Virgo boss

I’m a practical Leo (I have a lot of Capricorn in my chart) and my new boss is a Virgo. My experience with Virgo men is limited so I find a lot of his behavior very confusing. I’ve only been working for him just over 2 months. My job is primarily personal and I work out of his home while he works in an office building downtown. He tries to spend time with me outside of the office. He says it’s the only way to get me to stop working. It should be known that I am a workaholic and often spend more than 60 hours a week at the office and I'm extremely devoted to my job. So far he’s taken me to the movies twice and we’ve watched movies at his house as well but never sitting near each other. We’ve gone to dinner twice and he even took me to see one of my favorite comedians along with some of his work associates. Recently, two things have happened. One, with the long hours that I’ve been keeping and with some of my recent apartment issues, he wants to help me move closer to his home to make my life a little easier (it’s currently an hour commute). We actually had an argument about it in which I told him that my personal problems are not his to fix but he somehow convinced me that this is him helping me in the same way that I help him every day. Two, my cat recently had an emergency and I had to rush him to the vet in the middle of the night. My boss and I were texting each other regarding a work issue when it happened. He rushed to my apartment to take me to the emergency vet and stayed with me the entire time. I cried. A lot. I’m a very emotional person but I’m also incredibly sensible about it. I’ve learned to be able to understand and communicate my feelings very openly. During all of this he was very distant and quiet. He gave me no comfort what so ever. He was incredibly helpful when it came time to discuss my cats condition, what the options were and how to handle things moving forward. When it was time to leave as we were getting in the car I turned and gave him a big hug and said thank you. He patted my back for a second and when I went to pull away he held me closer. When we broke the embrace he was smiling at me. We sat in silence until he dropped me off at my apartment.



This is all very unusual behavior for a boss, yes. But it should be noted that my job is very unconventional. I don’t work in a regular office with regular office protocol. But a lot of this behavior is incredibly confusing. I consider myself a very independent person and have handled a lot of difficult situations in my life on my own. I’ve never encountered someone so willing to bend over backwards to help me. It’s usually the other way around.I often find it difficult to accept his help.



Virgo men – any insight on this situation?

He thinks yer hot.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
how does he treat others?

I don't go to his office much so it's hard to say. He did ask me to coordinate a baby shower for one of his office employees as a personal gift. He has a nanny for his daughter and he's been helping guide her to get her car fixed but just giving her contact information and telling her what she should do.

He has come home early a few times when I've told him that I've been working on a big project and then tries to help me. Even though I'm perfectly capable to do it on my own and never asked him to help me.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I don't know. Virgo men love to create pseudo relationships...

That's very interesting!

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by SuperGroverGirl

Posted by SensitiveBlues
how does he treat others?

I don't go to his office much so it's hard to say. He did ask me to coordinate a baby shower for one of his office employees as a personal gift. He has a nanny for his daughter and he's been helping guide her to get her car fixed but just giving her contact information and telling her what she should do.

He has come home early a few times when I've told him that I've been working on a big project and then tries to help me. Even though I'm perfectly capable to do it on my own and never asked him to help me.

I would be careful and not read into things. Virgos love being helpful, but i would also analyze the heck out of him, if you want a serious relationship...dont get caught up emotionally into him until he's proposed and married you


that's just my personal impression of virgos...they love having their little fake relationships...it might be real to them...but in the end you can be left burned...they have their own processes ..its alien to the human race...

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I honestly wasn't reading anything into it until another colleague of his who had come into town mentioned something about my boss's behavior toward me. He knows my boss fairly well and had asked me if there was anything going on between us. Then this whole thing with my cat happened and him wanting me to move closer and I'm not sure what to think anymore!

Posted by HighwayChile
@supergrovergirl If you ask him about all this youll get a lot further. Why this, why that....instead of considering options from females of virgo failed relationship problems.

perhaps he knows its very hard to find good employees that work. so in that case hes more than willing to help. sometimes we have good reason to do what we do and why.

Actually @HighwayChile, I ask him why all the time. He gets very argumentative when I do, although playfully. That's how we got into an argument about my living situation.

Might I ask, what's your Virgo connection?

Your description highlights how much you do for him, above and beyond your duty ..... yet, pose a story on the premise that you can't fathom for the life of you why he would do something nice for you.


Are you autistic, or something?

Posted by P-Angel

Your description highlights how much you do for him, above and beyond your duty ..... yet, pose a story on the premise that you can't fathom for the life of you why he would do something nice for you.


Are you autistic, or something?

To me, having a boss do something nice for me is buying me lunch or giving me a gift card or sending me a modest bouquet of "thank you" flowers. Not taking me out to dinner after work or a late-night movie or hiring a real estate agent (at his expense) to help me find a new apartment or rushing to my side when I have a personal emergency. I've even had bosses buy me tickets to shows I wanted to see but they never went with me. This all seems like a lot and I'm just not sure what to make of it.