Dance with a cappy (42M Virgo)

I met this cappy some 2.5 months ago at a friend's house. She is my age and from my city. We both moved to the US a few years back as professionals; she started her PhD here. She was an ultra successful corporate lawyer back home. I was told by our common friend that she needs help as she is not doing well currently.

So I started helping her out; groceries, giving rides, teaching her driving to get her license and other stuff. Early on she was very rigid and aggressive for no reason. She added me on fb and insta and then removed me a few days later, when I questioned she flared up and became disrespectful. I got angry and was leaving when she called me back and apologized. Said she is vulnerable, which is true. I kept helping her despite many arguments early on. She softened up after that incident. I also understand her temper more. I actually think its cute when she gets angry. She asked me to go to club with her and tha common friend who dragged her to club. She says she is looking to meet a guy at such places; initially she asked me to go away since no guy will hit on her with me around then later in the night, she asked me to dance (Salsa) with her and was really close to me. It was new since we never really touched before and this sudden intimate moment ignited a spark. Her behavior confuses me too.

She went on a couple of long all night trips I usually have for work. Staying up all night for such trips was a surprise for me. I was recently moving to a new place and she dutifully took care of my food almost everyday for more than a week. Lately, I felt she has started testing me seriously for a long term relationship for my responses to different situations. She had been married before but it did not work out due to physical abuse. She does throw sentences like 'she is a good wife' in traditional sense. In the last week or so, she has said things like 'I want you', 'I need you' and 'would you love me if I asked you to?' The issue with me is, I guard my heart like a fortress and I guess after throwing hints and flirting, she is now kind of saying more openly.

We are both 42. I look 8-10 years younger, she looks a bit older than her age. I have had my fair share of flings and she is experienced with men. The thing that stops me from going all in is whether what she says is true and to what extend. She won't say she loves me but that she wants me to love her. Does she want me to chase her due to her habit or need?

I need to understand what she is up to? Whether she means what she says or playing games. She says she is good with making men chase her and gives such advice to her friends. I on the other hand am never interested in games and can walk away even if I love someone.

Capricorn is a slow burn, but you're both seasoned, and you could just ask her.

And her history would make this tentative too, any history with abuse and her guard would naturally be up.

I would take the direct approach, if she's known you long enough, lay your cards on table and let her come to you.

And be direct about the games, you don't play them and you'll walk. We sometimes need bluntness to snap us out of our shit.

I'd say be direct too. Capricorn girls like traditional stuff. Just ask her out to dinner.

But only if you are willing to text her daily, take her out to lunch/dinner etc every weekend, and be traditional boyfriend.

What do you think of potential marriage with her?

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