Leo-Virgo

I can relate to you here. It's the same thing with my virgo--it seems he does not want a commitment either and I usually need to know where i stand so i always initiate these talks etc and he always says go with the flow but i cant because i dont want casual and i'm always worried that he will find someone else. I have decided to leave him alone and I told him i just want to be friends. You have to do what's best for you--you dont deserve to be constantly worried if the guy you're with is going to leave because he hasnt made a commitment--find someone who will commit to you.

Posted by hikoro
I have been dating my virgo since August of last year and we are still not committed either.

I had posted about this in the past and I learned you have to feel secure about yourself and about the relationship.

The virguys on the board told me virgos take their time with people (weeding out process) So, be patient. You also have to see his actions.

Look at my case:

His parents don't approve of me because we are both from different countries, ethnic groups and religious affiliations.
His mom told him that I just want to have his baby and take all of his money.

I am going to start law school this August by the way.

To make it short, he is "white" and I am "black". More correctly, he is a slav and I am a mulatta.

He has met so many slavic women while we have been dating. These are the perfect women according to his community. But you know what? He is still with me. He still calls me and spends the weekend with me. Not with anybody else.

I have also noticed that he has warmed up more, he is more open, attentive, helpful...we used to have sex, now we make love.

And this may be a silly corazonada (spanish for hunch) but I feel as if he is going to ask me to be his girlfriend. It is my scorpio intuition speaking. He has been telling me about this great present he is going to get for me.....

Now, if this does not happen, then it is fine too. There is no need to rush.
I swear, if more people took their time dating and knowing one another, I think the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

So, just be patient. Also, get rid of the monthly talks. I bet that at the end, they don't help at all, correct?
They probably make him feel very uncomfortable.

Thanks btw!

SL: Every month we have a "talk" about how we feel, which frustrates me bc it seems like we are messing up a good thing with stupid talks.

That sounds so much like my Leo Mom & Virgo Dad - Mom wanted ACTION, and Dad wanted DISCUSSION!

Make him meet you halfway: Lend him an ear when he needs to talk, provided that he does things to resolve issues to your satisfaction.

Leo & Virgo can work - I've seen it in action...

hikoro: To make it short, he is "white" and I am "black". More correctly, he is a slav and I am a mulatta.

My first adult lover was a black Taurus woman - and I'm the whitest cracker you'll ever meet (half Scot & half German!).

I wasn't attracted to her because of her race, but because of who she was as a person.

My concern for you is that y'all have been dating for going on a year, but still are not a "couple" formally...

How old are y'all??

He's a Leo-Virgo?

uh oh ...

The reason I ask: We're not the jealous types, but we are possessive...

After all this time together, he probably thinks of you as His Woman - even if he hasn't said it.

Also, I've had friends over the years with Polish or Russian heritages, and they tend to be possessive in their own right.

But if you really want to know where you stand, ask him...

Sorry lioniess, I'll clarify lol. When I went "uh oh", it was because I have some 'thing' with a Leo-Virgo guy at the moment.

Whats his moon? I hope its not Saggie hahaha ...

his moon is pisces funny thing my moon is Virgo haha

Cappysweetie: Haha No he is a virgo virgo. I am a leo. What is a leo-virgo? haha I didn't know that was possible. But I'm sure that would be a lot to handle. :p

HA! HAHA! Ooops! I'm sorry, I saw the title and I thought you mean Leo-Virgo as, the Leo-Virgo cusp. Not Leo (you) and Virgo (him)

hahaha sorry about that. Gone on, don't mind me ^_^.

Although my virgo buddy is on the Leo-Virgo cusp and is he alot to handle? well ...

Posted by sweat.lioness
his moon is pisces funny thing my moon is Virgo haha

Really? He's a very with a moon in pisces? OMG, how endearing 🙂

Hey, theres a thread on the Astrology board currenting Pisces moons. I needed some help on that subject (at the time I thought I did). Theres a pisces mooner that replied to me on there that was really helpful.

very = virgo

sorry about the typo lol. I do that alot

Posted by Shaks
hehe, she meant he would turn 26 in September, not born on Sept 26th 🙂

OH really—? hahahaha, OMG, thats my 2nd misunderstanding in like 10 minutes or so LOL! Oh Shaka, my mind has gone to hell in a hand-basket lol

lol, I remember once he got so mad with me lol hahaha, I was being the devil lol -- it wasn't my intention but I kept interfering with what he was trying to do LOL!!! It was funny to me 😛

Oh yeah, we get along its just ... me lol. I'm complicated. So is he, but not as complicated as me at the moment.

I only say I'm complicated because I've been told I am complicated -- I'm starting to resent that. We are drawn to each other, but something will come and repell it all. 😛 long story.


Anyway, why are you afraid your guy will leave you? I mean, you are his girlfriend and he is your boyfriend. Things should be fine, right?

Posted by sweat.lioness
We are not boyfriend/girlfriend....who said that?haha We are friends that do practically...well literally everything that boyfriend and girlfriend does. lol He says he wants me to see other people or some crap, then asks me what's going on and then we end up hanging out. One day he blurted out that he is afraid if I find someone else that he won't see me anymore. I'm scared he's going to find someone else because he has all these female friends, and one of them is on his wee-wee. He says he is not with anyone else and blah blah blah but don't they all. I just don't want it to end up that tomorrow I find out all of a sudden that he is with someone else, I end up hurt, and we are not even friends anymore.

I see, the FWB arrangement.

Hmmmm, your guy reminds me of my roommate, just from what I've read that is. My roommate's a guy 🙂

Posted by sweat.lioness
I never really understood cusps. lol Sometimes I read I'm on a cusp and sometimes it says I'm just leo. I'm July 31. Leos and virgos both have and take a lot of energy, I could only imagine both. haha But I'm sure you should get along fine with your buddy. No? Both Leos and Virgos are suppose to get along well with Cappies. The only problem is when an arguement arises....lol

hahaha, don't worry. Everyone doesn't understand cusps. July 31, thats 1st decan leo

Posted by sweat.lioness
We are not boyfriend/girlfriend....who said that?haha We are friends that do practically...well literally everything that boyfriend and girlfriend does. lol He says he wants me to see other people or some crap, then asks me what's going on and then we end up hanging out. One day he blurted out that he is afraid if I find someone else that he won't see me anymore. I'm scared he's going to find someone else because he has all these female friends, and one of them is on his wee-wee. He says he is not with anyone else and blah blah blah but don't they all. I just don't want it to end up that tomorrow I find out all of a sudden that he is with someone else, I end up hurt, and we are not even friends anymore.

FWB yeah um it's inevitable that he will find someone else, that's included in the FWB package, telling you what you wanna here is included as well, ending up hurt is part of the package as well, not being friends in the end is also...

Yep it does look like a FWB situation - been there, done that.....friendship after? pffftttt

What friendship? Friends dont treat eachother that way. I dont know of a single FWB arrangement that ended well - the guy got what he wanted, and had other women waiting in the wings and the womam got a whole heap of heartache. Personally Id never do it again 🙂

haha well we were friends before? We don't treat each other badly. But maybe you're it's not such a good idea.

going from friends into a FWB is destined for disaster....but thats your choice 🙂

Well I'm not sure what I am supposed to be doing then...so you guys think he should just be cut off? We should stop going out? What would you guys do in the situation? (Are there any virgo men out there that can give input) I'm a little confused I've been FWB with guys but most of the time he's very sweet and considerate. Maybe it's part of his evil plot...lol

A guy is gonna take sex if you offer it but if you want more? he aint gonna give it. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk free? You're giving him nothing to want for and why would you sell yourself short? Yes I think you should distance yourself and see if he's the real deal.....if he truly wants you he'll come looking...just my $ 0.02 worth. Remember though, Virgos are soooooooooooo slow, it might take ummmm a LOT of time but then you'll truly know - do you wanna sit around wondering forever when Mr Right could be out there and you're wasting time on somebody who only wants the ummm "goods"?

Chatz: You are right! Thanks a lot. Definately taking advice into serious consideration.

One more question for the guys to Virgo men get jealous? (not thinking about making him jealous at all btw)

This sounds so much like my situation! I have tried to get out of it--the only thing left to do is to cut him off on bad terms!!How did you end up in a situation like this Sweet--did the two of you decide to just "go with the flow" or you thought it would lead to something serious?

We were dating and things were getting out of hand. We were too crazy for each other and it was getting a little scary. Sort of like we were trapped on an Island together without any other human contact. Things are especially not too good when I am very outgoing with many friends and have other obligations. So we just decided to "go with the flow". I'm not too happy about it because I'm a LEO. haha I have strong emotions that I need to express in the now, and if they are not expressed then I get bored. The thing that really actually scares me is that I'll get bored move on and forget about him, because he is a wonderful person. I mean I also don't want him to be with someone else...haha...can't help it. But even though "I'm scared", I trust him to an extent. Enough to cut things off. Don't do bad terms...If it ends up that he doesn't want a relationship, believe me...Virgo's hold grudges. One more thing...they have an AMAZING memory to back that grudge up and throw it in your face. lol I suggest you just leave him wondering what happened.

Lol they do have an AMAZING memory--so do i--so we often amaze each other. In that respect, both of us being more outgoing, impatient signs, the virgos movement is waaaay tooo slow!! At one point i disappeared online for almost two weeks and he almost went crazy. But now he's prepared for me to move on so the element of surprise is gone.

haha it's funny how we are literally having a convo over this board amongst ourselves. Well I have very close Virgo friend that says, "When we fall inlove we fall fast and hard." It's not the love part that is slow, it's that they are in constant denial of it. My parent says "We are just scared that someone is going to hurt us. So we don't want to waste our time with some people."

But how do they even know they are in love? How do we know they love us? And what are the actions that show this? My ex bf was also a virgo and he told me he loved me---at the time i didnt read much into signs--but he was always veeeery affectionate with me, all touchy feely, always had a smile on his face when i was around, always seemed very shy in my presence, we spoke all the time on the phone, he always looked deep into my eyes, but around his friends he used to ignore me and he hardly used to pay much attention to me in ways i would expect him to like take me out, send me gifts etc--but it always felt good around him. We werent involved sexually. With this virgo, whenever i see him he looks at me with such intensity in his eyes, always stares at me, always touchy feely with me, kissing me up, flirting with me, giving me advice to the point that i get sooooo annoyed!!!! Gets jealous when my males friends look for me, or when we're out he gets jealous if i talk to another guy, his friend teases him about me, he;s very possessive. But this is all when i am around him--when i am not--i think he forgets about me--esp when he goes back to the other country---

lol. Cute stories. When a virgo is inlove they act like it. It's in their action not their words. You could be infront of Barack Obama and they will be extremely affectionate...why? Because you are THEIRS! I have actually heard Virgos verbalize that "woman" or "man" is mine. Think of Beyonce she is a Virgo all her songs are about Jay-Z. They have this cocky attitude where they want to let the world know that they love you and they belong to you. There are several ways you can "find out". Ignore them, they usually come to some sort of epiphany when you do for some reason and makes it easier for them to tell you what they feel. Another thing is you can start talking to someone else "innocently" and don't be afraid to talk about all the fun you had with the other person. (Just don't make it sound like you have found the new love of your life) Sometimes it's a wake up call.

haha I wrote chickeny...ignore that. ::cough::