Virgo Playing Mind Games

Virgo tells me he's in love with someone else but they havent talked in 2 years . But she reached out to him recently. And he thinks he's in love with her. He tells me that he want to be with me and he loves me and doesn't feel that just because he loves someone else he has to be with them. He's working on our future and he want to be with me. But says he doesn't want to get in a relationship because he's keeping his options open. Wtf

He means what he says-he's still hung up on his ex. You should not be dealing with this man unless he's told you he's made up his mind and he wants to be with you. Anything else is just short changing yourself and letting him know he can play both of you. And then you'll be sitting on big resentment because you hung around and hoped for more but did not get it. I don't think he is a bad man. A bad man wouldn't even tell you about the ex. But it's pretty serious or he wouldn't have told you.

Doesn't look to me like he is playing mind games. Looks to me like he is being truthful with you up front.


So, put on your big girl panties, grow some fucking dignity and step away from coming to a forum so you can wallow in wa wa wa wa wa

He told me in an argument he said he isn't relevant because he not pressuring her he's with me He is working on our future why must I focus on the negative why must I always make things about some female when it's about us He said that he wants me and just because he has feelings for doesn't mean he has to be with her. So it is a game to me. Because if I'm in love with someone and I l ge another person and I can't choose I'm going to walk away. Until I made my mind up he doesn't want too he I feel he wants both

I means she isn't relevant

RED FLAG RUN GIRL RUN!

Yall are so right

You could never put your all into me and claim your INLOVE with your ex.

There should be no baggage when it comes to dating. He needs to move on by himself not use a woman to get over another one. It doesn't work someone will get hurt.

Leave him. You don't need to be an option and a rebound to use.

Posted by LeoVeen
Some Virgos, like myself, don't realize what the effects of what we do and say have on people until they're done to us. But Virgos are usually loyal to the person that's physically in their life at the present time.

Agreed. My Virgo husb often places empahsis on how he finally understands what other people go through *only* once he's experienced it himself. (Whereas I can usually put myself in someone else's shoes to try to understand.)

It has also been my experience & observation that V is loyal to the one they are currently with.

Virgos most definitely do not play mind games. The say what they mean, unless they're feeling a reservation for some reason.

Posted by aquarius78
Its because he doesnt want to lose you. He could leave but maybe staying with you will help him move on from her. Its not the healthiest way to go about it but it will work.

Agreed. He felt it was important to inform you of his honest feelings. I think you can take everything he says for face value and use this as confirmation that he is a very honest man.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
You could never put your all into me and claim your INLOVE with your ex.

There should be no baggage when it comes to dating. He needs to move on by himself not use a woman to get over another one. It doesn't work someone will get hurt.

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I understand this but once again.. the whole point of astrology is that we are all SO different. What is true for one is not true for all. Some people can be single for years and never shake the attachment to their ex.. until they fall completely in love with someone new. It doesnt make them bad people or a waste of your time and I promise you they are not happy about it and they definitely wish they were stronger. I've been there for sure.

I agree w Scorchedearth, baggage is just a part of life. Some signs are good at shedding their past and starting completely fresh and others are simply not equipped to do so.

Posted by LibraGirlLost
He told me in an argument he said he isn't relevant because he not pressuring her he's with me He is working on our future why must I focus on the negative why must I always make things about some female when it's about us He said that he wants me and just because he has feelings for doesn't mean he has to be with her. So it is a game to me. Because if I'm in love with someone and I l ge another person and I can't choose I'm going to walk away. Until I made my mind up he doesn't want too he I feel he wants both

You don't have to focus on the negative. The good news is he told you exactly what he's doing leaving you to decide to either put up with something you don't want or do better for yourself with someone else.
Also, what you would do when you are in love doesn't have anything to do with what he would do in love.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Only a Virgo would be so bold.

LMMFAO. We think we're being so honest and it'll win us points, but its either hit or miss.

We discussed the issue And he said that he doesn't feel he's in love but he does think about her from time to time. He said he has trust issues to the point he needs help But at the same time he's not doing anything to get help . It's causing problems with us and he is making me want to stop talking to him because I feel he's weak and I don't like weak man

Posted by LibraGirlLost
Virgo tells me he's in love with someone else but they havent talked in 2 years . But she reached out to him recently. And he thinks he's in love with her. He tells me that he want to be with me and he loves me and doesn't feel that just because he loves someone else he has to be with them. He's working on our future and he want to be with me. But says he doesn't want to get in a relationship because he's keeping his options open. Wtf

He's keeping his "options open" because he wants to see if there's a chance with the ex. He still loves her so there's a possibility he wants to explore where it can go.

He wants what he can't have, and since your are on his fongertips, he has no interest in you.
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I am so very confused and honestly all I know to do is just walk away. My heart is so broken. I have been talking with this Virgo Man for 4 years - he tells me he loves me but, often disapears from me. He tells me I am beautiful I am how attracted he is to me but, yet he don't show it. I am so in love with this man but, mentally and emotional I can not longer take his ups and down. I feel if a Man wants a women he lets her know she should not in any manner chase after him but, I feel I do that with him. He is very work driven - he is a engineer - PT Cop and a Jazz musican. When we are actual together just his touch or the way he looks at me I can not even describe into words. He says he loves I am so passionate. He is very sure of his self where I am very insecure - I am also very emotional I desire words of affection - attention and he does not feel I believe I am worthy of them so I am left to believe I am not good enough. Today is day 3 and no contact - he will never tell me Bye he says he can't I feel I am a game to him even thought when I spoke that to him he got very angry and said that he would not express his love to me if I was just a game. We live 4 hours apart and I also sometimes think that when he is slient he is testing other areas and if they are not to his desire he looks me back up and for me all he has to do is say Hey or Te Amo and I melt. here we are heading into a New Year 5 years- He has such a hold on me that I want to be released - I believe he loves me or maybe cares deeply for me but, I am not the right one for him IF I was I feel I would not have all these questions. I just know It will be so hard for me to forget him at this Point I feel I need to direct my attention on me and my future along with my kids. What is scary is that I know him well enought that if I do not reach back out to him it could be months before he contacts again. I could share so much that I have let go within myself during the course of this relationship, I have lost myself within him for no reason I beleive. I just needed to talk not sure there is a response. It all seems so obvious on what I need to do.