But also no i have not had a long term relationship

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

Sadly our patriarchal society has preconditioned this idea of female virginity being precious, and male virginity as a crutch into all of us. It’s neither. It’s a created concept.

And intentions are good and all but when the chemistry is 🔥 you may get carried away and that’s ok too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself for the first time.

There can be a mutual emotional investment and the sex ends up being meh. Or your incompatible in other ways. Or feelings change. Or a million other reasons why it doesn’t work out. Such is life.

But like 3rd date i know he wanted to but i didn't. Its so early like damn

You've dated a few guys in the recent months right? Does it ever get past 3 or 4 months? Have you had a long relationship yet?

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Yeah I have, 1 was a virgo situationship-nightmare that I ended. Second was libra sun dude who ghosted me. Third is this man.

Also today Leo man facetimed me and we talked then he jokingly dropped a comment about seeing my b000bs and I laughed it off and idk im low-key annoyed

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

Sadly our patriarchal society has preconditioned this idea of female virginity being precious, and male virginity as a crutch into all of us. It’s neither. It’s a created concept.

And intentions are good and all but when the chemistry is 🔥 you may get carried away and that’s ok too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself for the first time.

There can be a mutual emotional investment and the sex ends up being meh. Or your incompatible in other ways. Or feelings change. Or a million other reasons why it doesn’t work out. Such is life.

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But like 3rd date i know he wanted to but i didn't. Its so early like damn

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

This ^^^ and the big deal maybe your naivety. That’s not an insult btw, it’s a big world out there.

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

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I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

It's not really. The casualness of it is what shocked me, which is why I commented on it. Leo guys are sweet, but him letting you know he had a condom available so casually, is what made me comment about your status.

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Thats fair, we had been making out.

I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

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How old are you?

We can do it when you’re comfortable??? Why does he presume you are going to have sex with him?

Be careful love, that to me screams of someone that holds no respect to the fact that you haven’t just jumped in bed with anyone or found the one.

Yes trust yourself and take it slow. You don’t want to be a notch on someone’s belt.

Honestly the casual "it's too early, I'm a virgin" comment was a little weird too 🥴
But I'm not a virgin and have no clue about this type of thing in dating scenarios.

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i mean there's a lot of other details but i doubt yall wanna read a story.

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How old are you?

We can do it when you’re comfortable??? Why does he presume you are going to have sex with him?

Be careful love, that to me screams of someone that holds no respect to the fact that you haven’t just jumped in bed with anyone or found the one.

Yes trust yourself and take it slow. You don’t want to be a notch on someone’s belt.

Im 23 and yeah i take things slowwwwww

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Are you really a virgin?
This can be tough. Being a virgin can be a lot of pressure on guys. Some guys can over think it.
If you don't want to actually wait till marriage, I would think men don't need to hear about it. It makes some guys think they will practically be married to you if they take it.

But congratulations on keeping it. Maybe others who have waited into adulthood can offer some advice. Being a virgin can be a huge game changer in dating, if you are in the U.S., that is.

yes i am, not waiting till marriage either.

So I have been talking to this Leo man (29M) for almost a month now.

Him:
Leo Sun, Taurus moon, Leo mercury, Gemini Mars, Virgo Venus.

First date went well, we hit it off. Then we texted and I told him "I'm not into hook ups or casual dating and I tend to take things slow". He said "I respect you for that and we are on the same page no worries". We go on our second date, we talk past relationships, friends and have a good time. For our third date he invites me to his house and he has 2 roommates (his best friends). His friend comes in and he's like oh ya "hi Gem03 heard a lot of good things about you". I didn't think his friends would be home or know about me? Bc its our third date and we met on hinge. His friends are chill but we end up in the Leo man's bedroom.

He says "i have a condom if you want to". I reply "No its too early and I'm a virgin". He says "I understand its okay we can do it when you are comfortable". We cuddle and his hands won't leave my body at all. I end up sleeping over. He makes sure im okay and comfortable the entire time. The next morning, we have breakfast, watch Loki with his friend. I take a nap, he falls asleep with me. I wake up to leave and he walks me to the door. His friend comes and goes "I've been dating a girl for a month now, we can do a double date." I was like " yeah sure".

First time dealing with one. What are yall turn ons? turn offs? How do I know he is seriously interested? Things to avoid?

I just never understood why virgo men come back? Like they LOVE LOVE LOVE telling you how easy it is for them to walk away from people and detach. How people ain't shit. BUT WHY DO THEY COMEBACK?

Nope, if im not seriously interested I don't bother lol

I hate having my time wasted.

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Virgo sun AND moon man?

RUN.

Virgo sun is too critical, moody, fucked up and weird. Now add the moon to that.

Run from any sign that will analyze their mistakes and make every excuse in the world for them, while crucifying you for the same thing. No one does this better than Virgo. Natural born psychopaths.

Oh, two thing Virgo has going for them; they can be cold blooded bastards when it comes to business and making money. All right if you want to be the next Madoff. Also, once they're committed, they stay committed. No matter how deceitful and abusive and fucked up the relationship is, no matter how it fucks up other family members or their children, Virgo just never leaves. The relationship can go to Hell and take them and their kids and everyone else in the world with them and Virgo will just always stick around. Pretty pathetic considering they're a sign that "doesn't put up with [I]nonsense."[/I]

*eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll* *eyeroll*

Taurus is actually the better earth sign here. Both are supposed to be straightforward, but Taurus ACTUALLY is. Meanwhile Virgo "doesn't like confrontations" so they're too pussy to say what needs to be said at the right time. And because Taurus is so sensitive, you CAN potentially get through to them with a little honesty followed by a heart to heart. No matter what, Virgo never learns. Like, Ever!

I feel like with taurus, they understand emotions. Virgos its like there are a bunch of gears where the heart is supposed to be.

Men: I want to have sex, be loyal, have fun, invest in each other, cook together, watch movies, cuddle, have sleepovers, but I don't want a relationship

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Update: Early June, I wrote a mini paragraph saying "When you said yes then 2 days later broke things off? It was painful and I compartmentalized it for awhile but that was fucked up. That was the trigger….not me jumping to conclusions. I genuinely hope you never do that to someone again. Goodbye".

He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to."


I left it at that then yesterday I was like I need answers. We had a day long convo about everything. He said he is cautious and wanted to take things slowwww bc he knows he is worth it. That he's a good catch. I was like how does one drag a talking stage to a YEAR. I called him out for being inconsistent. I can't type everything out lmao.

But I have unblocked him.

I am curious about Virgos and sometimes I lurk this forum, so! I am always surprised how people out of blue decide to pour their heart out in front of someone who gives 0 foxes about it. It is June, summer time & summer vibe, dude must be chilling somewhere with his girlfriends (well, based on the info you posted before) and then Bam! Message (a paragraph) from you talking about things which happened almost in the past life. He also has a nerve to state he is a catch (#rollingeyes emoji). What is your goal in this situation?

He isn't exactly happy im talking to someone else.
I don't have a goal tbh. A lot of what i did was call him out on his bs. He explained his side and whatnot but not much I can do, its his loss.

Did not you call him out already 3 months ago when you decided to "gracefully let go"?
So, you sent him an emotional message how he is unavailable 3 months ago, when blocked him on social media/phone. When you followed up calling him out and unblocked everywhere. Right, I see no goal here. Do you think he cant see it as well?

"He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to." -> yeah, narcissists can not stand competition that is true. Also "hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid" sounds legit to me! I mean, who would expect you to be hurt after he promised the world and went on vacation with 3 girls stunting on Instagram? People here already told you about all red flags, I am not going to repeat that. It is okay to dive into some emotional turmoil, especially when you are young and have all time in the world.

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No that's completely fair, I think we reached a point where we are like yeah we are not compatible and thats okay. Meh. His pride was definitely hurt bc I was the one who was 1000% down for him but i left. Also he kept saying "im a good catch". I ignored it. But yeah.

He has also said that he is better than other men. I'm like....."boy you tryna convince me or you?"

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Update: Early June, I wrote a mini paragraph saying "When you said yes then 2 days later broke things off? It was painful and I compartmentalized it for awhile but that was fucked up. That was the trigger….not me jumping to conclusions. I genuinely hope you never do that to someone again. Goodbye".

He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to."

I left it at that then yesterday I was like I need answers. We had a day long convo about everything. He said he is cautious and wanted to take things slowwww bc he knows he is worth it. That he's a good catch. I was like how does one drag a talking stage to a YEAR. I called him out for being inconsistent. I can't type everything out lmao.

But I have unblocked him.

I am curious about Virgos and sometimes I lurk this forum, so! I am always surprised how people out of blue decide to pour their heart out in front of someone who gives 0 foxes about it. It is June, summer time & summer vibe, dude must be chilling somewhere with his girlfriends (well, based on the info you posted before) and then Bam! Message (a paragraph) from you talking about things which happened almost in the past life. He also has a nerve to state he is a catch (#rollingeyes emoji). What is your goal in this situation?

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He isn't exactly happy im talking to someone else.
I don't have a goal tbh. A lot of what i did was call him out on his bs. He explained his side and whatnot but not much I can do, its his loss.

Update: Early June, I wrote a mini paragraph saying "When you said yes then 2 days later broke things off? It was painful and I compartmentalized it for awhile but that was fucked up. That was the trigger….not me jumping to conclusions. I genuinely hope you never do that to someone again. Goodbye".

He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to."

I left it at that then yesterday I was like I need answers. We had a day long convo about everything. He said he is cautious and wanted to take things slowwww bc he knows he is worth it. That he's a good catch. I was like how does one drag a talking stage to a YEAR. I called him out for being inconsistent. I can't type everything out lmao.

But I have unblocked him.

It never works out lol. I always get attached and the person stops giving a shit. I hope I never fall in love again