I really need a Virgo males advice

Was dealing with a Virgo male...things were amazing and then communication stopped...he would send mixed signals and then today he blocked me on Facebook and I'm truly in the dark because he pursued me for months before I gave in...would prefer a one on one convo rather than the forum...silly I know but I'm honestly hurt behind recent events

Virgo Sun, Sag Moon (male).

Joining this forum has been helpful for me. I see a lot of traits in myself when it comes to complaints about Virgos. Our actions are sometimes mysterious. What you described is something I've done before and may have been totally oblivious to.

FYI.. I blocked my GF today right after she left to go on a road trip. WHY ? I suppose to clear my head, not to anticipate anything whether messages that say she misses me, or no messages at all.

In your case, perhaps there was some ambiguity in how things were going. Maybe the guy is purposely creating distance to allow you to crave his presence more, which would led to passion and intimacy... it's difficult to gauge. More detail would be needed to pinpoint what's going on.

Would a phone call or text message be a more direct way of reaching out to him?

Posted by Paradoxical_leo
Was dealing with a Virgo male...things were amazing and then communication stopped...he would send mixed signals and then today he blocked me on Facebook and I'm truly in the dark because he pursued me for months before I gave in...would prefer a one on one convo rather than the forum...silly I know but I'm honestly hurt behind recent events

The most confusing sign when it comes to dating, so you are not alone.

My advice would be, try to not get too stressed or hurt by his illogical actions, he is actually starting to like you more than he'd want to, thus completely opposite behaviour to the one you'd expect (more texts, calls, etc..)

Stay calm, try not to go crazy at his changes, tell him what bothers you, but calmly (if possible, cause it was impossible for me), and after certain time, he will turn into a caring and loving . Just don't give up on him, if you care for him. He now needs to see if you are willing to stay in spite of his crazy behaviour (that proves that you woild be with him through thick and thin). Once he is assured in your credibility, it will be like caterpillar turning into butterfly.

I know, it's immature, selfish and hurtful from his side, but that's how Virgo males (most of them) are in the beginning.

If you go through that phase, he will be there for you forever.

Edit: I'm a Gemini female, but have a more than sufficient experience with a Virgo male

Posted by HermesVirgo
Virgo Sun, Sag Moon (male).

Joining this forum has been helpful for me. I see a lot of traits in myself when it comes to complaints about Virgos. Our actions are sometimes mysterious. What you described is something I've done before and may have been totally oblivious to.

FYI.. I blocked my GF today right after she left to go on a road trip. WHY ? I suppose to clear my head, not to anticipate anything whether messages that say she misses me, or no messages at all.

In your case, perhaps there was some ambiguity in how things were going. Maybe the guy is purposely creating distance to allow you to crave his presence more, which would led to passion and intimacy... it's difficult to gauge. More detail would be needed to pinpoint what's going on.

Would a phone call or text message be a more direct way of reaching out to him?

As much as I like Virgo males, this is one trait that is less that praisable.

Blocking her immediately before her trip, could completely ruin the trip for her, and I'm sure you know that.

Everything is allowed in war and love, but this is mean.

You are ruining her enjoyment because of your insecurity (it's easier to block and not know if she wrote or not). Mean and selfish; I wonder how'd you feel if she did the same to you. Just stop for a moment and think.

I'm not criticizing, just pointing to some things that put a shade on many qualities that Virgo males posses.

Virgo's don't like to get attached to their feelings. And they don't like others to get attached to feelings for them. I'm not saying they don't feel ... of course they do. But, most people become dependent upon them, and then cannot manage to operate without their feelings being validated.

Just as you here, and many other people who come in here with the same complaint, in where the Virgo backs off, nearly disappearing right when everything seemed fine.

To be with a Virgo, you have to be completely secure with yourself, and have the ability to function in life without depending on them, emotionally. If he senses that you are needy for his approval, or if he thinks that you've become too comfortable in depending on him to validate your feelings for you .... then he'll bail on you ... every time.

And visa versa ... if he feels like he's beginning to become dependent ... same outcome.

It's so confusing for people because ultimately ..... the Virgo wants to serve you and your needs. And that's a stark contrast that they battle within them all the time. How can they make provisions for you if they can't find a way to deal with growing feelings of attached comfort in the other? When he wants to serve you, it's material things, comforts in life .. not emotions.

So, you have to find a way to need him, without it being an emotional need ... or he'll probably never come back fully.

Posted by FeelingGemini

Posted by HermesVirgo
Virgo Sun, Sag Moon (male).

Joining this forum has been helpful for me. I see a lot of traits in myself when it comes to complaints about Virgos. Our actions are sometimes mysterious. What you described is something I've done before and may have been totally oblivious to.

FYI.. I blocked my GF today right after she left to go on a road trip. WHY ? I suppose to clear my head, not to anticipate anything whether messages that say she misses me, or no messages at all.

In your case, perhaps there was some ambiguity in how things were going. Maybe the guy is purposely creating distance to allow you to crave his presence more, which would led to passion and intimacy... it's difficult to gauge. More detail would be needed to pinpoint what's going on.

Would a phone call or text message be a more direct way of reaching out to him?

As much as I like Virgo males, this is one trait that is less that praisable.

Blocking her immediately before her trip, could completely ruin the trip for her, and I'm sure you know that.

Everything is allowed in war and love, but this is mean.

You are ruining her enjoyment because of your insecurity (it's easier to block and not know if she wrote or not). Mean and selfish; I wonder how'd you feel if she did the same to you. Just stop for a moment and think.

I'm not criticizing, just pointing to some things that put a shade on many qualities that Virgo males posses.

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All true comments here. I suppose it's correct that we do back off and have issues both expressing emotion and when we receive emotion it's hard to determine if it's real. I LOVE, but it's also very hard to receive LOVE.

I know thats the reason I don't have children is due to me not wanting to have the pressure of being with someone that loves unconditionally, in this case a child. Being skeptical of this does hinder good relationships. It gets tiring pretending to be indifferent. However being indifferent appears to keep your SOs attraction levels up. I'd love to fully give my all to my GF; but knowing that it could never be returned in the same capacity is a tough pill to swallow.

I hope my comments help the OP.

Posted by HermesVirgo

Posted by FeelingGemini

Posted by HermesVirgo
Virgo Sun, Sag Moon (male).

Joining this forum has been helpful for me. I see a lot of traits in myself when it comes to complaints about Virgos. Our actions are sometimes mysterious. What you described is something I've done before and may have been totally oblivious to.

FYI.. I blocked my GF today right after she left to go on a road trip. WHY ? I suppose to clear my head, not to anticipate anything whether messages that say she misses me, or no messages at all.

In your case, perhaps there was some ambiguity in how things were going. Maybe the guy is purposely creating distance to allow you to crave his presence more, which would led to passion and intimacy... it's difficult to gauge. More detail would be needed to pinpoint what's going on.

Would a phone call or text message be a more direct way of reaching out to him?

As much as I like Virgo males, this is one trait that is less that praisable.

Blocking her immediately before her trip, could completely ruin the trip for her, and I'm sure you know that.

Everything is allowed in war and love, but this is mean.

You are ruining her enjoyment because of your insecurity (it's easier to block and not know if she wrote or not). Mean and selfish; I wonder how'd you feel if she did the same to you. Just stop for a moment and think.

I'm not criticizing, just pointing to some things that put a shade on many qualities that Virgo males posses.

All true comments here. I suppose it's correct that we do back off and have issues both expressing emotion and when we receive emotion it's hard to determine if it's real. I LOVE, but it's also very hard to receive LOVE.

I know thats the reason I don't have children is due to me not wanting to have the pressure of being with someone that loves unconditionally, in this case a child. Being skeptical of this does hinder good relationships. It gets tiring pretending to be indifferent. However being indifferent appears to keep your SOs attraction levels up. I'd love to fully give my all to my GF; but knowing that it could never be returned in the same capacity is a tough pill to swallow.

I hope my comments help the OP.

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Thanks for your candid reply. This is what I meant about Virgo males qualities; you have a capability to look objectively at your faults, and admit the fears behind them. It is one of the good sides of overthinking things.

I understand what you said about fear for loving too much and not receiving the same amount of love. And the bit about how the indifference raises interest. They are all valid points.

I know how deep Virgos can love, that's why your fears are, in a way, justified. You don't leave easily, that's why you struggle to give your all, cause you know the damage the bad outcome may do to your heart. I get that.

But by actively sabotaging the relationship, you are paving the path to that outcome.

You have to know that men and women love and experience love differently, so comparing the style s and weighing actions won't give you the answer to who's loving more. It's the feeling and trust. To really love, you have to step out of your learned way of thinking, and look deep into the person you are with. Direct your interest to what you love about them instead of picking out the faults and automatically punishing them. (This also goes to the ones who love Virgos).

Playing indifferent is a short term fix, and, as you said, it's hard to play what you're not all the time.

But I believe that all things fall into their place when it's love what leads you. Then all the usual problems, passive agressivenesss, etc..naturally disappear and something much more valid and honest replaces them. It really is the matter of the point of your life you're at. Same things acquire completely different meaning, depending on the stage of your evolution as a person.

Also, there is a problem of receiving love. I noticed that in Virgos. It has to do with having an awkward relationship with feelings, emotions. If only they could be logical, there would be no problem. But something liquid, uncontrollable immediately confuses the rational creature, I think that's the reason why it is hard to receive feelings for what they really are.

Relax 🙂

I didn't understand you clearly regarding an unconditional love for a child; are you afraid the woman might not give you enough love as compared to the love she gives to the child, or that you are afraid you could not love her unconditionally?

I'm sorry if you expressed yourself clearly and I missed the point.

@FeelingGemini my comment regarding children or not having them had to do with a child loving you unconditionally and being held with the responsibility of living and doing your very best in life to accommodate the child's needs. I know that if I had a child it would require my ALL, I'd have to be accountable for my lazy days of sleeping in, my splurging on finances, sharing emotionally, etc. Raising a child in my opinion requires your maximum human potential.

The seriousness of marriage-children is likely one of the reasons I've purposely sabotaged good relationships. It could also explain why I'm attracted to people who aren't available. It's a contradiction in that I'll have closeness, but I foresee the disappointment this person will cause. In turn, I know that I'll be free again after a period of time; as subconsciously maybe I saw the end of the relationship in foresight. On the one hand you love to give and love, there's nothing better than receiving it. Then again even misery and heartbreak are enjoyable aspects as well.

Yeah, being a Virgo is the absolute maximum of overthinking S*4T. LMAO.

Posted by HermesVirgo
@FeelingGemini my comment regarding children or not having them had to do with a child loving you unconditionally and being held with the responsibility of living and doing your very best in life to accommodate the child's needs. I know that if I had a child it would require my ALL, I'd have to be accountable for my lazy days of sleeping in, my splurging on finances, sharing emotionally, etc. Raising a child in my opinion requires your maximum human potential.

The seriousness of marriage-children is likely one of the reasons I've purposely sabotaged good relationships. It could also explain why I'm attracted to people who aren't available. It's a contradiction in that I'll have closeness, but I foresee the disappointment this person will cause. In turn, I know that I'll be free again after a period of time; as subconsciously maybe I saw the end of the relationship in foresight. On the one hand you love to give and love, there's nothing better than receiving it. Then again even misery and heartbreak are enjoyable aspects as well.

Yeah, being a Virgo is the absolute maximum of overthinking S*4T. LMAO.

It is definitely overthinking 🙂 but if parents went through half of the thought process that you are going through, the world would be a much better place.

As for the relationships, and your attraction to unavailable people (and all the problems that kind of relationship carries), it looks like you're ok with all the pros and cons of it, as long as it keeps you away from ultimate hurt, which would be losing someone you really love.

It is the fear we all carry in us, it is the risk everyone takes, and it's actually a bit sad that good people (which I consider Virgo males to be) more than often deprive themselves and others of love, just because caution and self protection seems a better option than to surrender to love.

But I get you, I'm acquainted with thay kind of reasoning, and to be honest, to me, it is much more valuable than throwing yourself around, hurting others and yourself without thinking.

Hopefully the OP managed to clear the issue with her Virgo and is at a happier place now.

Posted by HermesVirgo
@FeelingGemini my comment regarding children or not having them had to do with a child loving you unconditionally and being held with the responsibility of living and doing your very best in life to accommodate the child's needs. I know that if I had a child it would require my ALL, I'd have to be accountable for my lazy days of sleeping in, my splurging on finances, sharing emotionally, etc. Raising a child in my opinion requires your maximum human potential.

The seriousness of marriage-children is likely one of the reasons I've purposely sabotaged good relationships. It could also explain why I'm attracted to people who aren't available. It's a contradiction in that I'll have closeness, but I foresee the disappointment this person will cause. In turn, I know that I'll be free again after a period of time; as subconsciously maybe I saw the end of the relationship in foresight. On the one hand you love to give and love, there's nothing better than receiving it. Then again even misery and heartbreak are enjoyable aspects as well.

Yeah, being a Virgo is the absolute maximum of overthinking S*4T. LMAO.

Wow, that's about the craziest reasoning I've ever heard for not wanting children. I can understand if you want to get married first to raise a child and of course, have a stable income. Those are important foundations for raising a healthy and happy child that can flourish.

But to justify never wanting children because you will have to give your "all", seriously? How insecure are you? My husband and I have two boys, both 16. One was by birth, one by overseas adoption. We went through many challenges just to build our family. We are not perfect. We've had to make hard choices in life that often undermine my husband and me in terms of vacation time or things we'd like to buy for ourselves; instead, we chose to help our kids become successful in their life choices and experiences.

Humans are not perfect. Life is not fair. Being a Virgo isn't going to change those factors. So you deal the cards life gave you. Some of us have to work hard to pay the bills and raise a family, while some don't. The bottom line is children are a blessing from God. They are your legacy. They are not something to treat like a material object or inconvenience, which seems to be how you describe them.

To your comment, "I foresee the disappointment this person will cause...." That's why many Virgo's, especially Virgo Men, are loners and lonely. They project THEIR insecurities onto others. Most people, including myself, don't expect anyone to be perfect. There are little things my husband does that irk me, but at the same time, I find them endearing. I know I have the same affect on him. When you truly love someone, you accept them in totality. If you can't do that, then that's not other people's issues, that's yours.

For an adult who would spend more time trying to rationalize his insecurities, living the same BS over and over again in his head, than grow a pair, get some fortitude and deal with it head on is just sad.

and BTWHermesVIrgo,

I've known about 10 male Virgos in various life capacities. Seven of them were close interactions as friends, one was a life long friend and the other 3 were bosses.

Of those 10, 5 of them were passive aggressive often. It was as predictable as death and taxes. the life long friend reconnected with me, we were enjoying our chats via emails, everything was going great and then I run into him and silence....Haven't heard from him since.

Of the 3 bosses, one was a control freak. One was a complete loner and rarely spoke to me. One lied to me all the time and now has the DEA on his ass. I found out through Google he was living a double life.

So yea, insecurities permeate male virgo's....it's crazy.

It's starting to be very apparent that this notion that male virgo's will come on strong, then back off because they can't handle the heat is a definite pattern. I've seen it enough times personally, and your comments back this up as well.

It's really sad that this is the case because I truly think virgo's are good people, but it's when they try to connect and don't criticize. It's when they are happy and enjoy a good discussion they are at their best. When they go dark and ghost, they turn into their own worst enemy.

At probably the saddest thing of all is that I truly believe you virgo's have no clue or no care about how much you are actually hurting those who care about you. It's as if you are so caught up in your own little world, nothing else matters. You're like the turtle who gets frightened and pulls his head back into his shell.

Life is too short and too wonderful to live your life in a shell.

He's not interested, or your sex game was ?.

If he still likes you he'll hit u up for a quickie

Posted by FeelingGemini

Posted by HermesVirgo
Virgo Sun, Sag Moon (male).

Joining this forum has been helpful for me. I see a lot of traits in myself when it comes to complaints about Virgos. Our actions are sometimes mysterious. What you described is something I've done before and may have been totally oblivious to.

FYI.. I blocked my GF today right after she left to go on a road trip. WHY ? I suppose to clear my head, not to anticipate anything whether messages that say she misses me, or no messages at all.

In your case, perhaps there was some ambiguity in how things were going. Maybe the guy is purposely creating distance to allow you to crave his presence more, which would led to passion and intimacy... it's difficult to gauge. More detail would be needed to pinpoint what's going on.

Would a phone call or text message be a more direct way of reaching out to him?

As much as I like Virgo males, this is one trait that is less that praisable.

Blocking her immediately before her trip, could completely ruin the trip for her, and I'm sure you know that.

Everything is allowed in war and love, but this is mean.

You are ruining her enjoyment because of your insecurity (it's easier to block and not know if she wrote or not). Mean and selfish; I wonder how'd you feel if she did the same to you. Just stop for a moment and think.

I'm not criticizing, just pointing to some things that put a shade on many qualities that Virgo males posses.

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This..

Something could have happened to her and you're choosing to be mysterious..*scoffs*

Posted by Paradoxical_leo
Was dealing with a Virgo male...things were amazing and then communication stopped...he would send mixed signals and then today he blocked me on Facebook and I'm truly in the dark because he pursued me for months before I gave in...would prefer a one on one convo rather than the forum...silly I know but I'm honestly hurt behind recent events

He is a coward; you are a jewel someone will appreciate you. Consider it - his lost, remember and celebrate your value. Especially during this quick transition.

Posted by FeelingGemini

Posted by HermesVirgo

Posted by FeelingGemini

Posted by HermesVirgo
Virgo Sun, Sag Moon (male).

Joining this forum has been helpful for me. I see a lot of traits in myself when it comes to complaints about Virgos. Our actions are sometimes mysterious. What you described is something I've done before and may have been totally oblivious to.

FYI.. I blocked my GF today right after she left to go on a road trip. WHY ? I suppose to clear my head, not to anticipate anything whether messages that say she misses me, or no messages at all.

In your case, perhaps there was some ambiguity in how things were going. Maybe the guy is purposely creating distance to allow you to crave his presence more, which would led to passion and intimacy... it's difficult to gauge. More detail would be needed to pinpoint what's going on.

Would a phone call or text message be a more direct way of reaching out to him?

As much as I like Virgo males, this is one trait that is less that praisable.

Blocking her immediately before her trip, could completely ruin the trip for her, and I'm sure you know that.

Everything is allowed in war and love, but this is mean.

You are ruining her enjoyment because of your insecurity (it's easier to block and not know if she wrote or not). Mean and selfish; I wonder how'd you feel if she did the same to you. Just stop for a moment and think.

I'm not criticizing, just pointing to some things that put a shade on many qualities that Virgo males posses.

All true comments here. I suppose it's correct that we do back off and have issues both expressing emotion and when we receive emotion it's hard to determine if it's real. I LOVE, but it's also very hard to receive LOVE.

I know thats the reason I don't have children is due to me not wanting to have the pressure of being with someone that loves unconditionally, in this case a child. Being skeptical of this does hinder good relationships. It gets tiring pretending to be indifferent. However being indifferent appears to keep your SOs attraction levels up. I'd love to fully give my all to my GF; but knowing that it could never be returned in the same capacity is a tough pill to swallow.

I hope my comments help the OP.

Thanks for your candid reply. This is what I meant about Virgo males qualities; you have a capability to look objectively at your faults, and admit the fears behind them. It is one of the good sides of overthinking things.

I understand what you said about fear for loving too much and not receiving the same amount of love. And the bit about how the indifference raises interest. They are all valid points.

I know how deep Virgos can love, that's why your fears are, in a way, justified. You don't leave easily, that's why you struggle to give your all, cause you know the damage the bad outcome may do to your heart. I get that.

But by actively sabotaging the relationship, you are paving the path to that outcome.

You have to know that men and women love and experience love differently, so comparing the style s and weighing actions won't give you the answer to who's loving more. It's the feeling and trust. To really love, you have to step out of your learned way of thinking, and look deep into the person you are with. Direct your interest to what you love about them instead of picking out the faults and automatically punishing them. (This also goes to the ones who love Virgos).

Playing indifferent is a short term fix, and, as you said, it's hard to play what you're not all the time.

But I believe that all things fall into their place when it's love what leads you. Then all the usual problems, passive agressivenesss, etc..naturally disappear and something much more valid and honest replaces them. It really is the matter of the point of your life you're at. Same things acquire completely different meaning, depending on the stage of your evolution as a person.

Also, there is a problem of receiving love. I noticed that in Virgos. It has to do with having an awkward relationship with feelings, emotions. If only they could be logical, there would be no problem. But something liquid, uncontrollable immediately confuses the rational creature, I think that's the reason why it is hard to receive feelings for what they really are.

Relax 🙂

I didn't understand you clearly regarding an unconditional love for a child; are you afraid the woman might not give you enough love as compared to the love she gives to the child, or that you are afraid you could not love her unconditionally?

I'm sorry if you expressed yourself clearly and I missed the point.

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Virgos don't leave easily? Hmm!

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Posted by FeelingGemini

Posted by HermesVirgo

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Posted by HermesVirgo
Virgo Sun, Sag Moon (male).

Joining this forum has been helpful for me. I see a lot of traits in myself when it comes to complaints about Virgos. Our actions are sometimes mysterious. What you described is something I've done before and may have been totally oblivious to.

FYI.. I blocked my GF today right after she left to go on a road trip. WHY ? I suppose to clear my head, not to anticipate anything whether messages that say she misses me, or no messages at all.

In your case, perhaps there was some ambiguity in how things were going. Maybe the guy is purposely creating distance to allow you to crave his presence more, which would led to passion and intimacy... it's difficult to gauge. More detail would be needed to pinpoint what's going on.

Would a phone call or text message be a more direct way of reaching out to him?

As much as I like Virgo males, this is one trait that is less that praisable.

Blocking her immediately before her trip, could completely ruin the trip for her, and I'm sure you know that.

Everything is allowed in war and love, but this is mean.

You are ruining her enjoyment because of your insecurity (it's easier to block and not know if she wrote or not). Mean and selfish; I wonder how'd you feel if she did the same to you. Just stop for a moment and think.

I'm not criticizing, just pointing to some things that put a shade on many qualities that Virgo males posses.

All true comments here. I suppose it's correct that we do back off and have issues both expressing emotion and when we receive emotion it's hard to determine if it's real. I LOVE, but it's also very hard to receive LOVE.

I know thats the reason I don't have children is due to me not wanting to have the pressure of being with someone that loves unconditionally, in this case a child. Being skeptical of this does hinder good relationships. It gets tiring pretending to be indifferent. However being indifferent appears to keep your SOs attraction levels up. I'd love to fully give my all to my GF; but knowing that it could never be returned in the same capacity is a tough pill to swallow.

I hope my comments help the OP.

Thanks for your candid reply. This is what I meant about Virgo males qualities; you have a capability to look objectively at your faults, and admit the fears behind them. It is one of the good sides of overthinking things.

I understand what you said about fear for loving too much and not receiving the same amount of love. And the bit about how the indifference raises interest. They are all valid points.

I know how deep Virgos can love, that's why your fears are, in a way, justified. You don't leave easily, that's why you struggle to give your all, cause you know the damage the bad outcome may do to your heart. I get that.

But by actively sabotaging the relationship, you are paving the path to that outcome.

You have to know that men and women love and experience love differently, so comparing the style s and weighing actions won't give you the answer to who's loving more. It's the feeling and trust. To really love, you have to step out of your learned way of thinking, and look deep into the person you are with. Direct your interest to what you love about them instead of picking out the faults and automatically punishing them. (This also goes to the ones who love Virgos).

Playing indifferent is a short term fix, and, as you said, it's hard to play what you're not all the time.

But I believe that all things fall into their place when it's love what leads you. Then all the usual problems, passive agressivenesss, etc..naturally disappear and something much more valid and honest replaces them. It really is the matter of the point of your life you're at. Same things acquire completely different meaning, depending on the stage of your evolution as a person.

Also, there is a problem of receiving love. I noticed that in Virgos. It has to do with having an awkward relationship with feelings, emotions. If only they could be logical, there would be no problem. But something liquid, uncontrollable immediately confuses the rational creature, I think that's the reason why it is hard to receive feelings for what they really are.

Relax 🙂

I didn't understand you clearly regarding an unconditional love for a child; are you afraid the woman might not give you enough love as compared to the love she gives to the child, or that you are afraid you could not love her unconditionally?

I'm sorry if you expressed yourself clearly and I missed the point.

Virgos don't leave easily? Hmm!

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No, I think they don't. Only in the early stages of relationship, if they come to realization that the SO is not worthy of investing their time and energy (in other words, don't see future with them).

If they spent significant time with someone, that means they are ready to go through thick and thin with them.

They surprise me at the amount of (for me) intollerable things they are willing to forgive and forget...almost like, you can do anything now, but I chose you and I'm not going anywhere (probably having in mind their favourite life hobby-the neverending improvement of people and things).

Of course, if you are showing no interest in them or confuse them (emotionally) they might choose to step back which can lead to eventual complete distancing of two people and subsequently, separation.

But, if a Virgo invested time in you, and you are actively participating in their life, no matter how silly or unreasonably you behave, they will rarely leave. What others see as time to go, they see as time to stay and improve.

They actually know how to really love.

(I'm talking about Virgo males here, not women...haven't studied them that much relationshipwise)