
moondream
@moondream
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Posted by CluelessCancer
Why is your boyfriend sitting there flirting with another woman? Have you talked to him about his behavior? With mine when we first started dating/sleeping around together,we went to a one day conference. He was absolutely enthralled with this one chick in attendance. She is gorgeous. Yet, she had a man. He still was staring at her boldly. Making eye contact. They would chat a little. He was saying "She wants me." I felt humiliated and disgusted by his behavior. Seeing how her boyfriend was there. It was extremely disrespectful. Not only to me who he hung with everyday, but her man.
Anyways I talked to him about it in a very serious manner and I told him I felt humiliated not only by his actions towards me by not considering my feelings, but also his bad behavior towards a woman who was obviously in a relationship.
He apologized and he took it seriously enough not to do it again and to be considerate of my feelings when other women were around...
I would definitely talk to him about his behavior or he is going to continue disrespecting you.

Posted by moondreamPosted by CluelessCancer
Why is your boyfriend sitting there flirting with another woman? Have you talked to him about his behavior? With mine when we first started dating/sleeping around together,we went to a one day conference. He was absolutely enthralled with this one chick in attendance. She is gorgeous. Yet, she had a man. He still was staring at her boldly. Making eye contact. They would chat a little. He was saying "She wants me." I felt humiliated and disgusted by his behavior. Seeing how her boyfriend was there. It was extremely disrespectful. Not only to me who he hung with everyday, but her man.
Anyways I talked to him about it in a very serious manner and I told him I felt humiliated not only by his actions towards me by not considering my feelings, but also his bad behavior towards a woman who was obviously in a relationship.
He apologized and he took it seriously enough not to do it again and to be considerate of my feelings when other women were around...
I would definitely talk to him about his behavior or he is going to continue disrespecting you.
thanks so much for your replies...
yeah, his venus in libra was definitely a bit of an issue for me at the beginning as he does notice beautiful women all the time, and he is so darned charming that so many women are eager to make eye contact with him. we did have a serious conversation about it and he has stopped for the most part. he is wonderful to me and always takes my feelings into account after we discuss them and he has had time to digest. he showers me with love and affection. but i worry that could change on a dime.
he actually wasn't flirting back with her -- he was just being the nice, charming, funny person he always is. and he saw that i was upset after we left them -- and asked if it was something he did and i told him no. we didn't discuss any further. i think deep down he knows why i was upset.click to expand

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As a venus in Libra person, i often find libra women quite interesting but there is one thing about a venus in Libra
that is often ignored, we love and care for one person. you might see us flirting or talking with someone else but
at the end of the day, only one person hold our heart. we choose.
Your boyfriend care for you as much as you care for him, if yo


Posted by rockyroadicecream
Leo chick sabotaging her own relationship? Check.
Insecurities abound? Check.
Boyfriend not retaliating flirting? Check.
Simmer down, yo. I think it's more in your head than what's actually happening. I'd get your concern if he was just as flirty, but he's not. Trust the guy if he's not allowing her flirting to happen. Chances are she's just being really friendly. Libra chicks tend to be friendly to the point of flirting.
You sound like more the problem than she does, tbh. Start worrying when your bf starts to show more interest beyond being nice and friendly. Any female can flirt with your man. It only goes as far as he allows it to and if he's not willing to let it go beyond her making an ass out of herself, you really shouldn't stress about it.



Posted by moondream
he is wonderful to me and always takes my feelings into account
he showers me with love and affection.
he actually wasn't flirting back with her -- he was just being the nice, charming, funny person he always is.
he will dump me realizing I am not "the one" or something. and then i will be too old to start a new relationship and have an opportunity to have a family.
his venus is in Libra makes me worry that he will never fully commit to me
he didn't "flirt" back but he definitely enjoyed it
Yes, he had his arm around me the entire time, but it still hurt and still helped to feed my fears that given more time together they could fall in love.



Posted by moondream
... will he ever really commit to me? i know Virgo's are slow moving to commit and so i've been as patient as possible -- but i'm 36 and so worried that we will be together for a few more years and then he will dump me realizing I am not "the one" or something.
Posted by moondream
he is wonderful to me and always takes my feelings into account after we discuss them and he has had time to digest. he showers me with love and affection.
he actually wasn't flirting back with her -- he was just being the nice, charming, funny person he always is. and he saw that i was upset after we left them -- and asked if it was something he did and i told him no. we didn't discuss any further. i think deep down he knows why i was upset.
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Posted by Let*It*Be
Security brings STRENGTH. Strength to NOT let another female cause you to become ugly and hot under the collar. Security in a relationship is KNOWING the man you are with will NOT cross the line and if he does, he was never yours to begin with. Strength=Trust. Without that, a relationship will not last. Don't know what the serious lack of understanding that is. Damn..


Posted by Let*It*Be
I don't get why you two don't GET that the OP has .....
Posted by enfant_terrible
I'm always the first one to admit that I'm jealous and possessive.
If I sense something that does not sit well with me
I will address it playfully but in a straightforward manner.
It's a way of opening a dialogue and also letting her know that I know. What's the point of acting dumb?
.... I allow myself to be somewhat immature.
Posted by CluelessCancer
I prefer a man to be possessive of me. Not controlling, but possessive. The Virgo I'm dealing with doesn't get jealous or doesn't show it. It's very annoying. It's like he doesn't care.
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Posted by moondream
so basically we went and visited the town my friend lives in again last week -- went to lunch with her and her boyfriend and she flirted very seriously with my boyfriend all afternoon. she practically didn't break eye contact with him the entire time. i ended up speaking to her boyfriend the whole afternoon because she was glued to my boyfriend and i tried to play it cool and not let it effect me. she must feel pretty strongly about him to flirt so seriously with him in front of me, knowing the difficult journey i went on just to get to be with this new man. (


Posted by 25thDecan
Call me a dick but I have serious issues with women giving me orders, voting, driving cars, holding public office(schtick uh mundo here)....but in the case of the OP's guy...why let two women decide for you when you're already joined at the hip with one you care about? And...my venus is in libra. In relationships when someone else's friend steps my way, they fall into this chasm where I'm nowhere to be conveniently found...so...pee on that theory.



Posted by celticlioness
"i am truly afraid that he will fall in love with her if they get to know one another better"
This does not speak of trusting your boyfriend.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Why do people hide their jealousy anyway? I'm always the first one to admit that I'm jealous and possessive. If I sense something that does not sit well with me regarding my partner's behaviour - even if she's far being inappropriate - I will address it playfully but in a straightforward manner. It's a way of opening a dialogue and also letting her know that I know. What's the point of acting dumb?
This is one area in life where I allow myself to be somewhat immature. Besides, what woman wants a cold fish for a partner who doesn't blink an eye when she flirts with other men? If she does, then she's in it for all the wrong reasons. Now most of you will say 'I want a man who trusts me' and blah blah blah.... but even if i trust you, what really stings is letting the other prick have the satisfaction of you making him feel more special than he really is, even if it's just for a brief moment. So it's not really about insecurities, it's just pure jealousy! 🙂
Posted by ElixyRare
Look women ur blessed to be a fire sign were the sexiest women alive ! N were fun adventurous n smart ! So y r u insecure Burgos don't call someone their gf for nothing he's with u n if libra lady gets with him fuck him he won't respect her but he won't do that to u he's just being charming n so is he it's in their nature but some advice never trust a bitch with ur man cuz they will fuck u over so fast don't let them have each others number or nothing ! She obviously doesn't respect u if she flirts non stop with ur guy fuck her ! Stupid slut not a true friend kick trash to the curve y envy someone wen u can b u he got with u not her !
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Damn everything's getting crunch with sosc in the hizzouse!
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one of my closest friends of 15+ years lives on the other side of the country and my boyfriend (of 1.5 years) and i hung out with her and her boyfriend last year when we were in town -- at that time i started to worry that maybe my boyfriend and my best friend could fall in love. i started to realize that they may be perfect for one another, they are both extremely unique people. plus, she is a lot like me, which is why we are friends; but she is more petite, more charming, more talented, more feminine than I am. she's the libra version of my leo self. my biggest concern is that my bf's venus is in libra and guess what? my friend is a libra. i believe is astrology so much that i am truly afraid that he will fall in love with her if they get to know one another better.
the only thing is that she would never leave where she lives and i can't see him leaving where he lives. i also see other problems of them being together -- but i can see a lot of ways in which she may make him happier than i can -- or just be more "perfect" of a lover. and my virguy is critical and picky and always looking for perfection.
so basically we went and visited the town my friend lives in again last week -- went to lunch with her and her boyfriend and she flirted very seriously with my boyfriend all afternoon. she practically didn't break eye contact with him the entire time. i ended up speaking to her boyfriend the whole afternoon because she was glued to my boyfriend and i tried to play it cool and not let it effect me. she must feel pretty strongly about him to flirt so seriously with him in front of me, knowing the difficult journey i went on just to get to be with this new man.
i already have issues with feeling insecure or jealous when i feel threatened in a relationship (my venus is in virgo so i really need security in a relationship) and i am also very much aware of this fault of mine causing problems in relationships. the thing is -- i really love this man, and i left a very serious relationship -- hoping and expecting this new relationship to be just as serious, if not more.
so what to do? i mean; i would never want to stand in their way if they are genuinely meant to be together? but considering the logistical problems of them being together they won't get to know one another unless i bring them together. but i can't stand to sit by and watch them flirt just to wait and see what happens? this is killing me 😢