when a virgo says this...?

Over-analyze much......... Yes most virgs want order for every scenario.

Organized mind.....

Depending on the activity and other factors:

1) It was something they wanted to do by themselves and/or in specific company - I have activities I partake in with some friends but would not with others.

2) They are letting you down easy.

Posted by Damnata

Depending on the activity and other factors:

1) It was something they wanted to do by themselves and/or in specific company - I have activities I partake in with some friends but would not with others.

2) They are letting you down easy.

but the virgo suggested doing this activity with me first lol

Posted by Damnata

Depending on the activity and other factors:

1) It was something they wanted to do by themselves and/or in specific company - I have activities I partake in with some friends but would not with others.

2) They are letting you down easy.

Would that phrase mean something different for other signs?

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Posted by Damnata

Depending on the activity and other factors:

1) It was something they wanted to do by themselves and/or in specific company - I have activities I partake in with some friends but would not with others.

2) They are letting you down easy.

Would that phrase mean something different for other signs?

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Most likely not.

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Posted by Damnata

Depending on the activity and other factors:

1) It was something they wanted to do by themselves and/or in specific company - I have activities I partake in with some friends but would not with others.

2) They are letting you down easy.

Would that phrase mean something different for other signs?

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If you meant zodiac signs then I think so.... if I say it, as a taurus, to me it means i have to sort and gather everything before I'm ready. Sort of like checking things off a list before you can head out somewhere lol

I dated two virgo moon guys. They would always do this... Even for the sag sun, planning things was not straight-forward and NEVER spontaneous. They would say... "let me get back to you" even if they are the ones who suggested it. From what I gathered, they are super attached to their routine and to-do list. They are over-scheduled most likely. Also, don't try to take initiative and plan the date!!! Oh for goodness sake. It's like a nightmare to them. They don't trust you to be able to do it. Just let them 'sort things out' and get back to you. 🤷

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I dated two virgo moon guys. They would always do this... Even for the sag sun, planning things was not straight-forward and NEVER spontaneous. They would say... "let me get back to you" even if they are the ones who suggested it. From what I gathered, they are super attached to their routine and to-do list. They are over-scheduled most likely. Also, don't try to take initiative and plan the date!!! Oh for goodness sake. It's like a nightmare to them. They don't trust you to be able to do it. Just let them 'sort things out' and get back to you. 🤷

how long did it take for you to start dating them??/ Im dealing with a virgo who came at me hot and heavy for a while, and then completely withdrew/distanced himself out of nowhere, telling me hes trying to go slow cause hes still trying to figure things out and where he wants this to go.... i was like but..? what? lol. Confusing.

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I dated two virgo moon guys. They would always do this... Even for the sag sun, planning things was not straight-forward and NEVER spontaneous. They would say... "let me get back to you" even if they are the ones who suggested it. From what I gathered, they are super attached to their routine and to-do list. They are over-scheduled most likely. Also, don't try to take initiative and plan the date!!! Oh for goodness sake. It's like a nightmare to them. They don't trust you to be able to do it. Just let them 'sort things out' and get back to you. 🤷

how long did it take for you to start dating them??/ Im dealing with a virgo who came at me hot and heavy for a while, and then completely withdrew/distanced himself out of nowhere, telling me hes trying to go slow cause hes still trying to figure things out and where he wants this to go.... i was like but..? what? lol. Confusing.

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I met both through dating apps. But same with me. Things went way too fast with the cancer one and then he distanced himself (did not text me for days). I took it as a sign he wasn't interested and broke it off. Sag sun guy pursued me really hard before our first date but then also distanced himself after. I asked him to be friends instead and now he's much more responsive. So my theory is that they totally overthink things and create this huge ordeal and responsibility in their minds. My advice is to keep it cool since you haven't started dating him yet. Apparently, Virgos are infamous for this hot and cold behaviour.

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how long did it take for you to start dating them??/ Im dealing with a virgo who came at me hot and heavy for a while, and then completely withdrew/distanced himself out of nowhere, telling me hes trying to go slow cause hes still trying to figure things out and where he wants this to go.... i was like but..? what? lol. Confusing.

I met both through dating apps. But same with me. Things went way too fast with the cancer one and then he distanced himself (did not text me for days). I took it as a sign he wasn't interested and broke it off. Sag sun guy pursued me really hard before our first date but then also distanced himself after. I asked him to be friends instead and now he's much more responsive. So my theory is that they totally overthink things and create this huge ordeal and responsibility in their minds. My advice is to keep it cool since you haven't started dating him yet. Apparently, Virgos are infamous for this hot and cold behaviour.

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so you ended things with both after they distanced?? did they ever come back and ask you why? lol.

Yeah I am avoiding him/hes avoiding me right now, after our last conversation, I laid my cards on the table and told him politely that im not waiting for him to figure it out and i hope that I am still there by the time he figures it out. lol. He hasnt contacted me since. I just dont understand coming at someone all hot and then being like "idk what i want".... so why'd you come then?? virgos are weird. I agree with your theory completely. I think they overthink for sure.

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u. 🤷

how long did it take for you to start dating them??/ Im dealing with a virgo who came at me hot and heavy for a while, and then completely withdrew/distanced himself out of nowhere, telling me hes trying to go slow cause hes still trying to figure things out and where he wants this to go.... i was like but..? what? lol. Confusing.

I met both through dating apps. But same with me. Things went way too fast with the cancer one and then he distanced himself (did not text me for days). I took it as a sign he wasn't interested and broke it off. Sag sun guy pursued me really hard before our first date but then also distanced himself after. I asked him to be friends instead and now he's much more responsive. So my theory is that they totally overthink things and create this huge ordeal and responsibility in their minds. My advice is to keep it cool since you haven't started dating him yet. Apparently, Virgos are infamous for this hot and cold behaviour.

so you ended things with both after they distanced?? did they ever come back and ask you why? lol.

Yeah I am avoiding him/hes avoiding me right now, after our last conversation, I laid my cards on the table and told him politely that im not waiting for him to figure it out and i hope that I am still there by the time he figures it out. lol. He hasnt contacted me since. I just dont understand coming at someone all hot and then being like "idk what i want".... so why'd you come then?? virgos are weird. I agree with your theory completely. I think they overthink for sure.

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Yeah, lol. For the first one (cancer sun), no he didn't.... We ended on a sour note. The second one, I explained to him I'm not in a dating mindset rn. And he seems fine with it. I think virgo moons don't like being rushed into decisions or over-promising (for fear of not being able to deliver). So they need a looot of time to think things through. They also seem to be very careful about what they say and are unlikely to lie about their feelings just to keep you around. But I think they ALSO don't trust their feelings so even if they like you, they will still need time to think things over before going all in.

In your case, I like that your virgo guy at least communicated that he is trying to figure things out and wants to slow the pace.

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u. 🤷

how long did it take for you to start dating them??/ Im dealing with a virgo who came at me hot and heavy for a while, and then completely withdrew/distanced himself out of nowhere, telling me hes trying to go slow cause hes still trying to figure things out and where he wants this to go.... i was like but..? what? lol. Confusing.

I met both through dating apps. But same with me. Things went way too fast with the cancer one and then he distanced himself (did not text me for days). I took it as a sign he wasn't interested and broke it off. Sag sun guy pursued me really hard before our first date but then also distanced himself after. I asked him to be friends instead and now he's much more responsive. So my theory is that they totally overthink things and create this huge ordeal and responsibility in their minds. My advice is to keep it cool since you haven't started dating him yet. Apparently, Virgos are infamous for this hot and cold behaviour.

so you ended things with both after they distanced?? did they ever come back and ask you why? lol.

Yeah I am avoiding him/hes avoiding me right now, after our last conversation, I laid my cards on the table and told him politely that im not waiting for him to figure it out and i hope that I am still there by the time he figures it out. lol. He hasnt contacted me since. I just dont understand coming at someone all hot and then being like "idk what i want".... so why'd you come then?? virgos are weird. I agree with your theory completely. I think they overthink for sure.

Yeah, lol. For the first one (cancer sun), no he didn't.... We ended on a sour note. The second one, I explained to him I'm not in a dating mindset rn. And he seems fine with it. I think virgo moons don't like being rushed into decisions or over-promising (for fear of not being able to deliver). So they need a looot of time to think things through. They also seem to be very careful about what they say and are unlikely to lie about their feelings just to keep you around. But I think they ALSO don't trust their feelings so even if they like you, they will still need time to think things over before going all in.

In your case, I like that your virgo guy at least communicated that he is trying to figure things out and wants to slow the pace.

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Thank you for your input! Yeah I agree... though granted his actions werent slowing things down, his actions were speaking something completely different which is why we had the discussion. Anyway we avoided each other for a while and after about a month of avoiding me, he showed up today at a time he knew he'd run into me and was like at a distance watching what I was doing, I'm not sure why lol. They're really complex people.

I like how direct and honest you are, i'm sure your partners appreciated that!!

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u. 🤷

how long did it take for you to start dating them??/ Im dealing with a virgo who came at me hot and heavy for a while, and then completely withdrew/distanced himself out of nowhere, telling me hes trying to go slow cause hes still trying to figure things out and where he wants this to go.... i was like but..? what? lol. Confusing.

I met both through dating apps. But same with me. Things went way too fast with the cancer one and then he distanced himself (did not text me for days). I took it as a sign he wasn't interested and broke it off. Sag sun guy pursued me really hard before our first date but then also distanced himself after. I asked him to be friends instead and now he's much more responsive. So my theory is that they totally overthink things and create this huge ordeal and responsibility in their minds. My advice is to keep it cool since you haven't started dating him yet. Apparently, Virgos are infamous for this hot and cold behaviour.

so you ended things with both after they distanced?? did they ever come back and ask you why? lol.

Yeah I am avoiding him/hes avoiding me right now, after our last conversation, I laid my cards on the table and told him politely that im not waiting for him to figure it out and i hope that I am still there by the time he figures it out. lol. He hasnt contacted me since. I just dont understand coming at someone all hot and then being like "idk what i want".... so why'd you come then?? virgos are weird. I agree with your theory completely. I think they overthink for sure.

Yeah, lol. For the first one (cancer sun), no he didn't.... We ended on a sour note. The second one, I explained to him I'm not in a dating mindset rn. And he seems fine with it. I think virgo moons don't like being rushed into decisions or over-promising (for fear of not being able to deliver). So they need a looot of time to think things through. They also seem to be very careful about what they say and are unlikely to lie about their feelings just to keep you around. But I think they ALSO don't trust their feelings so even if they like you, they will still need time to think things over before going all in.

In your case, I like that your virgo guy at least communicated that he is trying to figure things out and wants to slow the pace.

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Thank you for your input! Yeah I agree... though granted his actions werent slowing things down, his actions were speaking something completely different which is why we had the discussion. Anyway we avoided each other for a while and after about a month of avoiding me, he showed up today at a time he knew he'd run into me and was like at a distance watching what I was doing, I'm not sure why lol. They're really complex people.

I like how direct and honest you are, i'm sure your partners appreciated that!!

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u. 🤷

how long did it take for you to start dating them??/ Im dealing with a virgo who came at me hot and heavy for a while, and then completely withdrew/distanced himself out of nowhere, telling me hes trying to go slow cause hes still trying to figure things out and where he wants this to go.... i was like but..? what? lol. Confusing.

I met both through dating apps. But same with me. Things went way too fast with the cancer one and then he distanced himself (did not text me for days). I took it as a sign he wasn't interested and broke it off. Sag sun guy pursued me really hard before our first date but then also distanced himself after. I asked him to be friends instead and now he's much more responsive. So my theory is that they totally overthink things and create this huge ordeal and responsibility in their minds. My advice is to keep it cool since you haven't started dating him yet. Apparently, Virgos are infamous for this hot and cold behaviour.

so you ended things with both after they distanced?? did they ever come back and ask you why? lol.

Yeah I am avoiding him/hes avoiding me right now, after our last conversation, I laid my cards on the table and told him politely that im not waiting for him to figure it out and i hope that I am still there by the time he figures it out. lol. He hasnt contacted me since. I just dont understand coming at someone all hot and then being like "idk what i want".... so why'd you come then?? virgos are weird. I agree with your theory completely. I think they overthink for sure.

Yeah, lol. For the first one (cancer sun), no he didn't.... We ended on a sour note. The second one, I explained to him I'm not in a dating mindset rn. And he seems fine with it. I think virgo moons don't like being rushed into decisions or over-promising (for fear of not being able to deliver). So they need a looot of time to think things through. They also seem to be very careful about what they say and are unlikely to lie about their feelings just to keep you around. But I think they ALSO don't trust their feelings so even if they like you, they will still need time to think things over before going all in.

In your case, I like that your virgo guy at least communicated that he is trying to figure things out and wants to slow the pace.

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Thank you for your input! Yeah I agree... though granted his actions werent slowing things down, his actions were speaking something completely different which is why we had the discussion. Anyway we avoided each other for a while and after about a month of avoiding me, he showed up today at a time he knew he'd run into me and was like at a distance watching what I was doing, I'm not sure why lol. They're really complex people.

I like how direct and honest you are, i'm sure your partners appreciated that!!