Pleasing a virgo

Especially when it is your fault!

As we know virgos are good at making the mountain of the molehill, how do we please them when it's our fault, no matter how small it is!

Simple sorry does not work, if you become too polite he senses it's fake while it is not, he pretends he has forgiven you but you sense he is still upset upto some extent.

While it is funny to deal with this tactfully, I feel bad for making a blunder, I know it's my mistake and he has been good with me despite that, but, I am sure I have hurt him or made him upset.

How do I please him, ,most importantly not feel guilty about it that much. I guess I know the answer, but, it's my guilty that is killing me..

How do I correct this and really make it normal?

Before meeting this virgo my life was so simple and easy, just full of work and play.. It's weird a selfish person like me is worried about him more than myself...I do not know how to express what I feel..

Please respond..

As far as possible, DO NOT FALL IN LOVE, it does not let you focus on all other important things..

That too never ever with a virgo...

woah i seriously just posted something like this on the aries board!! except i was talking about a virgo friend but same rant.

virgos are hard to please and they dont accept apologies very well. we can talk stuff through and apologize if necessary and then i think that everything is good then but it NEVER is and i dont understand why. i wouldnt apologize if i didnt mean it and im not going to kiss anyones butt because we had a miscommunication but yeah. i'd like to read the responses. virgos baffle me

If he loves you he'll get over it.
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Perfect.. You also reminded me something important, making him feel secure..
Thanks

Talk about making a mountain over a molehill...




I'll second that.

bijou2u

Thanks for taking time... Ya- I think you are right!

As for people who keep on seconding again and again and again, they know I IGNORE them!

here's my opinion.

Honestly, I don't think its important to know how to please a Virgo -- any man for that matter. I made this mistake and now I regret because I was focusing more on what he want me to be instead of just being who I am, even with all my flaws, it was still important to be me.

There are an old phrase I heard years ago that applied to women (men too), it was stupid but I kept hearing it. "Its important to hide our flaws, until after the wedding."

No,no,no,no, never ever do this 🙂 A person is entitled to know what they are marrying before walking down the aisle or signing papers or whatever. Its important to be in touch with who you are, not who you think you should be.

capri, i think cappy has a nature of feeling guilt when it is NOT necessary.
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You have a point here..
I have said sorry , he did forgive me and today every thing is normal, it's all in my head.

You say you are sorry only once and mean it.....they pretend to accept it but both you and him know he is just gonna bring it up and up and up again:-) - when they do, you simply look them soulfully in the eye! of course - where eles!!! and say...mooh mooh mooh and tickele/stroke them under the chin....no more bad vibes....you and him will dissolve into laughter:-)

A x

If a Virgo makes a "molehill into a mountain" then he is just trying to get you feeling extra guilty.

Our way of making sure you learn your lesson.

The solution is not not obsess, make your apology, acknowledge your mistake and move on.

Anything further would only serve to annoy him.

Oh and yeah, security and appreciation are key to pleasing a Virgo.

If a Virgo makes a "molehill into a mountain" then he is just trying to get you feeling extra guilty.

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If loves me, he would know by making me feel extra guily I will be hurt. SO he should not make me feel guilty too much.

WHY WOULD YOU MAKE A LOVED ONE FEEL GUILTY INSTEAD OF IGNOING THEIR FAULTS?

Perhaps, it would safe to assume then that the loved one isn't.

what do you mean?

If love is suppose to mean ....... faults are to be ignored, and guilt-trips non-existent .... yet, realization of faults is present, and guilt-trips are given .... then perhaps this person isn't as much a loved-one, as is believed to be, by the one who wants to be loved by this person.

If your dog will only eat Alpo
But you buy Pedigree because it's cheaper
And your dog won't eat the Pedigree, so you throw it away

Is the Pedigree still cheaper than the Alpo?



Ideal vs. Actual



If a man treats you in ways that are NOT the definition of love ..... then is it still love?

If love is suppose to mean .......
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What IF the definition of "LOVE" is not what you defined?

What about learning and growing together, while making each other aware of the improvements where needed, wouldn't that be true love instead of the blind spoiling love?

It's not about finding faults, it is about making BIG DEAL out of it.

"What IF the definition of "LOVE" is not what you defined?"


Wasn't my definition .... it was yours.


"WHY WOULD YOU MAKE A LOVED ONE FEEL GUILTY INSTEAD OF IGNOING THEIR FAULTS?"

Oh, i just posted a new thread about the definition of love

"WHY WOULD YOU MAKE A LOVED ONE FEEL GUILTY INSTEAD OF IGNOING THEIR FAULTS?"


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That's exactly the difference between your thinking and my thinking.
IF you really care about a loved one, you are supposed to let them know of their faults instead of ignoring it and letting it go!

"WHY WOULD YOU MAKE A LOVED ONE FEEL GUILTY INSTEAD OF IGNOING THEIR FAULTS?"


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That's exactly the difference between your thinking and my thinking.
IF you really care about a loved one, you are supposed to let them know of their faults instead of ignoring it and letting it go!

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So on Sept 30, you say - a loved one should ignore your faults
Then on Oct 1, you say - a loved one should let you know of your faults


Is this still about feeling stupid over whatever it is you did?

You did "something", you apologized .. over.

I guess since he didn't make a big issue out of recongizing your apology to him, then this is why you are carrying on?

What?

WHY WOULD YOU MAKE A LOVED ONE FEEL GUILTY INSTEAD OF IGNOING THEIR FAULTS?"

Of course he knows it hurts, we are vindictive. We make you feel guilty to drive home the point, what you did was unacceptable and that it hurt us too.

Tit for tat, basically.

What?

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Trying to understand the HUMAN nature in depth, not just THE VIRGO!

what you did was unacceptable and that it hurt us too.
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I think I agree with this.

Interestingly, though I did do something unacceptable, he accpted my apology.

IT IS MY GUILTY THAT IS making be upset at times.

I didn't do jack shit trying to please mine and he was obsessed with me. I think the key to pleasing anyone is just be yourself, I mean thats why they like you in the first place..