In conjunctions the secret attraction aspect

No aspect is more frustrating than the inconjunct (or quincunx). This tense 150-degree angle links two signs that have absolutely nothing in common. Each sign is in a different element (fire, earth, water, air), a different modality (cardinal, fixed, mutable), and a different polarity (positive and negative). And yet, when two planets (five signs apart) fall within orb of the inconjunct, they connect even though they have zero understanding of each other. The result is a struggle between unrelated energies that have no way of finding a middle ground. This is difficult enough to handle by transit or in the natal chart, but imagine if you have to deal with this aspect in synastry.
Here are the signs that inconjunct each other:
Aries inconjuncts Virgo and Scorpio
Taurus inconjuncts Libra and Sagittarius
Gemini inconjuncts Scorpio and Capricorn
Cancer inconjuncts Sagittarius and Aquarius
Leo inconjuncts Capricorn and Pisces
Virgo inconjuncts Aries and Aquarius
Libra inconjuncts Taurus and Pisces
Scorpio inconjuncts Aries and Gemini
Sagittarius inconjuncts Taurus and Cancer
Capricorn inconjuncts Gemini and Leo
Aquarius inconjuncts Cancer and Virgo
Pisces inconjuncts Leo and Libra

I use very tight orbs for inconjuncts: no more than two degrees. This aspect can be formed with planets, angles, Nodes or asteroids.
An inconjunct between two people is an area of misunderstanding. Unlike the opposition, you can't find the common ground between your objectives, because there is no common ground. Unlike the square, you can't harness the tension, because the tension of the inconjunct is a slippery, moving target; you have one way of dealing with it and your partner??s way undermines or blocks you. How much the inconjunct impacts a couple depends on how prominent the natal planets or points are in each chart. The effects can range from mild irritation to a major stumbling block.
The key to handling a synastric inconjunct is to accept the following:
Adjustment is required from both partners.
There will never be a neat solution.
The promise of a solution is what keeps you coming back for more.
A Synastric Inconjunct in Action
Ms. Venus has Libra Rising. Her chart ruler (Venus) is in her 2nd House of security, in Scorpio. Venus is a major player in her chart, because it describes her identity and how she loves. Venus?? 2nd House Scorpio placement means that her way of giving/receiving love is possessive, and focused on intensive investigation of her partner. Her self-esteem is rooted in how deeply her partner accepts their merging. Her partner (Ms. Mars) has natal Mars in 7th House Gemini. She's drawn to partners who initiate (Mars) different ways of relating (Gemini). Nothing too heavy or focused. At the same time, her sexual energy is quick, curious and constantly shifting.
Mars inconjuncts Venus in their synastry. The tension creates a strong attraction. Mars is curious, because Venus is a new challenge. Venus is drawn by the promise of Mars?? intriguing puzzle (here's someone to investigate and penetrate). However, it quickly becomes apparent that this is a thorny connection. Venus?? desire to know Mars on a profound level clashes with Mars?? breezy energy. Venus finds Mars insensitive, and Mars finds Venus suffocating. When Mars initiates sex, Venus is not in the mood. When Venus is in the mood, Mars is distracted. Mars undermines Venus?? self-esteem, while Venus is out of step with Mars?? partnership energy.
Venus/Mars inconjuncts in romantic relationships can be tough, but not impossible. The inconjunct's oddball energy promises a very special result, and it's that promise that continues to magnetize Ms. Venus

Venus can develop her inner resources, so she doesn't lean so heavily on Mars. Mars can slow down in the moment and focus more on Venus. Each person can moderate the energies of their planet/sign combination, while accepting that Venus in Scorpio will always be intense, and Mars in Gemini will not. No aspect teaches more about the natal planet/sign combinations involved; the struggle to arrive at the —solution?? pushes each planet to its limits.


At the same time, it's important to avoid making the entire relationship about this one aspect. If Ms. Venus has planets in air signs, she can use their energy to connect with her partner on a sexual level (rather than obsessing about how her desires never seem to be satisfied). If Ms. Mars has planets in water signs, that's a way for Mars to relate to her partner on a more intimate level.

Link http://sasstrology.com/2014/07/inconjuncts-in-synastry-agree-to-disagree.html

I've read up on inconjuncts before and you have done excellent research. Well done! Most people realise they have an "itch" or a friction with another sign, but they can never place their finger on it, but this is it! That the "promise of a solution is what keeps you coming back for more" couldn't have a better wording. Thank you!

Posted by Feistypisces777
I've read up on inconjuncts before and you have done excellent research. Well done! Most people realise they have an "itch" or a friction with another sign, but they can never place their finger on it, but this is it! That the "promise of a solution is what keeps you coming back for more" couldn't have a better wording. Thank you!

I use to wonder why I see so many Taurus libra couples but this make since. Plus Aries are crazy over us.

I've seen a lot of Aquarius go crazy over Virgo, but hardly any Aries. Usually I see aries and scorpio and Taurus and libra and I think it might have to do with sharing the same planet.

We'll I'm talking about on here I see a lot Aries women want to be with us. I have not seen Aquarius, but on another note I have been really attracted to them physically.

Hmmmm...very interesting. You mention Taurus and Libra unions and that's funny because I've always been extremely attracted to Taurus men and even dated two.
Both relationships ended, but one of them was very very serious and could have resulted in marriage, but the obsessiveness and overcrowding was just a bit much for me. I think one of the things that will probably never work between Taurus men and Libra women is space. Libra women must have space, but what I found with both Taurus guys was their need to be a little overcrowding. Not in a really bad way, but just wanting to be up under you all the time and I was afraid that would eventually turn out to be NOT good in any relationship. One was borderline obsessive though, and even at 18 years of age, I knew that could nit be good. Anyway, I ended up marrying a Cap..lol, but I am still friends with both guys.

"Not"

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Hmmmm...very interesting. You mention Taurus and Libra unions and that's funny because I've always been extremely attracted to Taurus men and even dated two.
Both relationships ended, but one of them was very very serious and could have resulted in marriage, but the obsessiveness and overcrowding was just a bit much for me. I think one of the things that will probably never work between Taurus men and Libra women is space. Libra women must have space, but what I found with both Taurus guys was their need to be a little overcrowding. Not in a really bad way, but just wanting to be up under you all the time and I was afraid that would eventually turn out to be NOT good in any relationship. One was borderline obsessive though, and even at 18 years of age, I knew that could nit be good. Anyway, I ended up marrying a Cap..lol, but I am still friends with both guys.

Well that's earth signs for you we like to be all up on you lol. I would say Taurus the most second cap and dead last virgo.

To my knowledge, the only interaction I've had with Virgo's is with my brother, and we could not stand each other growing up, but we're inseparable now..LOL

Posted by Feistypisces777
I've seen a lot of Aquarius go crazy over Virgo, but hardly any Aries. Usually I see aries and scorpio and Taurus and libra and I think it might have to do with sharing the same planet.

Most Aquas don't really go crazy over Virgos, i'm the rarity here on DXP. I see Cancers and Pisces more than any other signs going crazy over Virgos, occasionally an Aries too.

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Posted by Feistypisces777
I've seen a lot of Aquarius go crazy over Virgo, but hardly any Aries. Usually I see aries and scorpio and Taurus and libra and I think it might have to do with sharing the same planet.

Most Aquas don't really go crazy over Virgos, i'm the rarity here on DXP. I see Cancers and Pisces more than any other signs going crazy over Virgos, occasionally an Aries too.

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I always read stuff that says that cancers and virgos are supposed to be this ideal match. Then it was broken down to me that virgos and cancers are horrible in boyfriend girlfriend situations. But they do extremely well in marriages. If that makes any sense.

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Posted by Feistypisces777
I've seen a lot of Aquarius go crazy over Virgo, but hardly any Aries. Usually I see aries and scorpio and Taurus and libra and I think it might have to do with sharing the same planet.

Most Aquas don't really go crazy over Virgos, i'm the rarity here on DXP. I see Cancers and Pisces more than any other signs going crazy over Virgos, occasionally an Aries too.

I always read stuff that says that cancers and virgos are supposed to be this ideal match. Then it was broken down to me that virgos and cancers are horrible in boyfriend girlfriend situations. But they do extremely well in marriages. If that makes any sense.

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It makes sense, to a point. People are more than just an astrological sign. Heck most don't even think I'm Aqua, I have so much Sag in me I come across as one. Life experiences will mold and make a person who they are....I base relationships on how I am with the person, not when they where born. Yes it can help to semi understand someone, but it's not the end all be all. Like for example, I work with 2 cancers, they are very different people. How they act, mannerism, communication, etc, it's all different.

Honestly, you seem more Leo than Cancer to me. You are a cusper, right?

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It makes sense, to a point. People are more than just an astrological sign. Heck most don't even think I'm Aqua, I have so much Sag in me I come across as one. Life experiences will mold and make a person who they are....I base relationships on how I am with the person, not when they where born. Yes it can help to semi understand someone, but it's not the end all be all. Like for example, I work with 2 cancers, they are very different people. How they act, mannerism, communication, etc, it's all different.

Honestly, you seem more Leo than Cancer to me. You are a cusper, right?

Yes im on the cusp July 22 so im righ at the cut off date. I always say that i act way more Leo than Cancer. I also find it very strange that most all of them men that i have ever dated have been Leo's, or Libra's. Plus every single boyfriend that i have had has said that i act way too manly and dominant.

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I've read up on inconjuncts before and you have done excellent research. Well done! Most people realise they have an "itch" or a friction with another sign, but they can never place their finger on it, but this is it! That the "promise of a solution is what keeps you coming back for more" couldn't have a better wording. Thank you!

I use to wonder why I see so many Taurus libra couples but this make since. Plus Aries are crazy over us.

I am not.

But Aries and Virgo do make a good team. 😄 #Argo #Viries

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I feel closest to Gemini Moons which is odd because I can barely stand the suns

Actually, I like Virgos as well but not sure that is from my Sun or Asc..

Imagine if I could find a Virgo Sun/Gemini Moon/Aqua Asc!! *licks lips*