Virgo sends mixed signals!

I've been confused for about 2 yrs now. Lol...well maybe not that long. I met him two yrs ago and we started off as friends. hit it off really easy in our a class we had together in college. We never dated but always showed affection towards each other. He'd come over to my dorm sometimes and we'd take naps together, cuddle, all that good friendly innocent stuff. When I met him he had a girlfriend so we couldn't be more than friends.

Then the broke up and we started getting more intimate but I always knew he wasn't the type of guy for a relationship. However, he would always randomly say "I like you." and it would catch me off guard because one minute he's telling me he's not the type for a relationship but the next he's telling me he likes me. which one is it!?

well ever since then, we've graduated from college and we live in separate cities (just an hour away). i visit him sometimes but we mostly just talk through text or phone call. i may hear from him once a week or sometimes just once a month.

It had been a while since we had contact and he just recently called me the other day out the blue because he missed me. He also said that he feels it's 70/30 with me and I don't put effort into contacting him. But the reason I don't contact him is because when I do, he gives me really dry awkward conversation or he forgets to respond or finish the conversation. So I just prefer him to hit me up first. So I tried putting in effort today by hitting him up fist and he gave me some dry responses. So I just left it alone.

I'm not a big talker, and neither is he. So how am I supposed to make this work with him? How do I get him to open up? He's also on vacation in LA right now so I feel like he may be a little distracted. Should I keep hitting him up? I don't wanna smother him but I do want to show him I'm still very interested in him. Why are virgos so confusing! lol

-capricorn

Question, why would you be "intimate"(cuddling etc) with someone in a relationship then pursue something with them as if they can respect that same boundary with you? He's using your Cap "patience" and thinking "it takes hard work and you have to earn it" to play you. While potential is nice, you shouldn't fall in love with it when it comes to relationships. The whole 70/30 non sense is only a cookie to keep you sniffing around. He's an earth sign and having you there plays to his security needs but that doesn't mean he's wants something more with you...and honest you're doing the same thing. You knew early on that he isn't relationship material and most likely there's someone else around. You'd be wise to move on._??_

To add, look for a mate where the potential is he wants to actually build something with you and you two proceed together. Not him playing the "I don't know game" all the while enjoying the benefits of a relationship while you keep waiting for the potential or him acting normal. But you also need to decide to you want something real yourself.

honestly just let him come to you. Any guy that wants you would do anything to keep you. Virgos are use to being chased but DONT chase him just be yourself . If he wants to talk he should be the man and call you. He probably want you to cater to his ego bc he's not use to doing all the work. You are fine live your life and take your time they usually end up with their friends anyway. Since he made you his friend that means he see you as a potential mate. Oh and yes they do give off mix signals don't let him confuse you just wait till you hear " I want to be your boyfriend".

A lot of people would give you mix advice so don't just go by what we tell you just listen to your heart. We don't know how he feels about you so just wait til he opens up he will I promise just give him some time. I know cause I been there before and currently going through it now.

Posted by hopelesscapricorn

We never dated but always showed affection towards each other. He'd come over to my dorm sometimes and we'd take naps together, cuddle, all that good friendly innocent stuff. When I met him he had a girlfriend so we couldn't be more than friends.

Then the broke up
-capricorn

Any idea why they broke up?

Posted by LetltB

Posted by hopelesscapricorn

We never dated but always showed affection towards each other. He'd come over to my dorm sometimes and we'd take naps together, cuddle, all that good friendly innocent stuff. When I met him he had a girlfriend so we couldn't be more than friends.

Then the broke up
-capricorn

Any idea why they broke up?

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It wasn't like that. I just wanted to sum up the story without giving you guys an essay. They were together for 5 years and I'm not sure what happened between them but they went their separate ways and stayed friends. He and I were just friends when he was dating her, and I knew about her therefore I wouldn't allow anything else to go on even though he tried several times. I'm not a home wrecker if that's what you're getting at. Nice try.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
honestly just let him come to you. Any guy that wants you would do anything to keep you. Virgos are use to being chased but DONT chase him just be yourself . If he wants to talk he should be the man and call you. He probably want you to cater to his ego bc he's not use to doing all the work. You are fine live your life and take your time they usually end up with their friends anyway. Since he made you his friend that means he see you as a potential mate. Oh and yes they do give off mix signals don't let him confuse you just wait till you hear " I want to be your boyfriend".

A lot of people would give you mix advice so don't just go by what we tell you just listen to your heart. We don't know how he feels about you so just wait til he opens up he will I promise just give him some time. I know cause I been there before and currently going through it now.

Thanks for your helpful words, I'm gonna continue to let him come to me like I've always been doing. I just feel bad sometimes because I don't want him to think that I don't care about him or think about him. But I think he's well aware and he just likes playing with my mind.

"Cuddling you innocently at the time while he has a girlfriend" --> This is so wrong!

He is just being a guy. It has nothing to do with him being a Virgo.

The term "Virgo guy is so insecure" is a whole lot of bullshit. Usually used to justify them playing one too many fields at once. How does someone who is playing two fields at once is insecure? Seriously? It is an oxymoron. Think about it!

You deserve better but you have to come up with THAT yourself though. Dig deep!

Good luck!

Posted by hopelesscapricorn

Posted by LetltB

Posted by hopelesscapricorn

We never dated but always showed affection towards each other. He'd come over to my dorm sometimes and we'd take naps together, cuddle, all that good friendly innocent stuff. When I met him he had a girlfriend so we couldn't be more than friends.

Then the broke up
-capricorn

Any idea why they broke up?

It wasn't like that. I just wanted to sum up the story without giving you guys an essay. They were together for 5 years and I'm not sure what happened between them but they went their separate ways and stayed friends. He and I were just friends when he was dating her, and I knew about her therefore I wouldn't allow anything else to go on even though he tried several times. I'm not a home wrecker if that's what you're getting at. Nice try.

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Oh I see. So in two or three years while you are with him, you won't mind his female "friends" spooning him either with their breasts against his back or his gonads pressed against their asses...you know, just innocent cuddling, and friendly nappy stuff. Yah..ok.

Nice try 😉

Posted by LetltB
Nice try 😉

Sounds like you're having a personal moment and are taking it out on me. I'll let you fight through it honey, feel better. Gonads? Lmao nice. I met him in the last yr of their relationship, NOT TWO...maybe you should re-read shit before you go to passing JUDGMENT. So kindly, FUCK OFF. Thanks.

Posted by VirgoDragirl
"Cuddling you innocently at the time while he has a girlfriend" --> This is so wrong!

He is just being a guy. It has nothing to do with him being a Virgo.

The term "Virgo guy is so insecure" is a whole lot of bullshit. Usually used to justify them playing one too many fields at once. How does someone who is playing two fields at once is insecure? Seriously? It is an oxymoron. Think about it!

You deserve better but you have to come up with THAT yourself though. Dig deep!

Good luck!

Posted by hopelesscapricorn

Sounds like you're having a personal moment and are taking it out on me. I'll let you fight through it honey, feel better. Gonads? Lmao nice. I met him in the last yr of their relationship, NOT TWO...maybe you should re-read shit before you go to passing JUDGMENT. So kindly, FUCK OFF. Thanks.

smh..whose having a personal moment with the truth here?

Posted by VirgoDragirl
"Cuddling you innocently at the time while he has a girlfriend" --> This is so wrong!

He is just being a guy. It has nothing to do with him being a Virgo.

The term "Virgo guy is so insecure" is a whole lot of bullshit. Usually used to justify them playing one too many fields at once. How does someone who is playing two fields at once is insecure? Seriously? It is an oxymoron. Think about it!

You deserve better but you have to come up with THAT yourself though. Dig deep!

Good luck!

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Posted by hopelesscapricorn

I met him two yrs ago and we started off as friends. hit it off really easy in our a class we had together in college. We never dated but always showed affection towards each other. He'd come over to my dorm sometimes and we'd take naps together, cuddle, all that good friendly innocent stuff. When I met him he had a girlfriend so we couldn't be more than friends.

Women like you get raped.

... putting your body next to his in a bed, and not putting out.

It's only a matter of time ....

But, wait .. there is something worse here ..... you're a cheater. You know full well that this is another woman's man, and know full well that she is an emotional victim by your decision to lay in a bed with her man.