Virgo man confuses me

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Hey everyone.....I really would like some advice in regards to this Virgo man's interest in me. He sends me such mixed signals that I don't really know which way to go. We were just friends about 20 or so years ago, we have reconnected and have a casual relationship that I am hoping will lead into more (of course you know that is what all Leos want...more, more ,more...lol) Anyway we see each other about once a week, he works quite a bit and my work schedule has its hectic moments as well. Anyway when we are together he is so affectionate, complimentary, and very engaging. When we are apart there is little to no communication, and if it there is I generally am the one to initiate it, if he does he will send me a link to a song......no necessarily a song in regards to us or feelings, but a song because we both have a passion for music. He also leaves me at his house when he goes to work in the morning and just tells me to lock the door whenever I leave. He told me he has added me to this special calling plan he has for his cellular service so we can talk as much as possible, however he never calls me. I being the narcissistic Leo that I can be like to think these things indicate a formation of something special, but I am a realist and I think this non communication thing is a true indicator of his feelings. I know Virgos like space, so I try to back off, because again you know Leos require attention....(yes I know my faults)....but I also don't want to ignore him, as I have understood that Virgos like to know that they are wanted. Please, please someone provide me with some type of insight.......preferably a Virgo man...........I thank anyone who takes the time to respond .......
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Let me throw this out there...... hints

He tells you he put you on a calling plan so you guys could talk as much as possible. 《--- Virgo says bother me



While Virgos like their space you don't need to accommodate that by backing off and giving them space.they get that done all by themselves.

you can bug all you want. BUT be aware that when their downtime comes you don't indulge in self pity (why hasn't he called me, replied back..)

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I'm married to a Virgo and your posts reminds me of when we met decades ago.

I repeated myself a lot here but...

The day I met my husband, 4th of July 1994, we spent that same week together. He would not take me home. I thought he was trying to get enough so, he could leave me alone... some kind of long one night stand.

When he did finally take me home, he didn't call for a week. And, I was like "Dear diary, I had my first one night stand..."

So, he calls. When I ask, he says he felt guilty for keeping me for so long. He did want to interfere with my classes so, he waited for the weekend. My husband hardly ever called me. Even to thus day, we rarely talk on the phone.... neither one of us likes the phone. I was just used to adapting to other people's ideas and learned behavior. He would just show up at my door. He rarely spoke. We just watched TV, drove around, beach, dinner, etc. We both loved music so much it was always playing so not much conversation. But, when he did speak, it was heavy one liners. "I want us to get married." "I want a son." "Are you pregnant yet." "I love you."

I'm an Aries and my husband quiet, forceful, mysterious ways kept me engaged and continuously surprised. He would purposefully take his time revealing himself to me but, remain steadfast and reliable.

Enjoy the suspense!

No, he's so talkative at times, I zone out.
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Posted by magma
Actions speak louder than words, especially with Virgo. And yes, we like to know that we are wanted, just like everyone else.

The parity of reciprocation in any relationship, involving Virgos or not, is important. People make time and effort for what's truly important to them. Ease back to something closer to his frequency of initiating and you'll see the reality of the situation start getting more obvious.



This sounds great....can you please expound on something closer to his frequency?...an example of something. Thank you ..🙂








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Posted by Weeds
Let me throw this out there...... hints

He tells you he put you on a calling plan so you guys could talk as much as possible. 《--- Virgo says bother me



While Virgos like their space you don't need to accommodate that by backing off and giving them space.they get that done all by themselves.

you can bug all you want. BUT be aware that when their downtime comes you don't indulge in self pity (why hasn't he called me, replied back..)



Wow...I never thought of it like that. But it makes perfect sense. So as I am trying to hard not to be the "clingy, look at me" Leo and give him all this space, in actuality he is telling me it's okay to reach out and call him..

...and yeah, you already know with a Leo....what do you mean you don't see my greatness?....Let me go pout and throw a temper tantrum .....lol....Thanks for this ......I promise I won't go overboard, but I will call him.....🙂
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Posted by VenusAquarius
I'm married to a Virgo and your posts reminds me of when we met decades ago.

I repeated myself a lot here but...

The day I met my husband, 4th of July 1994, we spent that same week together. He would not take me home. I thought he was trying to get enough so, he could leave me alone... some kind of long one night stand.

When he did finally take me home, he didn't call for a week. And, I was like "Dear diary, I had my first one night stand..."

So, he calls. When I ask, he says he felt guilty for keeping me for so long. He did want to interfere with my classes so, he waited for the weekend. My husband hardly ever called me. Even to thus day, we rarely talk on the phone.... neither one of us likes the phone. I was just used to adapting to other people's ideas and learned behavior. He would just show up at my door. He rarely spoke. We just watched TV, drove around, beach, dinner, etc. We both loved music so much it was always playing so not much conversation. But, when he did speak, it was heavy one liners. "I want us to get married." "I want a son." "Are you pregnant yet." "I love you."

I'm an Aries and my husband quiet, forceful, mysterious ways kept me engaged and continuously surprised. He would purposefully take his time revealing himself to me but, remain steadfast and reliable.

Enjoy the suspense!

No, he's so talkative at times, I zone out.

Yes.....he doesn't do that much talking, and I admire that about him, because I probably do enough of the talking for the both of us.

I also think I make him self conscious and nervous.....thank you for your feedback it gives me something to think about and figure this out. Thank you for responding...🙂
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I am seeing a a man that's very similar to yours except he's not a Virgo. In person things are amazing. When we are not together, the communication is a lot less and lacking depth. He also doesn't share how he feels!

I totally get why you're confused! He likes you! But does he really want a serious relationship with you?

So here are some things I did that had a positive effect... I texted him more and now he talks more. I make him feel good by complimenting him often, gave a massage, and I bought him a gift. I always dress to impress. Im independent; I have fun without him.

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Phone calls. You said he never calls. I said that people make time and effort for what's truly important to them. When it is clearly his turn to call or initiate in other ways, AKA reciprocate, don't take up the slack and keep doing all of the maintenance.

IMO, this is the number one mistake people have made with Virgo males, and males in general. Doing this either turns them into spoiled brats or masks the fact that they were never all that into you, you just made it too easy to not go along. The giver becomes inevitably depleted and then the problems begin.

And we all know that Leos can rip your lips and eyelids off with one swipe, and I wouldn't want to see a Virgo go through that!



LOL @the one swipe comment....yeah we can be vicious........

Okay I get it....so quit being impulsive and being the one initiating all contact.....I just did it mainly because I know for a leo it is easy, whereas a virgo Is not that comfortable doing it........but then again that is making excuses and making it too easy for him............thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!















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Posted by BlizzardofCleve

1. in regards to this Virgo man's interest in me.

2. He sends me such mixed signals that I don't really know which way to go.

3. we see each other about once a week

4. there is little to no communication, and if it there is I generally am the one to initiate it

5. He also leaves me at his house when he goes to work in the morning and just tells me to lock the door whenever I leave.

6. he never calls me.

7. I know Virgos like space, so I try to back off

8. but I also don't want to ignore him, as I have understood that Virgos like to know that they are wanted.




1 + 2 = 3 .... you don't know where you stand, according to 1 and 2 .. but, you go fuck him once a week anyway.

4. why should he communicate with you? he gets the ass he wants on the regular .. see #5

7. what a joke !!! backing off from what, exactly? the only time you spend together is once a week to fuck. But, you go ahead and pretend that him not caring to call you is because you have decided to back away.

lol



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Anyway when we are together he is so affectionate, complimentary, and very engaging

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Well of course he is, since you only see him once a week to fuck ... if he wants your ass in the air, then he knows he has to stroke your ego.

and it works like a charm, according to what you've written here.

Basically, you have described yourself and his interaction with you as being a fuck buddy ... but, this flies right over your head. You must think that the way to a man's heart is by sucking his dick once a week.

lol
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Posted by BlizzardofCleve

1. in regards to this Virgo man's interest in me.

2. He sends me such mixed signals that I don't really know which way to go.

3. we see each other about once a week

4. there is little to no communication, and if it there is I generally am the one to initiate it

5. He also leaves me at his house when he goes to work in the morning and just tells me to lock the door whenever I leave.

6. he never calls me.

7. I know Virgos like space, so I try to back off

8. but I also don't want to ignore him, as I have understood that Virgos like to know that they are wanted.




1 + 2 = 3 .... you don't know where you stand, according to 1 and 2 .. but, you go fuck him once a week anyway.

4. why should he communicate with you? he gets the ass he wants on the regular .. see #5

7. what a joke !!! backing off from what, exactly? the only time you spend together is once a week to fuck. But, you go ahead and pretend that him not caring to call you is because you have decided to back away.

lol



Posted by BlizzardofCleve

Anyway when we are together he is so affectionate, complimentary, and very engaging




Well of course he is, since you only see him once a week to fuck ... if he wants your ass in the air, then he knows he has to stroke your ego.

and it works like a charm, according to what you've written here.

Basically, you have described yourself and his interaction with you as being a fuck buddy ... but, this flies right over your head. You must think that the way to a man's heart is by sucking his dick once a week.

lol

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You know I have been reading posts on various messageboards on this site for forever and I have always seen your comments. I see how others could get offended by your words/abrasiveness however I think it is your character so it doesn't bother me.

This is my first post on this site, and I am kind of honored that you saw it fitting to come on here and chastise me or basically set me straight. However I was married for 9 years....was in a relationship with a Pisces on and off for the last ten, so realistically I would be okay with a "treetrunk" situation at this point.......what I basically was asking was what signal is he sending so I know how to react.......He is a very private person and I don't think he leaves people in his house doing lord knows whatever (rambling, spying, etc).....so that along with some other things led me to think that although we had an agreement up front (which I didn't mention in my initial post/topic) that we would just keep it simple.......he is the one holding on when I have my leo moments.....he is the one adding me to specific plans.......etc..etc...
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Posted by BlizzardofCleve

1. in regards to this Virgo man's interest in me.

2. He sends me such mixed signals that I don't really know which way to go.

3. we see each other about once a week

4. there is little to no communication, and if it there is I generally am the one to initiate it

5. He also leaves me at his house when he goes to work in the morning and just tells me to lock the door whenever I leave.

6. he never calls me.

7. I know Virgos like space, so I try to back off

8. but I also don't want to ignore him, as I have understood that Virgos like to know that they are wanted.




1 + 2 = 3 .... you don't know where you stand, according to 1 and 2 .. but, you go fuck him once a week anyway.

4. why should he communicate with you? he gets the ass he wants on the regular .. see #5

7. what a joke !!! backing off from what, exactly? the only time you spend together is once a week to fuck. But, you go ahead and pretend that him not caring to call you is because you have decided to back away.

lol



Posted by BlizzardofCleve

Anyway when we are together he is so affectionate, complimentary, and very engaging




Well of course he is, since you only see him once a week to fuck ... if he wants your ass in the air, then he knows he has to stroke your ego.

and it works like a charm, according to what you've written here.

Basically, you have described yourself and his interaction with you as being a fuck buddy ... but, this flies right over your head. You must think that the way to a man's heart is by sucking his dick once a week.

lol

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.....Anyway I appreciate your outlook on this situation, your like that one friend that everyone thinks is hating or being over critical, when in actuality you are just telling the person the view from the outside looking in.......and being a woman whose had a few relationships in her life, I know exactly what I am doing physically.....your words set a few things in my mind straight...so thanks again 🙂