Hurumph!

It's been a looooooooooooooooong time since I've posted to this site. Life goes on and I've been living a hell of a life from Dec till now. I had a Virgo issue, I fumed and purged, I moved on, now he's more sweet than ever. I can't help feeling something isn't right.

This kindship was never was a storybook affair. I've been concretely grounded and aware concerning our relationship. We hit it off, fawned and flattered each other, felt a deep spiritual connection and then something went wrong. Still don't what happened. Now, 8 months of separation and now VGuy has proclaimed he misses me and wants to know when I am coming round?

My guts are knawking, instinct is on alert, nothing makes sense.

CF36

I agree. It's suspicious, and every inch of my fiberous being tell me so. " Goes Ghost", I like that.

"and then something went wrong" - can you narrow that down a bit for us or try clarify Catfish—??...because there lies the "nub" of your problem IMHO. People enter and leave our lives at certain times...no-one is there for ever and everything and everyone is here on a "temporary" basis. If you want him back in your life, it's your choice and that is fine...if you don't:-) that is fine too:-)....but this time round you set your own rules, standards and yardsticks:-) - if he is to enter your world again, be it on your own terms and not anyone elses:-)...get my drift

Alana x

VGuy has proclaimed he misses me and wants to know when I am coming round?....oh just an after thought, never go round to the guy's place, make him come to you.....or your place or your choice of meeting place.......ciao

A x

Hi Alana,

Thank you for your comment.

I'm a bit vague since I've plowed this field regarding VGuy extensively. We were close friends, VGuy blows hot and cold and so when he pulled away, I never knew why. We still speak, laugh etc, but the closeness is gone. He works as a bartender, he's smart, funny, and very sensitive and things between us borders on telepathic. We have mutual tastes in music, art, books so from time to time I send him videos to his My Space email. It wasn't until recently he responded, is willing to do whatever it takes for us to see the Cure together.

We've never been lovers all though there is strong attraction between us, others have noticed and commented on it too.

We have a mutual friend who is a singer/songwriter who will be performing at the bar this Sunday. It's also a birthday celebration for our friend. VGuy seemed anxious for me to attend, which I will. This sudden turn of events surprised me, so after a few emails between us I finally sent this question -

"Why are you so responsive all of sudden? You don't respond to me for over a year, and suddenly when I mention The Cure, the curtain drops."

I don't mean to sound callous but I can't help feeling there is an agenda here. He did dedicate a song to me he wrote on my birthday this past March. It was a very sweet gesture although the song is a sad one. Part of me thinks he's sincere, but I am still troubled.

We never started out using each for personal gain; we genuinely enjoy each other's company. I haven't been around the bar for months, especially since I quit my job last Nov., which was just a few blocks away. I am staying away from alcohol so I can better my physical and mental health. VGuy's work environment is not a healthy way of life. So, who knows? May be he wants to make amends for some bad behavior on his part in the past. If he wants to talks he'll have some explaining to do.

You're right; it can't be anything less than what is in my best interest. I am happy to be friends, but we need structure.

Hi catfish:-) - thank you for clarifying that point for me.

I suppose we could anyalyse Mr. Virgo guy to death on the whys and why nots of his huffing and puffing and blowing hot and cold and to be sure, there is a reason for this....but I say to you...does it really matter— at this particular point in time...you are in a good space and place:-) mentally and physically now, (minus the alcohol well done!!) - If I were you (but then I am not and this may not help but then again it may:-)....I'd dolly myself up, look fab and go to the Sunday event......have no expectations, no "he should have done this" or "I hope he does that" list....and enjoy your nite out to the fullest:-) - every which way:-)...again, I'd take everything he says and does very "lightly"......re. "your curtain drops" question....being a Mr. Virgo, I'd say this will get him thinking and thinking and thinking:-)....and you probably will get a sincere and honest reply, even a shoot from the hip response....so just be ready my friend and whatever the answer is....you'll handle it and hendle him very well:-)

Go, go, go.........enjoy......life is too short not to....

A x

You're right Alana, no sense in worrying, I do understand the Virgo temperment but it's no less frustrating.

I have every intent on girling up for the evening and just enjoying being around my old buddies.

Thanks again. '-)

Perhaps my dear Archer.... The Cure is "the cure" for Catfish and virgo guy.....anyways gonna pm you later dear A:-)

A x

Go read it......:-)

done and dusted!!

Archer,

No word back via email. Either way will see him tomorrow night. The good thing is I really won't be able to say for long. Got to be up early Monday morning work.

Hi Archer,

Well, there was no email response but more a phyiscal connection, again nothing sexual. Mike spent most his night sitting by my side, when he wasn't filling in behind the bar. His parting words were "You really made my night".

I recently ran an astrological compatibility report on us, just to get my barrings to see if what I sense was really happening. This report is quite accurate. This is not a light or casual relationship with many traumas and changes to be expected. However, it's the kind of relationship that needs lots of patience and nuturing. If you are interested in the report you may go to http://www.adze.com/VenusFiles/index.htm?<BR>
For now, I am happy to be on a positive footing. I consider all the previous elements and may be this concert is just an opportunity to reconnect, without the outside interference of others.

Thanks again for your input.