Will this work for a Cappy Man

Sexual wise everything is great with my cappy man. But i want to let loose some of my communication walls in the bedroom. My cappy loves to talk to me during sex. He has even tried to get me to do the same. It is not easy but i want to be more vulnerable for him. But baby steps... would it be a massive turn on to have him read alone my private sexual thoughts of him in a letter before we got things going. I know how i think about him sexually is a big turn on. But i don't want it to come off as weird.

"would it be a massive turn on to have him read alone my private sexual thoughts of him in a letter before we got things going."



Why....? That would be like reading the thoughts of someone who's high and horny, while you are sober and detached. Why don't you discuss it face to face, while in bed? It's not going to be weird, if both of you are on the same page.

You should incorporate dirty talk into texting before you meet and have sex, that’s form of foreplay is always nice

Posted by Biboroon

You should incorporate dirty talk into texting before you meet and have sex, that’s form of foreplay is always nice

Agree 100% .

Lol he’d probably love it. Just open up.. test the waters & see how it goes.

Posted by Vicktoria

Aww. you're a shy crab. It's not weird at all. Place the letter in his briefcase along with your sexy panties before he goes to work.

Activate your Gemini placement and start sexting. He'll F you good.

Yea kinda shy and insecure. His dominant energy just quiets me down and i lose myself in the passion. Outside of the bed am vocal about everything else but its so hard to complement him sometimes. Its like trying to hand feed a starving dog but am afraid its going to bite my hand.

Posted by Biboroon

You should incorporate dirty talk into texting before you meet and have sex, that’s form of foreplay is always nice

I have tried this but in person its a whole other ball game. Its not about dirty talk its more about complimenting him.

Posted by Gobby

Log-off and discuss it with him, for Christ's sake.

What is it with people, these days? You can't even discuss your needs with your own partner? Seriously?

Its called being insecure. A cappy man is not into emotional conversations on how am insecure. I know what i need to over come it but i wanted community input on an idea. This is not relationship advice i am asking for this is like me asking if a cappy is going to like gucci flip flops over some nike sandals

Posted by Vicktoria

Posted by CrabbyGem

Posted by Vicktoria

Aww. you're a shy crab. It's not weird at all. Place the letter in his briefcase along with your sexy panties before he goes to work.

Activate your Gemini placement and start sexting. He'll F you good.

Yea kinda shy and insecure. His dominant energy just quiets me down and i lose myself in the passion. Outside of the bed am vocal about everything else but its so hard to complement him sometimes. Its like trying to hand feed a starving dog but am afraid its going to bite my hand.

What does he say when you compliment him?

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My compliments are awkward on my part. I think its more that am holding back emotionally. Caps are not emotional much but in the bedroom thats where he lets it out. Then its back to the mask he puts on. I want to go at his pace and mine as well.