I might pushed him emotionally without knowing.. what to do ?

in a hard phase in his life .. i didnt know i just sensed him being different .. so i asked him if there is anything wrong .. after two times he told me he isnt himself and there are things going on with him that he cant share asnd asked me to be patient till this phase ends ... But sometimes i get suspicious.. and i try to ask things and tell him that i’m like this only because we’ve been dating for 2,3 months only .. he was understanding but i can sense that he doesnt like it because for some reason the conversation gets a bit dramatic .. or emotional.. the last thing happend was that i posted something on twitter and i deleted it but he saw it and reacted to it .. i tried to explain that i dont mean it and i love him and i tried to be casual or cool lol like heyy come on i dont mean it .. but he ignored me then i said ok i’m sorry for real .. but i dont deserve to be ignored ( which i regret saying because i feel like he was already feeling heavy and i just added to that)

Then he replied and he was mad obviously.. but said ( i dont get whats wrong, and i honestly dont need any of this now.. i’m already too caught in my own problems and cant thjnk of anything else! I’m sorry if you cant take it.. i dont mean to.. but i hope this phase pass .. pray for me)



And i felt like shit lol... i didnt mean to add to his sadness i was trying to explain that i didnt mean wht i said and that i love him so much ... but yeah.

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Posted by ni1992

He asked for time (has nothing to do with us) .. i gave him .. but everyonce in a while there is something that pops ups .. and i ask for a clarification or i try to clarify myself or share some emotions .. the confusion is because its we arent dating for so long and this thing appeared too early he has something going on in his life .. the thing is I always tell him i’m here and i’ll be patient and then something happens unintentionally and i feel like i’m pushing him without knowing.. he tries to reply politely but i can sense him being fed up but trying to suck it ... I felt like i’m pushed him away too much ... and i want him to be honest and i want to learn to be more patient ...

what to doooo ?? 😢

And do i still have a chance?

Give us an example of this.

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friend.. we are dating.. i said we havent been dating for so long .. thats what created the confusions .. we were getting to know eachothers and then this happend u know

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Posted by ni1992

I mean he is in a hard phase in his life .. i didnt know i just sensed him being different .. so i asked him if there is anything wrong .. after two times he told me he isnt himself and there are things going on with him that he cant share asnd asked me to be patient till this phase ends ... But sometimes i get suspicious.. and i try to ask things and tell him that i’m like this only because we’ve been dating for 2,3 months only .. he was understanding but i can sense that he doesnt like it because for some reason the conversation gets a bit dramatic .. or emotional.. the last thing happend was that i posted something on twitter and i deleted it but he saw it and reacted to it .. i tried to explain that i dont mean it and i love him and i tried to be casual or cool lol like heyy come on i dont mean it .. but he ignored me then i said ok i’m sorry for real .. but i dont deserve to be ignored ( which i regret saying because i feel like he was already feeling heavy and i just added to that)

Then he replied and he was mad obviously.. but said ( i dont get whats wrong, and i honestly dont need any of this now.. i’m already too caught in my own problems and cant thjnk of anything else! I’m sorry if you cant take it.. i dont mean to.. but i hope this phase pass .. pray for me)



And i felt like shit lol... i didnt mean to add to his sadness i was trying to explain that i didnt mean wht i said and that i love him so much ... but yeah.

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Posted by ni1992

He asked for time (has nothing to do with us) .. i gave him .. but everyonce in a while there is something that pops ups .. and i ask for a clarification or i try to clarify myself or share some emotions .. the confusion is because its we arent dating for so long and this thing appeared too early he has something going on in his life .. the thing is I always tell him i’m here and i’ll be patient and then something happens unintentionally and i feel like i’m pushing him without knowing.. he tries to reply politely but i can sense him being fed up but trying to suck it ... I felt like i’m pushed him away too much ... and i want him to be honest and i want to learn to be more patient ...

what to doooo ?? 😢

And do i still have a chance?

Give us an example of this.

you said yall arent dating. why do you expect boyfriend behavior from someone who isnt your boyfriend?

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Posted by stillstillwater

Yes you do if you are willing to ride it out but ask yourself if youre okay waiting for someone who you just met?

Also, I think you do not have a chance because if you're unable to be logical and continuously need reassurance you might crack soon and explode even more.

Ask yourself if given the current situation you can meet his needs? And if youre okay putting your own needs on hold?

I'd say just live your life and if he comes around he comes around if not at least you're not waiting for a maybe.

Posted by ni1992

I understand.. it is too difficult for me to be honest .. as i feel lane sharing emotions with someone who his head is somewhere else .. and thats what is creating the problems (i think) .. to be honest .. this person is different.. i want to try for him .. and i want to adjust myself for him .. and i want to wait and to put his needs before mine ... i just dont know if be would accept me after all those mistakes and misunderstandings .. and i cant say anythjng more now ..

Btw we just met and hust dated (11th august) but i know his sisters i know his friends so he is a bit common to me jot someone i have 0 knowledge about and i dont know its just that i have strong feeling thag this person is different and he is worth it and I’m someone who requires a lot of attention but with him .. I’m welling to give up that .. i just want us to get back and be good.. and i’m not sure if I have a chance to do that ..



But yeah i guess nothing to do but to focus on myself till he comes back.. 💔

Posted by stillstillwater

Yes you do if you are willing to ride it out but ask yourself if youre okay waiting for someone who you just met?

Also, I think you do not have a chance because if you're unable to be logical and continuously need reassurance you might crack soon and explode even more.

Ask yourself if given the current situation you can meet his needs? And if youre okay putting your own needs on hold?

I'd say just live your life and if he comes around he comes around if not at least you're not waiting for a maybe.

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Posted by ni1992

we’ve been dating for 2,3 months only

the last thing happend was that i posted something on twitter and i deleted it but he saw it and reacted to it .. i tried to explain that i dont mean it and i love him and i tried to be casual or cool

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I know a Capricorn man who met a woman in October, dropped the L bomb in November, got engaged in December and married in January.

Posted by daisy57

I know a Capricorn man who met a woman in October, dropped the L bomb in November, got engaged in December and married in January.

Posted by ni1992

He asked for time (has nothing to do with us) .. i gave him .. but everyonce in a while there is something that pops ups .. and i ask for a clarification or i try to clarify myself or share some emotions .. the confusion is because its we arent dating for so long and this thing appeared too early he has something going on in his life .. the thing is I always tell him i’m here and i’ll be patient and then something happens unintentionally and i feel like i’m pushing him without knowing.. he tries to reply politely but i can sense him being fed up but trying to suck it ... I felt like i’m pushed him away too much ... and i want him to be honest and i want to learn to be more patient ...

what to doooo ?? 😢

And do i still have a chance?

Posted by pisceanloves

I feel you but you gotta remind yourself that IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, he told you so. You can't get insecure because it's not about you at all. I might have pushed my virguy away too, except he has trouble communicating. Give your guy space girl, it won't take him long to come back.

Idk what I'm gonna do with mine tho, I'm not reaching out till he does. I know that for a fact

Posted by ni1992

The thing is he never reached me out .. he wants me to do all the work ... and when i complain he lose it !.. now it has been 2 month and we are in the same spot.. i spoke up with him to tell him that i love him but i cant do this he has to either explain to me anything or just try to do 5% effort its all am asking .. but he got mad after i said this and broke up woth me saying i’m not the right girl for him because i cant understand his needs.. 💔💔

Posted by pisceanloves

I feel you but you gotta remind yourself that IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, he told you so. You can't get insecure because it's not about you at all. I might have pushed my virguy away too, except he has trouble communicating. Give your guy space girl, it won't take him long to come back.

Idk what I'm gonna do with mine tho, I'm not reaching out till he does. I know that for a fact

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