Slightly Confused

I have searched the Virgo boards high and low and learned alot about "Virguys." Theres just this one thing that I need an opinion on. Theres this virguy I work with and we don't talk much except for the occasional small talk since we work in two different areas, but I have know him for maybe 2 years now and he has been doing the "Virgo Stare" for almost a year now and when we first started talking, he seemed a little nervous, but he is always staring me down and gazing into my eyes when we see eachother around. His close friends are always gazing at me like they know something. It just makes me uneasy, because I think I am starting to like him. Then he also does the hot and cold thing. Maybe for a few days he will act like he is into me by complimenting me and staring at me then he will go into retreat for a week. I'm pretty shy and afraid to go ask him to go for coffee or such. Do you think he might be into me or just playing head games? Or do you think that he is just observing me because maybe he wants to understand me better because I am a little on the unique side.

By unique I mean shy and mysterious and I'm more to myself than chit chatty.

Oh he is deffinately into you and would totally go for your coffee invitation but be prepared for the same roller coaster should you decide to go through with it.

wooowww wat i just read brings me back how i was this month last year... i know wat u must be going throw rosexxamore. My story is the same the whole virgo stare thing going on, the hot-cold(does he like me, or not)... the most suprizing is the staring of the friends, thinking that they secretly know something about u (that pissed me off soo bad.. lol) well one piece of advise RUN AND DONT LOOK BACK....lol unless u are the sort of person that has ALOT and i mean ALOT of patience to wait for him to make the first move... which in my case never happend i had to pluck up the courage(being a very shy person) and starting a "proper conversation".

"Do you think he might be into me or just playing head games? Or do you think that he is just observing me because maybe he wants to understand me better because I am a little on the unique side."
My virguy told me that he was absoulty intrigued by me... all the mistery in my eyes...
but i think my mistake with my virguy is that i expected to much too soon.. they need time to analize every little detail... all in all i didnt have the time to hang around for him. ooo and dont let the cat out the bag to soon.... keep that mistery it will drive him insane. 🙂
Its funny even after a year of our little staring games when i see him and his friends i still feel very observed lol....

So true coco. I've been ovserved for 9 years. I wasn't really into him so I didn't care if he made a move or not. It wasn't until I decided I liked him is when I put the moves on him. It's still a rollercoaster. I haven't heard from him in a few days so I don't even know if he still even exists at all. But thats just my experience.

rosexxamore,

Yes he likes you and he is intrigued by you and yes, he is taking his time to observe and evaluate you. This takes time, a veeerrryyy long time. I've been on hold for more than a year now and we just barely started to going out. But it's still half romantic-half casual. I know he is into me, and he says things but he has not confessed it yet. But I got used to it. I was totally lost and clueless at the beginning, but in time, I have learned how to drive him around so to speak 🙂 Now, if I want to communicate wih him I do, if I want to go out with him, I make him go out with me, but all in a way that he's comfortable with. Believe me, once you get it it is not that hard. Three things you should always keep in mind though: 1. You've got to be patient. 2. You've got to gain his trust. 3. Do not ever play games with him, just be persistent. Good luck!

Well I think my virguy is in hiding because he wont return any of my calls or text messages. Yet he did send me a happy easter text. Whats up with that?

Slightly Confused? Yeah, join the club. Well, I've been in the club, but want no more apart of it.

Thank you so much for the insight. I'm so glad to know that I'm no the only one going through this type of situation.

I have this friend who is also into a virguy and this virguy is married. They have been having an affair and she is head over heels for him. I told her to not get into this because she is going to wind up hurting herself. Do virguys tend to stray in marriages? I mean would they leave thier wife for someone else? Just a thought pondering in my head.

Me and my Virgo has just got into a new routine. We're texting each other late at night and he's making jokes just like a 16 year old boy. In his txts, he's not like himself, the serious, business oriented guy that I am having a hard time talking to. He's much more relaxed and fun. Does anyone know what's that mean? Does it show that he's totally comfortable with me -allowing me some space to make a move maybe?- I have not seen anything like that 🙂

See rosexxamore, even after months or years you got the same questions 🙂

rosexxamore,

Are you sure you're not the one who's thinking about having a fling with that Virgo? (No offense please, but you sound like you're asking this for yourself). Virgos are very much loyal by the way.

Yeah my virguy and I communicated strictly via text messages for the first couple months. I have virgo ascendant so maybe thats why i didnt mind it so much. Strings Attached, do you think he misses my "sexually harassing" text messages as he would call them since hes gone off into hiding?

Strings, just one question: How can I make the most of it? I mean, how can I trigger his sensuality? Up to now, I am playful. I am responding with same type of jokes, lots of smileys to show that I like his messages, and I am challenging him smoothly. What else? Should I txt him more often? His messages and emails are not very long, I want to make him tell more but so far I couldn't get more than three sentences at once 😢

Try sending a dirty joke something that might get him excited. Believe me you'll have his attention for hours.

Really? I never thought of that. That is something I could have done before, but then again I'm sure the Virgo guy wouldn't have believed it was me being as shy as I am.

I would love to give that a try but I can't. We are not intimate. Also, we are working in the same building and he's in management. This may not be appropriate.

I need a more subtle way 🙂

This would for sure work as a breakup line for virgo actually

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EXACTLY :-).. He will FREAK OUT.

Break something in a house and ask him to come to your place to "help" you.

to "fix" it.

yeah strings I agree thats why it was my recommendation to this room to send something dirty. BELIEVE ME. I would do it with nmy virguy before we were intimate and I'm a very shy person. Your text messages doesn't have to be in character of your self because thats what there for. and who cares if hes in upper management. If that were an issue then you shouldn't date or try to date. Are you gonna say that it's innapropriate to give him a kiss good night one day if the relationship progresses because hes in upper management. Comment on how hot he looks today. It can start suttle and then it gets easier and easier.

Nope. I wouldn't ever try to date a married man, love4ever. I try to put myself in his wife's place and I wouldn't want anyone of that nature getting it on with my husband behind my back.

I still think that 'virgo stare' stuff is crap; the only thing I'm starin' at is myself if I have a mirror; now what else could be as interesting as a person's own ego? the sad part is, I really mean all of what I said! lol