Virgo Men & ''Wait for Him to Contact You' Advice

IMO, if he expressed that he cared a great deal then backed away, and it's been months, and you still care, it might be a good time to contact. i'm a virgo female. i back away when i dont feel that my feelings are reciprocated enough. no bs though. be real and honest... to an extent. maybe, something made me think about you the other day... hope you are doing good.... type of thing. we have our own shells we go in when recovering or trying to figure things out. i personally like to be romanced a bit. food for thought.... everyone like a LITTLE bit of a challenge. just dont lose yourself in the process.

Posted by taurusheart

In my situation, nothing bad happened and he even went on about how compatible we were. He basically left just when everyhting was going really well.

Question for you, how would you feel if that girl did hit you up now to see how you are doing and apologize for her actions?

Apologize for her actions?

What actions do you need to apologize for?

You stated, "nothing bad happened ... he basically left just when everything was going really well."


Why would you apologize for nothing? That sounds very needy, desperate and doormatty. A Virgo wants a woman with a backbone, a woman who isn't going to take any shit. If you would apologize for something you've never done, then this is likely the personality trait of yours that he is backing away from.

It's NOT normal for a Virgo to vanish from the person he cares about ... he will dip-out on a person he has no intentions of bonding with emotionally.

In your case, if I were you ... I'd do a self-check with your inclinations to make you feel like crawling up the ass is the chosen path.

seriously ^ off topic, but I love you for your fox picture 🙂 favorite animal!

Posted by taurusheart

P-Angel, relax, you misunderstood. I phrased the question specifically for 25th's situation, not mine. I am not thinking about apologizing to anyone about anything and I am definitely not a doormat.

I didn't misunderstand anything ... you were referring to yourself, and every person who has reading comprehension gets that you state the condition of your relationship and then ask the male Virgo who is present how he would handle it, if you did this ..... whatever this is. In your case, it was to contact and apologize.


So, instead of owning your own words, you attempt to say I misunderstand your motives.

meanwhile, I have my Virgo of 30 years still .... and you can't even manage to get him to acknowledged you. I would suggest you take your fingers out of your ears and listen.


You are coming off desperate and clingy ..... now you can come back here with any excuse you want, you can even say something against me if you like ... meanwhile, the Virgo pulls away from you (which is NOT normal IF the Virgo wants you) and you haven't a clue why.

lol I have a couple virgo friends, aside from the guy Im going through it with, and the dont contact advice may totally go against Virgo nature lol. Thats a broad statement, but sometimes they just need a word of encouragement. In my experience when they stop calling being all jokingly demanding with their crazy idealistic theories there is something wrong. They seem to me the type who can really get caught up and fail to realize how much time has passed. Just leaving them a word of encouragement or concern I think relieves some stress. Because their stresses are mental they could be going from home to work and back again and spend the remainder of the night thinking themselves into bouts of fatigue and morose. If you haven't seen your Virgo pal in about a week or so and they seem to have packed on a couple pounds when you do see them again, chances are they've been through a bout of self-doubt.

I'm so glad this post exist, if you refer to my recent topic entry "First Meeting with Virgo Man" it would inform you why I'm asking suggestions on here.

I want to text or email him to TRY and find out what he thought of from that first encounter? I want to becareful of how I would ask him of his thoughts. I certainly don't want to come off as clingy or needy. But just to have an objective as to WHY he wanted too meet that way? The whole setup did not set the stage for "getting to know".

So any Virgo Guy could advise me on what to say to open that line of contact. Even after 2 days no contact from him expecting he is not interested for whatever reason I would like to know? Thanks!

Posted by 25thDecan
Read it...sounds like what typically happens to me when I meet scorps..and my disdain for scorp and cap femmes is legendary..but not law for anyone but me.

I think you said, did something, body language that pissed him off..so when you said something along "this just isn't cool between us"...he was like "yep. You've got a good eye." Even if he slightly or really did like you. In my experience...scorps do this sabotage thing like that for whatever reason..mainly to try and "delve" into my inner thoughts which is dumb...why explore what you want to control but have no desire to appreciate. Anyhew...if you want to talk to the guy...do it. Call him. Say hi. Talk to him. Find common ground without molding a conversation. You're gonna have to be conscious that "your way" of doing things are NOT easily translatable nor tolerable to every man you like. Is what it is....

Though I admit..capricorn femmes are the WORST between the two. They cannot and will not appreciate or understand anyone else's legitimacy besides their own until life slaps them shitteless a couple times. Smh..."open your mind" is NOT an easy thing. Plenty espouse it..few know it.

I haven't a clue...I mean I thought back to everything that was said and purely everything that I was trying to engage was nothing more than his interests, my interests, he asked about why I moved here?, asking him once, twice, trice what he wanted to do? It was just a disaster that he could not make up his mind. I don't know what more could he expect as we were walking around like a chicken with our heads cut off as I'm trying to figure out what he wants to do!

He didn't have no plan...nothing! Which left me to be frustrated with this ring around the rosy of where to go. Instead of focusing on our first meeting, I feel so confused and just down right like I failed but don't even know what ticked him off in the beginning to just cut the night short? I guess I'm just a bit perturbed but what more could I have done or said? I was being myself and answered things honestly as he asked. *sighs* I don't feel like contacting him now:-P lmao.... I just feel like I would be asking for more of an awful let down again if he remembers whatever sabotaging I did when all I was doing was nothing more than "getting to know" and "figuring out where to go?"......

True...just one of those "why couldn't it have gone better" type curiosities. I guess he is a lost cause so sad. Thaks for your insight though:-)

~Scorpio83