Virgo guy stopped talking to me at all.Its been almost two weeks now

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I have a Question

I am a leo and he is a virgo LDR

three week back he said something when he was drunk over fone and we had a fight.I end up saying some stuff about him being indecisive and running away from responsibilities kind a guy on massages

Now he would not talk to me no matter how much i tried.I gave gap of few days and then tried but no sucesss.

He would not even say if he is done with me or not.We are added on all social media but he is not talking to me.

He will check my msgs but thats it

Yes in first three weeks at the end of 1st week when i said sorry he did say sorry for his behaviour as well but then he backed out without any further talk.

I dont know if you guys have any trust on reikie but I have a friend who is a reikie master and he is very good since when ever he told me something it does turn out that way..

He told me he is not breaking up with you but he is really angry with you .

I tried to call him today from another number and he picked up and then kept saying he will talk to me on massging as he was out with friends but all i got was one word from him that i was 'Yes" and then i asked him again the same question is he done wtih me or just angry

but he did not reply to it at all.

so my question is

does virgo guys really take long time if they are mad at you or is his way of breaking up with me?
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Posted by TomSawyer
Without knowing wtf is going on between the two of you, what the fight was about and what your relationship looks like, I'll assume this is what's happening:

He's most likely angry+frustrated.

In order to not do anything impulsive, he took a step back till he cools off.

Once he is cooled off, then everything should be back to normal, I guess.




Ok argument thing is it might not seems like a big deal to you since the thing which he said seems misappropriate in my culture.

nevertheless this guy is in the habit of sending a morning msg every day(apart from few days in past when he did not send me for one reason or the other)

after that argument the next morning he just reply to my last nite msg but no morning msg so I asked him whats wrong with him

he replied frustrated that i should not take stuff seriously which he says when he is drunk

i lost my temper as well and told him that he stay drunk 12 hours out of 24(which is not true and i know it) and that instead of leaving me an apology in the morning for his stupid massage last nite he told me not to take stuff serously

so i send him some angry msgs and then later on tried to call him but he did not pick up

next day i left a msg in the morning that his ego is so big he cant admit to his mistake

two days later i send him lots of msgs how he run away from responsiblities and stuff eventully i end up apologizing on massages aswell and tried ot send him some normal routine msg but he did not reply back

on sat two weeks back i send him couple of emotional audio msg n in response he said he is sorry and i asked him sorry for what and two hours later he said for that nite

he is sorry for that nite

nothing else

on sunday he send me a morning msg and i replied as well but he did not bother to check my msg all day long

n on monday he did not send me any msg so i end up sending him msg if he cant take me seriously then he should not contact me

he did not contact me so i send him a msg telling him that by serious i meant he should manage things in better way

i treid to keep in touch in this week with just a morning msg and today i send some jokes aswell and fianlly ends up calling him from another number

you have the boring long version

Now my reikie friend said i messed up things by calling him

and now its gonna take a long time for him to cool down and act normal

My question is How can i make him talk to me

I know once he talk to me he will be fine

we live 6 hours drive away

what should i do

three long stressful week and nothing so far

at nite i left him a msg how he is hurting me with his silent treatment and also send him a song he checked those msgs but did not reply

What i do

he is simply refusing to talk to me or comminucate with me in any form
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Oh about what sort of relationship is this

well we are not committed to each other other than being exclusive lol

its a long distance relantionship where we met couple of times so far

and its still standing at a point

one thing he is not over his ex whom broke up with him two years ago.He loves his life style which compose of spending most of his time with his mates
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Posted by TomSawyer
Posted by Fadnav
Posted by TomSawyer
Without knowing wtf is going on between the two of you, what the fight was about and what your relationship looks like, I'll assume this is what's happening:

He's most likely angry+frustrated.

In order to not do anything impulsive, he took a step back till he cools off.

Once he is cooled off, then everything should be back to normal, I guess.




Ok argument thing is it might not seems like a big deal to you since the thing which he said seems misappropriate in my culture.

nevertheless this guy is in the habit of sending a morning msg every day(apart from few days in past when he did not send me for one reason or the other)

after that argument the next morning he just reply to my last nite msg but no morning msg so I asked him whats wrong with him

he replied frustrated that i should not take stuff seriously which he says when he is drunk

i lost my temper as well and told him that he stay drunk 12 hours out of 24(which is not true and i know it) and that instead of leaving me an apology in the morning for his stupid massage last nite he told me not to take stuff serously

so i send him some angry msgs and then later on tried to call him but he did not pick up

next day i left a msg in the morning that his ego is so big he cant admit to his mistake

two days later i send him lots of msgs how he run away from responsiblities and stuff eventully i end up apologizing on massages aswell and tried ot send him some normal routine msg but he did not reply back

on sat two weeks back i send him couple of emotional audio msg n in response he said he is sorry and i asked him sorry for what and two hours later he said for that nite

he is sorry for that nite

nothing else

on sunday he send me a morning msg and i replied as well but he did not bother to check my msg all day long

n on monday he did not send me any msg so i end up sending him msg if he cant take me seriously then he should not contact me

he did not contact me so i send him a msg telling him that by serious i meant he should manage things in better way

i treid to keep in touch in this week with just a morning msg and today i send some jokes aswell and fianlly ends up calling him from another number

you have the boring long version

Now my reikie friend said i messed up things by calling him

and now its gonna take a long time for him to cool down and act normal

My question is How can i make him talk to me

I know once he talk to me he will be fine

we live 6 hours drive away

what should i do

three long stressful week and nothing so far

at nite i left him a msg how he is hurting me with his silent treatment and also send him a song he checked those msgs but did not reply

What i do

he is simply refusing to talk to me or comminucate with me in any form
Okay then.

I'll be as honest as I can, knowing you most likely won't listen to anything and will fight me on it.

#1) You seem impulsive as fuck.

Not only are you impulsive, you are entitled and egoistical.

By what you wrote, you basically "own him".

This is not a good trait to have if you want to have anything to do with men long term.

It's cute for a while but it gets old QUICK.

#2) You're most likely younger, I'd say 22 or something.

You can't Make a guy do anything.

If you constantly try to make people do something, they will tell you to go fuck yourself.

Worst case scenario they'll hurt you bad just to teach you a lesson.

Which instead of learning from it, you'll think "Why is this happening to meeeeeee——??"



#3 You're showing your colors even before you're officially together.

here's the math in his head : 1 girl + 1 impulse + me me me = Fuck this(Maybe not now, trust me it will happen).

Look in the mirror and think: "Would I date a person like myself?"



#5) Men want women that can calm their nerves.

Not bitchy girls acting like guys



This is reality.

It's your call whether you want to take your head out of your ass or leave it there and always wonder why you can't keep a single man that won't give you a black eye and tell you to shut the fuck up.

I won't tell you what to do since you won't listen to me anyways.



Good luck.
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+1

I agree with this.

@OP I've got a Virgo son and I see the way he deals with girls and drama. He doesn't. He can deal with an occasional emotional outburst from a girl as long as she can keep her cool and express her feelings calmly 95% of the time. If a girl gets too emotional and tries to own him he may play with her for awhile but she has already lost his interest.

Your best bet here is to let it go for the time being. Quit apologizing, quit demanding his time and attention and let him come to you. He'll probably show back up in a month or two when he realizes you've stopped trying and then only to see if he's still on your mind. That being said, even if he does show back up and you manage to keep your cool and move things forward it is going to be a very long, arduous process to get him to trust you again. He's always going to be waiting for that other shoe to drop. You'd have better luck with a man who likes their women possessive and crazy, trust me they are out there.

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Posted by TomSawyer
Posted by Fadnav
Posted by TomSawyer
Without knowing wtf is going on between the two of you, what the fight was about and what your relationship looks like, I'll assume this is what's happening:

He's most likely angry+frustrated.

In order to not do anything impulsive, he took a step back till he cools off.

Once he is cooled off, then everything should be back to normal, I guess.




Ok argument thing is it might not seems like a big deal to you since the thing which he said seems misappropriate in my culture.

nevertheless this guy is in the habit of sending a morning msg every day(apart from few days in past when he did not send me for one reason or the other)

after that argument the next morning he just reply to my last nite msg but no morning msg so I asked him whats wrong with him

he replied frustrated that i should not take stuff seriously which he says when he is drunk

i lost my temper as well and told him that he stay drunk 12 hours out of 24(which is not true and i know it) and that instead of leaving me an apology in the morning for his stupid massage last nite he told me not to take stuff serously

so i send him some angry msgs and then later on tried to call him but he did not pick up

next day i left a msg in the morning that his ego is so big he cant admit to his mistake

two days later i send him lots of msgs how he run away from responsiblities and stuff eventully i end up apologizing on massages aswell and tried ot send him some normal routine msg but he did not reply back

on sat two weeks back i send him couple of emotional audio msg n in response he said he is sorry and i asked him sorry for what and two hours later he said for that nite

he is sorry for that nite

nothing else

on sunday he send me a morning msg and i replied as well but he did not bother to check my msg all day long

n on monday he did not send me any msg so i end up sending him msg if he cant take me seriously then he should not contact me

he did not contact me so i send him a msg telling him that by serious i meant he should manage things in better way

i treid to keep in touch in this week with just a morning msg and today i send some jokes aswell and fianlly ends up calling him from another number

you have the boring long version

Now my reikie friend said i messed up things by calling him

and now its gonna take a long time for him to cool down and act normal

My question is How can i make him talk to me

I know once he talk to me he will be fine

we live 6 hours drive away

what should i do

three long stressful week and nothing so far

at nite i left him a msg how he is hurting me with his silent treatment and also send him a song he checked those msgs but did not reply

What i do

he is simply refusing to talk to me or comminucate with me in any form
Okay then.

I'll be as honest as I can, knowing you most likely won't listen to anything and will fight me on it.

#1) You seem impulsive as fuck.

Not only are you impulsive, you are entitled and egoistical.

By what you wrote, you basically "own him".

This is not a good trait to have if you want to have anything to do with men long term.

It's cute for a while but it gets old QUICK.

#2) You're most likely younger, I'd say 22 or something.

You can't Make a guy do anything.

If you constantly try to make people do something, they will tell you to go fuck yourself.

Worst case scenario they'll hurt you bad just to teach you a lesson.

Which instead of learning from it, you'll think "Why is this happening to meeeeeee——??"



#3 You're showing your colors even before you're officially together.

here's the math in his head : 1 girl + 1 impulse + me me me = Fuck this(Maybe not now, trust me it will happen).

Look in the mirror and think: "Would I date a person like myself?"



#5) Men want women that can calm their nerves.

Not bitchy girls acting like guys



This is reality.

It's your call whether you want to take your head out of your ass or leave it there and always wonder why you can't keep a single man that won't give you a black eye and tell you to shut the fuck up.

I won't tell you what to do since you won't listen to me anyways.



Good luck.
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hmm

Where to start

younger hell no

add a decade to that number and you still gonna come short of my age

Yes i am short temper but i never was short temper with him in the past.Yes i do realised the stuff i said in my angar was touchy for him.

He is a decent man but samehow this decent man when we both said our sorry and later he again went quiet after my asking him to take me seriously went on tinder and change his pic and now is active on it

So my dear tell me who's the cold one here

If its a breakup then why don't he like a grown up(he is 37) decent man and tell me simply that we cant go along instead of refusing to talk to me at all.

All it will take is one single msg

but No apparently its just angar on his part and no matter what i have said so for apologized or what ever I am unable to get any response out of it.

Yes I want it to get back on track

but

I don't know how

if we been living near by it would had be easier but we don't

So he has his life going perfectly well he has just cut me out.

Today I asked a friend to call him on my behalf and talk to him but she instead of calling him left him a msg on whats app and he never replied to her aswell

So where is decency in it.Where is manner in it.Where is being nice to others in it.

and he is a guy who actually is loving and caring to all his friends and family and they all love and adore him.

I been trying all my patient to keep things on calm grounds and it was that way but one time criticism and he is cutting me off.

I did in the past get angry at him but that was for my own reason and he did respond in a day or two but this time since i pointed figure at him(btw he himself is the one who kept telling me how he cant decide and how alcoholic he is and how he find escape in drinking ) and when i said the exact same thing somehow i hurt his pride

So I am the one in pain and suffering and alone

and he is the one Fine and not giving a dam about me.

So instead of being total nasty in your remarks Give some workable advice

not just criticism

Thanks

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Posted by Fadnav
I have a Question

I am a leo and he is a virgo LDR

three week back he said something when he was drunk over fone and we had a fight.I end up saying some stuff about him being indecisive and running away from responsibilities kind a guy on massages

Now he would not talk to me no matter how much i tried.I gave gap of few days and then tried but no sucesss.

He would not even say if he is done with me or not.We are added on all social media but he is not talking to me.

He will check my msgs but thats it

Yes in first three weeks at the end of 1st week when i said sorry he did say sorry for his behaviour as well but then he backed out without any further talk.

I dont know if you guys have any trust on reikie but I have a friend who is a reikie master and he is very good since when ever he told me something it does turn out that way..

He told me he is not breaking up with you but he is really angry with you .

I tried to call him today from another number and he picked up and then kept saying he will talk to me on massging as he was out with friends but all i got was one word from him that i was 'Yes" and then i asked him again the same question is he done wtih me or just angry

but he did not reply to it at all.

so my question is

does virgo guys really take long time if they are mad at you or is his way of breaking up with me?
Give him time. If he was done with you, he would've told you so. If he's over here leaving you on read, he's just angry with you and needs time to let things smooth out on its own. You're being super aggressive and pushy and Virgos will not react to that the way you want them to. They will take the time that they need to take to come back, given you let them have their space to process everything that's happened and to get over it. If you're over here contacting him over and over again without much response from them, him won't take that well. Let him breathe.
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I am giving him time but him being active on tinder the day he last time send me morning msg and next day nothing

How am i suppose to take it easy.I dont wanna break up with him but I dont know what he heck is reality

Is he just enjoying the fact that I am all frustated and trying to make him talk

and if its just anger then why he is talking to other girls

Who does that

I asked him he need space just let me know and i wait or if he is done with me even then let me know and i stop bothering him and he has his life and i have mine

but he would not respond to anything at all

(((
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Posted by Fadnav
Posted by TomSawyer
Posted by Fadnav
Posted by TomSawyer
Without knowing wtf is going on between the two of you, what the fight was about and what your relationship looks like, I'll assume this is what's happening:

He's most likely angry+frustrated.

In order to not do anything impulsive, he took a step back till he cools off.

Once he is cooled off, then everything should be back to normal, I guess.




Ok argument thing is it might not seems like a big deal to you since the thing which he said seems misappropriate in my culture.

nevertheless this guy is in the habit of sending a morning msg every day(apart from few days in past when he did not send me for one reason or the other)

after that argument the next morning he just reply to my last nite msg but no morning msg so I asked him whats wrong with him

he replied frustrated that i should not take stuff seriously which he says when he is drunk

i lost my temper as well and told him that he stay drunk 12 hours out of 24(which is not true and i know it) and that instead of leaving me an apology in the morning for his stupid massage last nite he told me not to take stuff serously

so i send him some angry msgs and then later on tried to call him but he did not pick up

next day i left a msg in the morning that his ego is so big he cant admit to his mistake

two days later i send him lots of msgs how he run away from responsiblities and stuff eventully i end up apologizing on massages aswell and tried ot send him some normal routine msg but he did not reply back

on sat two weeks back i send him couple of emotional audio msg n in response he said he is sorry and i asked him sorry for what and two hours later he said for that nite

he is sorry for that nite

nothing else

on sunday he send me a morning msg and i replied as well but he did not bother to check my msg all day long

n on monday he did not send me any msg so i end up sending him msg if he cant take me seriously then he should not contact me

he did not contact me so i send him a msg telling him that by serious i meant he should manage things in better way

i treid to keep in touch in this week with just a morning msg and today i send some jokes aswell and fianlly ends up calling him from another number

you have the boring long version

Now my reikie friend said i messed up things by calling him

and now its gonna take a long time for him to cool down and act normal

My question is How can i make him talk to me

I know once he talk to me he will be fine

we live 6 hours drive away

what should i do

three long stressful week and nothing so far

at nite i left him a msg how he is hurting me with his silent treatment and also send him a song he checked those msgs but did not reply

What i do

he is simply refusing to talk to me or comminucate with me in any form
Okay then.

I'll be as honest as I can, knowing you most likely won't listen to anything and will fight me on it.

#1) You seem impulsive as fuck.

Not only are you impulsive, you are entitled and egoistical.

By what you wrote, you basically "own him".

This is not a good trait to have if you want to have anything to do with men long term.

It's cute for a while but it gets old QUICK.

#2) You're most likely younger, I'd say 22 or something.

You can't Make a guy do anything.

If you constantly try to make people do something, they will tell you to go fuck yourself.

Worst case scenario they'll hurt you bad just to teach you a lesson.

Which instead of learning from it, you'll think "Why is this happening to meeeeeee——??"



#3 You're showing your colors even before you're officially together.

here's the math in his head : 1 girl + 1 impulse + me me me = Fuck this(Maybe not now, trust me it will happen).

Look in the mirror and think: "Would I date a person like myself?"



#5) Men want women that can calm their nerves.

Not bitchy girls acting like guys



This is reality.

It's your call whether you want to take your head out of your ass or leave it there and always wonder why you can't keep a single man that won't give you a black eye and tell you to shut the fuck up.

I won't tell you what to do since you won't listen to me anyways.



Good luck.
hmm

Where to start

younger hell no

add a decade to that number and you still gonna come short of my age

Yes i am short temper but i never was short temper with him in the past.Yes i do realised the stuff i said in my angar was touchy for him.

He is a decent man but samehow this decent man when we both said our sorry and later he again went quiet after my asking him to take me seriously went on tinder and change his pic and now is active on it

So my dear tell me who's the cold one here

If its a breakup then why don't he like a grown up(he is 37) decent man and tell me simply that we cant go along instead of refusing to talk to me at all.

All it will take is one single msg

but No apparently its just angar on his part and no matter what i have said so for apologized or what ever I am unable to get any response out of it.

Yes I want it to get back on track

but

I don't know how

if we been living near by it would had be easier but we don't

So he has his life going perfectly well he has just cut me out.

Today I asked a friend to call him on my behalf and talk to him but she instead of calling him left him a msg on whats app and he never replied to her aswell

So where is decency in it.Where is manner in it.Where is being nice to others in it.

and he is a guy who actually is loving and caring to all his friends and family and they all love and adore him.

I been trying all my patient to keep things on calm grounds and it was that way but one time criticism and he is cutting me off.

I did in the past get angry at him but that was for my own reason and he did respond in a day or two but this time since i pointed figure at him(btw he himself is the one who kept telling me how he cant decide and how alcoholic he is and how he find escape in drinking ) and when i said the exact same thing somehow i hurt his pride

So I am the one in pain and suffering and alone

and he is the one Fine and not giving a dam about me.

So instead of being total nasty in your remarks Give some workable advice

not just criticism

Thanks



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I used to act like that, then my capricorn put me in line.

I would be listening to TomS giving you advice because he is right. Men dont want girls that act like that, you are very impulsive, i know its hard as a leo not to be but you have to calm down. Not everyone can handle your intensity and as the SUN you come off as very me me me.

You need to take step back and let him come to you. If he doesn't respond dont take that as a challenge, take it as he DOES NOT WANT TO BE BOTHERED. I think he is being nice to you by ignoring you, my cap would of cussed me out by now so i think the virgo isn't trying to hurt your feelings, get a clue.

Hes on tinder because hes a hoe-bag, he doesn't want to take you serious
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No when you ignore some one you are not being nice you are insluting them this way

I clear cut ask him if he is done with me he should let me know so I stop bothering him but No response

nothing na..da
Dont you think thats a message in itself?

Look my fellow lioness, take your pride back and run, i know you can do it. If a guy was really interested he would work with you like my cap did, if not then thats ok he has other options anyways, why do you want to be with someone whos hoeing around?

Hes going to think you are desperate and you dont want that do you? hell no, runnn
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Oh my dear I'm 24 and I'm in LDR dealing with Virgo man as well (he's 32). I'm a Capricorn so I'm an Earth sign like him and if you were doing what you're doing right now to me and I'm a woman I'd ignore you as well because I absolutely freaking hate drama. Also generally men hate drama, they hate needy behavior (sorry to break it you, but you're needy as fuck!) and they don't want to be needed. They want to be desired, appreciated and wanted. There is a big difference. You sound like you are afraid of losing him and also very controlling.Virgo men needs space if they're stressed or if they feel under pressure doesn't matter if that pressure is you or something else. So by pushing him and sending him a lot of messages you're just pushing him further away and who knows if he'll come back at this point. You need to chill, don't act out on your impulses and truly think about the issues in your relationship. Don't nag him or tell him you should do that or this. Don't tell him what he's constantly doing wrong. Just tell him simply how you feel and make sure you gave it some time and thought before you do. And give him some space to make his mind, to miss you as well. Also think about yourself and how you feel in this relationship... You can't control him or make him do anything he doesn't want to do. If he'll keep ignoring you and your needs you should leave. Because otherwise you're just gonna hurt yourself. Know your value!
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Well one thing is for sure

It does not matter what all the earth sign have to say

but atlest fire sign dont play mind games

90% of the post on this forum regarding virgo or earth signs are about girls who are banging their heads against the wall as earth sign cant decide and take time and then because of their own internal struggle ends up hurting the people who love them in one way or the other..

Before bashing like this ..If someone had hurt me and i wanted to end up with them trust me i don't make ppl go through like this

So yes i do follow certain rules which include no cheating and being upfront and clear.

Its from the guy who told me himself that we both are exclusive so without saying it straight to my face that he is done he went on tinder and get active

I dont care if you agree with me but no matter how you feel or someone hurt you please give them clear answer and show some respect being upfront

you are done with someone dont put them through the ringer just simply tell them "I am done we cant go along"

I had relationship in the past with water signs and I never had to face it.

When things ended both knew that its over

I am even friends with my ex because we ended for a reason and I still respect him.

So just having manner where it matters and then refusing to even utter a single word so you can punish someone ..trust me its not a very cool thing to be proud of

We both are not teens we are mature enough to end things on better terms.

He could had blocked me or delete me from all his social media but guess what both of us are still connected every where .

I cant tell you what he siad when he was drunk and trust me he knows he said something wrong and he was emberresd but he took that on me

Its easier for him to go away like this rather than face me or the situation. I am not even looking for fight.

I just hope he be more upfront thats all

BTW i did not bomber him every day with msging those msgs i told you about happened three weeks back and for two days

later on i just kept up with morning msg or good nite or twice left a msg asking him to clear me out if its not a fight and he is done then he should say it good for both of us

He is mad at me and still is that much I know.

Anyways I guess either i am not good at explaining or its easier to bash ppl online

or I guess we look for answers in forums when we know things are not perfect and look for hope

why else would anyone would bother to come online and cry their heart out