Posted by DMV
Why in bloodys name are y’all talking about his ex !?!

I bet she got tired of strapping up her nikes and running after him only for him to live in the grey area

That’s who he really wants to answer the phone.

Nah he is a whole ass earth sign embodiment he cuts his ex off completely after breaking up. Thats one thing he is good with. He basically has been saying that a relationship isn't right for him bc his ex messed up emotional intimacy for him....so he can't give it his all. He is kind of flirty now but I don't really give that energy back. At one point we talked about my basic cooking skills and
Me: "Shut up I can cook a couple things"
Him: "I came during covid in November and you didn't cook for me you ordered food remember ?? surprise me with some the next time"
Me: "No"

(not aggressive just blatant, I don't cook for men who are not my bf or at least in the talking stage with)

Posted by DMV
Virgo moons tend to be pessimistic and this one...idk

Seems like he playing a lot of games.

He KNOWS you like him a lot and he enjoys the power trip and getting his ego fed. Your constant reassurance is like a drug to him

He wants all the benefits of a relationship without any thought to the future. As he stated, this could take months if not years of cuddling and YOU giving him what he needs to feel secure. Control

You want some reassurance before you start off on a cuddling session to nowhere. You want some structure.

He wants to keep you chasing him as that is reassurance to him...then maybe he will throw u a bone

He came back to test the waters to see if you were still pining over him and he was right. One message was all it took

He should be trying to win YOU over.

Keep your options open

I haven't been to his place since covid started if anything he drove 50 miles to come see me in early November lol. As far as this convo goes I'm not pining I said "Sorry about your issues with your ex, but you and I....either I get all of you or I want no part of you I'm not settling to be your cuddle buddy I can't do it". That was me making it clear what I want and I didn't flirt back either.

Us: *having a convo about men and vulnerability*
Me: I don't get it, wanting love is valid, wanting to sleep around is valid and wanting none of those 2 is also valid

Him: Yeah but societyyy

Me: Fuck society

Him: Only sadness and loneliness awaits me

Me: Get a dog...Not much I can do you are emotionally unavailable because of your ex

Him: I KNOW, puppy is too much work and im not home as often, its a lot of responsibility I'm waiting till I'm ready

Me: So you are emotional unavailable for a puppy as well *jokingly*

Him: Im not ready OMG *crying emoji* I don't wanna half ass shit, when I choose to wait its because I see that puppy or person as worth my effort and something I don't wanna ruin. And I KNOW im not ready for that shit. So why would I go in if I can't give it my everything.

Me: I'm right

Him: You just want me to pick you up bring you home and cuddle you up all night. Even tho you know I'm right

Me: I'm sorry about what happened with your ex, I'm happy you are not jumping from girl to girl and taking time off to heal. Before I started liking you I was your friend and I'm still your friend so I support that. As far as you and i go I can't be your cuddle buddy, not just you, for anyone. I think I'd be settling. When it comes to romance or having feelings, relationships either I get all of you or I want none of you. Its very black or white i know. Causal dating or hooking up is not for me either.

Him: You have a very valid point, I wanna try but I'm afraid I will not be ready then its ruined forever. So I'm chillin.

This was 2 days ago, I'm just matching his energy at this point.

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Posted by Gem03
Dude, IM an air sign through and through. Even i wouldn't date us. We are fucked lol

Me too, and I ditto that twice.

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Okay but earth sun sign with moon air sign people are bomb.

Dude, IM an air sign through and through. Even i wouldn't date us. We are fucked lol

in my exp: Libra Moon men/women > Libra Sun men/women

Doesn't have to be the love of my life...I already met him (he loved me as well but the wrong timing tbh). He could come back into my life even now, ask for my heart and I would hand it over without hesitation.

I need sparks, proper and mutual emotional attachment, love, friendship, respect and patience. My worst nightmare is being stuck in a loveless marriage

Sun Taurus, Moon Libra

No earth moon signs tho. Yall hearts are built like a wall.....

I just want taurus kids lmao

Air signs...I think

Posted by brianafay
I want to add I did not actually realize he made that much until a few months ago because we filed jointly for the first time

He’s always had his own business and I knew and was proud that he grew it from nothing and was successful, but I honestly truly had no idea how much he was making

Wait, yall really tied the knot without having a thorough conversation about finances, income and debt????? :O

Girl my trust issues could never

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
What if you dated said Virgo over 25 years ago as a teenager, how would they view you as a person now?

I'm not a virgo, but if I dated someone and broke up....a decade ago, they don't exactly exist anymore (not out of any bad emotions, its like would you care about what you had for lunch in middle school?? No)

We were one anothers first serious relationship and sexual relationship. He was born in England and moved to my country of birth where we met. I moved here when I was 25. We have always touched base over the years! He has moved back to Leeds in September and has asked to see me, so I was curious because you all say Virgo’s never go back. Sometimes people are able to remain friends after dating... just saying.

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Ooooo then that sounds good yall can meet up and gauge his intentions

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
What if you dated said Virgo over 25 years ago as a teenager, how would they view you as a person now?

I'm not a virgo, but if I dated someone and broke up....a decade ago, they don't exactly exist anymore (not out of any bad emotions, its like would you care about what you had for lunch in middle school?? No)

Abusive, manipulative, malicious intent, plays with people's emotions or narcissistic tendencies (aka my dad lol)

Posted by RealGem
Not hard, just believe you deserve and will find better. Trust me, you'll let go in no time.
I used to be you. The reason for not letting go was I didn't know if I would ever find someone like that again.
The truth is, you won't and you don't have to.
Because you deserve better!

Its more like that emotional connection....its hard for me to invested in people. So once I realize that I have a connection its hard to let go

Makes me wish I was a virgo lmfao

I think despite my gemini sun+moon+mars I'm as emotional as a water sign might be

Not giving a shit about anyone is the only way to live

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Posted by Googly_girl
He's my husband. He's very caring and loving. But recently he started comparing me with other women. He will just say something and then laugh when i get angry. He doesn't appreciate what i do for him. But appreciate other women when they do same thing which i already did. I'm confused. What's wrong with him??? He always goes out of his way to help me and always there for me whenever i need him. But when he compares me with other women it breaks my heart i hate that feeling.

Put him in check a light hearted way. Humour is always a good way to go about it. Talking to him about it before these feelings build up and undermine your relationship is what is important here.

Can you give better detail? Because this could be a lot of things. It could be anywhere from mindless chatter to passive aggressive hinting.

He says it in a casual way. Like if someone cooked something he will say see how nicely she cooked. But he will never appreciate what i cook for him. We had a baby last year and i gained weight. He started making fun of me. You look like a bowl and he will laugh. So i started dieting and exercise and lost weight. Still he says you didn't lose any weight. Whatever he says he says in a very casual way and with a smile. But it hurts me. Why he never appreciate what i do for him? Is it so difficult to appreciate me and so easy to appreciate other women?

This is abuse and grounds for divorce, fuck all the other bullshit.

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OH NAHHH he better be looking like Zac Efron then, the fuck.

Also not just for taurus men, but don't do wifey shit for any man without a ring on your finger and a prenup

Also if a taurus man is into you, you will be the one begging for some space.

Posted by CoffeeAndCream
😂🤣😂😂


and they say we're soulmate. Taurus will eat a crab alive and discard the shell like itz nothing

Yeah...unless they have a soft spot for you.....earth signs can be really fucking brutal

What are things to do? I'm in USA btw I moved 50mi away from my hometown. Not really sure how to meet new people, from y'alls exp what has helped you ease loneliness and boredom after moving somewhere new??