Vintage Cap still needs help 8-)

Hi there peeps ...

I'm been more of a lurker than talker here, because I'm not exactly a kid (50 is the new 30, tho). But I am impressed with the level of sophistication of emotions and thoughts as well as the astrological basis for this board.

And I need help with my Virgo girlfriend.


Most every minute that we've been together has been fantastic. Great physical affection, great sex, good conversations, easy rapport. The problem: I feel like a part-time boy friend. I'm a busy guy, she's a busy girl, but when I'm in a relationship I make time for the other person. I love the contact, even if it's just a short phone call or a quick lunch. But she doesn't go out of her way to make time for me. She seems content with once-a-week. And as good as the relationship is, I feel like I'm low on her list of priorities, and I don't do well with that. I know, Caps are supposed to be cold and calculating, but I'm not typical. I'm emotional. I'm sensitive to others and have sensitive thoughts. To me a relationship that is held at arm's length is not a relationship.

So what am I to do? I've been told to be patient, and I have been (the relationship is at the six month mark). I've been told the push-pull with a Virgo is a dynamic of the sign. I've been told that he who waits for a Virgo will be rewarded. But if I'm a part-timer now, what does the future hold? I've also been told Virgos, when pressed, will run away.

In simple words: Help!!

Thanks,

Bob

Me:

Capricorn

Rising = Virgo
Venus = Aquarius (cusp of Cap)
Mars = Aquarius
Saturn = Libra
Mercury = Cap

Hi Bob,

I'm a vintage Scorpio and was hoping a few Virgo's could shed some light on your plight since I've recently met a male Virgo who wants to take things slowly. It's been two weeks since he came to dinner and I haven't heard a word from him. At that time he invited me to a party on the July 8th. Don't you think by now he should have called to give me a few of the details? I'm getting a feeling he might not call at all. I just don't get this behavior. I don't have a problem with taking things slow but I think this gives a whole new meaning to "slow".

Thanks guys ...

MsScorpio ... I dated every sign of the Zodiac except Virgo before my girl friend, and I've never met one who is more methodical about her emotional choices. That said, once the emotions are there, they're about as good as it gets. I think your Virgo probably would appreciate you letting him know to pick up the pace. Because what ...

Dyrstr8z said is true. My Virgo prefers I take the lead, and I've come to learn that she will laser focus on whatever is ahead of her. That doesn't mean she isn't interested, it's just the way she is as a Virgo. She does prefer me to initiate. She also likes when I understand her.

Dyr, thanks much. I can see how this can drift for awhile. I just have to be patient and know that all I'm putting into the relationship is worth it, because she says it is and we have a great time when we're together. It's the apart time that seems vexing. She does value her independence, and I suspport that. I jokingly told her this last night: "You know how you say you think of me often? Next time, stop what you're doing, call me and tell me that." She laughed and said "I'm just starting to learn what intimacy is all about."

One thing I can say: I'm way too old to chase or try and change someone's mind about how they feel or how fast they want to go. But this woman is worth an investment in patience I frankly didn't know I had.

Thx

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