Virgos doing the disappearing act?

I've read conflicting views on virgos doing disappearing acts at starts of relationships etc.

I'd like opinions from virgos or those who know them pleaseee

Some say they have a lot going on and need space, others say its cause they're developing feels?? What is the truth.gif??

Why do virgos sometimes disappear when things seem to be going well??

I'd also like to say.... we ALL have stuff going on and we dont disappear. Oops.

It all boils down to "depends on the situation".

Could be a multitude of reasons:

-we are analyzing

-you said or did something that made us take a step back

-we got busy

-you aren't the only one we are talking to

Etc etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with said Virgo or just talking, dating/hanging out?

Posted by LostinmyMind11

It all boils down to "depends on the situation".

Could be a multitude of reasons:

-we are analyzing

-you said or did something that made us take a step back

-we got busy

-you aren't the only one we are talking to

Etc etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with said Virgo or just talking, dating/hanging out?

what do y'all analyze? lol. i mean i analyze stuff too but i dont remove myself from reality while i do it...thats what late nights and early mornings before work are for?? haha

Also we're in the early stages so not a relationship. He pursued me and then when things were getting good he just went MIA. I personally dont play that.I know i've been 100 from day 1.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

It all boils down to "depends on the situation".

Could be a multitude of reasons:

-we are analyzing

-you said or did something that made us take a step back

-we got busy

-you aren't the only one we are talking to

Etc etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with said Virgo or just talking, dating/hanging out?

what do y'all analyze? lol. i mean i analyze stuff too but i dont remove myself from reality while i do it...thats what late nights and early mornings before work are for?? haha

Also we're in the early stages so not a relationship. He pursued me and then when things were getting good he just went MIA. I personally dont play that.I know i've been 100 from day 1.

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Easier question is what don't we analyze lol. We need time and quiet to think.... personally, late nights and mornings are not enough for me...I also use the time to recharge...a lot of outside influences deplete my energies real quick. Why we don't just say that?...could be we tried before and got flack because we need it or we don't want to be bothered with a bunch of questions when we already have enough of them in our heads lol.

He may not be that into you now that he's had a chance to get to know you or he is dealing with stuff hes not ready to discuss or he has someone else. Just let him know it ain't cool and you don't appreciate the disappearing... he'll either explain or won't and then you'll have your answer either way.

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It all boils down to "depends on the situation".

Could be a multitude of reasons:

-we are analyzing

-you said or did something that made us take a step back

-we got busy

-you aren't the only one we are talking to

Etc etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with said Virgo or just talking, dating/hanging out?

what do y'all analyze? lol. i mean i analyze stuff too but i dont remove myself from reality while i do it...thats what late nights and early mornings before work are for?? haha

Also we're in the early stages so not a relationship. He pursued me and then when things were getting good he just went MIA. I personally dont play that.I know i've been 100 from day 1.

Easier question is what don't we analyze lol. We need time and quiet to think.... personally, late nights and mornings are not enough for me...I also use the time to recharge...a lot of outside influences deplete my energies real quick. Why we don't just say that?...could be we tried before and got flack because we need it or we don't want to be bothered with a bunch of questions when we already have enough of them in our heads lol.

He may not be that into you now that he's had a chance to get to know you or he is dealing with stuff hes not ready to discuss or he has someone else. Just let him know it ain't cool and you don't appreciate the disappearing... he'll either explain or won't and then you'll have your answer either way.

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Hmm that makes sense I guess. He's known me for a long time though, we were friends and then he started to indicate interest in me and things seemed to be going really well. It's as if overnight he changed his mind?? Still think its kinda rude and immature to disappear like that, especially cause we work in the same building, im gonna have to see him eventually.

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It all boils down to "depends on the situation".

Could be a multitude of reasons:

-we are analyzing

-you said or did something that made us take a step back

-we got busy

-you aren't the only one we are talking to

Etc etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with said Virgo or just talking, dating/hanging out?

what do y'all analyze? lol. i mean i analyze stuff too but i dont remove myself from reality while i do it...thats what late nights and early mornings before work are for?? haha

Also we're in the early stages so not a relationship. He pursued me and then when things were getting good he just went MIA. I personally dont play that.I know i've been 100 from day 1.

Easier question is what don't we analyze lol. We need time and quiet to think.... personally, late nights and mornings are not enough for me...I also use the time to recharge...a lot of outside influences deplete my energies real quick. Why we don't just say that?...could be we tried before and got flack because we need it or we don't want to be bothered with a bunch of questions when we already have enough of them in our heads lol.

He may not be that into you now that he's had a chance to get to know you or he is dealing with stuff hes not ready to discuss or he has someone else. Just let him know it ain't cool and you don't appreciate the disappearing... he'll either explain or won't and then you'll have your answer either way.

Hmm that makes sense I guess. He's known me for a long time though, we were friends and then he started to indicate interest in me and things seemed to be going really well. It's as if overnight he changed his mind?? Still think its kinda rude and immature to disappear like that, especially cause we work in the same building, im gonna have to see him eventually.

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That could be the reason if you work together.... majority of us are very work oriented and don't want anything to jeopardize that. Workplace romances are a big no no in my book.

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It all boils down to "depends on the situation".

Could be a multitude of reasons:

-we are analyzing

-you said or did something that made us take a step back

-we got busy

-you aren't the only one we are talking to

Etc etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with said Virgo or just talking, dating/hanging out?

what do y'all analyze? lol. i mean i analyze stuff too but i dont remove myself from reality while i do it...thats what late nights and early mornings before work are for?? haha

Also we're in the early stages so not a relationship. He pursued me and then when things were getting good he just went MIA. I personally dont play that.I know i've been 100 from day 1.

Easier question is what don't we analyze lol. We need time and quiet to think.... personally, late nights and mornings are not enough for me...I also use the time to recharge...a lot of outside influences deplete my energies real quick. Why we don't just say that?...could be we tried before and got flack because we need it or we don't want to be bothered with a bunch of questions when we already have enough of them in our heads lol.

He may not be that into you now that he's had a chance to get to know you or he is dealing with stuff hes not ready to discuss or he has someone else. Just let him know it ain't cool and you don't appreciate the disappearing... he'll either explain or won't and then you'll have your answer either way.

Hmm that makes sense I guess. He's known me for a long time though, we were friends and then he started to indicate interest in me and things seemed to be going really well. It's as if overnight he changed his mind?? Still think its kinda rude and immature to disappear like that, especially cause we work in the same building, im gonna have to see him eventually.

That could be the reason if you work together.... majority of us are very work oriented and don't want anything to jeopardize that. Workplace romances are a big no no in my book.

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thank you so much for your advice and responses they're really helpful ❤️ ❤️. He doesnt mind dating at work, hes already done it before lol. Thing is he did this once before not too long ago....disappeared for 3 days, didnt reply to my texts and then texts me "hey its me".... ?? Am I supposed to always go along with this like?

Given how long and stubbornly you've been holding out for this, I'm surprised you haven't been blunt and direct with him yet. It's to that point. He's already made up his mind about you, whatever it is. That won't change for him whether you ask or not. What will change is whether or not you know the answer.

Just ask him how he feels about the us/we shit.

It might hurt, but only for a bit. It might work, and maybe for a while. But you'll finally know, and then you can go laze in greener pastures.

Goddamn. It's like you want to have a needlessly high Virgo forum post count.

Just ask him what's up.

you are a fellow aqua yes? Stop over analyzing shit to death and be direct. He will respect that more than trying to create a scenerio in your head with all the what ifs.

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It all boils down to "depends on the situation".

Could be a multitude of reasons:

-we are analyzing

-you said or did something that made us take a step back

-we got busy

-you aren't the only one we are talking to

Etc etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with said Virgo or just talking, dating/hanging out?

what do y'all analyze? lol. i mean i analyze stuff too but i dont remove myself from reality while i do it...thats what late nights and early mornings before work are for?? haha

Also we're in the early stages so not a relationship. He pursued me and then when things were getting good he just went MIA. I personally dont play that.I know i've been 100 from day 1.

Easier question is what don't we analyze lol. We need time and quiet to think.... personally, late nights and mornings are not enough for me...I also use the time to recharge...a lot of outside influences deplete my energies real quick. Why we don't just say that?...could be we tried before and got flack because we need it or we don't want to be bothered with a bunch of questions when we already have enough of them in our heads lol.

He may not be that into you now that he's had a chance to get to know you or he is dealing with stuff hes not ready to discuss or he has someone else. Just let him know it ain't cool and you don't appreciate the disappearing... he'll either explain or won't and then you'll have your answer either way.

Hmm that makes sense I guess. He's known me for a long time though, we were friends and then he started to indicate interest in me and things seemed to be going really well. It's as if overnight he changed his mind?? Still think its kinda rude and immature to disappear like that, especially cause we work in the same building, im gonna have to see him eventually.

That could be the reason if you work together.... majority of us are very work oriented and don't want anything to jeopardize that. Workplace romances are a big no no in my book.

thank you so much for your advice and responses they're really helpful ❤️ ❤️. He doesnt mind dating at work, hes already done it before lol. Thing is he did this once before not too long ago....disappeared for 3 days, didnt reply to my texts and then texts me "hey its me".... ?? Am I supposed to always go along with this like?

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You're welcome!

I gotcha. No...you shouldn't put up with it and he needs to be called out or he'll keep doing it. You don't have to be aggressive about it...just explain logically that his disappearing acts aren't cool. I'm not really good with exact words to say because I'm a hot head ...and I get sarcastic and petty (leo moon, Venus and Mars problems 😂). Ive dealt with disappearing from a leo and now I call him Casper...it pisses him off and I find it hilarious 😂

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You're welcome!

I gotcha. No...you shouldn't put up with it and he needs to be called out or he'll keep doing it. You don't have to be aggressive about it...just explain logically that his disappearing acts aren't cool. I'm not really good with exact words to say because I'm a hot head ...and I get sarcastic and petty (leo moon, Venus and Mars problems 😂). Ive dealt with disappearing from a leo and now I call him Casper...it pisses him off and I find it hilarious 😂

Do you want to see a (single, not-yet-committed) Virgo run away fast as fuck?

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You're welcome!

I gotcha. No...you shouldn't put up with it and he needs to be called out or he'll keep doing it. You don't have to be aggressive about it...just explain logically that his disappearing acts aren't cool. I'm not really good with exact words to say because I'm a hot head ...and I get sarcastic and petty (leo moon, Venus and Mars problems 😂). Ive dealt with disappearing from a leo and now I call him Casper...it pisses him off and I find it hilarious 😂

Do you want to see a (single, not-yet-committed) Virgo run away fast as fuck?

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Do you wanna hold the mirror or do you want me to?

Cool. I'll gladly hold it up myself.

I stand by my point.

Ghosting is a shitty move (as I believed and still believe)

But you don't confront them about their ghosting (as I did (or didn't?(?)))

You just tell them how *you* feel, and ask them what they feel about a date (as I did)

Get your answer and move forward (as I did)

Ghosting is completely reflective of them. Let them be shitty, grow up in their own time.

The nuance in what I suggested versus what you suggested was that I said to just ask him point blank what he thinks of the two being together. You don't ever confront the "ghosting" or "disappearing" to them. They have no obligation to you. You aren't committed.Ghosting is shitty. It's a juvenile, cowardly move. But it's their move to make. It's their choice.

Don't strong arm something into being. I dodged a bullet. Why? Because I didn't force what wasn't working. It allowed me to move on and find something better.

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Cool. I'll gladly hold it up myself.

I stand by my point.

Ghosting is a shitty move (as I believed and still believe)

But you don't confront them about their ghosting (as I did (or didn't?(?)))

You just tell them how *you* feel, and ask them what they feel about a date (as I did)

Get your answer and move forward (as I did)

Ghosting is completely reflective of them. Let them be shitty, grow up in their own time.

The nuance in what I suggested versus what you suggested was that I said to just ask him point blank what he thinks of the two being together. You don't ever confront the "ghosting" or "disappearing" to them. They have no obligation to you. You aren't committed.Ghosting is shitty. It's a juvenile, cowardly move. But it's their move to make. It's their choice.

Don't strong arm something into being. I dodged a bullet. Why? Because I didn't force what wasn't working. It allowed me to move on and find something better.

Dude...chill the fuck out 🤨

Wtf you being so aggressive...no wonder people ghost on you...jfc!

I said what I said...as a Virgo not a cusper 😉. Id personally want to be called out ....but excuse me your Virgo/Libra Excellency.. I was unaware that we are to do what YOU did... I will make sure I read the memo and never give my opinion again *bows in unworthiness*

Furthermore....take a mother fucking Xanax and go suck on a bag of dicks 🙂

I put zero emotion in that. Whatever you got out of it, you put in yourself.

Besides, between the two of us, who's the one spitting venom and immaturity at the other person?

If that doesn't reveal who's the emotionally stable one in this, and whose advice OP ought to follow, Idk what does.

I walked out on my friends 2 weeks ago

Nobody saw it coming

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I put zero emotion in that. Whatever you got out of it, you put in yourself.

Besides, between the two of us, who's the one spitting venom and immaturity at the other person?

If that doesn't reveal who's the emotionally stable one in this, and whose advice OP ought to follow, Idk what does.

I didn't think it was possible to have an ego that big but damn...here you are! I imagine this was you last night thinking you really got me 😂. Good try tho..I'll give you an A for effort.

I want to say that two virgos verbally sparring is hot... but its not.

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I want to say that two virgos verbally sparring is hot... but its not.

That's because one is a cusper...doesn't really count lol

I dated a Virgo guy for 2-1/2 years. He would go missing but what he didn't realize was that worked great for me because I like a lot of time to do what I want and see who I want. When he decided to get back in touch with me I was no where to be found and he would have to wait for me. I thought he would like this too but he would turn nasty, jealous and unreasonable. They want you to chase them I guess and Libra's don't chase.

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I dated a Virgo guy for 2-1/2 years. He would go missing but what he didn't realize was that worked great for me because I like a lot of time to do what I want and see who I want. When he decided to get back in touch with me I was no where to be found and he would have to wait for me. I thought he would like this too but he would turn nasty, jealous and unreasonable. They want you to chase them I guess and Libra's don't chase.

You are goals lol. thank you. how long was he missing for?

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for me, I do it when i feel like im few steps ahead from my interest. Also, I'm lowkey obsessive in the initial stages because i enjoy figuring people out and I know that I need to chill the fuck out so I give myself a space.

btw, although im obsessive i dont want to communicate with my interest 24/7 it bores me. I have other stuff to do and people to talk to.

I only talk to them when something exciting happens, im not into the day to day lame conversations

this actually sounds a lot like my interest lol. Why are you distant if you're obsessive though? lol.

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I dated a Virgo guy for 2-1/2 years. He would go missing but what he didn't realize was that worked great for me because I like a lot of time to do what I want and see who I want. When he decided to get back in touch with me I was no where to be found and he would have to wait for me. I thought he would like this too but he would turn nasty, jealous and unreasonable. They want you to chase them I guess and Libra's don't chase.

You are goals lol. thank you. how long was he missing for?

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No more than a week at a time. After missing the first time he didn't do it again.

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I dated a Virgo guy for 2-1/2 years. He would go missing but what he didn't realize was that worked great for me because I like a lot of time to do what I want and see who I want. When he decided to get back in touch with me I was no where to be found and he would have to wait for me. I thought he would like this too but he would turn nasty, jealous and unreasonable. They want you to chase them I guess and Libra's don't chase.

You are goals lol. thank you. how long was he missing for?

No more than a week at a time. After missing the first time he didn't do it again.

If he didn't do it again after the first time how did he go missing at a time. Was it frequent or just that one time? 0_0

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I'm sorry I was not clear. When we first started dating maybe 3 weeks in and had just had sex he went missing for a week. When he got back in touch I politely declined all offers to get together for the next month. I wasn't playing games tho I was actually busy. He chased and asked me to be his girl. When in the relationship he would not contact me every day but more like every 1 or 2 days and usually it was to get together in person. I'm thinking this is the way he likes to communicate so I go on about my business. The next thing I know he is getting grumpy, critical of me, accusing me of having low interest in the relationship. Which was a lie I was in love with him. He was the most sensual lover and his kisses would drop me to the floor. Anyway, that was a long time ago, he cheated on me with another Libra woman, an Aries and who knows who else. It was a very dark time in my life. He ended up married to the Aries. I'm glad because if not I would have never met my Gemini husband.

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I dated a Virgo guy for 2-1/2 years. He would go missing but what he didn't realize was that worked great for me because I like a lot of time to do what I want and see who I want. When he decided to get back in touch with me I was no where to be found and he would have to wait for me. I thought he would like this too but he would turn nasty, jealous and unreasonable. They want you to chase them I guess and Libra's don't chase.

You are goals lol. thank you. how long was he missing for?

No more than a week at a time. After missing the first time he didn't do it again.

If he didn't do it again after the first time how did he go missing at a time. Was it frequent or just that one time? 0_0

I'm sorry I was not clear. When we first started dating maybe 3 weeks in and had just had sex he went missing for a week. When he got back in touch I politely declined all offers to get together for the next month. I wasn't playing games tho I was actually busy. He chased and asked me to be his girl. When in the relationship he would not contact me every day but more like every 1 or 2 days and usually it was to get together in person. I'm thinking this is the way he likes to communicate so I go on about my business. The next thing I know he is getting grumpy, critical of me, accusing me of having low interest in the relationship. Which was a lie I was in love with him. He was the most sensual lover and his kisses would drop me to the floor. Anyway, that was a long time ago, he cheated on me with another Libra woman, an Aries and who knows who else. It was a very dark time in my life. He ended up married to the Aries. I'm glad because if not I would have never met my Gemini husband.

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I am really sorry you went through all that. You deserve better! ❤️