Virgo spouse and i am a Leo (lesbians)

Lets just say I am very outspoken about my feelings.... i wear my heart on my sleeve... i am impulsive.. i say whats on my mind to my virgo cause i trust her. but it gets me in trouble... i will say something and she will take it wrong and not talk to me for a couple of days then wants to cuddle...

she confides in others with our problems cause apparently she doesn't like to be wrong and she knows i was right in that argument. she pushes me away and i am non-existent in our own home. this make me feel as a leo ignored which i don't like, which makes me mad, and then i start thinking of everything and start picking which i shouldn't (

This looks to me like two right brains trying to tie a right shoe.

See to me as heterosexual male and this sounds like typical female behavior. As a man I am not bothered by the woman in my life not talking to me for a period of time then wanting to cuddle. My male brain says 'ok she's calmed down and she still wants me.' So I cuddle with her and I hold a little closer to let her know that still I need her. But I do not try to process the incident that caused the rift. I wait.

I am not sure how two men in love handle there issues and maybe being a man I cannot see it cause how I deal with my friends and family members that are male and it is a lot of chest pounding maybe alittle yelling or terse words said and some kind of understanding.

When I see two women go at it I think to myself. One or both of you are looking for the other to play the male role. Someone you can pound on alittle and not leave. Or someone you can figure out and not leave. Women come at the problem from the same persective and so both sides are right and how can there be room for comprise?

My suggestion is either let her win now and again or don't try so hard to always be right.

i hear you.... but why is it that virgos think i am trying to be right— i am not trying to be right or throw it in her face more like "yea hello im not the only who sees it". Let's just say i am her first relationship like "living together in 5 years.... the girl clearly has her routine. i am just trying to co-exist. have a voice, an opinion... we argue alot about things i do not in her routine.

arguments get ugly because i don't feel like i need to do it exactly how she wants me to. we are different we do things differently. hell if i am wrong i will apologize. i take the time to go back read what i had said. take in how i made her feel. i see where my error lies and say sorry.

does she have the upper hand on the relationship... yes she does...because she will literally shut me out completely while i try and figure out where my error was and state my apology while she can pretty much look right through me not say a word to me all day no problem.

i am just trying to co-exist but i cant point out anything she does wrong without getting yelled at or something thrown in my face.

Time to end it.

My best friend, Virgo and I'm Leo (both of us lesbians) have had two arguments in our 3 year friendship. While we are not committed, it still takes effort to be friends regardless of signs. It's about compatibility. Granted when we did argue, the first time we didn't talk for about 2 months and the second time she was in the wrong, but shut me out for a week. Weird, but we talked it out after she processed everything through the "super-information highway" aka mind.

If you are banging your head against a wall trying to communicate and it's just not working, either try to bring the conversation back to being real light or time to hunt!