HE IS IN LOVE WITH ME!

And we still not on the same page!... Monday early evening I got several txt mssgs from my Virgo man telling me how much he loved me. We spoke on the phone that night and he said he spilled his beans so what, that I move him and that he is very vulnerable with me, he loves me period!

Of course I never expected him to be in love with me, nor tell me so. In fact, our weekend trip two weeks ago, I took it as a casual outing and I had not seen him much nor talked to him much either... I had made up my mind to let him go and look for the NEXXT man. I even posted a new personal ad. I was getting over him and going on with my life.

And now he confesses his love for me but I am still not seen much emotions or feelings from him. I have not told him I love him and he is ok with that. He knows I am afraid of a change of heart on his part. Also, last night we went to a concert. I grabbed his hand to walked the long parking lot holding hands, otherwise I do not know if he would have gone for my hand. He kissed me on the cheek and on the ear once each time through out the whole concert, that was it. I on the other hand was very affectionate with him and kept touching him. NO feed back from him. He loved the band, on of his favorite, but he showed no emotions, except tapping his fingers on the beer glass. At the end, he dropped me off at my house and we had a good night kiss on the lips! And that was all. Tonight we barely spoke on the phone.

Doesn't a Virgo male know how to show his emotions, his feelings? He said he is intense when he is in love, but I have not notice it yet that is why I say we are not on the same page nor do I know whether we will be on it one day... On the mean time, I am learning patience with my Virgo man. Even if we do not end up together, it is a great virtue to have! 😛

Escorpiona...Don't you think your asking for a bit too much here from him?

Just a perception..It seems whatever, he will do, will never be enough for you..I mean, the guy is obviously very shy and reserved and not many readily show their emotions...He's told you he loves for crying out loud woman!..what more do you want..BLOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL..Chill and take your time with him..If you really care and like him of course..he will open up slowly it seems..and if you need grand gestures of love (true leo fashion)..then I defo don't think he's your man

Sorry for the rant..but had to be said..LOL

Escorpiana:

Sounds just like us Virgos. I think I might be in love with him! LOL.
I would agree here, we're not very "intense" on the outside and we tend to be an extremely slow burn. We're certainly not "shout it from the rooftops" kind of people...but when we love, it's usually really strong and steady.

Rox: "it's really difficult to come back from that mind set"

Thats very true..once the mind is made up..theres no return..but I don't think it is in this case..

Escorpiona,

The last virgo I dated was the same. He came out and told me he loved me, yet he never acted like he did. He used to talk about this 'emotional connection' we shared, yet I never felt one to be honest. He used to say that I was the only girl he'd ever held hands with in public! Which I thought was odd.

The reasons we split were his total lack of affection and his attitude to me when he was with his friends. An example of this is when he thought he was 'bantering' with me and told his friends that at least I was cheaper than a prostitute with me sat there!! One of his friends nearly choked on his drink! I can laugh now, but at the time I was fuming! That was it for me I'm afraid. He was a Mr Achiever as well, and would go for ages with no contact and then ring me as if there'd never been a break. That sort of thing just doesn't work for me.

In the spring, you can hand pick a flower with how ever many pedals are needed to pluck, so you can have an absolute.

Copperhead: "An example of this is when he thought he was 'bantering' with me and told his friends that at least I was cheaper than a prostitute with me sat there!"

OH MY LORD..no social skills

Ha ha missmorals, he DEFINITELY had no social skills!! One of my friends thought he had Asperger's when she first met him! He could be very embarrassing, not like other Virgs I know at all! He had no idea of the rules of banter at all!

"He had no idea of the rules of banter at all!"

Not sure who makes the rules ..

Sounds like my boss...My god he told the MD to shut up today in a very weird aggressive kind of behaviour (well the MD is kinda loud and stands in the middle of the office to announce something and we were trying to concentrate on something)..

Lets say, none of the department is impressed with that little outburst..don't think its won him any supporters..LOL

Not sure I understand what you're saying, MM, though, I know you're not really talking to me .. just trying to comprehend what you meant by that ..

What I meant was that my boss isn't known for his social skills..and today he had a little outburst in the office..instead of just politely saying to the MD to be quiet as he was concentrating on a query we were working on together..he shouted

Can you just shut up please, I am trying to concentrate and your so loud I can't do that!..

The look on everyones faces..my god!...

Oh .. sounds vibrate unbearably for some people .. I'm not sure I get what was wrong with him telling people to be quiet ..

But, that's not exactly what I didn't understand .. I meant, "none of the department is impressed with that little outburst..don't think its won him any supporters"

P-Angel..the point I was getting across was that it was rude the way he did it...there are ways and means of telling someone to shut up without degrading yourself...

LOL @ Pluto..I think that Eclipse is working in the Scorpio favour if we are attached to a Virgo..LOL

Oh, MM, I see .. fyi, some people stop caring how others view them .. the world doesn't look the same to everybody .. I can relate to your boss .. it matters not how something is said to another, it doesn't change anything .. having forces behind some people doesn't put definition on meanings ..

Anyway, thanks for clearing up what you meant by that .. 🙂

Escorpiona,

I am happy for you!

Sweetheart, what you have to look for is *growth*! Compare your Virgo man's behavior to three months ago....

He's really grown. He has become *more* expressive, more affectionate, more giving...maybe not as much as you'd like...

But relationships are not 100 percent in our control...we have to bend a little to the one we're with...

I think this whole thing sounds promising, Escorp! Give him some time and appreciate what he does do. I congratulate you!

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I knew it had to be the smart P-Angel to bring my threads up... Thank you dear! Lady you got so much class, it shows all over your posts!