Virgo man... Distant... Hot and Cold

Seeing him seriously for about 4 months now.... Known him since April 2015.... We took a trip last month which he paid for and we had a blast... He introduced me to some of his family... Invites me and makes plans for me to attend family outings....
Starting Monday he has been sketchy on communication...
Yesterday I text around 7am ... No response
Another text sent around 11 am.... No response
Get off work... Thought about it all day (mind you I am virgo to)
Didn't really appreciate it... A simple response does not take much time...
So I call him around 8ish and he says " I was just thinking of you and know you where off at 5:30 and was like, damn haven't heard from her"...
It relaxed me but made me wonder, did you not see my texts?
Tells me he is looking at property and everything he did today and something along the lines like he is doing it all for me... Sweet? Yes? Very. ... Said he would call or text later when he is finished.
Never called or texted back.
We have had several disagreements in our friendship so I am trying to nag less... I text him again today... No RESPONSE.
Is he testing? Is he playing me? Should I mirror him?
Last week he asked me to stop texting and speaking with other guys ... Anything that would disrespect him ... And I let all my guy friends know I was in a committed relationship... Then he pulls this?
What is his deal!?! Just Monday he was saying he wanted to take a trip again... Making plans for us... And the comment yesterday... About him getting his life together to be with me... He usually always responds to texts ... What do you guys think is up with him?

April 2014* is when we meet!!

Oh no, it's you again

Yep... Same Virgo man from last post to. I disappeared from him for like 6 months... He came running back like I lost puppy!!! I didn't welcome him back with open arms... I made him work and set boundaries. He slowly began acting like the gentlemen I knew he was... Now he asks me for nothing... Takes me out... Pays for everything. Just last week he told me " We'll probably be together a long time Brooke" ... That's why his behavior this week is so weird... He would go crazy if I didn't text or call him back... Last week he literally wanted my phone passcode... Which I gave because I have nothing to hide... Is that his guilt?
I have meet his Aunt, his cousins, his best friend... Other friends... He even asked me to go with him to meet his mom... (She lives out of state))
What is his deal!?!? PAngel I know you are very honest!! So I came to the right place !!

I just dialed him!! No response again!!! I'm ready to do a Virgo retreat... This is not the type of relationship I want.

He's testing you...definitely

Before I called I texted.... "Are you upset with me? Am I smothering you Tucker?" ... Which is his last name... I am very playful in text and just in general...
This morning I had texted him that he was in my dreams... I always have dreams with him in them and every time I have one... I tell him... He knows I'm a conspiracy theorist and every dream I have of him... The world or something is ending and we are running from someone ... Lolol... It's wierd but true!!! It cracks him up and he always thinks I'm playing but one dream we climbed and mountain to discover it was an Easter Isle

Anyway.... When I went to his Aunt's house I told him!!! That is the Easter Isle head from my dream!!! And he walked up to his Aunt and says... She had a dream of that statue in your yard.. And Aunt and I hit it off from there!!!! He was surprised to find that I had been telling the truth and the statue... But he was very pleased she liked me.... I just don't get his behavior... Why do Virgo men test like this!?!

I feel the same way. You are never too busy for someone you like or is close to you... I take it as you are just ignoring me.

control issues sounds like he wanted everything to be on his terms or he could've just been dealing with some personal issues thinking about solutions and you end up overreacting..

Are you anything other then friends?

Yes we where. Things seemed to be established and flowing greatly ... No clue ....

Posted by BadGalVirgo
We have had several disagreements in our friendship

Posted by BadGalVirgo
And I let all my guy friends know I was in a committed relationship...

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So which one is it?

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Posted by BadGalVirgo
We have had several disagreements in our friendship

Posted by BadGalVirgo
And I let all my guy friends know I was in a committed relationship...

So which one is it?

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Sorry for the confusion, we meet at the Gym April of 2014... Didn't commit until about May 2015... From April to May we where friends building on a relationship we wanted when the time was right... But 2 Virgos can sometimes be a power struggle or a very long slow process of opening up... So we are now commited and are exclusive since May and we both know that we are together and building and growing...
Talked to him yesterday and he has been buying new property and getting contractors for rehabbing... Said he was tired and hadn't eaten all day... I offered him food earlier but he was tied up.. He said his money situation is becoming more stable and I make him want to be a better person and get his life together...
He just needs his space and trust from me and faith that we are on the same page ...
While he works on himself I'm working on me to ☺ï¸
We'll see guys!!

Posted by BadGalVirgo
Yep... Same Virgo man from last post to. I disappeared from him for like 6 months... He came running back like I lost puppy!!! I didn't welcome him back with open arms... I made him work and set boundaries. He slowly began acting like the gentlemen I knew he was...

Get a male dog and train him. You may be happier with that progress.

Trying to dictate and make demands on a Virgo male is something you just don't do. You will lose every time.