seem stressed, I put a beer and mug, in the freezer, for you...." Then, vacate the premise and let him analyze the scenario in silence. Do not engage in the back and forth. Strongly state your case, without being emotional and "catty," then, leave the area if he does not stop firing shots. I smile with my voice and make direct eye contact, as I state my case, he usually snaps right out of it, into that cuddly goof ball that I feel in love with, but when he is that rigid robot character, that makes for a great protector (Terminator) not lover, I leave the scene. That guy came to seek and destroy. When the Terminator leaves, I go back to calmly, but consisently loving him. I try to voice my issues calmly. don't argue.

Interesting our charts are pretty similar, except for the Mars/merc.

For me I love little thoughtful acts that show how much you know me and pay attention to who I am. Anybody can buy flowers and jewelry but it takes someone that really loves you to understand you and to know the little things that REALLY make you happy.

Posted by fembot
Interesting our charts are pretty similar, except for the Mars/merc.

For me I love little thoughtful acts that show how much you know me and pay attention to who I am. Anybody can buy flowers and jewelry but it takes someone that really loves you to understand you and to know the little things that REALLY make you happy.

Interesting. Maybe it's because it's not particularly common for men to have flowers bought for them but my husband Loves getting flowers. And dark chocolate.

A long hand-written letter 🙂