Scorp Man .. hmm... thought I know them

I met this one Scorp man online. He appeared very reserved, gentle, intelligent and upfront in how he felt towards me. For me, Scorp man has always been more like buddy buddy. I do share quite some secrets of their love lives. They trust and confide in me, which I appreciate, because they know all stays with me.

This Scorp man however, makes me scratch my head...

Not sure how ladies feel when interested in a Scorp man, but once he has interest in YOU.... things are different. This one, showed interest in ME... he has become too demanding over the past week. While I visit this chatroom for years, he demands that I only speak to him. He suddenly turned into this 'my way or the highway' guy. If he doesn't get what he wants, he suddenly disappears.

I was never exposed to a Scorp man's attention until now...it feels invading.

He plays those disappearing tactics, such as in the middle of our conversations he says, he has to leave and do his taxes, or excuses of a kind that is unexpected. You know... taxes are not something that suddenly show up. You schedule your time ahead of time... not in an instant like receiving a phone call.

Today I realized... he is in a committed relationship. For me, that's the end before a start.

I admit that I felt flattered by his attention.

Anyway... just an observation for ladies who wonder when their Scorp man acts 'strange'. They are taken...

CONTROL!!!!

It's true...once the tables are turned and they are interested in you...they can become obsessive and possessive.

That's the irony of the situation with some of these scorp men. Even though they may be taken, they still demand all of your attention. I think it's just a fact they can't get enough of that person. They want them all to their selves. I think at first, it's flattering as it makes the woman feel very special. But, it can lead down an unhealthy path...quick!

Soooo...have you given him the boot yet? That should go over well 😉

well... he has to deal with my scorp side then. if I run into him online today, I am going to tell him that nothing can develop in between us, because he is taken.

Did that to another guy too the other day. didn't even give him a chance to start with excuses of why he wants to be with someone else when married. I told him, I don't care if you wife beats you up every day regularly, I am not going to invest my time in a married man. Then he said, can we be friends at least?

LOL

I said, sure... friends is ok. Actually even that is not ok, ... but had to soften it down a notch. 😉

Wow.. so good luck to your girls with Scorp man... he sure is no easy chew. But... we do have a very sympathetic side... if you want to turn his attention to you, act nonchalant, don't give up calling him... if you email, he can get away with lots, but if you catch him on the phone... just ask him how he is , that you have been wondering of how he is doing.... and keep it super short. Then do the same again... and again... until he gives in

even if you call once a week... but twice would kind of keep him hooked. Especially when you keep short and then say... ok.. gotta run... bye.. 😄 BIG SMILE

that will imply you are not running after him, but you care for him... ouch!!!

proof me wrong guys!!

Posted by seavixen2
the minute they feel they have you...they don't want you anymore
the disappearing acts/silent treatment: haha..annoying mind games
I love Scorps..I feel like I'm destined to be with one...but I think SOME of them
only want attention from time to time-they really don't need anyone, not even a woman

Very right on Seavixen...it's so true about them getting you exactly where they want you and then BOOM! They are gonzo...
Also you are correct about the attention thing. I feel like it's just to satisfy their current need.

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
I told him, I don't care if you wife beats you up every day regularly, I am not going to invest my time in a married man. Then he said, can we be friends at least?

LOL

HAHA!! Funny as hell...I love Scorpio women! FUM I would totally date you (without bullshit) if you were here and in my age range =d

Love the women, but Scorpio men are FUCKED UP....

My ex use to ignore me in order to control me. Pffffft now thats over it ain't happening again! To this date I have not met a male scorp that doesn't play these games.

Posted by buttercupSG
😢 no scorp men are not treetrunked up at least 75% of them i know in real life are good men.

tbh, i do not know where many on dxp go look for so many arsholes lol. on dxp, it's like all men from all signs are either cheaters, man-whores, low-life con-men, sociopaths or at best disappearing arseholes LOL

😛

Nope...not all, just the scorps a lot of us have experienced. There's a reason there are so many of these stories about them. It's kinda like the stereotype thing...you know there are reasons for stereotypes 😉

I'm not sure it can be called a coincidence when ALL the scorp males I know (friends) cheat on their wives...hmmmm?? All of them have this control issue as well. Maybe I'm just "lucky", but maybe there's some truth behind it.

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Posted by Lunamistress
My ex use to ignore me in order to control me. Pffffft now thats over it ain't happening again! To this date I have not met a male scorp that doesn't play these games.

yup!
there is a post in the MISC forum called "emotional rapists"..which describes the ignoring thing to a t..

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Yes, I read your post before and it decribes him to a T, of course I am not saying all ppl do it is being emotinal rapists but 2 of my ex scorps def used this tactic on me.

From my experience, when a mature man (whether "mature" mentally, chronologically or both) is ready to settle down, he pretty much knows what he is looking for in a wife. He will find her, wine and dine her, get to know her as much as he needs to, and ask her to marry him. I don't know if the sign of the guy matters. When he is serious, he is serious and he doesn't play games or waste time. It's just the way it works. Timing.

Those books are just full of common sense, sometimes solving problems can't be found in books... I bet you she pai

Few days ago, I told Scorp guy that I didn't realize he was taken. So he is buddy to me from now on ... lol

He said, I thought we were buddies already. 😉 (what a switch...!!! that's not how he sounded before 😛 )

Anyway, I ignored the guy and paid attention to someone else. He first tried chatting with other ladies, but gave up quickly --> one of SCORP Traits... when we like someone, it is hard to pay attention to others!

He started privating me that he misses my attention and how he wished i would still make comments about HIM in the room...

(I had made comments about him earlier... despite not having his photo on his profile, he had sent me his photograph by email and I had announced... ladies... this scorp man is quite handsome...)

awww... how sorry I feel for poor sensi Scorp man now...

As the saying goes, *A nail will pull out another nail*

I do feel sorry for him though because I know how he feels. Oh well...

I'm with this CAP guy now and he drives me NUTS!!!

but I don't want to let him go... 😢

LOL... careful with that Treadmill, Mr Nice 😉

I'm Scorpio

"I'm with this CAP guy now and he drives me NUTS!!!"

@FUM - I was involved with a cap man at one time. Cappy men can do that...

"cannot even insert one word before the topic is over or decision made..." My husband is in the libra/scorpio cusp -- there is no such thing as him not being able to "insert one word" -- he is very talkative -- at least with me....is it the cusp influence?

pathfinder -- I am assuming YOU were the one letting him go...?

Somehow, I have too much understanding for CAP man. It is like giving your child enough roaming space, so they can develop strong character and learn from early age on to make their on choices with confidence.

And all you do is watch them from a distance. But when things go a little off route... you (as SCORP mother) use your authority. I let CAP man roam... for now.

ladies -- what I CAN say about SCORPIO is that we like our partners STRONG!

Not abusively strong, but strong enough that they have their own mind. We respect that you have your own personality you will defend.

Of course, every relationship requires giving and taking.

It is proven through research that long-term partners 'immitate' each others ways, for example, the way they speak....the tone of voice they express things, facial expressions, decisions they make, etc. So we ARE influenced by our partners. We can't say that being with a partner, we will NEVER change. Change is part of a union.

If you have a SCORP on your side, you can count on him no matter what.

We do *TEASE* though... that's part of TESTING. Partially, unexpected teasing will reveal your conscious or unconscious thoughts. We are pretty flexible in accepting anything that comes from you, as long as we have the time to think. We usually convince ourselves during these thinking periods.

I also confess... the SCORP Man I showed interest in, for me he has become invisible.

I told him my last words.

The past 2 days.. he is trying to connect again. He is very outspoken of what he WISHES from me.

And I'm sorry to say... I truly don't see him anymore in a room full of people. He has lost his spark...

PERHAPS ....

this WITHDRAWAL is part of my feelings for CAP man.

We had our ON/OFF times. On our OFF times... I don't mind thinking of other possibilities. Eventhough my heart may not be totally in it, I am open for a new possibility. The new person will NEVER have it easier. Not only do we look at your AMBITIONS in life... we also want to LOVE you. We need to feel that SPARK affect when we look at you or think about you.

Scorp does everything with passion. Even if we pick a flower to put in our vase, we have to connect with that flower. If a type of flower has some unpleasant memories behind it... let's say.. your ex husband used to buy them for you.... I will not pick that one up!

@FUM ~ "pathfinder -- I am assuming YOU were the one letting him go...?"

I didn't understand the not-returning-phone-calls seasons.

Yes, it had to be me, right? Here on dxp, you absolutely can not blame the cappy man.

Thanks, buttercupSG. I can agree with you about the "attraction". But they like to test you.

What is is with all the testing of one's resolve anyway, with these guys? It's like they (scorpio men) love to play devil's advocate or something...

Posted by pathfinder
@FUM ~ "pathfinder -- I am assuming YOU were the one letting him go...?"

I didn't understand the not-returning-phone-calls seasons.

Yes, it had to be me, right? Here on dxp, you absolutely can not blame the cappy man.

NO no no ... pathfinder. I didn't blame you with anything. CAP man's behaviour is making ME think that it is best to END, because it is taking more of my time to make things work, then it is possibly worth it.

I ended two times with him. One was last year March when he cheated on me, and this second time, he was very disrespectful towards me. Mind you... UNREFINED and quite RUDE!

That's why I was wondering if it was you who decided to let him go.

LADIES ~

I think..

compared to CAP man, the SCORPIO man was bathed in HOLY WATER!

If the guy acts weird and starts hiding... *he probably is not into you✨

We, Women are selective in the very beginning of a relationship. There are MANY guys showing interest in us, BUT in the end the guy seems to be making the final decision.

Sadly.... and I might be wrong with this statement, but that is what I have been observing more significantly lately.

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
LADIES ~

I think..

compared to CAP man, the SCORPIO man was bathed in HOLY WATER!

If the guy acts weird and starts hiding... *he probably is not into you✨

We, Women are selective in the very beginning of a relationship. There are MANY guys showing interest in us, BUT in the end the guy seems to be making the final decision.

Sadly.... and I might be wrong with this statement, but that is what I have been observing more significantly lately.

Cap men are not my cup of tea. I dont care for most of them. I know that a real lady never tells, but Fum may I ask your age? 🙂

i'm 48, Peach 🙂

the test is ... do you love us back as much we love you.... deeply!

otherwise... we wouldn't bother testing.

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
i'm 48, Peach 🙂

I asked because of the statement that you made about what you observed in relationships between men and women. 🙂

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
the test is ... do you love us back as much we love you.... deeply!

otherwise... we wouldn't bother testing.

So what about when two Scorps get together, is it one big testfest? lol

@ FUM ~ Oh, I wasn't being serious when I said about "it had to be me". 🙂

I said that b/c on the cappy board, so many of us women make excuses for the cappy man when he pulls his disappearing acts. Me included when I was "involved" (?) with one. Reality was, he just wasn't that into me...no matter what he said.

"I ended two times with him. One was last year March when he cheated on me, and this second time, he was very disrespectful towards me. Mind you... UNREFINED and quite RUDE!"

You must love him, FUM. It sounds to me like he needs a wake up call...

@ buttercupSG ~ "can you give an example of the testing?"

It's not always obvious and you don't always realize the "test". It's mostly subtle and it could be about anything, not just to "test" your love or committment to them. Essentially, suffice it to say one is being observed if one has captured a scorpio man's attention. Scorpio attention is very deep and can be very quick in locating personality/character traits that attract them to you for whatever their interest is.

@ fourthwallbreaker ~ "Ther is no test."

Yes, ther are.

The test/s can use what you have told them about yourself, or what they have observed about you or what they want to know about you by your responses or reactions in various situations.

@buttercupSG ~ "sometimes i'll even take advantage of a situation, push it further to see how a love interest responds because to me, a person's character and integrity are the most important."

I like how you say it doesn't seem like "testing" to you because it part of your nature. Thanks for giving me that perspective.
:^)

"push it further to see how a love interest responds " "Push it" = by what you describe is what other people see as "testing"

"sometimes i'll even take advantage of a situation..."

To my way of thinking, this is where people can get power/control over another person. People need to understand that the information given can be used for positive or negative purposes ... and that there is where the power lies. Caps and scorps are well aware of this. Which is why they are so tight-lipped and only reveal what they can handle the other person knowing. :^)

It would benefit the rest of us to understand this. I believe then, the rest of us wouldn't feel so "powerless" with caps and scorps when we are involved with them.
🙂

@FUM, I feel I've hijacked your thread! Not intentional. I can be very philosophical at times.

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Posted by seavixen2
^^ there is an awesome write up on Scorpio men in "sexstrology" by starsky & cox that describes the Hades and Persephone analogy.

Wow, Seavixen, thanks for the suggestion! I wasn't too far off the mark! 😄

I'll google it and read.

....

http://www.starskyandcox.com/sextrology.html

Ohh I think I have to go buy it 😄

*will order it online then. lol.

Or I'll write up my own too, on the side! That'll be a fun project.

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Just got done reading this book and highly recommend it!

@buttercupSG: You are using the information you gather honorably.

Is your guy/husband a scorpio?