Virgo mother hen

I caught a bug from my virguy friend and he's been all up in my business telling me how to get better. It's really really cute though. After splaining how much he hates emailing, he emails repeatedly to tell me to rest. In ALL CAPS 😛

Now that we've gotten pretty up close & personal regarding some heavy conversations about personal issues, he seems to have moved into that virgo advice zone. He even 'helped' me drive when we went out for lunch recently 😉 I always thank him for showing he cares, and check him nicely if he goes too far.

As a cancer, I like the comfortable feeling of being beyond 'company manners'. As long as I don't forget and drag too much emotional non-essentials into the mix. I think he likes being able to 'help' me here & there, and also loosen up a bit without things getting messy.

Today though he got a dig in that made me cranky. I was excited about a trip I'm taking to buy a wagon for my pony and he just looks at me and deadpans 'have you considered ritalin?'. Asshole 🙂

lmao! Was it in a serious tone?

@sandyclaws: That was so cute!!!

I think he was teasing me, but half serious too. He gives me grief about my energy level and nags me to stop and do nothing sometimes.

He seems to enjoy knowing things about me no one else does, and then teasing me about them. It's all good though. Now that I get the virgo sense of humor better, and his particular quirks. I even don't mind his back seat driving, but if anyone else did it I'd kill them. I know how careful he is and observant, and that he's trying to be helpful not critical.

Same with the other advice. It's just funny though. It's like we went to some next level after I helped him talk through the big trouble he had with his friends. Now he gets to repay the effort by 'helping' me.

Still, the ritalin comment was a little cranky-making since it's kinda accurate from a low-key person's perpective 😉

Sandy, a virgo's mantra may be, "Silence is the key to thought". I abhor chattery chaos (most geminis) and would rather have a one-on-one conversation or just sit in complete silence and soak up the world around me. Watch people, listen to the sounds, smell the smells, marvel at all God has created. And a hyper amped-up chatterbox will soon meet a sock and some duct tape 😉

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
Sandy, a virgo's mantra may be, "Silence is the key to thought". I abhor chattery chaos (most geminis) and would rather have a one-on-one conversation or just sit in complete silence and soak up the world around me. Watch people, listen to the sounds, smell the smells, marvel at all God has created. And a hyper amped-up chatterbox will soon meet a sock and some duct tape 😉

LOL We've had that conversation before 😉 He's gone into detail about why a couple gals he dated didn't work out, and most of it had to do with their inability to give & take in conversation. With how they kind of trampled over him trying to hear themselves talk.

Luckily most of the time we spend together we're on the same wavelength. It's good for me to stop and think about the interaction before contributing. I like to have conversation that goes somewhere or adds to the depth of knowledge on the topic. I also like being able to challenge and engage more than swamp someone in a wave of chatter. I do know I can make him laugh or distract him from troubles with a judicious bit of silliness though.

One thing I like to do is recall some obscure like or interest he's mentioned and ask more about it. He likes Chagall, and I'm really not a modern art fan, so i told him that and asked what he liked about that artist. To explain the draw for me. We spent a long time looking through paintings and talking about them, and I still don't really care for the style , but I liked learnign why my friend likes them, and just getting more insight into a topic about which I was ignorant.

The topic I was excited about, he knows relates to fulfilling a major ambition/dream, and that I have done a lot of work making it happen. He just likes pushing my buttons by teasing me for my enthusiasm.

LOLOL He bought pastries and specially roasted coffee this morning, in advance of our mid-morning hang-out. How sweet!

I'm glad I decided to send him a friend-valentine after all. The hilarious part was that the mail came while I was there, so as he's saying goodbye on the front steps & looking through his mail, there's my card 😛

Here's some virgo thoughtfulness - he has my favorite coffee mug (which he figured out by noting which one I repeatedly chose to use) full of hot water to preheat it just before I arrived. More sweet!

It's a beautiful thing when he thinks of the small things isn't it? We notice. We notice details so minute we probably miss the 900lb fat guy juggling on the unicycle in the middle of the living room.

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
It's a beautiful thing when he thinks of the small things isn't it? We notice. We notice details so minute we probably miss the 900lb fat guy juggling on the unicycle in the middle of the living room.

It is beautiful. The cancer me just eats that up. But it's equally tragic to see his perspective with that trait when he does the same for other 'friends' who take it for granted or take advantage or just never notice. Makes me a more observant person too, trying to make sure to show respect for his gestures. It's tough because he doesn't like too much notice, just a bit. So cancer me has to bump up the intuition and fliter out some emotion to get it right.

LOL It's fun though. Like learning a diff language.

^^You say this beautifully Sandy^^ I find myself doing this too with my virguy: more intuition/less emotion; to keep balance. My mars is in cancer so I can relate!

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
Sandy, a virgo's mantra may be, "Silence is the key to thought". I abhor chattery chaos (most geminis) and would rather have a one-on-one conversation or just sit in complete silence and soak up the world around me. Watch people, listen to the sounds, smell the smells, marvel at all God has created. And a hyper amped-up chatterbox will soon meet a sock and some duct tape 😉

@Crimsin: My Virguy said to me when we first started dating. " You don't talk too much, do you? Usually I can't get a word in with most other women." I told him just as you said, comfortable silence is just fine with me...

Posted by sandyclaws

Today though he got a dig in that made me cranky. I was excited about a trip I'm taking to buy a wagon for my pony and he just looks at me and deadpans 'have you considered ritalin?'. Asshole 🙂

@Sandy: Today we were driving to the restaurant for lunch and I was behind the wheel. We went a back way I was unfamiliar with and came to a light where I had to either make a right or a left. So I asked my virguy, "which way?" And he answers, "Go straight." Perfectly serious!! lol , he's such an idiot...

You two sound like the cutest little duo. Almost as if you can have your own TV show. Virgo's are some of the biggest Mother Hens so if I were you I would just relish in every minute of it.

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Posted by sandyclaws

Today though he got a dig in that made me cranky. I was excited about a trip I'm taking to buy a wagon for my pony and he just looks at me and deadpans 'have you considered ritalin?'. Asshole 🙂

@Sandy: Today we were driving to the restaurant for lunch and I was behind the wheel. We went a back way I was unfamiliar with and came to a light where I had to either make a right or a left. So I asked my virguy, "which way?" And he answers, "Go straight." Perfectly serious!! lol , he's such an idiot...

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LOL virgo 'humor'. It's hard to tell when they're serious or just cranky 😉

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
You two sound like the cutest little duo. Almost as if you can have your own TV show. Virgo's are some of the biggest Mother Hens so if I were you I would just relish in every minute of it.

We entertain our coworkers often, and his friends when we're out together. You should see us bicker over who is paying for coffee....

There's no way we could ever be in a cohabiting kind of relationship with him, even if I didn't have a partner, so it's a blast just to be the kind of friends we are.

I wish I knew his ex wife better since she's the only person he's ever lived with. Not even his ex gf of 3 yrs. He said they tried for like a month & he couldn't cut it. I think I give him an amount of female friendship he can handle with all his weirdnesses.

So my vgf has been having really bad problems with insomnia. I have that issue sometimes & have been offering what advice I can. But he's talking really down about it, cuz it's wearing him out. I finally messaged his best friend to see if he knew what's up & mention my concern. I asked him not to say anything to vgf though, cuz I know he'd get cranky with me getting in his business.

His friend replied that he knew about the problem and that he really appreciated that I was worried etc. He also said how much vgf looked forward to hanging out with me, which made me feel good, since vgf being a virgo doesn't do anything so crazy as tell me that kind of stuff 😛 Actions speak louder than words tho. When I told vgf about being gone this weekend he was upset until I asked if I should come over Monday. I do like hanging out and talking about all the weird stuff we do. We'll see if I'm brave enough to tell him what my partner said about looking elsewhere for 'recreation'.

I hate seeing him feeling bad, but the cancer me likes bbeing able to help him out too.