Virgo bored in a new relationship?

Hey there! Going on 2 months of our relationship with a Virgo and me being a Gemini, I've noticed he is spending less time with me.

We text about 2 weeks before our first date. On our first date we had dinner, went to see a band and had sex. Yes I should have held out. At first he came over about 4 night a week and we stayed up all night. He text me every morning with Good Morning. Had great conversations over the phone since he's not really into texting. He used to say things like "I'm falling for you so bad" and brings me flowers from time to time. He's a real catch.

Now he still calls me every night and sends me a good morning text but doesn't seem to coming over as often. We talk on the phone for usually over an hour if he's not over at my house. We works hard and has some drama in his life from previous relationship/kids however doesn't open up to me. He has also invited me to hang out with him and his kids from time to time but I make excuses not to. I kind of want to avoid the issues. I also don't initially call and text him first.

What do you think is going on? Is it just the honeymoon phase over in the relationship. Should I be worried? What should I do or say?

I meant to say he works hard...not we.

Sorry I have more. He also makes plans for us in the future. Is he just becoming comfortable and lazy in the relationship?

honestly, i think you're over doing it with him. Virgo's need space and to analyze their feelings.

Secondly, since he has kids and you chose not to take him up on his invite to join him with his kids, he might think you don't accept that aspect of him.

I will tell you speaking as a parent. When you have children, no matter how great you may be, kids will always come first. You will have to accept that part of him and either open up your heart and get to know his kids if you want a relationship with this VM or he will see it as you don't care about him enough to spend time with his family.

If you chose the later, he will take it as rejection of his family and will push you away.

He's slowing things down with you. You should initaite more with him don't play mind games with him he's like to talk to you so why wait for him to call all the time?

you sending him red flags for avoiding his kids meet them stio holding back.

And SLOW DOWN its only been two months yes VM are quick but if you go along with that they will slow down so yield!

Great advise guys! I asked him to hang out today and he has his kids so my daughter and I are going over there later today. I guess his still very interested if he wants me over. Right_—?

perfect timing.


good luck 🙂

Posted by xy
Probably thinks you're just in it for the sex since you don't take notice of what's important to him.

Bingo.

He's not bored, he's looking for something serious and is moving on. He's just being nice about it.m There are exceptions, but nobody is going to bring you around their kids unless they want a future. What she misses is the attentiveness but you can't realiy expect him to treat you the same after you've shown him you're not what he's looking for. Just being honest.

Two months is far too early to meet the kids. You should meet them many months after he commits to a serious relationship, not before.

However, some women seem to be dating just for the validation and the free meals. How do you show him that you are not one of them? You can't expect him to put all the effort and take the initiative all the time. There should be a balance between given and take, otherwise one will get exhausted soon.

If he slows down, this is a signal for you to get off your high horse and contribute to the relationship, before it's too late.

A bit late with an opinion, but I think he wants to see how you interact with his kids before he invests anymore effort. Seems to want something serious with you or else you're not going anywhere near his kids.

Don't do the regular gem thing and give him too much space though. They take it as disinterest. They're funny that way. Think of them as cats until committed then they morph into dogs.

P.S. the honeymoon is ovah....reciprocate by initiating. Don't feel that he is so busy that he wouldn't like to hear from you and you could suggest a few things to do as a group that the kids would really enjoy. He'll let you know if it's a possibility. Just go with how you feel, and try to remain as consistent as possible which doesn't mean losing that spontaneity. Please ignore the above if you're already doing these things 🙂

I'm curious what are you doing to reciprocate in this courtship.

From how you told the story, you just lay back and get flowers and phonecalls.

Keep doing this and he'll walk.

Posted by Gemini74

We text about 2 weeks before our first date. On our first date we had dinner, went to see a band and had sex. Yes I should have held out.

Yea..it sucks when important matters such as self respect, and screwing a man after you meet him the first time becomes hindsight 20/20.

What did you learn from that?

Posted by gemeliorist
A bit late with an opinion, but I think he wants to see how you interact with his kids before he invests anymore effort.

Yep....^^^^^^^^^^^^

Posted by Gemini74

.... and had sex. Yes I should have held out.

You say that as a passing thought, as if it's ok to say you did this and shouldn't have, but, not have to actually apply it to yourself.

if you can say it so casually without any meaning ... then it doesn't have any meaning.

You fucked him without any terms, conditions or commitments ... and to admit it was wrong for you has no value, since you already did it.

Live and learn is the only thing you have here ... except I doubt you will learn anything, because you admit that you did the deed without using any judgment.

He's just another dick in the wind, who stopped by because you had an 'available' sign posted.

A dude who can so easily fuck you isn't going to meld with you .. because a woman who so easily puts out isn't going to be trusted.


he only tells you things, and brings up the kids, and other niceties to keep your panties falling off.

You don't want to meet his kids b/c you want to avoid the issues?!! Seeing that you are clearly a Gemini and he is a Virgo did you stop to think that maybe its just not gonna work. Virgos are all about reality and real life. If you can't do that with him how can you have a long-lasting relationship with him? If you really want something out of this relationship then you can't expect everyday to be an adventure with a Virgo man and they open up when they can trust you with their heart.