ThisPiscesChic
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Typical virgo or player??
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Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
Shitttt, it could go either way to be honest.
I'm going to whisper something in your ear though.....Shut the fuck up about commitment after 3 months.
I gave that to you harshly because he probably will do the same if you keep aggravating him with it.
Just stop asking him about the future as you will benefit from this heavily. Go with the flow. As a Pisces that should not be hard.
If he doesn't love you, he will show you that sooner than later. Given the fact that he's still in your face and still calls/comes over, either you have some great peach cobbler.....or he really likes you/loves you. And I'm not talking about actual peach cobbler😉
LOL... love it! I can take harsh. I need harsh. Not sure how well I am with just going with the flow, however. I don't like surprises. 3 months may be soon to a Virgo but to this pisces chic, it's an eternity. If i like him enough to settle down why is he so uncertain about me? *shrug* I did express to him that I won't be bringing up commitment anymore because if he's ever ready for that, he'll act on it and left it at that. According to him, I do have some pretty fantastic peach cobbler 😉but I'm hoping this isn't the only reason he puts up with me. He tells me I should know he likes me by now, but this only comes out when I'm ready to leave the situation. He's also big on body language... told me once I should know how he feels because he looked me in my eyes the entire time during sex. Ummmm... the elusiveness is beyond my needy Pisces mind. Perhaps wanting him to articulate emotions is asking for too much? Geesh!
Unfortunately he got what he wanted, sex and now he's treating you as if you should prove to him you're special enough for him to give up his freedom, this is a player move, does this make him a player maybe/maybe not but if he said something like "he asked me if I thought I'd done enough to ask him to commit." my PUA-PICK UP ARTIST RADAR would be on high alert.
If a man seems to be in hot pursuit before he gets sex only to slack off and not keep the pace up after sex then he's not that into you for a real relationship, the motivating factor for him to be nice is GETTING A REWARD eg SEX, I would suggest yo slow down, stop having sex every time you see him and begin to forge a real bond, you shouldn't play games with sex but you shouldn't continue intermingling sex and love together or you'll be very disappointed when the outcome isn't what you want it to be.
I feel a little sad for you because you've already given this man your heart and he's done absolutely nothing to earn your love and vice versa which can only lead to a bad end for you so slow down.
Whatever you do don't settle, you shouldn't be pushed to leave only to be reeled back in only to feel as if you want to leave when you feel you've had enough. This kind of cycle is bad for you.
If a man seems to be in hot pursuit before he gets sex only to slack off and not keep the pace up after sex then he's not that into you for a real relationship, the motivating factor for him to be nice is GETTING A REWARD eg SEX, I would suggest yo slow down, stop having sex every time you see him and begin to forge a real bond, you shouldn't play games with sex but you shouldn't continue intermingling sex and love together or you'll be very disappointed when the outcome isn't what you want it to be.
I feel a little sad for you because you've already given this man your heart and he's done absolutely nothing to earn your love and vice versa which can only lead to a bad end for you so slow down.
Whatever you do don't settle, you shouldn't be pushed to leave only to be reeled back in only to feel as if you want to leave when you feel you've had enough. This kind of cycle is bad for you.
Posted by tiki33
Unfortunately he got what he wanted, sex and now he's treating you as if you should prove to him you're special enough for him to give up his freedom, this is a player move, does this make him a player maybe/maybe not but if he said something like "he asked me if I thought I'd done enough to ask him to commit." my PUA-PICK UP ARTIST RADAR would be on high alert.
If a man seems to be in hot pursuit before he gets sex only to slack off and not keep the pace up after sex then he's not that into you for a real relationship, the motivating factor for him to be nice is GETTING A REWARD eg SEX, I would suggest yo slow down, stop having sex every time you see him and begin to forge a real bond, you shouldn't play games with sex but you shouldn't continue intermingling sex and love together or you'll be very disappointed when the outcome isn't what you want it to be.
I feel a little sad for you because you've already given this man your heart and he's done absolutely nothing to earn your love and vice versa which can only lead to a bad end for you so slow down.
Whatever you do don't settle, you shouldn't be pushed to leave only to be reeled back in only to feel as if you want to leave when you feel you've had enough. This kind of cycle is bad for you.
*Sigh* Unfortunately, I agree with you....
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
Are you fucking kidding me—
It's been 3-fucking-months! Literally at that...
3 months— That ain't shit. @ original poster, you mean to tell me, after 3 months, you look for a ring?
You know, I forgot....you are a Pisces. My friend had a Pisces girl, and she thought the same way you're thinking.
My apologies..........***Exits thread***...click to expand
Despite your consistent harshness.. I like you PotHeadVirgo22. And no, I don't look for a ring, I do however look for some indication that I'm more than just a summer fling. *thatisall*
I was reading this thread but not replying because I can't relate with this idea of having sex before marriage. Maybe I'm too conservative and you people think differently but I believe that once you have sex with a guy and done it repeatedly, now the ball is in his court that either he gives you honor by accepting you as a wife or leave you like a used tissue paper.
Thank you Let*It*Be.... I shall take heed.
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
I'm going to whisper something in your ear though.....Shut the fuck up about commitment after 3 months.
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Posted by ThisPiscesChic
I have a hard time deciphering whether he is a master manipulator of words or truly into me.
Is this typical virgo behavior or am I simply dealing with a player?
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How exactly does a Player play the girl if he isn't acting all into her? You describe a man who isn't acting passionately all how the world turns around you, and you question if he's just playing you?
I think you should google the term Player before you attempt to use it.
"How exactly does a Player play the girl if he isn't acting all into her? You describe a man who isn't acting passionately all how the world turns around you, and you question if he's just playing you?
I think you should google the term Player before you attempt to use it."
Awwww P-Angel has officially blessed me with her presence. I have been waiting on this moment!🙂
I asked this because he's a master manipulator of words. He will tell me I can date and then make sarcastic comments when he thinks I've been out on a date. He says we are 'friends' but when I tell him I'm going to leave him alone yet I'd like to still be friends, he immediately tries to salvage 'this relationship' (not sure you can call that). For instance this last time, he said to me, 'If this is what you want, I have to believe that it's somehow written in the plans for me. I can't make you want me'... As though losing me was a loss of such importance that God designed it that way. Or he says things like if he'd gotten married at a younger age like he expected he would that he would've never met me and that's a prime example that life happens the way it's supposed to. I could give tons of examples but I won't bore you....
So I call him a potential player because he may be saying just enough to keep me around because the fucking is amazing, or he may actually mean these things... The third option is that I just simply don't understand him so I spend entirely too much time analyzing his every word. *shrug* Only time will tell.
I think you should google the term Player before you attempt to use it."
Awwww P-Angel has officially blessed me with her presence. I have been waiting on this moment!🙂
I asked this because he's a master manipulator of words. He will tell me I can date and then make sarcastic comments when he thinks I've been out on a date. He says we are 'friends' but when I tell him I'm going to leave him alone yet I'd like to still be friends, he immediately tries to salvage 'this relationship' (not sure you can call that). For instance this last time, he said to me, 'If this is what you want, I have to believe that it's somehow written in the plans for me. I can't make you want me'... As though losing me was a loss of such importance that God designed it that way. Or he says things like if he'd gotten married at a younger age like he expected he would that he would've never met me and that's a prime example that life happens the way it's supposed to. I could give tons of examples but I won't bore you....
So I call him a potential player because he may be saying just enough to keep me around because the fucking is amazing, or he may actually mean these things... The third option is that I just simply don't understand him so I spend entirely too much time analyzing his every word. *shrug* Only time will tell.
Posted by piscespassion
WoW, This is whole Pisces/ Virgo thing seems to sometimes only "work" when it comes to sex and not work when it comes to an actual "relationship". I don't see how she is wrong for wanting a committed relationship after 2-3 months of free sex. "letting him (Virgo) be the man is what got her in the mess she is in now. If you are good enough to sex up on the regular then you are Good enough to commit to. Outside of "sex" I don't see him really "offering" you anything of value. He doesn't care how you feel nor does he really care about making You happy. Its all about him. If this is Typically Virgo attitude, no wonder we are polar opposites.click to expand
PiscesPassion I don't see how I am wrong for wanting that either. I haven't seriously dated in over 4 years and I was beginning to think maybe the world of dating had drastically changed. I have never had to pursue a commitment in my life. It's never been this hard and I've never had to wait this long (perhaps that's why I'm single). Outside of great sex, great conversation, and good advice about myself and my children there isn't much being offered by him. Yet he's so damn fascinating!
everything your virgo says and does sounds like mine..u poor thing. My exception is that I have known him longer as friends. I dunno..we're older for one and I laid it on the line with him. He had to make the choice to have 2 feet in the door or get out and let me move on. He had to make the choice to meet my needs 1/2 way. He knows the boundaries on his 'abusive' tendencies. He has come so far and the love and respect he has for me now shows...
My biggest advice..u have to be assertive. You can't show every emotion u have. He'll like a strong woman. Go and do your thing and don't be so available..let him chase u some..
Read 50 Shades of Gray..the guy in the book sounds just like my Virgo..with all the abusive skeletons in his past..and its been a long hard road..and i'm betting the woman in the book is a Capricorn like me. LOL
My biggest advice..u have to be assertive. You can't show every emotion u have. He'll like a strong woman. Go and do your thing and don't be so available..let him chase u some..
Read 50 Shades of Gray..the guy in the book sounds just like my Virgo..with all the abusive skeletons in his past..and its been a long hard road..and i'm betting the woman in the book is a Capricorn like me. LOL
All valid points mentioned above. One thing is for certain about all Virgo's I would say. We loathe liars. So, if we're around, we WANT to be. If it's just a little (there are definitely reasons) if it's a lot (there are definitely other reasons).
And well...if we aren't there at all anymore. It's because we don't want to be.
He's there, so he wants to be, and when he feels safe and secure...you can bet he will be there permanently. He's testing your waters so to speak. Seeing what kind of depths you hold. All Virgo's do this I would say. We also test your values, and though sex for us can be merely just mental with no judgment, sometimes giving it up to soon is like a death wish. Depends on which way he leans. If he's more liberal minded or conservative. We tend to be one way or the other. Our sign doesn't typically have sex without caring at least a "little" bit. Virgo's WANT things to matter. We don't tend to do things to use others. It's not in our make-up. There are exceptions to every rule though.
And well...if we aren't there at all anymore. It's because we don't want to be.
He's there, so he wants to be, and when he feels safe and secure...you can bet he will be there permanently. He's testing your waters so to speak. Seeing what kind of depths you hold. All Virgo's do this I would say. We also test your values, and though sex for us can be merely just mental with no judgment, sometimes giving it up to soon is like a death wish. Depends on which way he leans. If he's more liberal minded or conservative. We tend to be one way or the other. Our sign doesn't typically have sex without caring at least a "little" bit. Virgo's WANT things to matter. We don't tend to do things to use others. It's not in our make-up. There are exceptions to every rule though.
On a side note... based on his behavior, i'm sure you can see why Virgo and Scorpio used to be one Constellation. Hahahaha. We're nuts. The whole lot of us! Hahahaha.
Woah! I never said it's all about us? I mean, I've dated Virgo men before and I don't freaking get it either! I don't do that. I love deeply. If i'm in i'm all in! I'm just making an assessment from experience. I'm also liberal minded though. I want deep seeded emotional love. It's hard if you've been hurt in the past. Maybe he gave his love away too quickly in the past? We do act this way if we've been hurt too many times by trusting the wrong people. It's not selfish its protective! We try to protect ourselves. If we get hurt, in our minds we bloody torment ourselves with it forever!
Hey...i love me some Pisces peeps. I love all water signs for the reason that I know absolutely CAN trust them. That they don't seek out people to hurt them. Some of us don't know what's good for us though. So, we just stay Hermits. It's sad really.
He/She is probably sitting at home in their room scared to go outside, socialize, or give call backs because they think they will get hurt. So we just hang out alone. If you think we relish in that fact...you are definitely wrong. Progressive Virgo's WILL get themselves out of it...or develop a substance abuse problem and maybe or maybe not overdose on hatred of themselves.
^ Yeah, I guess it seems deep, but i've had a Virgo friend (born a day after me) die of a substance abuse problem. There are numerous celebrity Virgo's who fall victim to themselves like IE: Amy Winehouse, Nicole Richie (There for a little while)... My cousin born August 25th, also just (hopefully) kicked her substance abuse problems and she's only 18. It's sad. Especially when you know the person does these things out of self hatred...which our sign has a known history of.
Posted by OProserpina
And well...if we aren't there at all anymore. It's because we don't want to be.
Interesting. I am a Cancer male and trying to create a relationship with a Virgo female. I am facing a massive power struggle with her and a lot of pushing and pulling with neither wanting to give up.
In the beginning she would call and text me and initiate plans to go out etc. Last couple of weeks I have noted that she doesn't initiate much and sees me a lot in groups. But then she hangs out with me despite being a group and we are making jokes, laughing and having an overall great time. The next day I meet her she is frosty and behaves as if she doesn't know wo I am. Obviously I return the favour and I am just as frosty and ice cold. How would you read this situation? I see it as a power struggle because she wants to dominate me.
^^^ I see it as she likes you, and doesn't know how to deal with it. A hot as fire or cold as ice Virgo woman is a Virgo woman who is by definition CONFLICTED.
She's conflicted by those damned emotions she's feeling but yet doesn't want to. Cause feelings = Potential to get Hurt.
It's not a power struggle with you.
It's a straight up WAR with her own head, and that's the damn truth! If I could tell the world anything about Virgo women...It would be that over 95% of the time we're at war with our own head.
Stupid Mercurial energy...Maybe when we find our real planet.
She's conflicted by those damned emotions she's feeling but yet doesn't want to. Cause feelings = Potential to get Hurt.
It's not a power struggle with you.
It's a straight up WAR with her own head, and that's the damn truth! If I could tell the world anything about Virgo women...It would be that over 95% of the time we're at war with our own head.
Stupid Mercurial energy...Maybe when we find our real planet.
^^This is someone else's thread so I don't want to be disrespectful and make it about myself. Thank you for your response to my query. I have one last question:
Some background about her she as scorpio ascandant and Venus in Scopio. Earlier this year she fell for a guy we knew in common who dumped her in 4 months flat. I don't trust that she is over him and I get the feeling she is trying even now to somehow make it work or something (although I can see no logical rationality to this at all). COuld all this also affect her personality and her actions a lot? In general through my behaviour and gestures I have made it absolutely clear to her that I have no ulterior motives and I am genuinely affectionate and caring towards her. But I can't imagine what else I can do...I am quite close to letting this go and walking away although I really do like her very much and would like to start a relatinship with her.
Some background about her she as scorpio ascandant and Venus in Scopio. Earlier this year she fell for a guy we knew in common who dumped her in 4 months flat. I don't trust that she is over him and I get the feeling she is trying even now to somehow make it work or something (although I can see no logical rationality to this at all). COuld all this also affect her personality and her actions a lot? In general through my behaviour and gestures I have made it absolutely clear to her that I have no ulterior motives and I am genuinely affectionate and caring towards her. But I can't imagine what else I can do...I am quite close to letting this go and walking away although I really do like her very much and would like to start a relatinship with her.
Oh, yes, actually some of that could be a huge factor. Especially the second part. Something you said about you think she is still trying to be with that other guy. So, her confliction could very well be that she's trying to get over that person...but still also likes you and has a desire to move beyond a bad relationship. These things can be hard as we all know...
Do you know if she still talks to this other guy? Does she mention him to you, like at all?
Do you know if she still talks to this other guy? Does she mention him to you, like at all?
Posted by capbaby
everything your virgo says and does sounds like mine..u poor thing. My exception is that I have known him longer as friends. I dunno..we're older for one and I laid it on the line with him. He had to make the choice to have 2 feet in the door or get out and let me move on. He had to make the choice to meet my needs 1/2 way. He knows the boundaries on his 'abusive' tendencies. He has come so far and the love and respect he has for me now shows...
My biggest advice..u have to be assertive. You can't show every emotion u have. He'll like a strong woman. Go and do your thing and don't be so available..let him chase u some..
Read 50 Shades of Gray..the guy in the book sounds just like my Virgo..with all the abusive skeletons in his past..and its been a long hard road..and i'm betting the woman in the book is a Capricorn like me. LOL
Yes, poor thing sounds about right. lol. My Virguy mentioned very in the very early stages of our 'relationship' that he doesn't do well with ultimatums. He actually takes on a stubborn nature and does the opposite of what you want him to do. I wonder if this bit of information was a ploy to keep me from ever giving him this very ultimatum. *Sigh* Such a very smart, manipulative man he is yet he fascinates me nonetheless.
After your post I immediately purchased and starting reading 50 Shades of Grey.... I am convinced this guy is a Virgo as well! Thanks
Posted by OProserpina
All valid points mentioned above. One thing is for certain about all Virgo's I would say. We loathe liars. So, if we're around, we WANT to be. If it's just a little (there are definitely reasons) if it's a lot (there are definitely other reasons).
And well...if we aren't there at all anymore. It's because we don't want to be.
He's there, so he wants to be, and when he feels safe and secure...you can bet he will be there permanently. He's testing your waters so to speak. Seeing what kind of depths you hold. All Virgo's do this I would say. We also test your values, and though sex for us can be merely just mental with no judgment, sometimes giving it up to soon is like a death wish. Depends on which way he leans. If he's more liberal minded or conservative. We tend to be one way or the other. Our sign doesn't typically have sex without caring at least a "little" bit. Virgo's WANT things to matter. We don't tend to do things to use others. It's not in our make-up. There are exceptions to every rule though.
He told me that he has had many long term relationships in which the woman slept with him on the first date, and the simple fact that he never pressured me to have sex and waited till I was ready should show me he likes me. *shrug* I'd like to believe that he's around because he wants to be and not because of my good lovin'. 😉 He is the definition of elusive and a gorgeous creature easily making him a ladies man. It could be my trust issues from past relationships simply going into overdrive. The fact that he is 8 years older than me also makes me super cautious. Perhaps it is my age getting the best of me and the feeling of being single and unmarried until life is almost over that is really causing this urge... *sigh*
^^^ Hahaha. I've never read 50 Shades, but have read numerous other BDSM books. I think all those types seem very thematically. Virguy, Capri Guy, or Scorp Guy.
The women in those books also seem very Pisces, Cancer, or Virgo too. Hahahahaha. Get you some good lovin' giiiirl!
The women in those books also seem very Pisces, Cancer, or Virgo too. Hahahahaha. Get you some good lovin' giiiirl!
Yeah...it can be tough for Virgals to decompress the headspace at times. We are very cerebral. We're like Jean Grey trying to control her telepathic abilities. We can go from calm to Dark Phoenix in the course of 2 seconds.
wait for it....
wait for it....
BOOM!
We just consumed a star! A Whole Planet!
Yeah...like X-men.
wait for it....
wait for it....
BOOM!
We just consumed a star! A Whole Planet!
Yeah...like X-men.
Posted by piscespassionPosted by OProserpina
He/She is probably sitting at home in their room scared to go outside, socialize, or give call backs because they think they will get hurt. So we just hang out alone. If you think we relish in that fact...you are definitely wrong. Progressive Virgo's WILL get themselves out of it...or develop a substance abuse problem and maybe or maybe not overdose on hatred of themselves.
This is excellent insight because before we had sex or anything she had told me that she has locked herself at home for an entire week with no outside contact. The more I learn about Virgos, LOL the more frightened I get. You guys are a handful to say the least. Good luck Pisces chic, imma pray for you cause the little I do know and have witnessed with a Virgo ...you gonna need it lmao!click to expand
I definitely need it... Thanks! Hope all works out on your end as well. Keep us posted!
Posted by 25thDecan
If it feels like a "power struggle" with a virgo chic then odds are a)her head's cluttered ANYWAY with worry and deadlines and b)you've yet to truly see you're not dealing with a dingbat. Example: cap girl(ugh) sees what she wants, makes a plan, follows it. Bullette: desires something. Determines if attainable and how...then finds paths to it. Then when she DOES act she says nothing..she just does it. Virgal: they aren't like us guys. They analyze like we do then just before they do it, they plan for the unknown...contingencies....then test the hypothesis THEN do it...very very quickly. Think Queen Elizabeth..she cried when she had her cousin executed and yet...she didn't hesitate nor spare. Don't fight with her. Talk to her. You're actually very good at creating a moment cancer...try it...it will work. Fighting...you might not have the weapons to go to war with such a woman. Good luck.
25th Decan, Thanks for the points you made there. Honestly, I have no interest in going to war with her and I absolutely do not want control over her. I want us to share equality. I like her for her powerful mind and this aura of dignity that she has, this is what drew me to her in the first place. I have never hesitated to look her directly in the eye or back down and I think she undertands that I am willing to be scrutinised.
Our biggest problem seems to be honest communication as I burn in anger and move sideways and she freezes like Siberia, nothing happens. She is going through some stuff right now and I think I will give her space but I will also communicate more directly with her. Me and her have many things which are very complementary in our characterestics which could lead us to astounding success and I really want that. But I believe good things come to one who is patient. Thanks for your help.
I think that maybe he's getting scared because you started talking about a commitment and the future.I think maybe he just wants to feel you out and take things slow.On the other hands it seems like maybe after he got sex from you that's all he wanted from you.If he doesn't love/care about you it will start to show.Just give it sometime.
^^^ Yeah, what she said =)
Oh....you wait just a freaking minute Mr Pisces! I'm all about a lady getting her good loving if she wants it. Hell, I do! If she wanted to bone...let her. No judgment there. I don't think giving it up to soon produces the same results in EVERY situation. I've had some that were similar and a lot that weren't. A lot of my quick sex sessions turned into real deal friendships and also relationships. Get your loving girl if you want it.
Just follow your heart. Seriously. If you do that. He'll see you're genuine...probably feel like a great big asshole...and be sweet. I read this in a book once...funny and true.
She says...
"I always get the feeling that all a Virgo really needs is a good TICKLE!!!" Muahhahahaha!
=) Tickle his heart strings...then go down lower...and lower...and well..you know the rest.
Just follow your heart. Seriously. If you do that. He'll see you're genuine...probably feel like a great big asshole...and be sweet. I read this in a book once...funny and true.
She says...
"I always get the feeling that all a Virgo really needs is a good TICKLE!!!" Muahhahahaha!
=) Tickle his heart strings...then go down lower...and lower...and well..you know the rest.
"It's 2012, when you fu*k someone it does not come with a guarantee they are gonna stick around...hence why if we are LOOKING for a comittment we should feel out the other person FIRST and find out if they are on the same page...if you skip that, don't play the blame game or feel *entitled* to make demands. It just doesn't work that way Virgo or not..."
^^^ And that's the fucking truth. Word for word.
^^^ And that's the fucking truth. Word for word.
Define what constitutes as new? 😉
I'm sure the headline will read something like...
OMG DOES HE LOVE ME? OR WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN? DOES HE LOVE ME? DO you think he REALLY loves me? Why is he being an asshole then?
OMG DOES HE LOVE ME? OR WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN? DOES HE LOVE ME? DO you think he REALLY loves me? Why is he being an asshole then?
Posted by piscespassionPosted by Let*It*Be
It's not to late to show this man you have values either. Let him know what having sex with him causes you to do with all of this analyzing to death. Suggest that you want to get to KNOW him and build security of whatever it is you do have outside of sex... Guess what? If there isn't anything outside of sex chaulk it up to a learning experience, kick him to the curb and LEARN from it.
Hmmmm.... So know we "blaming the Victims of Virgos" lol the infamous V.O.V. syndrome.
OK I see how you guys wanna play it.
So we defend his actions by saying oh she shouldn't have gave it up so soon so that's excusing him of all responsibility. The fact that he continues to pursue her for sex is her fault because she "trusted" this seemly "nice Virgo" if there is such a thing lol. Its way too early to "DEMAND" a relationship but its "RIGHT ON TIME for some good ol Pisces P#ssy"....
until HE decides.... weighs all HIS options (screw her options and feelings lets focus on me MIGHTY VIRGO)over analyzes her flaws while completely ignoring his and when he Feels like he has come to a favorable decision for him(screw how it will affect her)He will act! (poor Pisces just be patient and wait! You have no right to challenge the almighty Virgo!)
I am so glad I signed up for VIRGOGAMES101. I actually stayed awake and didn't "escape" to my dream world and learned so much today.click to expand
Oh Piscespassion I officially fuckin love you!
I'm now in the mood to clarify some shit....
First and foremost, I appreciate the insightful advice I have received thus far. However, what I did not ask you Virgos to do was "over-analyze" my value system. There is nothing wrong with my fucking values. Quite frankly, considering this is 2012, I believe they are top-notch. I DID wait until I was ready to have sex, despite the fact the connection was there immediately. I was comfortable with him, we connected and I had some level of trust in him (as much as my wounded heart would allow). I waited 42 fucking days! And yes I counted because I was trying something different than my usual 'just get past the 2nd date routine'. This time around I made it past at 12 dates at the very least. I'm proud dammit! 😉 Our conversations prior to sex led me to believe that we were on the same page, I
I still believe we are... Just because he is ready to settle down and start a family does not believe he is ready to do so with ME. My question was to get some insight on where I stood with him from a Virgo standpoint.
as I stated before, he made an effort to see me damn-near daily in the beginning. And while it has dwindled, we still see each other a considerable amount of time. Our communication to this day is pretty outstanding unless I'm trying to get him to express something emotional about me. So perhaps there is a misunderstanding about our situation because I am unable to clearly explain someone so thoroughly complicated as this Virgo man.
I made a small breakthrough today though... At one point he told me he missed me and later he told me he liked me. No sarcasm, no wit, no clever beating around the bush. Just direct and to the point. This is big shit for him... and I didn't even have to probe it out of him. Maybe it was the space I gave him.... *shrug*
as I stated before, he made an effort to see me damn-near daily in the beginning. And while it has dwindled, we still see each other a considerable amount of time. Our communication to this day is pretty outstanding unless I'm trying to get him to express something emotional about me. So perhaps there is a misunderstanding about our situation because I am unable to clearly explain someone so thoroughly complicated as this Virgo man.
I made a small breakthrough today though... At one point he told me he missed me and later he told me he liked me. No sarcasm, no wit, no clever beating around the bush. Just direct and to the point. This is big shit for him... and I didn't even have to probe it out of him. Maybe it was the space I gave him.... *shrug*
Posted by Let*It*Be
"I was comfortable with him, we connected and I had some level of trust in him (as much as my wounded heart would allow)."
^^that was never questionable..obviously you felt comfortable in his arms and there was a sexual connection...got it.
What your demise was....YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW HIM..now for some women who jump to hump couldn't care less what the end result is...but you happen to have that heart and brain that are severely working overtime because you DO care. Please don't misconstrue some views here, I am really trying to get you to see that you have a GREAT chance with this Virgo, if you relax, kick back and see if he continues to want to get to KNOW you for the long haul, and sees that you have chilled and are willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. 😉
+1.. justride the waves.. it'll come if you are patient.
Hahahaha...smh. 3 months is not a long time at all. Just go with the flow because a man can smell desperation a mile away, & it sounds like you've lost yourself a bit in this FWB situation. Seems like he has you on the back burner until he decides what he wants. Don't fuck him anymore & see if he sticks around.
I love me some Pisces, but definitely been used by one. So...it is possible for Pisces to use people too. Just sayin' =)
Posted by 25thDecan
Yeah...no. I can throw two pisces women up I KNOW well who have tried to manipulate me. The basis of which was..both times: I just want to be friends and see how it goes from there. We can still date as dates go but not any affection.
Yeah...water signs all do this. I'm not even just talking about to me. I have numerous Pisces female friends who've dated Cancers who've done this same exact thing to them. Same with Scorpios...(and boy do they do the friend/not friend game).
Still love em' all though.
After I read all of this this part was embedded in my head the fact she gave it up at 42 days
and then telling us not to analyze her.
hold on, I'm laughing in real life...............
Okay, now that thats over with... I am not saying there is anything wrong with giving it up that fast, to each their own but the Virgo Guys that I know won't take a woman serious who gives it up that fast because they are the old fashioned type and wants the girl who everyone thinks is INNOCENT but really isnt. So basically if you give it up to fast he will assume you do that for everyone and in turn will treat you like that. He may be still trying to see what kind of a girl you are so I suggest like one poster said, to cut off the supply.
Then the part where you say not to analyze it, Unforunately asking a Virgo not to analyze something is like saying "DO NOT BE YOURSELF" its going to happen no matter what.
My advice, dont be clingy because we don't like overly clingy people in my opinion we like an equal medium of niceness and meanness to balance things out, we dont like overly mean people and we dont like overly nice. In better terms, SOMEONE WITH A BACKBONE but not someone who thinks they can run all over us.
For the guy who is dealing with a Virgo girl who just broke up with someone -- chances are she still has feelings and probably needs time to get over him whether its with you by her side or not. If I broke up with the guy I am with right now I can promise I will stay single because it would be POINTLESS to date someone. Not all Virgos are like that some will date other people because as the saying goes the easiest way to get over someone is to find someone else. Just know that if you stick around there being overly clingy and needy will make her leave you alone. It's kinda hard to tell you whether or not you are there for the time being or if you could be the person who makes her forget about him, but she'll show you based on her emotions, we are really bitchy to people who annoy us or we arent interested in. So pay attention 🙂
Thats all I've got.
and then telling us not to analyze her.
hold on, I'm laughing in real life...............
Okay, now that thats over with... I am not saying there is anything wrong with giving it up that fast, to each their own but the Virgo Guys that I know won't take a woman serious who gives it up that fast because they are the old fashioned type and wants the girl who everyone thinks is INNOCENT but really isnt. So basically if you give it up to fast he will assume you do that for everyone and in turn will treat you like that. He may be still trying to see what kind of a girl you are so I suggest like one poster said, to cut off the supply.
Then the part where you say not to analyze it, Unforunately asking a Virgo not to analyze something is like saying "DO NOT BE YOURSELF" its going to happen no matter what.
My advice, dont be clingy because we don't like overly clingy people in my opinion we like an equal medium of niceness and meanness to balance things out, we dont like overly mean people and we dont like overly nice. In better terms, SOMEONE WITH A BACKBONE but not someone who thinks they can run all over us.
For the guy who is dealing with a Virgo girl who just broke up with someone -- chances are she still has feelings and probably needs time to get over him whether its with you by her side or not. If I broke up with the guy I am with right now I can promise I will stay single because it would be POINTLESS to date someone. Not all Virgos are like that some will date other people because as the saying goes the easiest way to get over someone is to find someone else. Just know that if you stick around there being overly clingy and needy will make her leave you alone. It's kinda hard to tell you whether or not you are there for the time being or if you could be the person who makes her forget about him, but she'll show you based on her emotions, we are really bitchy to people who annoy us or we arent interested in. So pay attention 🙂
Thats all I've got.
Posted by 25thDecan
Ok..so many pages added so quick. Same advice, just erase the conservative stuff and engagement stuff. Btw..you think he could be a player....what is your goal(if any) in this relationship or relationships in general? I'm not judging I'm asking. He isn't here to hear your concerns in this "medium"and may suspect them and not know how to reassure you or to even prove to your thinking that he isn't.
I think my goal in any relationship generally speaking is to eventually get married. Isn't that usually the goal for most people or did I misunderstand the question? I think he could be a player because he has so many suitors and when he disappears for a day it leave me to wonder...
GodMadeBeauty
I don't find the humor in my 42 day wait but I'm glad you do. That may be fast to most Virgos but not this guy. He and I had this discussion many times because according to him I passed his "timeframe" and he still hung around. he's used to getting it much faster than that...
Hahaha
Virgo Men = The Virgin
Virgo Women = Well...you know the rest...we(s) like to bone!!
Hahaha
Bring it on over to MaaaaaMaaa!
Virgo Men = The Virgin
Virgo Women = Well...you know the rest...we(s) like to bone!!
Hahaha
Bring it on over to MaaaaaMaaa!
Posted by Let*It*Be
"I was comfortable with him, we connected and I had some level of trust in him (as much as my wounded heart would allow)."
^^that was never questionable..obviously you felt comfortable in his arms and there was a sexual connection...got it.
What your demise was....YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW HIM..now for some women who jump to hump couldn't care less what the end result is...but you happen to have that heart and brain that are severely working overtime because you DO care. Please don't misconstrue some views here, I am really trying to get you to see that you have a GREAT chance with this Virgo, if you relax, kick back and see if he continues to want to get to KNOW you for the long haul, and sees that you have chilled and are willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. 😉
^^^ I think I kinda like you LIB 😉
It really is true. I think most Virgo's don't have the heart to be players. We want that whole gushy mushy. Don't let his actions tell you any different. We're like introverted Cancers really. =)
Maybe the way I said it seemed evil but I am a brutally honest person, I'm not laughing at your pain... or at least I am not trying too. I really hope that he does have your best interest at heart. I hope that 42 days is enough time for him, but it may not be is all I am saying thats why I said the Virguys that I know, not saying ALL of them.
I read a quote on here and I feel its true... "If you arent in the relationship with the person because you see a future with them, then really you are just using them" I choose not to be a user, as I see you don't either.
I just hope that he is seeing a future with you and he isn't just using you. It's called RISK sometimes you just have to take it and see...
I read a quote on here and I feel its true... "If you arent in the relationship with the person because you see a future with them, then really you are just using them" I choose not to be a user, as I see you don't either.
I just hope that he is seeing a future with you and he isn't just using you. It's called RISK sometimes you just have to take it and see...
'How do you guys get off trying to call all the shots and run when things get "too emotional". How is that fair?'
cause that's what they do! (maybe not all..)
BUT... stand your ground, call them out on it(don't cry or yell), then turn and walk away, and they will come running. They will find that quite HOT! LOL..seriously. They don't want a weak woman who won't call them ou on their shit!
Mine is also a Aug Virgo. My virgo fiance wuld never survive a pisces.
cause that's what they do! (maybe not all..)
BUT... stand your ground, call them out on it(don't cry or yell), then turn and walk away, and they will come running. They will find that quite HOT! LOL..seriously. They don't want a weak woman who won't call them ou on their shit!
Mine is also a Aug Virgo. My virgo fiance wuld never survive a pisces.
Posted by piscespassionPosted by OProserpina
I love me some Pisces, but definitely been used by one. So...it is possible for Pisces to use people too. Just sayin' =)
Only a Pisces who is around negative people/influences would ever "USE" someone.
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WUT— When? On August 43rd between Pisces dreamland road & fuckery avenue? Please. The negative "people/influences" must be self induced because MOST fish love to wallow in their own misery. The fish that I've encountered USE people like my sorry ass brother & desperate Diana sister. Now why would I say something like that about my siblings you ask?
Because they're selfish as hell. I love them but I can't stand them. I tried to help my "Pisces" brother out with a situation he was going through, (no details needed) & he took advantage of the situation because I was his "sister" so I should have been more understanding. Understanding? Understand that you're a fucking free-loading, manipulating, liar who only thinks about himself? Yes I "understood" that clearly. Hmph...I bet he learned his lesson fucking with me. He will NEVER attempt it again.
And my sister? Forget about it. I've seen her with "boyfriends", how she uses one for another or just uses them for her own selfish reasons. She's always seeking validation from men. Always gets lost in her relationships with them, so much so that she even pays less attention to her children. So basically she becomes the doormat for them & everything is about that damn man, to the point where she cuts off family members for them. Makes me sick to my stomach about how she can be so stupid. I'm like do you have ANY brains up there— At all? HELLO!!!!!
Again this is the experience I've had with Pisces that just left a sour taste in my mouth. Not everyone has attributes as this but most pisces females that "I" have encountered with were very doormatish, clingy, & desperate. But...there are other fish in the sea so...again everyone isn't this way. Whatevs...I adore my Pisces dad though! See, he's the other fish! 😛
^^^ WOWZA
This just makes me sad. I think they just love so completely that they get immersed in the "waters" of someone else so deeply they forget reality. I would never blame them for it. My mom did it to me when I was at that stage in a girls life where you need a mother. When I was 13, I would have to go knock on the bathroom door (where she was writing songs/getting ready to go out and sing), and she'd be in there for HOURS. I had to do that just to be able to spend time with her. Then when I was 19 I learned so much about my mom that I felt for her. I understood her better. They love in such an innocent selfless way. I could never blame them or discredit that trait.
I think about it now and how my moms life was ruined because of these particular trait, and it KILLS me. I think about my biological father (An Aquarius), and how he completely shattered her. I think I met him in that hospital the day before he died, in hopes that if I met him, he would come and save my mother. Obviously, he died, and that could never happen. I don't even blame him for leaving me, but I wish he hadn't left my mother with nothing.
So something should be said for that Pisces woman trait. Not many women possess that sort of love for other people. So much that they would go without love just to give it.
This just makes me sad. I think they just love so completely that they get immersed in the "waters" of someone else so deeply they forget reality. I would never blame them for it. My mom did it to me when I was at that stage in a girls life where you need a mother. When I was 13, I would have to go knock on the bathroom door (where she was writing songs/getting ready to go out and sing), and she'd be in there for HOURS. I had to do that just to be able to spend time with her. Then when I was 19 I learned so much about my mom that I felt for her. I understood her better. They love in such an innocent selfless way. I could never blame them or discredit that trait.
I think about it now and how my moms life was ruined because of these particular trait, and it KILLS me. I think about my biological father (An Aquarius), and how he completely shattered her. I think I met him in that hospital the day before he died, in hopes that if I met him, he would come and save my mother. Obviously, he died, and that could never happen. I don't even blame him for leaving me, but I wish he hadn't left my mother with nothing.
So something should be said for that Pisces woman trait. Not many women possess that sort of love for other people. So much that they would go without love just to give it.
@ PiscesPassion, Is the whole world covered in MUD? No, There are places where the earth meets the sea and comes together in perfect harmony. So, shut it! Plus, your VIRGAL, will come around. Chill out.
Posted by piscespassion
I was referring to "USE" when dealing with friendship and dating... Family matters... that's a whole other can of worms
Using is using. No matter how you look at it.
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