Virgo and Social Media

Hi, all! So what's the deal with Virgos and social media? I recently started looking at this guy from my church as someone I want to get to know better. So I invited him (and a group of others) to go out to eat last weekend. Well, since then he's initiated contact on my Instagram EVERY DAY. (I've known him casually for about a year and have never gotten so much attention from him online.) So I was excited to see him at church yesterday because I figured we'd be more friendly than we have been. BUT, once we were there he didn't even say hello! What? I did approach him before he left, but it was a super brief "how are you" conversation. Although he did bring up something I said a while back, which made me think, "Aww, he was paying attention."

Anyway, I was embarrassed. Like maybe I'm reading too much into his online attention. But, I'm a bit particular with who/what I "Like" on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Instagram. Do you think Virgos are likely to use social media to break the ice? Show interest? Or should I just not even pay attention to what he does online and only what he does IRL?

Thanks so much for the tips!

A friend of the Virgo sent me a facebook invite to his birthday party this weekend! I texted him to let him know I was excited to celebrate with them and he said I was probably more excited about the party than he was. hahaha. Also that he's looking forward to seeing me with a few drinks...that he's heard I can get a bit crazy. Virgo wants to get me drunk! lol. I'm playing it safe for sure. 🙂

UPDATE: Oh, my, was his birthday weekend super fun, but confusing.

So I went to the Virgo's dinner with my sister and three mutual friends. It was about 10 people. He sat at the head of the table with this girl next to him, and I immediately thought, "Uh, oh, I have competition." Lol.(You know when you just know.) Anyway, I ended up on the other side of the huge table so didn't talk to him at dinner, but exchanged a couple of funny faces. haha So, the party moved to a bar. Long story short, we flirted a little and cuddled a little, but he did that with everyone. He's such a hugger!! With every shot bought for him, came a huge hug. 🙂 So, here's where the mini drama happened.

I left to the ladies room, and when I came back the girl was snuggled up to him on a couch! Like, their faces were inches away, hands on each other, totally an "almost kiss" moment. I know everyone was drunk, but, still. So, I sat with a friend on the couch next to them. A few minutes later the girl is now sitting by herself and typing on her phone. So glad I didn't have to see them make out! ha. So before the night ended one of his friends told me the Virgo was talking about me and that I should talk to him. I was tipsy, so didn't catch the whole message, lol. But, I was put off by the girl, so just kept it friendly and light. A couple of more hugs, drinks, dances and we all parted ways. (He left with her and a couple of other friends.)

The next day his family threw a surprise party for him, and me and my sister were invited. 🙂 Being a surprise party, three of his friends (guess who?) had to keep him away all day. So I was a bit jealous that the girl spent all day with him, but I know I'm barely getting to know him in an "I'm interested" way, so I have no right to be. So, I texted him to wish him Happy Birthday and he asked how my sister and I were feeling after the night out. I was like, "Aw, sweet, he's worried about us." But then later...he asked, again, if I was ok. haha. I was thinking, "Yes! I'm telling the truth! I'm not hungover!"

Well, the moment his friends brought him into the surprise party, I lost my heart. He started crying, like he was so touched. He told me that he knew something was going on but not the SIZE of the party. He didn't expect so many people to be there. (It was also a going away party, he's studying abroad!!) So, it was awesome. And he texted me in the middle of the party...to ask if I was ok. GEEZ! lol (I loved it.) I kinda felt like he kep

Whoops, post caught off.

I kinda felt like he was keeping his eye? I don't know with him!

So, after I left I texted him, "Goodnight, thanks for having us, wish I had been better company!" And he replied "Just having you here was enough!" I told him I was going to miss him while he's abroad and he said "It's only temporary. After that I'm completely here." So, we're having dinner on Thursday. (Well, me, him and my sister. I'm afraid to ask him out! He should ask me out!) His last text to me was "Can't wait to see you again!"

I'm scared he's going to hurt me. :/ But, I don't want my guard to be up when I'm with him. Any advice? It's the first time we're spending one-on-one time together (well, with my security blanket, AKA sister. haah)

Find a way to be completely alone together. Having your security blanket could be stalling him. I'd feel awkward asking a girl out if her sister was always around...well..I guess depending on the situation. From what I've read, I think he's definitely interested in you.

What if he doesn't ask you out...?

Do you two have similar tastes in music? You could indirectly ask him out to a concert. A girl once did that to me. The night went so good we ended up being a couple. Good luck! 🙂

Thanks for the tips, guys! I'll definitely try the concert move in the future, Zander256! 🙂

Dinner was nice. I told him I had been looking forward to seeing him, and he said he had been looking forward, too. Because he was leaving to study abroad, I felt special to get some alone time in. He said he had a lot of people to see but was feeling greedy. Cute! So we spent all evening together.

Because he's a mutual friend with my sister and I, we had great conversation at the restaurant. I invited him to my house afterward and got to talk to him alone for about an hour. (We stayed outside with the dog. haha. He loved my pet!) I had a blast, but being my usual Aries self, I felt my mind wander a bit while he was talking. I couldn't help it! He's just very softspoken, so he lost me a couple of times. I could tell it peeved him a little. ha. But, despite the softspokenness, the guy has an awesome thought process. He really impressed me with some of the observations he made about life, music, goals. BUT. He did mention the girl from his birthday a couple of times, which made me uncomfortable...I couldn't tell if it was "my friend so-and-so" type of mention or "I'm letting you know there's someone else" subtle mention.

Also, I was worried that he wanted to leave, and was staying because I wanted him to. :/ He wouldn't leave! haha So, we played with my pet a while longer, talked with my sister a bit, and then we said goodbye. No, goodbye kiss, just a friendly hug. Which I guess is ok, since it wasn't really a date. It was more of a "get to know each other" type of deal. Texted on Saturday (I initiated) and saw each other on Sunday at church. He gave me the best hello hug ever! It felt like just a "melt into each other" long hug. He's opened up a lot more, talking about his family, and things about school and work.

But, he left today to Europe. So sad!

Here's the thing. There hasn't been any more social media contact from him. hah. In fact, he has kinda ignored me the last couple of days! Didn't even answer an email. It feels like, if I don't contact him...I don't think he'll contact me. It makes me worried. PLUS, when he was leaving to the airport after church he showed me his music case. He had a picture of his family, a friend, and a photo booth strip of him and the girl from his birthday. Was that his way of telling me we're just friends? Because, when I told him we'd have to get together once he comes home he said "Looking forward to it already!"

So he's fond and affectionate about me, but I think I've been friendzoned, guys. ha.