Capricorn Behavior? or Cheap? Weirdo?

Long story short, I have been dating a cap man for 1 year a few days ago. (However we have years of history since elementary school if that matters/ We are 31 and 32). He has taken me out on dates once every like 2-3 months even though I have express that I would like to go on dates twice a month. Also....he hasn't bought me anything or taken me out for Christmas, Birthday, Valentine, and Anniversary. I did go all out for his bday when he mentioned he wanted to be at a hotel by the beach and got him a christmas gift but then I stopped giving and cooking and doing nice things once I realized I wasnt getting treated the same, he didnt take me out or gift me up on holidays/ occasions. I brought it up before that I would like these things because it makes a woman feel appreciated...We made plans to go out last week for our Anniversary but HE didnt message me all day that day we had plan to go out...he never even brought it up after. I understand he just recently got a new place/his first place 3 months ago with his adult nephew so this is the first time he's paying any real bills and his car was in a shop and he recently got back yesterday (No excuses though). But I never seen inside his place ...but he has seen my place 6 days after I got mine this year. Met his sister and mom and nephew but only seen them 1-3 times earlier in the relationship but It was more because they just happened to appear while I was around or they were home (when he was living at home) but not to formally meet them. He doesn't bring me around his family or friends. He brought up to me that his 2 sisters keep bothering him about why he keeping me away from them and how they want to get close to me and I wouldn't mind getting to know them either but he was talking about how he doesn't like people pressuring him to do things and how he knows he has to eventually do these things and that people need to let him do it when he decides and let him lead his life or relationship....something like that...My question is why is he this way and is it cap behavior or something else? Im guessing stop being so giving and I dont often initiate contact just in case he wants out but dont know what to do

@Gemitati @truecap @capricorn91

You want to know *WHY* he is like this, YET you've "known" him since elementary school?

You've allowed this "man" to serve you crumbs for an entire fu***** year, and NOW you want answers AND change 🤦 You must have a miracle up your sleeve 🤔

Values, principles, beliefs, traditions etc should ALL be discussed within the first 90 days of dating.

My only advice is, STOP SETTLING for crumbs. This dude DEFINITELY takes you for granted and has no passion towards GIVING you, what you desire. When we love someone, we genuinely take their love language serious enough to bring added joy into their life. Otherwise, it's all a selfish act.

Does he Express his love in other ways than gift giving or quality time?

Other ways: yes he see him at least twice a way when he comes over @DMV

I know one cap like this and the other cap is the opposite

@PhoenixStorm He is a Scorpio Venus and Im a Taurus Venus

It is a Capricorn issue. He is struggling to find a purpose in his life. He is also trying to figure out or question his status in this world. Capricorns struggle to not look weak at all, especially in front of anyone. If a Capricorn feels like there are not being respected the way they see it, it can wreak havoc on their internal world were it will show in this world, also damaging their loved ones in the process. Any internal issues will make a Capricorn become distant or aloof instantly. Of course, we will never tell anyone.

Posted by AriesBaby954

Long story short, I have been dating a cap man for 1 year a few days ago. (However we have years of history since elementary school if that matters/ We are 31 and 32). He has taken me out on dates once every like 2-3 months even though I have express that I would like to go on dates twice a month. Also....he hasn't bought me anything or taken me out for Christmas, Birthday, Valentine, and Anniversary. I did go all out for his bday when he mentioned he wanted to be at a hotel by the beach and got him a christmas gift but then I stopped giving and cooking and doing nice things once I realized I wasnt getting treated the same, he didnt take me out or gift me up on holidays/ occasions. I brought it up before that I would like these things because it makes a woman feel appreciated...We made plans to go out last week for our Anniversary but HE didnt message me all day that day we had plan to go out...he never even brought it up after. I understand he just recently got a new place/his first place 3 months ago with his adult nephew so this is the first time he's paying any real bills and his car was in a shop and he recently got back yesterday (No excuses though). But I never seen inside his place ...but he has seen my place 6 days after I got mine this year. Met his sister and mom and nephew but only seen them 1-3 times earlier in the relationship but It was more because they just happened to appear while I was around or they were home (when he was living at home) but not to formally meet them. He doesn't bring me around his family or friends. He brought up to me that his 2 sisters keep bothering him about why he keeping me away from them and how they want to get close to me and I wouldn't mind getting to know them either but he was talking about how he doesn't like people pressuring him to do things and how he knows he has to eventually do these things and that people need to let him do it when he decides and let him lead his life or relationship....something like that...My question is why is he this way and is it cap behavior or something else? Im guessing stop being so giving and I dont often initiate contact just in case he wants out but dont know what to do

He sounds both cheap and kinda weird but those are not traits I've experienced with any Caps. There must be more to this. Maybe more than astrology alone can explain?

Posted by DMV

Does he Express his love in other ways than gift giving or quality time?

Isn’t keeping his family away from her screaming LOOOOOVE— Lmao

Idk this doesn’t sound so good to me. My ex-Cap wasn’t like that at all. All those things you’re questioning should be happening in a year long relationship. My ex-Cap wasn’t great about normal dinners but he cooked for me, and birthdays/Christmas were special and he splurged. Family/friends around all the time. I don’t think that’s demanding, I think it shows the importance of the other person in the relationship. Yes you’re doing too much in my opinion.

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Does he Express his love in other ways than gift giving or quality time?

Isn’t keeping his family away from her screaming LOOOOOVE— Lmao

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I havent introduced the majority to my family.

That.takes.time.

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Does he Express his love in other ways than gift giving or quality time?

Isn’t keeping his family away from her screaming LOOOOOVE— Lmao

I havent introduced the majority to my family.

That.takes.time.

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Do you ever date?

I wouldn’t introduced anyone I just fuck to the family either...

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Does he Express his love in other ways than gift giving or quality time?

Isn’t keeping his family away from her screaming LOOOOOVE— Lmao

I havent introduced the majority to my family.

That.takes.time.

Do you ever date?

I wouldn’t introduced anyone I just fuck to the family either...

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Nope. I dont date in the traditional way the majority does.

I dont even introduce friends to my family.

That.takes.time

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Posted by AriesBaby954

@PhoenixStorm He is a Scorpio Venus and Im a Taurus Venus

I didn’t know a Capricorn could be a scorp Venus?

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Venus is up to two signs away.

A capricorn can be a venus in scorp, sag, cap. Aqua, pisces

I don't put much stock in gifts personally.

But the not seeing his apartment, being part of his friends and family lives would be a deal breaker to me. It indicates he doesn't see a future with you. Thats how I'd interpret it.

The point is. He may be speaking a different love language than the OP.

Maybe he Is ashamed of his living space.

It's not a shocker that some men have zero desire in interior decorating.

Gift giving and quality time may not be how he speaks his love.

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Does he Express his love in other ways than gift giving or quality time?

Isn’t keeping his family away from her screaming LOOOOOVE— Lmao

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Sounds like a perfect expression of love to me 😂

Also the love language you speak is not necessarily the love language you prefer to receive.

Ask him if his heart is open to receiving love and if hes indeed ready for the relationship that you want.

Also, has there be any behavior from your end that may have made him pause?

Both those venus are fixed in nature. Both are my way or the highway. Both stubborn.

It's essentially the same venus...scorpio & taurus. Different access wanting the same thing. Their eay.

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@PhoenixStorm He is a Scorpio Venus and Im a Taurus Venus

I didn’t know a Capricorn could be a scorp Venus?

Venus is up to two signs away.

A capricorn can be a venus in scorp, sag, cap. Aqua, pisces

Oh ok I didn’t know that, thank you. I’m still a rookie. That would be an interesting combination. Lol I’ve met a cap with a scorp moon but never Venus

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😀

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Does he Express his love in other ways than gift giving or quality time?

Isn’t keeping his family away from her screaming LOOOOOVE— Lmao

I havent introduced the majority to my family.

That.takes.time.

Do you ever date?

I wouldn’t introduced anyone I just fuck to the family either...

Nope. I dont date in the traditional way the majority does.

I dont even introduce friends to my family.

That.takes.time

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But you are trying to answer traditional question being non traditional...because you want to be normal aren’t you?

Posted by Kittens

If you are an Fire sign woman, expect to be treated like one. Don't expect to be treated like an Air sign woman.

Very simple

If you are retard - don’t expect people listen to your inane bullshit!

@Timon I see him when he comes over my place...we just don't go on dates....Im thinking im just gonna disappear from this relationship

Yes disappear and if he doesn’t chase, then you have your answer. If he does hit you up, act disinterested. Short answers. Have him begging for YOUR time. Again if this doesn’t happen, you have your answer. Make this a 30 day comittment, and meanwhile get new hobbies and or date other guys. After 30 days you probably won’t even care anymore. You seem close to stop caring already, but the other battle can be to get out of the habit of thinking about him, so keep busy!

@leeberated thank you