Turn on the breaks with Virgo male

I met this Virgo earlier this year. We've hung out a few times and at first he told me that I was "cute" and little things here and there. I knew that he liked me, but I also didnt see him often. I didn't really "like" him instantly. He was always pretty nice, but nothing that sparked my interest.

A few weeks ago he invited me to this show with him because he thought I would like it. I was a little hesitant to go with him because I was reading too into his invitation and didnt know his intention. He has a lot of female friends as well, so I thought maybe it would be a friendly thing. I thought 'what the heck, why not? I dont have any other plans'. So I said yes. I met him at his place and he seemed to be in a good mood and was pretty talkative (not like he's been before). We left to the show. I would like to insert here that we were both drinking.

Skip to later on that night, basically we were flirting (i blame the alcohol and my sensual taurus moon 🙂 ) and being affectionate. I know in the back of my mind i thought nothing to serious of it, but then he started to announce that he likes me, that he likes me alot, that he has always liked me and pretty much that he wants to be with me. At this point I tried to slowly turn on my breaks because I felt like I may have led him on in a wrong way. I was having fun, but at the same time i thought it may have been too much.

Now it seems like he is trying to win me over. He has been pretty aggressive with trying to hang out and now I dont know what to do. Thing is, like I said I am not feeling him in a spark, potential boyfriend kind of way and I dont know how to proceed. I basically dont want to lead him on in any way, but at the same time I dont want to cut off contact or be rude. Part of me may even want to give him a chance, but at least take it slooooow. Like start over.

Any virgos suggest what i should do? I have no idea how to proceed after that night. It's like an elephant in the room. I havent seen him since our hang out because I was traveling, but he has been adamant about seeing me.
I had a good male virgo friend years ago. He had confessed that me liked me and that he wanted to be with me (all while being on a 'break' with his girlfriend) and once I didnt reciprocate those feelings it was over. friendship and everything, he just disappeared. I dont want to make that same mistake because he is a decent guy, and also seems sensitive. help!

what is the reasoning behind that?

Thanks Let*It*Be for that feedback. I know that seems like the most obvious thing to do, maybe I'm just scared of what will happen after that 'talk'. I'll give it a shot

lol sunshine. funny thing is some of my beginning observation of him gave me the *tool* vibe. very slight, but something there. Maybe why I didnt think much of him in the beginning, but I am trying not to blow guys off at first sight, and give people a chance for a change haha

Why don't you treat him as the man he is and realize he doesn't care about anything coming out of your mouth except his d1ck

Posted by YourSunshine
Don't give people who don't deserve a chance a chance.

thank u for that reminder

Posted by CasperChief117
Why don't you treat him as the man he is and realize he doesn't care about anything coming out of your mouth except his d1ck

lol i will do just that, except that does not apply here 😉

u guys are making me see things through a whole new light. here i was trying to be nice hahaha

Posted by YourSunshine
He's gonna disappear too just so ya know.

^^This is 100% accurate

i can see both sides of the coin having personally interacted with him and seeing his actions. He does do things that a 'nice guy' would do, but also is a guy, and seems like he can have some douche bag tendencies. He also is more 'wild' than i am, for what its worth and that has raised a red flag in my mind from the get go. (actually surprising because i though virgos were more calm and not so risky..but he may have some fire in him). I will take all of this into consideration and see what happens next, if anything. thank you for all of your opinions!

lol oh geez. maybe i worded that wrong. i am more aware of what i am dealing with now 😉

Just tell him you're not into him romantically but would like to remain friends. They like and PREFER straight honesty.

I knew a Virgo guy that played that nice card business. He would offer to do this and that. Then if someone asked him to do something he would have all kinds of excuses not to do it. He was so insincere. I think he used that persona to attract the ladies into his web.