Cancer male.. The confusion is killer

Hey guys!

this is my first post however I've been following a few topics over the past month or two.

Soo I'm a virgo female. Met this Cancer male about 2 months ago.

Things have been fantastic, we message back and forth everyday when we have a second during work etc and we've been seeing each other once or twice a week.

I have really started to develop feelings for him and care for him deeply. He has shown his feelings a lot more than I have, as in he's been the more open one between us.

He met my mum & sister on Thursday last week, my family loved him.

I've met his best friends - his family lives in another city.

Anyhoo fast forward - it was his birthday on Sunday (10th) and his mum came down to our city for the weekend. Before he knew she was coming he had included me in his birthday plans ever so casually (like it was a given that of course I would be there), then he found out his mum & some other family was coming down to celebrate. I didn't want to push the topic of still celebrating with him as he doesn't see them that often and I wanted to give him time with them.. Not a huge deal to me, I mean beside for the fact I would have loved to have met his mom as she does live far away, thus opportunities to meet her are obviously limited.

My friends are all telling me that I should be offended & confront him about it, but I just don't think it's thaaaaat much of a big deal... Should I??

Also, in addition, he has been distant since mom arrived on Friday & she leaves today so we have hardly spoken at all the entire weekend which is new..

Help me here please Cancer males.. Does this mean he's not that into me? Ugh

Oh! And he has invited me to a work function of his at the end of the month.. which I thought was a positive thing

So you introduced him to your family fairly early and yet he didn't really do that when his family came because you thought it would be common sense to mutually meet his family and friends.

I guess so. I mean he has said before he knew they were visiting thay he'd love for me to meet his mom.. out of his own. Aside from that though, why the standoffishness? I wished him yesterday morning and he sent back something along the lines of "thank you soooo much babe. It's such a beautiful day too hey? (We're having a cold winter) and then nothing else and then this morning he said he'd had an amazing weekend and they were going for lunch today. That's it.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Hm I guess you have to let him do that and go do your own thing. Like space. I guess if a guy is interested they will call but make sure it is not for booty calls. Make sure it is because they want to spend time and never force that either. I hope he is just busy with family and make tune for you. But this is the time you start to get to know him alittle better. You got to make sure this is just a friend or want more than that.

Everyone places different importance on meeting the family. I (personally) wouldn't be offended by not yet meeting his, as it is still early. Why meet them before even knowing whether you and he will work out? It just complicates things unnecessarily, imo.

As for the standoffishness - his family is in town. If they haven't seen eachother in awhile, they probably have a lot of catching up to do and loads of places to visit. He has been communicating and initiating plans for later, so I also.don't think that's a big deal.

Andalusia you hit the nail on the head completely re how I felt about it initially! I've just had so many of my close friends tell me it's more than that and it had me wondering if I was being too lax about it.

Thank you!

Firstdecantaurianwoman we've established between the two of us that it's more than friendship, but thanks so much for the advice! Noted!

I think you're right. Your friends need lives.

As virgos always do with crabs? How so?

Posted by 160991
As virgos always do with crabs? How so?

We over think things.