Why my Virgo is not keen on sex?

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nightowlfish
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we were in the long distance relationship for about a year, three meetings, were all good, sex was all right since each meeting at the most only 2 weeks length! Then we finally moved in together, only been about a month now, he said it seems to be a bit too soon as we did not know each other well. He is a virgo sun, not sure his ascendant and moon sign, he is now showing the true him I guess, more critical, judgemental, not in good mood, quite defensive when I make little comment about this and that. Guess what I saw in him throughout that year couldn't count, everything was fine when you only see each other once a while right? But the thing is am very communicative, I told him that sex would make us closer and I feel like he has this woman personality, when he is not in the mood, after a fight for example, I tried to come close, he walked away and said no when I started touching him—? I told him I have never felt this unattractive, unwanted in any of my previous relationship. Beside this he is close to perfect, carry all my bag everywhere we go, open doors for you, and even kind of financially supporting me now!!
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Posted by nightowlfish
to wgamador2:
not quite, I think 'cause I showed him my big vibrator, he again wasn't interested?! just simply asked where I got it?



Sounds like that vibrator is going to need a GPS.
Maybe you should buy vibrators that dont come equipped with seatbelts and air-bags, so that the poor guy doesnt feel intimidated.

Seriously, maybe he overheard you calling his package small?
Maybe he came down with some kind of condition down there? You should thoroughly inspect his sausage.

I tell you what, tell him you want to bring another woman into the bedroom and see if the threesome proposal changes his attitude!!!
If he doesnt show interest in that...then he is gay or depressed.




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Guys, gals, G-A-Y's,

Seriously but we had few "good ones" though in the past!!

Well he asked me once, "Are you Gay?" hmmmm do u think his fantasy is being w/ two women?

How do I approach him though? Two straight weeks sharing bed w/ me, and not even once wanting me? Oh gosh I just sent my latest pic to one dude I know, and he said he got a hard on already seeing my pic, oh well then my man is definitely G-A-Y then?

Please tell me how should I put it so he would come clean and talk to me?

Thanks for all your advice here,
cheers
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Posted by nightowlfish
to wgamador2: no I checked his package, all fine and I even complimented him that his is nice and quite huge for me 🙂



My experience is with Virgo women, of course, but I've never found it difficult to get a Virgal hot and bothered. Dunno why, and I don't know if there's any astrological reason for it or anything... but I've always found that if you are a really good kisser, that's about all it takes. I know this sounds pretty simplistic, but it really is that simple lol

Start out kissing kinda soft... probing just a bit.. suck on the virgo's lower lip some... do some touching with your hands.. nothing too naughty, more like caressing, get to the holding as your Virgo kisses back with more passion... let your hands explore some more but DO keep rubbing them up and down the back, up and down the thigh... you'll find what your virgo responds to.

I just really don't know how to explain it otherwise? I've seen ppl accuse Virgos of being frigid... BS. Take your time, be a GOOD kisser... and give them a proper make-out session.. and a Virgo will rip off your clothes and ride you like a stolen race horse.

I'm not saying they are easy, they aren't! I'm just saying, it's not hard at all to get their motor running if you follow the proper procedure. Good kissing, good make-out session, touching, intimacy and trust.
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Yeah man...😄
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He is not gay. i behaved like this to my ex a couple of times.
the problem was that she was doing it WRONG., which might be what you are doing.

i think cowpuncher's advice sums up what you need to do.

".....Take your time, be a GOOD kisser... and give them a proper make-out session.. and a Virgo will rip off your clothes and ride you like a stolen race horse.

I'm not saying they are easy, they aren't! I'm just saying, it's not hard at all to get their motor running if you follow the proper procedure. Good kissing, good make-out session, touching, intimacy and trust."

to add the above, i will say:
do not be forward about sex, so the vibrator, strip tease and any other sex toys need to go.(they can be intimidating)

Virgos love cuddling and caressing. gentle and sensual touches. the KISS is a must as cowpuncher said. slow, gentle and sensual as well.
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Posted by nightowlfish
Guys, gals, G-A-Y's,

Seriously but we had few "good ones" though in the past!!

Well he asked me once, "Are you Gay?" hmmmm do u think his fantasy is being w/ two women?

How do I approach him though? Two straight weeks sharing bed w/ me, and not even once wanting me? Oh gosh I just sent my latest pic to one dude I know, and he said he got a hard on already seeing my pic, oh well then my man is definitely G-A-Y then?

Please tell me how should I put it so he would come clean and talk to me?

Thanks for all your advice here,
cheers



Ok, He more than likely wanted a serious relationship. He probably already knows that you are texting other guys. Just my two cents.
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Dear all,
Thanks for all your inputs! Am just at a point of tiring of trying and being rejected!! I used to a relationship where a guy would be all over me, asked more and more w/o me being the initiator. He did mention that he doesn't like to plan that thing, it has to happen naturally but I wanted to talk about it 'cause I am very communicative and he is not, so do we just go day by day and ignore something that would make you feel like you are missing something. I told him that baby I miss being intimate with you, no comments, they can be quite cold, can't they? Maybe what we want in a relationship is different, couple get into arguments/conflict, then make out but we don't!!! I even once walked around with my lingerie doing the house chores and he just looked at me with no response, my ex would go crazy if he sees me with lingerie walking around the room!!

He is so darn picky and stubborn, very sensitive being a man, when he was upset the other day I would come to the room and gave him a hug and thinking maybe we would cuddle, no ways, he walked away and did some house chores instead, I think I have tried enough and about to give up! I am a happy gal, smart, attractive, don't want to stick around with someone who can not appreciate you and at least do something if he obviously knows now that I am not happy with the situation like this

P.S. don't know why sometimes he can get overly too defensive about anything I say, wasn't like this definitely when we were on holidays before, I think he is not a happy person and difficult to get along, I am always the happy gal, even when we were out together, I am always the happy, lots of energy chick who is not afraid to say hello to others, on the contrary, he is shy, I think he wants me to be around, to give him this kind of positive energy around him but am not getting anything good/positive energy from him.

Cheers,
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No, you guys are probably mistaken by my intention, I just sent it to a guy friend, he probably fancies me but am not, I am just checking to see whether it's my problem or my man's problem. I am living with this guy, why would be looking at others, am simply seeking advice to improve this situation 'cause clearly there is a problem here, otherwise why would I do that? I would like to know why, seeking advice not like I merely want to flirt and get things lined up, no way!!!!!!!!!!!
If I want to cheat, why would I be here wondering what's wrong and what I can do to improve our relationship—?
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@Nightowlfish: Probably not gay, just not in the mood. Not everyone wants to have sex all of the time. There is nothing wrong with that. However, there is something to be said for having different sex drives which can create a rift. Although, maybe it has nothing to do with sex drives at all. Maybe he realizes, now that you two are living together, that he doesn't like you as much as he thought. Maybe he doesn't like your personal quirks that you display in the comfort of your own environment. Or, maybe, it's just a transitional period and he's getting used to the idea of living together.

All in all, I don't think "sex" is the issue here, at least not for him.

I only briefly skimmed what you've written thus far, but you seem to be focusing on the superficial and, selfishly, on yourself. Take a BIG step back and stop seeking out his attention and worrying so much about his views of you physically. You may be smothering him and your constant concern about his lack of affection toward you is most likely coming off as nagging.

Change your perspective on the matter and your relationship. Look at is as a partnership. A relationship isn't all about cuddling, sex or all that lovey, dovey crap. It is more about combining resources to make a better life for each other.
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Posted by lildol
@Nightowlfish: Probably not gay, just not in the mood. Not everyone wants to have sex all of the time. There is nothing wrong with that. However, there is something to be said for having different sex drives which can create a rift. Although, maybe it has nothing to do with sex drives at all. Maybe he realizes, now that you two are living together, that he doesn't like you as much as he thought. Maybe he doesn't like your personal quirks that you display in the comfort of your own environment. Or, maybe, it's just a transitional period and he's getting used to the idea of living together.

All in all, I don't think "sex" is the issue here, at least not for him.

I only briefly skimmed what you've written thus far, but you seem to be focusing on the superficial and, selfishly, on yourself. Take a BIG step back and stop seeking out his attention and worrying so much about his views of you physically. You may be smothering him and your constant concern about his lack of affection toward you is most likely coming off as nagging.

Change your perspective on the matter and your relationship. Look at is as a partnership. A relationship isn't all about cuddling, sex or all that lovey, dovey crap. It is more about combining resources to make a better life for each other.



WoW Lildol, I loved this! Especially your last sentence. It really made me think.