living with a messy Virgo man

I am myself a virgo and so is my boyfriend. We are together for 3 years and we love each other very much. BUT.. there is this problem we have and we fight a lot about it. He is sooo messy like clean but still very messy. I usually spend my day off cleaning the apartament. Glasses everywhere, clothes , small bike stuff in every corner... We discussed this problem several times and he knows that bothers me very much and it s like talking to a wall. My problem is that maybe he respect me enough to understand what bothers me and think somehow what would make me happy. Don't know how else to make him understand that.

Posted by MihaelaBalan1986
I am myself a virgo and so is my boyfriend. We are together for 3 years and we love each other very much. BUT.. there is this problem we have and we fight a lot about it. He is sooo messy like clean but still very messy. I usually spend my day off cleaning the apartament. Glasses everywhere, clothes , small bike stuff in every corner... We discussed this problem several times and he knows that bothers me very much and it s like talking to a wall. My problem is that maybe he respect me enough to understand what bothers me and think somehow what would make me happy. Don't know how else to make him understand that.

Did you respect him enough to communicate your displeasure of his messiness BEFORE you moved in with him? Or did you want to get him first and are one of those females who thinks she can change a man? Whose fault is that? Move out if you don't like it maybe that's what it will take. If not..make sure the next guy you DO communicate with instead of being in a rush to play house.

At the begining he was Not like that at all. It didn't even crossed my mind that it will get this way. I am not one of those womens that wanna change a man I personally don't believe in that.

Posted by MihaelaBalan1986
At the begining he was Not like that at all. It didn't even crossed my mind that it will get this way. I am not one of those womens that wanna change a man I personally don't believe in that.

Interesting...so he just learned how to be messy? Is that what you are saying?
Or did he become messy and you put up with it and now you don't want to put up with it?

This sounds deceptive.

A person isn't tidy, then suddenly becomes messy ... it doesn't work that way. So, for you to add a little lie doesn't help you.

That's the thing with ignorant people ... they have no awareness that every other person isn't as ignorant as them.

I have a virgo brother that is messy and his girlfriend alwYs known that about him!

When she comes to the house he acts "neat" but when she spend a few days over she yells at him for being a mess than clean up his room and wash a pile a clothes that reefs in his bedroom.

So either he pretended to be neat or you over looked how messy he is.

Posted by P-Angel

This sounds deceptive.

A person isn't tidy, then suddenly becomes messy ... it doesn't work that way. So, for you to add a little lie doesn't help you.

That's the thing with ignorant people ... they have no awareness that every other person isn't as ignorant as them.

So let's see. .I share a post about a'' messy boyfriend'' thinking that I could get an advice about how to deal about it , instead it turned out by you saying that I may Add ''little lie''. About what? I don't have to prove anything to nobody about my relationship . You don't even know me to say such a things about me. I did not post this to be judge or get criticism from a person that I never had contact with. You may have mistaken the meaning of the website ...miss p-angel

Posted by Octoberbaby91
I have a virgo brother that is messy and his girlfriend alwYs known that about him!

When she comes to the house he acts "neat" but when she spend a few days over she yells at him for being a mess than clean up his room and wash a pile a clothes that reefs in his bedroom.

So either he pretended to be neat or you over looked how messy he is.

Yes you are right . thank you for the example🙂

Tell him how imperfect he is and watch him pout and clean like a baby lol I tell my brother about his messiness all the time!

Posted by MihaelaBalan1986

You may have mistaken the meaning of the website ...miss p-angel

Really?


And what pray-tell do you think is the meaning of (this particular) website?

I can't wait to hear you blabber on about something you know nothing of, since you don't even know who owns it.


Please .... speak. I love a good laugh.

So, since you are incapable of proving you didn't lie ..... the assumption is and will remain the same.

You said two different things, which contradict each other ... so one of them is a lie.


which one will it be today?

I was just thinking about this rule about 15 mins. It doesn't have to be perfect just a little bit of effort. I actually just had this conversation with him just before and it's a deal. thank you so much and happy to hear from you.

She's a cap/aquarius cusp CC