What about a Scorpio male?

I am new to learning about relationships in relation to a persons birthsign. I'm in a long distance relationship with a Scorpio man. I am a Virgo. It was instant chemistry. We click- huge. He is 8 years older than I. What do you all think? I've cruised around the Internet trying to read up on it, while it is interesting, I see a lot of conflicting information. Can you all in your experience, kind if inform me what I might expect.

Me; Virgo, old fashioned values- kind of, in my 40s. Been told I look in my 30's. outgoing only if I feel comfortable. Petite frame. Kind of a home body unless it's something I really want to do, not a big drinker, love, love sex with my Scorpio- total freedom, I trust him and it is explosive. Prefer simple but quality well fitting clothing in earthtones, sexy with class is how my daughter described it, nothing vulgar in public - ever. Wear expensive French perfume - worth the investment. Ladylike manners, I must be treated like a woman, not one of the guys, I won't swear or tell vulgar jokes in public, behind the scenes with my friends? Oh no problem.

Him; Scorpio, old fashioned values, kind of shy, but confident, in his 50s, very handsome, very sexy, has women throwing themselves at him quite a bit, (annoys me), easy to be with, very kind, gentleman in public, but behind closed doors? Great lover, best sex I've ever had. Generous, funny, incredibly intelligent, at the top of his field, successful. Very fun to hang with, we have had some of the most fun doing random, just off the wall dates. He has a subtle humor that is charming, people gravitate to him I've notced very easily.

So, what do you think? Can we fit? Why would such a successful, handsome man be interested in me? I'm kind of small town, not near as worldly as he, Its embarassing to say, but I am kind of 'country' compared to him. I don't understand why he chose me over some if the women I see interested in him. I'm
Not wealthy like some of them,I have to work and budget (he's well off), I am not the life of the party like some of these women. (I think one dresses like a freaken barbie, alot of pink), I don't have a history if different men, married young, long term marraige, divorced because he got into drugs. I love this man so much, but our worlds we come from are so different. He has traveled extensivley, me? A few trips to Hawaii. So why is a man of his stature with me? What does he see in me?

At your age, comes life experiences .. and I should think that you would have the awareness (by now) that people connect with each other regardless of worldly possessions, regardless of their station in life.


Are you wanting people to come in here and tell you how wonderful you are and this is why he would want you.




Why esle would you even ask this question of why he would want you .... you are a random stranger, you are words on a screen. Yet, you ask us this question ..... what are you expecting?


Praise?

Beth this a response to one of my posts by Let*It*Be. This might be helpful in your understanding.


"Hey Peach...The older more mature Scorp male is somewhat more refined and will go after what he believes he wants after he's studied her by either chatting, or watching for some time. Yea..if he's out to pick up a female for a night he's still very capable (if not more) to satisfy that need than the younger males. Also with older males, the chase intensifies when he wants the woman who is harder to get.

I worry if I'm good enough for him. Even though I would never ever show those feelings, or give the other women who flirt with him even a hint that it rattles me. I hold my head up no matter how insignificant I feel compared to them. Really? I think they act like fools. I would never chase after a man the way they do. I think it's crass, and I don't have that kind of personality, so I would look like a fool. I do get jelous, but I never react in public. I will tell him that I'm jelous, and why, he is sweet and will tell me he hates women who are so showy. But of course he is gong to say that! What else wold he say? How can he not be attracted to either? They are both so out going, so lively, I am not the loud type, I'm not a wallflower by any means, I'm just not that outgoing.

I am petite, no big chest, two (the two that are chasing him) are taller, way more curvy than I, both blondes, very outgoing and I feel I don't compete. I have brunette hair, dark blue/green eyes,(depending on what I'm wearing. Could be blue, or green) and I certainly get my share of men checking me out,but I don't get all giddy and giggly and hang on them. I've never been good at that kind of flirtting, nor would I want to be. It's crass. I will open up and talk and laugh if I feel comfortable. I feel insecure, and wonder why me? I really don't think I compare to some of those women and I'm feeling very insecure.

Scorpio men dont like flashy women who bring attention to themselves. Learn to take what he says at face value, until he gives you a reason not to. They dont care for flirts because they know that person will flirt with others on them and they are too jealous. He doesnt care about what you have or where you come from.

Posted by seavixen2
Just be confident in who you are Bethann. He likes you (willing to invest his time) for a reason. Scorpio usually doesn't have to put much effort in for a one night stand or just sex (hence the women chasing him) but if he is putting effort in getting to know you...you can believe you've piqued his interest. The problem is keeping his interest! But just be yourself.

Exactly SV!

I am not asking to be told I'm wonderful, I'm not perfect. I'm scared of falling so deep then have the rug pulled out from under me. I married young, lived in a small community all my life. I had to move to get a job and i feel in over my head a bit, I'm struggling finding my footing, I'm on my own now and I'm scared. That saying to good to be true? That keeps coming back to me. I don't want to get hurt. I don't know if this is all just perfect in my eyes and heart and not so much with him? Oh I don't know, but it's not that I want or need anyone to say I'm wonderful, Thats kind of irritating. I'm in a bad spit these past two weeks, I'm not sure why all the sudden I feel this way, I'm questioning everything. I'm having trouble sleeping, eating, I'm kind of lonely. I miss my friends. I'm just confused. Sorry to bother you.

BethAnn I sent you a message to your inbox.

Posted by Bethann
I am not asking to be told I'm wonderful, I'm not perfect. I'm scared of falling so deep then have the rug pulled out from under me. I married young, lived in a small community all my life. I had to move to get a job and i feel in over my head a bit, I'm struggling finding my footing, I'm on my own now and I'm scared. That saying to good to be true? That keeps coming back to me. I don't want to get hurt. I don't know if this is all just perfect in my eyes and heart and not so much with him? Oh I don't know, but it's not that I want or need anyone to say I'm wonderful, Thats kind of irritating. I'm in a bad spit these past two weeks, I'm not sure why all the sudden I feel this way, I'm questioning everything. I'm having trouble sleeping, eating, I'm kind of lonely. I miss my friends. I'm just confused. Sorry to bother you.

dont feel no way im sure things will be okay u probably dont wanna hear this but it will.


hahaha ur such a virgo hey did u ever do a birth chart maybe it can give u more insight and make you understand ur self.

i use to question everything it felt like i was searching for something but couldnt find the answers i got into astrology and for me it answer some of my questions kinda like a road map.

but in life they are always questions that will never be answered its up to you to look inward and find peace and happiness and keep living.

best of luck 🙂

There you go .. you got all kinds of people to carry you. You even got a PM.


That should help with your insecurity .. even though you started this off by describing why you are worth yourself.



Perhaps, they can hold your hand for you while you go on dates too.

Posted by P-Angel
There you go .. you got all kinds of people to carry you. You even got a PM.


That should help with your insecurity .. even though you started this off by describing why you are worth yourself.



Perhaps, they can hold your hand for you while you go on dates too.

Just pissed off that she has a life far better than your ass who let yourself go due to McDonalds and years of cigarettes. No wonder you've been on here far longer than anyone else on dxp, a naggy old woman with no real motive other than to condescend others and mention yourself as holy.

But your just P...quite P.

Benthann your just going to end up getting over the insecurity in a few days, its doesn\'t matter really. If your gut says that the guy isn\'t worth it then he isn\'t. Ah well. Just remember that you have managed to perserve your looks (which matters to most people anyways), and you can get any guy you want. Most people would be glad to still be in good shape and ect...ect...ect............

lol coorkie double consign on that one owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lmao.


btw its nice to meet you are u a new user fellow virgo?


im tha jokester of tha virgos on here very honest and real when it comes to the truth but people find what i say hilarious.

Well, he told me he would get me a job with his company, I was all excited, and the bastard hired one of the blonde bimbos, knowing full well how I felt about her. I have never been so freaken mad. Converstion;

"we had to hire % ^*+, it wasn't my choice". (bullshit, he's the BOSS).

Me: "I see.........." I was furious, angry, but would NOT blow up. BTW, I was way more qualified for the job.

He: "your mad, you don't trust me" he sounded so shocked, this girl has hounded him, asked to live with him etc.

Me: "I need to gather my thoughts, I'm feeling all kinds of things and I'm not going to go off half cocked"

That conversation was this morning. He said he has a position for me in about 6 months. I'm not answering his calks or text messages right now. I will not give him the satisfaction of knowing he just gutted me.

So, I wasn't insecure, I felt it, I knew something was hinky, but he was still calling me all the time, in fact he's called quite a bit this evening, but I have not answerd. I'm hurt, humiliated and very angry. So now is he, he's furious that I don't trust him. What ever.

So, do I answer let him lie to me some more or blow him off? Is it even remotley possible he's not seeing her? I'm so angry right now. How dare he humliate me!

Well, he told me he would get me a job with his company, I was all excited, and the bastard hired one of the blonde bimbos, knowing full well how I felt about her. I have never been so freaken mad. Converstion;

"we had to hire % ^*+, it wasn't my choice". (bullshit, he's the BOSS).

Me: "I see.........." I was furious, angry, but would NOT blow up. BTW, I was way more qualified for the job.

He: "your mad, you don't trust me" he sounded so shocked, this girl has hounded him, asked to live with him etc.

Me: "I need to gather my thoughts, I'm feeling all kinds of things and I'm not going to go off half cocked"

That conversation was this morning. He said he has a position for me in about 6 months. I'm not answering his calks or text messages right now. I will not give him the satisfaction of knowing he just gutted me.

So, I wasn't insecure, I felt it, I knew something was hinky, but he was still calling me all the time, in fact he's called quite a bit this evening, but I have not answerd. I'm hurt, humiliated and very angry. So now is he, he's furious that I don't trust him. What ever.

So, do I answer let him lie to me some more or blow him off? Is it even remotley possible he's not seeing her? I'm so angry right now. How dare he humliate me! God I'm ticked off. I want him to regret this to his core.

So I was up most the night, he's called be all day, I finally took a call. At first he was being kind of cranky about my not taking his calls. I told him what if the shoe were on the other foot? He says "I would trust you to handle it". What—?? Ok, well played on his part. Then, to top it off, I obviously have made him dinners, he especially liked one dish, and Bimbo had her friend make it and invited him over! I said well good for them, what are you going to do? He said he wasn't going. But Christ! I'm furiouS.

You know what? Your right. I'm pissed. He should be having my back. I am going to go off on him. This is bullshit, and if he wants drama and a war, I can do that. (well trained, many sisters, teenagers).

I am pissed off! This whole situation is crap, it ends tonight. I'm not going to have one more sleepness night because some bimbo in heat is after him. He needs to set her straight or I'm dumping him untill he straigtens up and flys right. He's either my man or not. If he still wants to be, fix this or don't call me back.

You should do it but remmber this won't be the last time this is how scorpios operate they are very smart and they love to push peoples bottons and he is pushing your just make sure he doesn't keep doing it.

He's insecure...LET IT BURN....I would unleash the holy beast on his ass, ignore him for weeks.....Let him have the new chick, he will quickly bore of her.

He's seeking drama, excitement, he needs a rush....give him a rush he will never forget and then forget about him for a little while....It's not healthy to contain anger, women are told to hold in her anger and in some cases it's called for but this is NOT one of those cases....Unleash the crack'n!

I totally agree with Buttercup......

Well. I spoke my peace, I didn't rant, pretty much told him I'm not playing this game, deal with her one way or the other, but my needs in this relationship are non negotiable. I know he is handsome and attracts many women, however, if he loves and cares for me like I know and have felt, why is this even a blip in this relationship? Because HE allowed it to happen, seemed to think I needed to hear about it, what? To make me jealous? Ok, yes I was- at first, now? I'm ticked. I told him I needed to trust him and I feel that this particular situation would not have progressed to where it is, with her asking to rent a room at his house, (he said no, we both thought that was odd, she's 52 a bit old for the roomie shit). She follows him, calls him etc. I feel for her to be getting so much more aggresive in her pursuit, he has a part in this. He must be sending out a vibe that he's more available than what he is. I find it interesting that within mere weeks of my leaving for work this happens. I told him I need to step back and think on this, guard my heart for a while, and see where the dust settles. He was very very angry at first, now this morning he called and is flying out this weekend. He says he is not in any way interested in her, he feels bad for what this has done to me, he said he didn't think of it like I was taking it. He does not want to lose me, and that it's me he loves. As far as her working for him? Well, Who knows. Like I said, I'm pulling back a bit. It will take more than a plane ticket and dinner etc. And I swear, if he tries to bribe me with sons fancy gift? Then I will come unglued. I need to have love, trust and that is where a true bond comes from. I said I was different than his circle of friends, I am! Nice gifts will not buy my admiration, it's his charachter that matters at these kinds of times, I hope it is what I've thougt it was, and this was some ego boosting nothing to him that got a little messy. Well see.

Oh, and one more thing. When we get through this? And all is fine? Heck yes I love his gifts and presents, i've never been spoiled and treated so special before. It's wonderful WHEN it's from his heart.

Oh, Girl in Black, change my personality? Ha ha ha!! Yes, my life has been a roller coaster the past few years and I get insecure at times, I'm making a new life after a long marraige and its hard to navigate at times, I'm getting it. My personality? I'm fine with who I am, I know in my heart who I am, and I will master this on my own. I'm sure stumbling at times though! Ha ha, but, chaotic is a great way to describe my life lately. However, and I mean this. I WILL get this all straightened out, and I will be happy.

So many of you have been very helpfull, supportive and wise. thank you for the help. And it has been beneficial and good to hear varied opinions (even the negative).

Posted by Bethann

I told him what if the shoe were on the other foot? He says "I would trust you to handle it". What—?? Ok, well played on his part.

lollll .. I couldn't help but to laugh at this one

If your life is chaotic then he fits right in....you won't want him when you get your life settled, this guy thrives off of drama and after awhile the drama shit just gets really old...how many hiccups and ooops I didn't know will you accept from a grown ass man that should know better being he's a smart business man is purely up to you and how chaotic your life remains will be deciding factor if stick with this guy, as far as I can tell you really didn't resolve anything but he's flying out to dash water on the flame and the cycle will most likely continue once he get back home out of from under your reach...can't baby sit the dude...If it were me I would dump his ass

Posted by seavixen2
"unleash the crack'n"---> that's a f'n keeper!
*battle garb on and clash of the titans playing in the background*

LOL! That statement came out nowhere yesterday, guess I got carried away....

Posted by tiki33
He's insecure...LET IT BURN....I would unleash the holy beast on his ass, ignore him for weeks.....Let him have the new chick, he will quickly bore of her.

He's seeking drama, excitement, he needs a rush....give him a rush he will never forget and then forget about him for a little while....It's not healthy to contain anger, women are told to hold in her anger and in some cases it's called for but this is NOT one of those cases....Unleash the crack'n!

I love Clash of the Titans (the original). I was so tickled when I read that.

Beth - With scorpio men, you definitely need to call them out on their bullshit or let them know when you're not happy with something. If you don't, they will just end up steamrolling you hahaha. So you did the right thing by talking to him about it 🙂

Forget your insecurities, and trust your intuition. Scorpios seem to like women who are confident, intelligent but also fairly private (no blabbermouths).

As one of the astrology websites states, "if scorpio plays headgames with virgo, there will be a serious price to pay." Only answer his call when you are on a lunch date with someone else... and clearly state you have to make it quick because of just that. Throw out that virgo precision with spear shaped ice. He knows exactly what he is doing to you. He wants to make you jealous? How's it gonna feel when he gets a dose of his own medicine? Awwww.... poor baby (him).

::: shakes head ::::



Youre insecurity is bigger than your ego.

First you act like a robot ... then for no reason except envy/jealousy you act like a tyrant



Seriously ... get your shit together if you are going to want to relate to another person

You think you were better than the person he hired because you envy her.


If you had no harsh feelings about her, then you would have used your rational mind, instead of your irrational one.


And he is correct .. you don't trust him. And I would wager that the reason why you don't trust him (but, still willing to TAKE gifts from him) and because you have no real foot on the ground in reality ... because you actually think you are more qualified to be his choice in one aspect, while the OP clearly shows that you are afraid that you might not even be qualified for yourself.


You go from being terrified that you aren't good enough for him >>> to rage over him not thinking you are good enough for him.




Seriously .... get a grip.

P-Angel,

first of all I admit I am jealous, so what? Im dealing with it, Second of all I have never acted like a tyrant in my life, and most important I am more qualified to work for him, and that is a fact! I have the degree, however, at this point in time, no I won't work for him, because I don't think its a good idea at this stage in this relationship to give up a well paying job just to be close to him. He knows where I am at, he can afford to fly out, as a matter of fact he is flying me in to spend the 4th of July with him. Do I have a problem with the other women? DUH! That is why I am here, to help sort it out.

Your negative comments are uncalled for, I am more than perfectly aware that I have swung back and forth, however make no mistake, when he was here, I laid down MY needs, MY expectations and if he did'nt like it, this was not going to work.

And that line about not being qualified for myself? pretty much the dumbest comment Ive heard. Also, the gifts? I did not accept anything from him when he came out, and believe me, I could have had some nice things, I do NOT and will not accept gifts as a bribe. When things are good, and the relationship is on track, sure, they are lovely and given in love. But as we are in the middle of this? No, so you are off base. If you would have read what I said previously you would have seen that. I am no greedy gift monger. I am dating a man who is very well off, he grew up that way, I come from working class and its a bit intimidating for me. So what! I get uncomfortable at times in some situations, I am dealing with it. And as far as thinking I am not good enough? Yea, I question why me, but then why not me? We have a lot in common, we truly like each other, we have fun together, I came here to try and figure him out a bit, and its interesting as I learn more about Scorpios, Virgos, etc. pretty cool how close they describe people.

Now you, let me turn the table on you, you are negative, mean spirited and kind of bitch. So why don't you go troll some other posts and leave me alone, and please if you are not going to say anyting productive or even remotely helpful to someone, why are you posting? Are you so unhappy in your life that you like to spew to others? maybe you should get a grip. At least I admit my faults, and am dealing with them. Maybe you should try it.

As far as he and I? I don't see us surviving this seperation. I think we will try, but I think he will mice in. I have no choice but to accept that.

My question is, if we do fade away, what would be his reaction when I go back home next spring? Would he still be interested?

Oh Bethann, he will still be interested. This guy is flying to see you and he is flying you out to see him. He is investing time and money with you and when men do that they are not as willing to let go. And when they do that it is because they feel the woman is worth it.

He is not perfect, and as soon as you got your panties in a wad, he came running trying to make amends. There is something to be said about that. He doesnt want that woman. He wants you, if he didnt he would have given you the boot as soon as you left and get with some little trashy bimbo who is all up in his face that lives nearby.

You can correct me if I am wrong, but I am getting the feeling that you are trying to sabotage this relationship, because you dont feel good enough. You have made numerous comments about your economic status and him. It doesnt matter. He is not looking for a woman with money or some superficial bimbo, he is looking for a woman with substance and that woman is YOU. 🙂