I like this virgo woman but we're friendsss

Okay so I have this close friend, a virgo woman. We're friends for 8 years. I had a crush on her before when we just met, I confessed my feelings for her and she rejected me and she's with someone else that time, so I moved on. After that we stayed friends and became closer. She shares her problems with me, she would tell me if someone likes her or if she's dating someone, we would always talk about things randomly, even we dont see each other regularly, we manage to preserve our closeness. We're touchy-feely to each other when we're together ex. we hold hands (intertwined hold hands), I kiss her hand sometimes, we hug each other, she would always put her hand around my shoulders.

Recently, we went to Vietnam together, but we stayed with our friends who is a couple. Anyway, I think I got used to be with her for a couple of days, and after that trip it go me confused, It made me think and feel like I like her all over again, but I dont want to risk it because we are good friends, and Im not sure if I have a chance on her because there are a lot of others who want to pursue her, but she's not interested with them. What to do? can you give me any advice? thanks guys in advance

What's your sign?

Posted by OceanBoy88
I had the same problem. I confessed but i "didnt say it right" so she said no. We're you direct? Did you outright say "I want you to be mines"? Or gave her the "I really like you blah" thing. I had the same exact thing, close bond built over 6 years of friendship. I never got it right with asking her so she asked me after LOL. But it definitely sounds like she likes you, in my experience, virgo wants you to take the reigns and tell her where to go. They like extremely direct men when it comes to those matters. Right @Damnata?

Hahaha well I don't want to tell her right away cause it might ruin the friendship we have. what happened between u and this virgo? Are unstill friends?

Posted by brandyp
I wouldn't say anything. She already rejected you once. Wait for more in your face clues that she might like you other than handholding or hugging. When I like a guy, I don't talk with him about other men. Sry.

Okay, I'll wait then. Thank you so much. Hmm well lalely she havent talked about any new guy, well she has some crushes but I think she's not interested with someone right now. Thanks!!

Posted by Sunsetvirgo
What's your sign?

Cancer haha

Posted by dkrab13

We're touchy-feely to each other when we're together ex. we hold hands (intertwined hold hands), I kiss her hand sometimes, we hug each other, she would always put her hand around my shoulders.

If this is happening the entire time, every time, you two are together ... then you are both stepping over the boundaries of "regular" friends.

You both give each other signals to pursue. So, both of you are in the wrong for leading the other on, if there is no intention to have an intimate relationship.

If your intentions are to have a serious relationship, then it's your duty to be forthcoming with this information, otherwise you are falsely presenting yourself to her and your intentions .. because regular friends aren't affectionate, touchy feely huggy, except during/for greetings, and departures, or celebrations.

and same for her if her intentions are to have something serious ... it's her duty to inform you.

But, it sounds to me like both of you are just playing with the other to get attention. If you're that starved for attention, then get a pet.

Posted by OceanBoy88
They like extremely direct men when it comes to those matters. Right @Damnata?

Yup.

Do it for your own peace of mind, OP.

I mean if you want to get clarity on what's going on.

I think she's testing her feelings out by holding your hand and all that touchy-feely stuff. It definitely shows she's interested! But I don't think you should say anything. I think you should just be extremely confident! Never show her you're not. Also, don't have any expectations. It feels less pressure that way and both girls and guys like chill relationships!

Hi guys, after 2 months since I posted this. I'm still confused about my feelings with my virgo-friend. We are now constantly communicating, unlike before that we just contact each other if we just feel like it. We went out a couple of times, but we stopped holding hands, we are not that touchy-feely to each other anymore, and I haven't told her about my feelings yet. 😢

Now, another guy from her office is messaging her, and I feel jealous because this guy is obviously interested with her haha! She told me that this guy is sort of her superior, and they have work relationship. But I can't help thinking that she might be also interested in this guy because she responds to his messages, or is she just being polite? I know I'm not in the position to feel jealous but I think it's normal to feel that way when you like someone, right?. THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR FEEDBACK. thank you

Posted by dkrab13
Hi guys, after 2 months since I posted this. I'm still confused about my feelings with my virgo-friend. We are now constantly communicating, unlike before that we just contact each other if we just feel like it. We went out a couple of times, but we stopped holding hands, we are not that touchy-feely to each other anymore, and I haven't told her about my feelings yet. 😢

Now, another guy from her office is messaging her, and I feel jealous because this guy is obviously interested with her haha! She told me that this guy is sort of her superior, and they have work relationship. But I can't help thinking that she might be also interested in this guy because she responds to his messages, or is she just being polite? I know I'm not in the position to feel jealous but I think it's normal to feel that way when you like someone, right?. THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR FEEDBACK. thank you

I'm not a Virgo, but if you seriously feel this way about her, shouldn't you at least ask her how she feels about you?

Wth cancers & virgos!!! Get it together 😱

How does a conversation like that not happen in a 8 year span, 2 signs that like to throw hints and act like they didn't catch them. Whats the reason you're not able to tell her? You never know what will happen until you try, if she says she just wants a friendship it isn't fair to you to keep your heart hanging on a string like that, either have a real friendship (strictly a friendship) or find love bc its out there. Sometimes you have to give solid distance to give clarity and gain clarity (I really just gave a cancer advice to "disappear" im kicking myself)

The reason nr 1I wouldn't stand dealing with a cancer man is this pathetic passive behavior. You guys are good people and can be great friends but in terms of romantic relationships...wow.... This is probably why I always end up with fire and air men... at least they have the balls to express themselves clearly i.e their feelings, chase you and let you decide if you want to be with them or not. Please man up and talk directly with her, let her know how you feel, if she rejects you again then, good!, at least you'll be free to pursue someone else. You've wasted 8 years so far with this woman, how long more are you going to wait until she realises that she actually loves you and wants to be with you? Take risks, if they pay off fantastic, if not well at least you gave it a try and you'll learn with the experience and become wiser! x

Hello virgo friends! thank you for all the feedbacks, especially to @Virgoscent @Earthboundfeline I really appreciated it. With your feedbacks I had the courage to tell her what I feel about her...



Just to be clear, I was attracted to her already the first time we met, after a few weeks of continues communciation I confessed my feelings to her but rejected me because that time she was with someone else, even I confessed my feelings for her we still became good friends and we've been friends for 8 years, but I didn't have any intentions nor feelings with her during those 8 years, I accepted that we were just platonic, then my feelings just resurfaced this year.

Anyway, last night we were having our usual chat I told her directly and casually that I like her, and her reaction was like "You were just victimized by my face", "even I'm crazy for 70% of the time" but we didnt stayed too long on that topic, this morning she still texts me and updates UGH. What is that reaction? Is she awkward? am I in the friendzoned? What to do? Ugh sorry for bothering ya'll.

@Aliensusedourbogroll yeah that's what I thought also, I just wanted to ask virgo women for a confirmation. Thank you!