@VirgoCupcake
12 YearsVirgo
Virgo Man with his guard up....
woman* oops!
Posted by VirgoCupcake
Advice from my favorite online virgos!!!Or when I give compliments he would say that he is sure that I tell my male friends that all the time.
By him making this comment I seems as if he wants to be the only man that you are talking to, but he is too scared to tell you.
@virgoyum right! Like we been out one time, but things aren't consistent. Like how they were at 1st. He isn't courting me like he should! I just always have sympathy when someone has been though a lot. But I'm the one that ends up getting hurt. *sigh*
nds like insecure to me. I gave majority of my time to him. He's the one who started us conversing on an everyday basis. Then i started to follow. Then he starts to act dumb. Like i don't get it lol
Posted by VirgoCupcake
Advice from my favorite online virgos!!!Or when I give compliments he would say that he is sure that I tell my male friends that all the time.
By him making this comment I seems as if he wants to be the only man that you are talking to, but he is too scared to tell you.
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Posted by VirgoCupcake
It kinda sounds like insecure to me. I gave majority of my time to him. He's the one who started us conversing on an everyday basis. Then i started to follow. Then he starts to act dumb. Like i don't get it lolPosted by VirgoCupcake
Advice from my favorite online virgos!!!Or when I give compliments he would say that he is sure that I tell my male friends that all the time.
By him making this comment I seems as if he wants to be the only man that you are talking to, but he is too scared to tell you.
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My Libra ex used to do weird stuff like that all of the time, and I came to the conclusion that he was supper insecure.
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Posted by VirgoCupcake
@virgoyum right! Like we been out one time, but things aren't consistent. Like how they were at 1st. He isn't courting me like he should! I just always have sympathy when someone has been though a lot. But I'm the one that ends up getting hurt. *sigh*You've been out only one time and you going through this? Guuuuuurl.
The thing though and i'm learning this myself is you gotta have boundaries and deal breakers. Figure out what you truly want from a man and see if he brings that to the table. You're gonna have fun and chemistry with a lot of people so don't hang your hat or heart on all that and take care of you.
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WORD!
Posted by VirgoCupcake
It kinda sounds like insecure to me. I gave majority of my time to him. He's the one who started us conversing on an everyday basis. Then i started to follow. Then he starts to act dumb. Like i don't get it lolPosted by VirgoCupcake
Advice from my favorite online virgos!!!Or when I give compliments he would say that he is sure that I tell my male friends that all the time.
By him making this comment I seems as if he wants to be the only man that you are talking to, but he is too scared to tell you.
My Libra ex used to do weird stuff like that all of the time, and I came to the conclusion that he was supper insecure.
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VERY INSECURE!!!!
Posted by VirgoCupcake
Dating others isn't a problem at all.
Apparently it is because:
Posted by VirgoCupcake
However, if you are pulling away from me how are u still going out with other girls?click to expand
How do you know this?
It's someone choice if he puts their guard down or not..it's not something you can control and push. Especially if he got cheated on. How long have you been dating?
Posted by VirgoCupcake
Dating others isn't a problem at all.Apparently it is because:
Posted by VirgoCupcake
However, if you are pulling away from me how are u still going out with other girls?How do you know this?
It's someone choice if he puts their guard down or not..it's not something you can control and push. Especially if he got cheated on. How long have you been dating?
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Like I said obvisiouly it isn't, Idc about him dating other girls. My POINT was how does these Issues apply with me, but not with other girls. I still date and talk to other guys. We're single. I just want things to be like now they were.
Dating for a few months now. Not too long, but I like who I like. Why I feel the way I do? Idk
Why do you assume he isn't telling his truth about family issues and being stressed out over work? You think he's only saying this to you but dating others?
You've both decided to date other people but you want more. Bring it up.
Posted by Damnata
Why do you assume he isn't telling his truth about family issues and being stressed out over work? You think he's only saying this to you but dating others?You've both decided to date other people but you want more. Bring it up.
Where did I say he wasn't telling the truth about having problems?
All I'm saying is if he can go out with ppl and have the same fam issues then why do those fam issues apply with me?
Yeah. Idk we'll see tho
Posted by tiziani
Virgos into fixer upper projects again... I guess if they weren't then the world would stop spinning.
Lmaoooooooooo what does that mean?'bbb
All I'm saying is if he can go out with ppl and have the same fam issues then why do those fam issues apply with me?
Again, how do you know this for a fact? You're making an assumption he only tells you that and meets up with the rest.
..... how does these Issues apply with me, but not with other girls.
You don't know what the dynamics are between him and anyone other than yourself ... so you are utterly clueless to what issues he may or may not have, as they are applicable to others.
so, basically ... you're just talking out of your ass, and then applying your hysterical paranoia onto another because you cannot handle your own passive aggressive feelings.
I still date and talk to other guys. We're single.
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jfc .... he's not even yours, and here you are attempting to place expectations onto him, as if he has some kind of duty to suffer your deluded paranoia.
All I'm saying is if he can go out with ppl and have the same fam issues then why do those fam issues apply with me?
Again, how do you know this for a fact? You're making an assumption he only tells you that and meets up with the rest.
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Assuming how? Its something that he told me.
"meets up with the rest?"
..... how does these Issues apply with me, but not with other girls.
You don't know what the dynamics are between him and anyone other than yourself ... so you are utterly clueless to what issues he may or may not have, as they are applicable to others.
so, basically ... you're just talking out of your ass, and then applying your hysterical paranoia onto another because you cannot handle your own passive aggressive feelings.
I still date and talk to other guys. We're single.
jfc .... he's not even yours, and here you are attempting to place expectations onto him, as if he has some kind of duty to suffer your deluded paranoia.
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Jfc? Idk what that means.
But idk why every time u post on something you have a lot of smart stuff to say.
I would love to see you in person. Cuz i don't understand lol, thats why I don't even feed into your replies. I am venting. So i assume you never did that before. To have respect for my elders. I rather just leave the rest I am thinking at that.
..... how does these Issues apply with me, but not with other girls.
You don't know what the dynamics are between him and anyone other than yourself ... so you are utterly clueless to what issues he may or may not have, as they are applicable to others.
so, basically ... you're just talking out of your ass, and then applying your hysterical paranoia onto another because you cannot handle your own passive aggressive feelings.
I still date and talk to other guys. We're single.
jfc .... he's not even yours, and here you are attempting to place expectations onto him, as if he has some kind of duty to suffer your deluded paranoia.
Ouch.
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Please don't encourage her lol that what she looks for.
I think that it just boils down to, he started liking you too much and got scared.
To make it a little clearer I guess I should say men carry on these little friendships with weak minded women who are easy to have sex with for years. However, when they encounter a women who is smart, head strong, with her head on her shoulders they get scared.
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Posted by VirgoCupcake
Advice from my favorite online virgos!!!Now I am a virgo women and in the past ive dated a man who lived 2 hours away and was previosuly hurt. it didn't hurt the relationship too much because he was long distance and the relationship couldn't really grow. So recently I met a guy who's a virgo and he has a guard up. He stopped texting and calling as much. When I point out he said it was because he has "family issues" and then mentioned another time that he was "working a lot". From past relationships he mentioned how he was cheated on and used for his money. HOWEVER, I NEVER asks him to pay for anything for me, nor try to give the impression that I am possibly talking to anyone else. Since we are not in a relationship its obvious that we would be dating other ppl. Dating others isn't a problem at all. However, if you are pulling away from me how are u still going out with other girls? So once I start to leave the situation alone he sends texts and do random calls. If you're not interested in giving me the consistency you once have given then why are you contacting me? Ive stated what I wanted and how he is pulling away for a reason.
When I mentioned putting his guard down he said he just couldn't not yet. So I can stick around until that happens. In the perfect world I would love to, because when we're each other we NEVER argue and have endless fun! Staying over each other house and talked everyday. So I just fell back and then he would text me randomly but not really talking about anything. I stopped carrying conversations with finding things to talk about. Let him take the lead and when he texts me its so generic like "good morning, how are you?" then when I reply lol thats it. Another communication prob is when I say something to him he refers someone else. Or when I give compliments he would say that he is sure that I tell my male friends that all the time.
Overall, just help me on how to deal with a VIRGO man who has his guard up!!!
Emotionally unavailable. He won't be until HE wants to be. Leave him alone and find someone who is ready for a relationship. Sounds to me your a jump off and that is all you will be to him until he fixes his issues. Move on and don't feel bad about it.
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JUMP OFF? Girl bye
Emotionally unavailable. He won't be until HE wants to be. Leave him alone and find someone who is ready for a relationship. Sounds to me your a jump off and that is all you will be to him until he fixes his issues. Move on and don't feel bad about it.
Jump off? I didn't get anything along the lines of intimacy here but she's definitely an option and possibly not ranking yet.
I do agree with this emotionally unavailable behavior. If he's not being consistent and open it ain't for her to fill in the blanks.
It's obvious he's the one you want. So you're not really forreal dating other people, they're place holders. What you need to do is engage in positive behavior you enjoy to take your mind off it cause we virgos love to obsess.
click to expandI agree with emotional unavailable too! And your right! To surround myself with positive energy is whats needed! I do like him and would like to see potential more. But I mean I can't force it lol
Posted by canerleo101
I think that it just boils down to, he started liking you too much and got scared.
😢 yea he might've seen that I was ready for a serious relationship.
Posted by canerleo101
To make it a little clearer I guess I should say men carry on these little friendships with weak minded women who are easy to have sex with for years. However, when they encounter a women who is smart, head strong, with her head on her shoulders they get scared.
Ughhhhhh lol. Yeah I'm not for those games lol
Posted by canerleo101
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Thank you so much!!!!!!!
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Advice from my favorite online virgos!!!
Now I am a virgo women and in the past ive dated a man who lived 2 hours away and was previosuly hurt. it didn't hurt the relationship too much because he was long distance and the relationship couldn't really grow. So recently I met a guy who's a virgo and he has a guard up. He stopped texting and calling as much. When I point out he said it was because he has "family issues" and then mentioned another time that he was "working a lot". From past relationships he mentioned how he was cheated on and used for his money. HOWEVER, I NEVER asks him to pay for anything for me, nor try to give the impression that I am possibly talking to anyone else. Since we are not in a relationship its obvious that we would be dating other ppl. Dating others isn't a problem at all. However, if you are pulling away from me how are u still going out with other girls? So once I start to leave the situation alone he sends texts and do random calls. If you're not interested in giving me the consistency you once have given then why are you contacting me? Ive stated what I wanted and how he is pulling away for a reason.
When I mentioned putting his guard down he said he just couldn't not yet. So I can stick around until that happens. In the perfect world I would love to, because when we're each other we NEVER argue and have endless fun! Staying over each other house and talked everyday. So I just fell back and then he would text me randomly but not really talking about anything. I stopped carrying conversations with finding things to talk about. Let him take the lead and when he texts me its so generic like "good morning, how are you?" then when I reply lol thats it. Another communication prob is when I say something to him he refers someone else. Or when I give compliments he would say that he is sure that I tell my male friends that all the time.
Overall, just help me on how to deal with a VIRGO man who has his guard up!!!