Virgo confused by other Virgo...?

Ok so I met this Virgo online (no I dont know his exact birthday so no charts here).
He's snarky, overly cocky, funny, sarcastic and smart. Typical Virgo male.

We chatted about what the other one wanted (I want to date/possible relationship, he just wants to have sex & not be tied down). So we come to the terms of friends. He said he'd cool it on the sex topics because I said most confidently that I would not be having relations unless I was exclusive with someone.

This carries on for a few days, him initiating all contact. I say this because I stopped reaching out because if we're not working towards being together I dont feel like I need to impress you or please you. For what? We're just friends right? I wasnt even the one who brought up relationships etc, I was gong with the flow and he decided to have a panic attack one day and ask what we were doing.

So - how should I play this because he still asks like we are in the "getting to know you" stage and being flirty and sexual. I think he's trying to convince me but you know the stubborn streak of the Virgo - Im not buying/having it. I'll gladly just be his friend and I would gladly have sex with him - if we were exclusive which; he claims he doesnt want. He and I have definitely made a connection and are fond of each other.

He has mentioned that he's had FWB turn sour in the past b/c they grew to attached to him & he's been burned in a long term relationship before.

So Virgals and Virguys. How should I play this?

ugh! going* typo lol.

Posted by trashedbliss
Ok so I met this Virgo online (no I dont know his exact birthday so no charts here).
He's snarky, overly cocky, funny, sarcastic and smart. Typical Virgo male.

We chatted about what the other one wanted (I want to date/possible relationship, he just wants to have sex & not be tied down). So we come to the terms of friends. He said he'd cool it on the sex topics because I said most confidently that I would not be having relations unless I was exclusive with someone.

This carries on for a few days, him initiating all contact. I say this because I stopped reaching out because if we're not working towards being together I dont feel like I need to impress you or please you. For what? We're just friends right? I wasnt even the one who brought up relationships etc, I was gong with the flow and he decided to have a panic attack one day and ask what we were doing.

So - how should I play this because he still asks like we are in the "getting to know you" stage and being flirty and sexual. I think he's trying to convince me but you know the stubborn streak of the Virgo - Im not buying/having it. I'll gladly just be his friend and I would gladly have sex with him - if we were exclusive which; he claims he doesnt want. He and I have definitely made a connection and are fond of each other.

He has mentioned that he's had FWB turn sour in the past b/c they grew to attached to him & he's been burned in a long term relationship before.

So Virgals and Virguys. How should I play this?

I'm confused so he wants to be with you but he say he doesn't huh.

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Posted by trashedbliss
Ok so I met this Virgo online (no I dont know his exact birthday so no charts here).
He's snarky, overly cocky, funny, sarcastic and smart. Typical Virgo male.

We chatted about what the other one wanted (I want to date/possible relationship, he just wants to have sex & not be tied down). So we come to the terms of friends. He said he'd cool it on the sex topics because I said most confidently that I would not be having relations unless I was exclusive with someone.

This carries on for a few days, him initiating all contact. I say this because I stopped reaching out because if we're not working towards being together I dont feel like I need to impress you or please you. For what? We're just friends right? I wasnt even the one who brought up relationships etc, I was gong with the flow and he decided to have a panic attack one day and ask what we were doing.

So - how should I play this because he still asks like we are in the "getting to know you" stage and being flirty and sexual. I think he's trying to convince me but you know the stubborn streak of the Virgo - Im not buying/having it. I'll gladly just be his friend and I would gladly have sex with him - if we were exclusive which; he claims he doesnt want. He and I have definitely made a connection and are fond of each other.

He has mentioned that he's had FWB turn sour in the past b/c they grew to attached to him & he's been burned in a long term relationship before.

So Virgals and Virguys. How should I play this?

I'm confused so he wants to be with you but he say he doesn't huh.

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Exactly - now you see my confusion. I'd gladly date him and see where it goes but he's the one who had a spaz attack and spilled his guts one night.

After that night he decided we should be friends I just shrugged, "ok boss". Now it feels different and the conversation has gone more a route of, "well maybe we can".
So I'm confused. I'm very chill and usually not the stereotypical analytical Virgo but this has got me a bit stumped.

Any advice? Seeing as you're a male youse offer that perspective.

Oh oh! And the sharing and the compliments have increased by like 100x.

He said he wanted to be friends, leave it at that for the moment, the worst thing you could do to yourself right now is start reading too much into the way he says things, etc, just leave him alone, if he really wants you more than friends he will definitely come back around wondering why you're not giving him attention..

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
He said he wanted to be friends, leave it at that for the moment, the worst thing you could do to yourself right now is start reading too much into the way he says things, etc, just leave him alone, if he really wants you more than friends he will definitely come back around wondering why you're not giving him attention..

?? That's the thing??_I don't contact him he contacts me. I have been seeing other guys because I don't know what he wants. He's even said that he doesn't know but then he??ll say these things and offer scenarios that are extremely delicious and tempting but I cant??_I want him to want me exclusively sexually/romantically or strictly platonic. Not both. Ive said this. Which is why I don't reach out to him as much, almost not at all. Its like 10% me and 90% him. I thought he??d get bored by now and stop talking to me since Ive made my stance very clear but he keeps coming back.

Move on already, you've both concluded you are not on the same page, don't even be his friends. I'm sure you have enough friends in your life so one less friend shouldn't hinder you socially. You are not looking for a friend, you want love, a real relationship something he can't provide so why waste time on figuring out a guy that doesn't want the same thing you want.

He's confusing because he doesn't want love, he wants sex but that doesn't mean he won't keep trying to get sex under the guise of friendship so in order for you to remain emotionally stable you must move on to a man that gives you more clarity than confusion.

He'll contact you and continue to do that to save his own ego. His contacting you means nothing if he all he wants to do is get in your panties. Men hardly ever get bored of chasing because it's exhilarating!

Posted by tiki33
Move on already, you've both concluded you are not on the same page, don't even be his friends. I'm sure you have enough friends in your life so one less friend shouldn't hinder you socially. You are not looking for a friend, you want love, a real relationship something he can't provide so why waste time on figuring out a guy that doesn't want the same thing you want.

He's confusing because he doesn't want love, he wants sex but that doesn't mean he won't keep trying to get sex under the guise of friendship so in order for you to remain emotionally stable you must move on to a man that gives you more clarity than confusion.

He'll contact you and continue to do that to save his own ego. His contacting you means nothing if he all he wants to do is get in your panties. Men hardly ever get bored of chasing because it's exhilarating!

Hey thanks for your input! When I get bored from it I will definitely do that. For now its interesting, thus the reason I still communicate. I like dissecting peoples motives and their train of thought. Again thanks!

how should u play it?
Disappear for good. He only wants sex. You want something else. So find someone who is looking for the same and don't waste time.

Posted by trashedbliss
Ok so I met this Virgo online (no I dont know his exact birthday so no charts here).
He's snarky, overly cocky, funny, sarcastic and smart. Typical Virgo male.

We chatted about what the other one wanted (I want to date/possible relationship, he just wants to have sex & not be tied down). So we come to the terms of friends. He said he'd cool it on the sex topics because I said most confidently that I would not be having relations unless I was exclusive with someone.

This carries on for a few days, him initiating all contact. I say this because I stopped reaching out because if we're not working towards being together I dont feel like I need to impress you or please you. For what? We're just friends right? I wasnt even the one who brought up relationships etc, I was gong with the flow and he decided to have a panic attack one day and ask what we were doing.

So - how should I play this because he still asks like we are in the "getting to know you" stage and being flirty and sexual. I think he's trying to convince me but you know the stubborn streak of the Virgo - Im not buying/having it. I'll gladly just be his friend and I would gladly have sex with him - if we were exclusive which; he claims he doesnt want. He and I have definitely made a connection and are fond of each other.

He has mentioned that he's had FWB turn sour in the past b/c they grew to attached to him & he's been burned in a long term relationship before.

So Virgals and Virguys. How should I play this?

I highlighted (bold) the above. He stated what he wants to just have SEX. You want a relationship. Yet by the time I got to the bottom of your post, you still don't understand that he just wants to have sex. If you want to "play" this out as you say, do so with the notion, it's just going to be SEX as not to confuse yourself. There's no question what he wants. Do you not see that?

Virgirls are smart but they rarely listen to others, they rather deceive themselves than listen to anybody.

Posted by trashedbliss

Exactly - now you see my confusion. I'd gladly date him and see where it goes but he's the one who had a spaz attack and spilled his guts one night.

After that night he decided we should be friends I just shrugged, "ok boss". Now it feels different and the conversation has gone more a route of, "well maybe we can".
So I'm confused. I'm very chill and usually not the stereotypical analytical Virgo but this has got me a bit stumped.

Any advice? Seeing as you're a male youse offer that perspective.

Oh oh! And the sharing and the compliments have increased by like 100x.

I don't understand HOW you can be confused. He doesn't want to "date" you he wants to fuck you! He's being very direct about that. The compliments is to get you to comply to his needs, not yours.

"I like dissecting peoples motives and their train of thought."


His M.O. = SEX

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Virgirls are smart but they rarely listen to others, they rather deceive themselves than listen to anybody.

Lol so true

So you're bored then why come here asking about his motives? Instead figure out your own motives and from what I can tell you're wishing he wanted more so you stick around hoping the confusion dissolves and you'll run off into the sunset together, not.

His motive is sex. What part of that don't you understand? You're clinging to the parts that's good and not confusing, you're confusing yourself by doing that.