my ridiculous virguy update!

Ask him out. End the agony.

Well, you haven't actually asked him out, so I don't know that you can say he will shrivel up and ignore you....

Make him feel comfortable with you by asking him to some function, striking up conversation and seeing if you have anything in common....

omg

force?

j.f.c

j.f.c?

Catherine, what are doing?

"last time i asked him (over text) when he wanted to hang out (which he'd suggested) he didn't reply. whats he waiting for? what's a girl to do? i'm tearing my hair out here."


He's not waiting for anything .. you are.

Cannot you not see?

He requests that you text him because he wants to hang out .. just so he can ignore you.

It's their game .. read these posts .. they all do it. Escorpiona has been pulling pedals out for months and months.

He loves me
He loves me not
He loves me
He loves me not
He loves me
He loves me not

And others, love4ever .. many, many, many women .. it's all the same. They give signals to go, go, go, go, go .. just to ignore you when you step up to them.

It's a game of emotional manipulation ..

.. if a man and woman truly want each other, they have them.

I just don't get it .. are women so desperate that they would participate?

What about self-worth?

Maybe what women should be pondering is this instead ..


I love me
I love me not
I love me
I love me not
I love me
I love me not
I love me
I love me not

Does that really matter? Men have to be held accountable for women when they have dealings with them .. just as much as women have to be held accountable for men.

Men are physical .. women emotional .. we all know this.

If you fondle a man and get him into his physical state .. you have to be held accountable for that .. you don't take care of him .. you're a cock-tease .. that is the responsibility of women .. we know they are physical and we have to take extra care and concern about what we do with this.

If a man gives a woman emotional signals that he is into her, even tells her he really likes her .. HE KNOWS SHE IS GOING TO HAVE AN EMOTIONAL REACTION .. it is his responsible to take care and concern when dealing with her because he made her that way.

What? Women have to take care of both? His needs and hers? Well, that's just fucked up, isn't it? What does he have to be held accountable for? A nut? That's it?

My point is .. whether this particular episode was a deliberate act, or not, is irrelevant .. what is relevant is that because men KNOW we are emotional, it is their responsibility to be held accountable if they bring us to the point of having feelings for them .. it's not like they aren't aware of this, you know.

Aren't you aware of what you are doing to a man if you get him erected?
You have to be mindful of that, don't you?

He has a responsibility too .. so long as women continue to let men take no responsibility for what they do KNOWING to our feelings, the longer the cycle will continue.

ok i agree that he is responsible for his actions whether they're deliberate or not. he did apologise for ignoring my invitation to hang out that time, i'll give him that. he also claimed he was an idiot. which he is.
to be honest, he could have put HIS feelings in MY hands and i don't even know it...he could be waiting for me to ask him out again. i don't want to make excuses for him, i'm just trying to weigh up all the possibilities.
and i know he shouldn't hold me responsible for making the next move but...he's obviously scared. if that is the case at all.

Anyway .. sorry, he's doing this to you again .. go out and tie a good one on somewhere. Find a really hot bloke to dance with who knows how to stroke it on the dancefloor .. throw caution to the wind.

You only live once .. shag somebody .. you don't need him to have a good fuck, there's plenty of men who will do this .. figurtively and literally.

Do two (one for me) Enjoy 🙂

no don't apologise, you're a wise lady. i'm just a 21 yr old girl who's never been in a serious relationship...and i'm probably being naive and am gonna get hurt but sometimes you can't help who you get stuck on. and sometimes you can't un-stick yourself until all the glue's dried up.... for want of a better analogy hahaha.

anyway i can't just go and sleep with someone unless i'm in a relationship with them. i just can't bring myself to. maybe it's the cancerian security thing or whatever but yeah

x

haha by the look on his face, i'm pretty sure he didn't get his friend to approach me. it seemed as though she'd taken it upon herself to interfere. he looked so embarassed he'll probably never come near me again!
but yeah next time i see him i'm gonna have to bully him in to a date 😉 it's come to the point where it's either now or never. i'm gonna have to be more direct at least anyway, i'm tired of beating around the bush.
oh i sooo want to mother him! but only if he's sure he wants to be mothered. ya get me.

lol

Be grateful you got a pinch on the arse .. lol

I wouldn't mind a pinch on the ass right now .. so long as he was hot, hard and handsome. 😉

It could be -- knowing the Virgoan need to process everything -- that he is attracted, but is stuck in that stage.

"Why do I like this woman?"
"I just broke up with someone and don't feel too confident. So why approach someone new?"
"Do I really like her?"

These are the thoughts that are hamstering around his brain. My guess, anyway...

haha why?
anyway it wasn't really a pinch. it was more a grab with both hands. haha :s yep

eaglegirl,

yeah you're probably right. this is why im reluctant now. i know he likes me...but does he actually want anything to come of me and him?

lol .. Catherine backs up, wiggles her butt, waits for another grab

a metaphor for our whole 'relationship'!

leave him alone for awhile.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

you can do it.


...many of you come her for a sort of therapy so to speak...

Shyness is nice and
Shyness can stop you
From doing all the things in life
You'd like to

Shyness is nice and
Shyness can stop you
From doing all the things in life
You'd like to

So, if there's something you'd like to try
If there's something you'd like to try
Ask me I wont say no, how could I?

Coyness is nice, and
Coyness can stop you
From saying all the things in
Life you'd like to

So, if there's something you'd like to try
If there's something you'd like to try
Ask me I wont say no, how could I?

Spending warm Summer days indoors
Writing frightening verse
To a bucktoothed girl in Luxembourg

Ask me, ask me, ask me
Ask me, ask me, ask me

Because if it's not Love
Then it's the bomb, the bomb, the bomb,
the bond, the bomb, the bomb, the bomb
That will bring us together

Nature is a language - can't you read ?
Nature is a language - can't you read ?

So, ask me, ask me, ask me,
Ask me, ask me, ask me

Because if it's not Love
Then it's the bomb, the bomb, the bomb,
the bomb, the bomb, the bomb, the bomb
That will bring us together

If it's not Love
Then it's the bomb
Then it's the bomb
That will bring us together

So, ask me, ask me, ask me,
Ask me, ask me, ask me
Oh, la...

Therapy?

You mean, a kick in the ass kind of therapy?

** backs bum up and waits

LMFAO

james blunt?!?!?! how dare you! hahaha.
no, it's 'ask' by the smiths.
funnily enough, they played it last night. fitting.

check out what i made www.myspace.com/jamesbluntcunt

substitute 'bleep' in that for the cockney rhyming slang for blunt...ya get me

c o c k n e y rhyming slang hahahaha

c u n t

how you can liken morrissey's lyrical genius to james c u n t is beyond me!!!

HAHAHAHAHAA! okok, fair point. i just like the way morrissey puts all kinds of issues so simply...so easy to relate to. but yeah i admit it's self-depreciating emotional masturbation. haha.
the lead singer of bloc party went to my school! biggest geek ever!

i met him in the local pub once. i was drunk and it was around christmas. i waved a piece of tinsel in his face and said 'bloc patty' (that's my jamaican accent for you)
he didn't look impressed so i refuse to like them now. i liked their old album but not their new one and they have no stage presence whatsoever which is disappointing.

yeah he needs to smile and get his emo fringe out of his face and maybe eat some pies. anyway night night xx

i've never seen it! but doesn't it have my lovely noel fielding in it? ahhhhh.
are you hating on london?

ahh, those poser types exist in all cities i'm sure. i've been to sheffield...i know :p

Catherine .. any word from your Virgo?

Grow up both of you...at the rate this is going, your first date will be at the London Olympics 🙂

You say he is immature, but I don't think you are the model of maturity Catherine...so stop beating about the bush and just ask him if he wants wild, raw animal sex followed by a relationship (or the other way around...at least ask)!

Good luck!

Hahaha antibling are you sure there is no Greek blood in the family? You are too cheeky, even for a Yorkshireman 😉

Ah the bush, the bush...I am, of course, referring to the Biblical 'burning bush'...

Ok seriously, you can take the softly - softly approach but for what? What should be said is not said, what should be done is not done...and we are back where we started! I can do both...say what the other person really wants to hear, or just say the truth (my view of it of course). I would rather do the latter, as this is more constructive and less patronising 🙂

I know what he meant, I never liked that Poof Salon either 😉

Yeah I prefer the direct way, and wish that more people were direct to me! Just think how much easier life would be, without having to always assume/guess/prophesise...

Picture this:

Honey, do you think this dress makes me look fat?

Reply: Well you can always lose the extra 10 lbs, but what will you do about the 'tache? We have an important dinner tonight, and I am not taking you looking like cave woman hahaha. If you don't believe me, go to that poof's nest and ask in there for beauty tips...they'll say the same thing 😛

Ok that was an extreme and Greek-themed example, to illustrate the limits of human and animal cruelty 🙂 I would not be so rude hahaha.

I think about topping myself...have a project to submit by the end of this month and no1 knows...no1 cares (there are too many players in it). Should I kill myself or kill them instead? Utilitarianism says I should top myself for the benefit of the many hahaha, but I'm selfish 😛

Oh My Marr...I just read the previous posts and who's the muppet who said Ask is by James Blunt? She must be summarilly executed through impailing a *Blunt* instrument in her cranium 😉

It must the be silly season and no1 bothered to tell me! What next...The devil will find work for idle hands to do is by...Scooch—?

Glory glory Hallelujiah 🙂 😉 😛

Yeeah I agree about the uplifting music need...I am not a great fan of Morrisey either (apart from the first couple of albums), but The Smiths were 40orfoh3o9t6y3o8rf338yf8iof38fwghuifo3hfh...THAT GOOD!

Right now I am listening to Metallica 'Master of Puppets' and Massive Attack (the Best of CDs). I am flexible, as long as it's 'good quality' music and not hip hop/rap s**t with 9 words in 10 being ho, biatch etc etc etc.

Hey look at me, I'm brilliant 🙂 Oh no, I'm crap...hang on, I'm brilliant...I goit it, I'm just confused hahahaha

Btw what do you advise me to do good panel of DXPnet. This is my predicament:

I see her every day but we only talk about the weather (nice, isn't it? oh yes, laaaaaavly!). She then goes away all blushing, but I know from a friend of a friend that she secretly fancies me. But the thing is, she won't tell me, and I won't say either coz I would be too easy! Should I call The Mormons? Or The Ghostbusters? Or the Fire Service? Please heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp ;P

Pigs actually have pretty big heads.

Ouch...that's an insult to pigs (comparing them to us) 😉

Thanks for the advice antibling, I was being sarcastic previously...trying to emphasise how so many people can drown in a puddle...

Some people have called me arrogant, and some have called me modest. But the majority just call me God ;P so it's ok

I'm off for today, back home to continue working believe it or not! The irony is that I'm up to my neck just 2 weeks before starting on a new job, and up until now I was mostly scratching my @@ doing nothing...Sod's Law applied to the time distribution of work haha

have a nice one all you people out there, don't work too hard (like me) and drink a lot of alcohol to stay awake 😉

...or is it the other way around? Hmmm...

Fontas

Good morning, kalimera, buon giorno, buenos dias, bonjour and all the rest of it 🙂

Antibling you are truly a ray of sunshine in this forum, you even reply with solid advice to me hehe. Thanks anyway!

What a wonderfully sunny, yet @@ - freezing morning this is in England! Global warming may be coming, but it's not consistent yet! Let's all increase our carbon emissions people, and take our next summer holidays in Margate 😉