Wtf!?

Following on from my earlier post, Capricorn man got in touch with me yesterday to basically say that he’s not looking for anything serious and not ready for a relationship and he feels like we are heading that way. He’s not long come out of a 4 year relationship (4 months ago) and says he needs to be on his own for a bit. He said he likes me and loves speaking to me and spending time with me and doesn’t want to not speak to me.

I’m like whattttt the F!? Is this normal I’ve never ever come across this behaviour before

It is normal. When people come out of long relationships it is difficult to commit to a new person quickly even though they might like spending time with them. So for now he just wants your company probably but not a full blown relationship. So if you still want to continue with him continue knowing that it will take quite a time to come out of the effect of the last relationship and you will have to be patient till then if not then just let him know and walk away.

Be happy! He told you all as it is. No ghosting, no gimmicks...out and open!

Like him? Wait. Man seems real deal.

What exactly are you perplexed about? He was in a long term relationship that just ended 4 months ago. You don't think his heart and emotions need to heal? You seem like you're in a hurry but maybe you should consider respecting his honesty. Maybe date others so that your primary focus isn't on someone who's not ready to take on the responsibility of you. Relationships are work and if you two are meant to be together then you will be.

Yes it's normal to take time to get over someone

I'd be more worried if a guy moved on too quickly....

I do respect his honesty and I’m not in a rush, I’m just confused by the fact that he has basically pursued me for the past month and a half and then kinda dropped this on me after the way he has been with me. Literally blowing up my phone day and night couldn’t get enough of me then done a 180 over night almost. Personally if I was not feeling ready for anything I would just stay away from the opposite sex but I guess that’s just me. I’ve told him I understand and respect how he feels and that I would never pressure him into anything so I guess time will tell

Posted by cancerzee

I do respect his honesty and I’m not in a rush, I’m just confused by the fact that he has basically pursued me for the past month and a half and then kinda dropped this on me after the way he has been with me. Literally blowing up my phone day and night couldn’t get enough of me then done a 180 over night almost. Personally if I was not feeling ready for anything I would just stay away from the opposite sex but I guess that’s just me. I’ve told him I understand and respect how he feels and that I would never pressure him into anything so I guess time will tell

Men still need sex even if their hearts are with another. In walks you. What? you don't want a FWB set up?