Need help understanding Virgo girl I like

Hi there,

I'm trying to figure out what's going on with this Virgo girl I like (Aqua Moon, Venus in Leo, Mars in Gemini, for what it's worth). We first met about six weeks ago at a work related function and the spark was instant. Then we connected over social media and started talking there, then exchanged work phone numbers, and finally personal numbers.

We've never made a habit of talking on a regular basis. Aside from the first time she contacted me on facebook, she never initiates a messaging conversation, but will (most of the time) respond if I send something or do something that prompts her to do so.

We've had a few chances to meet up in person. The first time I asked her to coffee, she responded by proposing the time and location. The interaction was positive although there were moments when I felt a bit of that trademark 'coldness', in addition to observing her nervousness around me. She would never look at me directly, focusing instead on throwing me darting glances from the side of her eyes. The only exception was whenever I touched her arm, which would trigger, for a moment, a direct look and a smile. She also never said anything too nice beyond calling me 'observant' and the overall interaction 'pleasant', but she did pay for the date, which I took to be an indication of her generous character.

That said I'm a Venus in Aries and I hate to give up a chase when it's on... so I decided to try something different. Knowing that she is a generous person who likes to take care of others, and knowing that she likes chocolates and sweets, I baked some chocolate cookies and brought them to her office, as a way to say thank you for paying and to show appreciation for her. That made her very happy and she even messaged me to say how sweet of a gesture it was.

A few days passed since then without any interaction between us, until I saw her this past Monday at another work function. She immediately came up to me and gave me a hug, resting her head on my shoulder as she did so. Overall she was very warm, smiling, joking with me, looking me in the eyes, touching me softly on the arm and shoulder at different intervals. I took this as an expression of interest and a sign that she was shaking off some of her nerves around me, so I did what any sensible man would do and aimed for a bold response. I asked what kind of food she liked and told her I wanted to take her out this Saturday for dinner and... her mood suddenly changed again. She turned flustered and nervous, said she wasn't sure, that she would message me back, but she couldn't look me in the eyes anymore as she was talking, she had gone back to darting her eyes nervously. I gave her a parting hug as she left that evening, but I noticed it was less warm and more rushed than the one she gave me earlier on.

So it's been a few days, I haven't heard back... I am beginning to anticipate that I will be either ignored or rejected at the last minute. Between the warm and cold vibes I keep getting, I am definitely confused right now. Am I overthinking this? Is this just par for the course? Any insight would be appreciated.

well, i usually don't text guys who ask me for a date until few days later either. What we do throughout this time, it seems, is a mystery to other people. It may look like we are not interested or don't care, but in fact what we are usually doing is rationalizing weather we should go on the date or not, and yes, it may take few days, and sometimes weeks.

Why does it take so long for us to rationalize for a simple yes or no, you ask? It's because we are thinking million things, like weather he is the actual mr right.

You have probably seen it in some other articles, but we are very picky when it comes to our men. And we don't usually do flings and one night stands.

So, your friend is prolly thinking what she wants to do with you, if she involves you in that part of her life. give her time and she will get back to you eventually.

Well , usually I respond super fast to text . But if that's a romantic interest , I might take a long time .

We think a lot , I have mercury in virgo so I analyse a lot of things , even small details - quite tiring .

I agree with what is said - we are so picky , I'm going to analyse you , take my time and see if you are worth it or not . People often mistaken it for - push / pull situations . It's just that I'm cautious , I' m thinking about the consequences , what it means , if the person is serious , is he playing etc .. I can't help it , I guess it reasurres me to think about the options .

I also agree - I have venus in leo too , and flings and one night stand are hard for me .

I have a tendancy, if I like a guy chances are he won't necessarily know about it unless I'm sure . Even after that , I will never show how much I care from the beginning . What you should do is - BE PATIENT .

Don't rush her because it's going to freak her out . Next time you talk to her come up with something easy , no pressure . Personally I have venus in leo , so if a guy keeps coming back I will like it .

Good luck 🙂