Virgo Man- the drama begins

Hi all.
About a month and a half ago I was out with friends. Toward the end of the night this guy came up and said, "you're hot. I want to talk to you." he was very persistent but sweet at the same time. (I'm a Cap with Leo moon and Scorp ascendant) I know how to cold shoulder dudes but he was earnest so I gave him my number.

He was a gentleman, we talked a lot, he asked me out on dates (I love that! I'm 37, he's 28 and it gave me hope that there are some quality men out there.)

So last week he invited me for dinner. My home was two hours away but I was going to be in his area looking at homes because I was relocating for work. We planned I'd stay overnight because it would save me lots of drive time. I had no idea what to expect - after our first date I had to ask if I could give him a hug. super inexperienced? Super shy?

We ended up trying to be intimate (I say trying because he lasted 30 seconds and then 45 seconds.) I know he was embarrassed and I was reassuring to him.

Two days later he checked in. And it was radio silence since then (five days.) the part that bothered me is during those five days I was moving into my new house, starting new work, big life changes that he knew I was going through but couldn't be bothered to even ask how things were going or say hi.

It's been more than a month and I have no idea what is between us. You start a new job, move to a new city, meet lots of new people and many of them are curious about your personal status.

So last night I told him those things, that I felt kinda bad he was too busy or too tired (his excuse) for me. And because people were wondering if I was single I started wondering too.

(I'll be honest I don't date multiple people. I don't have the energy to juggle that.) so I tried calling to talk. (I'm pretty passive with men, I don't initiate many conversations, hardly call.) no answer at 9:30. He always goes to bed at 10:30. So I sent a message saying I just wanted to try to understand the situation but now it seemed clear, wished him well and said good-bye. Decided now I can move on with a clean start. Find a sweet Pisces or Cancer 🙂

So this Virgo sends a message at the crack of dawn saying he saw I'd called and he'd gone to bed at 9.

Typical Virgo behavior? If I wasn't interested in astrology I'd think him a total asshole and never consider a response. Why are Virgo men given a free pass to be assholes?

It's because you slept with him on the first date.

Hi and thanks for your thoughts
I'm in the Midwest.
He got me off first orally but I much much rather prefer during Sex.

Def did not sleep with him on the first date. I had to ask permission to hug him. He stood there dumbly!

Thanks for the suggestion to move on.
In my original post I meant to say "why do Virgo men get a free pass to be assholes" not markers 🙂

Posted by Ambietomtom
Also, "too busy or too tired" in my opinion is an excuse. Ppl make time for what they want to in my experience. I'm dating a virgo & he works ridiculously long hours. I hear from him every morning before he leaves for work. Once while at work & he calls me on his way home from work & the conversation lasts almost til his bedtime. I've told him that he doesn't have to call all the time but he insists, so I appreciate his efforts & time bc I know he's absolutely exhausted from physical labor all day.

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Completely agree. It's what I was trying to say - if I didn't know about the Virgo withdrawal tendency I wouldn't give it a second thought.

Hmm I keep typing a-hole maybe it's getting censored?!

Posted by Ixion120

If you consider him an asshole then why consider chaining yourself to him?

Thanks, it's easy to lose myself in excuses for someone else's bad behavior. You're right, best to move on.

Things seemed good for a while, didn't want to discount that but if it's not attentive behavior now the past doesn't matter.

Posted by Ambietomtom
Never heard of a virgo not making sure you finish first... Sorry that part just stuck out at me lol
Sounds like something you did turned him off, could of been a variety of things & he's trying to let you go easy with no drama. Just my opinion.

Hey Ambie, How are you? and how's your dating life going on with your Virgo? 🙂

Posted by Ixion120
In all honesty, no one gets a pass for anything regardless of astrological composition. Its one of those things where you just have to look past their astro profile and start looking at their observable behavior. If it doesnt match up with what you want in a partner then pass on it.

Good reminder, i appreciate it.

Posted by BlackMamba
You're basically with a deer. It's best to move in if you don't have the patience.

As a Leo moon it'll wear you thin

I find the deer reference interesting because he was deer hunting for four of the days I mentioned. Seems he should have been spending a bit more time "goat" hunting 🙂))

Makes sense. They need some way to let out those primal feelings of masculinity that they tend to keep hidden.

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Posted by Ambietomtom
Are most virgos hunters? Lol my virguy is & a few other males virgos I've known.

When single yes. Most of the virguys I know (self included) are.

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Are you talking about hunting deer and animals? Because that's what I understood the question to be about. Not sure what being single has to do with that.

So as a virguy, what are your thoughts on strong women? I know it's not right to ask you to speak for all, but just generally, does your sign want a woman to take charge?

It's so interesting that another commenter (black mamba I think) said this guy sounds like a deer. Because that's exactly how I felt and have been proceeding. Passive, let him come to me, no sudden moves. But gosh how long does it take for them to relax and get comfortable, I can see he's nervous when we're together still after a month.

I guess I've got that Cap Snap, Cardinal sign get things done. Does Leo moon mean impatience?

Ok, did my research. Leo moon needs attention and appreciation from her man. And we have big egos. Big.

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Posted by Ambietomtom
Never heard of a virgo not making sure you finish first... Sorry that part just stuck out at me lol
Sounds like something you did turned him off, could of been a variety of things & he's trying to let you go easy with no drama. Just my opinion.

Hey Ambie, How are you? and how's your dating life going on with your Virgo? 🙂

Hey Nathan! I'm good thanks, & yourself? It's going good, I love me some virgo lol 😉

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Nice and I'm good just doing my work. I'm going to derail this thread for a bit hahaha. But I just want you to know that my opinion with Leo Woman about Dating Virgo Man might change for something good.

I have a Virgo Male friend of mine who's been going out with Leo Female and I find them very cute together and makes me smile seeing them together 😄

She's super nice and it's bruises my ego lol. Because my compatibility rating for Virgo Man and Leo Woman is poor , but this Leo Woman is proving me wrong but she's doesn't know she proving me wrong lol. But seeing together changing my opinion about the compatibility between these two signs.

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Posted by Definitelycap

Posted by BlackMamba
You're basically with a deer. It's best to move in if you don't have the patience.

As a Leo moon it'll wear you thin

I find the deer reference interesting because he was deer hunting for four of the days I mentioned. Seems he should have been spending a bit more time "goat" hunting 🙂))

That's your Leo moon talking.

What's his moon sign?

If it's Scorpio good luck

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Just checked and I get what you mean. I don't know anything more than Virgo sun. I asked in the past what time he was born and he had no idea. Maybe I'll ask later, feel like for now dipping off the radar is better.

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Posted by Ambietomtom
Are most virgos hunters? Lol my virguy is & a few other males virgos I've known.

When single yes. Most of the virguys I know (self included) are.

Are you talking about hunting deer and animals? Because that's what I understood the question to be about. Not sure what being single has to do with that.

So as a virguy, what are your thoughts on strong women? I know it's not right to ask you to speak for all, but just generally, does your sign want a woman to take charge?

It's so interesting that another commenter (black mamba I think) said this guy sounds like a deer. Because that's exactly how I felt and have been proceeding. Passive, let him come to me, no sudden moves. But gosh how long does it take for them to relax and get comfortable, I can see he's nervous when we're together still after a month.

I guess I've got that Cap Snap, Cardinal sign get things done. Does Leo moon mean impatience?

Both those are going to be a problems

The cap thinks it the Leo states it

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Thank you, and that's true. Seeing it written from someone with an objective point of view makes it obvious.

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Posted by BlackMamba
You're basically with a deer. It's best to move in if you don't have the patience.

As a Leo moon it'll wear you thin

I find the deer reference interesting because he was deer hunting for four of the days I mentioned. Seems he should have been spending a bit more time "goat" hunting 🙂))

That's your Leo moon talking.

What's his moon sign?

If it's Scorpio good luck

Just checked and I get what you mean. I don't know anything more than Virgo sun. I asked in the past what time he was born and he had no idea. Maybe I'll ask later, feel like for now dipping off the radar is better.

Thats a good way to never speak to each other again. FUARKKKK

what would you do if he sent you something right now asking to see you?

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First I'd poop myself because he plans everything in advance, but that spontenaity is really exciting. I'm just getting things moved in and settled so I would drop those mundane things and say Sure.

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Posted by Vanish
He's just nervous jeez you guys.

He could be. And even then I would still strongly recommend to the OP in determining if his reaction to his possible nervousness (or whatever it is) is what she actually is looking for in a romantic partner.

Personally I give some thought as to how a person addresses their discomfort with a given situation.

Being nervous is all fine and dandy but being paralyzed is not a good sign to me.

Being busy is one thing but being uncommunicative is another thing.

Granted everyone has tolerance levels for certain behavior and admittedly my tolerance for absenteeism is middling...but I would suggest the OP introspect some and really take into account what her tolerance is for the type of behavior she is seeing now.

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Thank you. How long do you think is acceptable to be absentee?

Agreed.

I don't understand the title.

What drama begins? If anything, nothing seems to begin.

Are you just dramatic over life situations in general?

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Maybe he's embarrassed he got off too quick. But don't blame the disappearing act on being a Virgo. You can find similar threads in every zodiac forum here and it's almost always that the guy just wasn't that interested.

Thanks for saying that, it helps to read it. I decided it's best to just move on as black mamba suggested.

Posted by Damnata
I don't understand the title.

What drama begins? If anything, nothing seems to begin.

Are you just dramatic over life situations in general?

Leo moon 😉

Posted by Definitelycap

Posted by Damnata
I don't understand the title.

What drama begins? If anything, nothing seems to begin.

Are you just dramatic over life situations in general?

Leo moon 😉

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The power of Christ compels you!

distance yourself a lil

Posted by Definitelycap
And because people were wondering if I was single I started wondering too.

That's where you went wrong. Tell a Virgo you have options and poof. It would be hard to get him back now.