Help me understand, WHY Virgo male is attracted Aries?

I can see why Virgos and Aries get along very well mutually or some may not which is to be expected of every sun sign regardless.

But specifically speaking on the Earth Sign Virgo, analytical, seemingly stable, cautious Virgo male, I have always wondered why some Virgo male have been attracted Fiery Passionate Cardinal Aries who may possess impulse.

If anything I would have thought Aries women who possess the typical traits would out a Virgo off especially since they are an intellectual sign.

The Virgo male traits such as;

Analytical confuses their attraction sometimes messy Aries, especially having a Sag moon, I don't always look put together. One thing about Virgos they notice small details which they can nitpick on from time to time. They also are observant.

Wouldn't their attention to detail and love of specific things be put off by a messy Aries romantically.

I get the V Women attracted to Aries men but not other way round.

I must say Virgo is a very attractive sign

I’m an Aries and I’m married to a Virgo male.

I’m not sure where the attraction comes from tbh because we’re very different internally but we have similar traits.

Similarities are: we both have the same homebody traits as in our home is the one thing we agree on should be maintained, comfortable, organized and a respectful environment that is relaxed and a place to live for. Spending time at home is both of our priority.

Saying that, family bonding time is also important. We’re both dedicated every single day to our son, our relationship and ensuring we meet goals with our son, our own personal lives and then as a family. That dedication comes naturally to Virgo people, but an Aries also comes from a place of pride knowing their family is looked after. So both benefit from similar traditions and efforts.

Overall I’m not entirely sure what the attraction is but I just know we hold core values that make our relationship very natural.

I’m also very goal oriented, and I approach things that need to be done as a checklist. I pursue that checklist with like military precision, and I think that aspect in me makes him feel very safe knowing when I set my sights on the future…it gets done. He also knows that he has to contribute to this mission and he does, as long as I’m clear with him on what I want or expect. Im very forward with him on what I expect and I don’t allow him to be passive in our relationship.

We both take our lives seriously and I dare say we both get a lot of gratification from each others ability to see things through to the end.

i think it's an admirable sign with a lot of traits to look up to but i just don't care much for the temper.

All I know is the Virgo I was seeing dropped me for an Aries girl an married her. I think Virgo and Aries are made for each other.

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i think it's an admirable sign with a lot of traits to look up to but i just don't care much for the temper.

That's the beauty of Aries. Having a shit fit over nothing and then be the calmest person on the planet the next. People can either deal with that energy or they can't - here's a clue: agree with them and empaphise; if someone says calm down it's time to go nuclear.

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it's just too much especially on day 1.

but i've got a stellium in the 1st and my bf always said that the only thing he can't with me is my temper. i usually have the slow-burning rage of my mars but it's in the 1st so i tend to snap every now and then. but my anger doesn't really last. it can be for a minute but when i immediately get a reasonable solution, it dies pretty quick which i'm not really sure how i come off going around like that 🤷🤷

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i think it's an admirable sign with a lot of traits to look up to but i just don't care much for the temper.

That's the beauty of Aries. Having a shit fit over nothing and then be the calmest person on the planet the next. People can either deal with that energy or they can't - here's a clue: agree with them and empaphise; if someone says calm down it's time to go nuclear.


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it's just too much especially on day 1.



but i've got a stellium in the 1st and my bf always said that the only thing he can't with me is my temper. i usually have the slow-burning rage of my mars but it's in the 1st so i tend to snap every now and then. but my anger doesn't really last. it can be for a minute but when i immediately get a reasonable solution, it dies pretty quick which i'm not really sure how i come off going around like that 🤷🤷
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I think fire signs generally don't care how they come across. I've called myself the king of brats and someone told me not to throw my toys out of the pram recently. TBF with that sort of energy you know what you are dealing with. You only get the insulting banter with other fire signs or fire people, I miss it when I don't have it. I don't see anything wrong with anyone having a temper more fun than being passive aggressive.

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People are always so quick to label Aries as explosive or having "a temper" when in reality, IMO at least, I think Aries are very quick to set boundaries with others and stand their ground. Most people instantly react like "omg....you're so mean, you angry Aries" when in reality its just people needed to be checked to get back to their place and mind their business or behave better.

If I could give anyone advice who is falling for this narrative that Virgos and Aries go together, don't look back...this ain't for you, you will not find happiness here lol.

I might be married to a Virgo, and we're happy and all is good in our hood BUT for the average person walking into a relationship with the Virgo and Aries dynamic, it ain't it.

It takes an obscene amount of control for me to not want to beat my Virgo, like I want to beat his ass daily but I also appreciate him daily as well. It's truly a crux to be in because I made a baby with this man, I love this man, I want to be with this man forever but I also want to beat his ass...daily.

If you have the ability to want to beat someone senseless and then NOT react, because lol...that's just not in your nature to hit someone...then by all means, get with a Virgo or an Aries. BUT if you have any internal indicator that you will snap and cut someone...don't do it.

It aint for the faint of heart. I'm in therapy to manage many issues, one of them is anger. Virgo's test your ability to remain a good human, on the DAILY.... so ya.

I fell for a Virgo man a few years ago and even though we briefly talked, he somehow stayed in my mind. I don’t know why, but being in his company made me feel safe and free at the same time. Sure he made snarky comments and I was clumsy and open, but somehow the energy felt right. Shame I’ll probably never see him again.

But in other cases with female Virgo coworkers, it has always been a disaster. I hated every aspect of their personality. Domineering and rude, especially when they are nervous about the presentation. And we all know how Aries reacts to bullying. Burn baby burn 🔥.

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i think it's an admirable sign with a lot of traits to look up to but i just don't care much for the temper.

That's the beauty of Aries. Having a shit fit over nothing and then be the calmest person on the planet the next. People can either deal with that energy or they can't - here's a clue: agree with them and empaphise; if someone says calm down it's time to go nuclear.


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it's just too much especially on day 1.



but i've got a stellium in the 1st and my bf always said that the only thing he can't with me is my temper. i usually have the slow-burning rage of my mars but it's in the 1st so i tend to snap every now and then. but my anger doesn't really last. it can be for a minute but when i immediately get a reasonable solution, it dies pretty quick which i'm not really sure how i come off going around like that 🤷🤷
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I think fire signs generally don't care how they come across. I've called myself the king of brats and someone told me not to throw my toys out of the pram recently. TBF with that sort of energy you know what you are dealing with. You only get the insulting banter with other fire signs or fire people, I miss it when I don't have it. I don't see anything wrong with anyone having a temper more fun than being passive aggressive.

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i'm prob just not compatible with fire signs. my virgo friend married an aries man but i just can't handle the approach of fire energies. always make me nervous and embarrassed.

say you wanted to make out or whatever. i've had an aries immediately just grab me onto his lap and try to make out. but a water sign with some earth might want the same thing but at least would ease me into it. light touches and soft kisses. invites me to become more responsive. i freeze up on fire energies.

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I fell for a Virgo man a few years ago and even though we briefly talked, he somehow stayed in my mind. I don’t know why, but being in his company made me feel safe and free at the same time. Sure he made snarky comments and I was clumsy and open, but somehow the energy felt right. Shame I’ll probably never see him again.

But in other cases with female Virgo coworkers, it has always been a disaster. I hated every aspect of their personality. Domineering and rude, especially when they are nervous about the presentation. And we all know how Aries reacts to bullying. Burn baby burn 🔥.

Female Virgos in a competitive environment... Nope nope nope nope.

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Yeah, especially when they’re in a position above. I could never shut up and take the verbal aggression, always fought back and got into trouble for it. They were neurotic in a nutshell.

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Found this by @Hamsthetics



ARIES MAN + VIRGO WOMAN

the puzzle

CHEMISTRY

What strikes Aries first about Virgo is the sense that she is a woman of quality—modest, demure, and self-contained. She is notoriously attracted to Aries’ ubermasculine vibe, any gruffness in his manner notwithstanding. Physically, she tends to boast an hourglass shape, an undulating figure that often defies engineering. He is riveted by curves, but he’s not typically into the proverbial BBW class of females that counts many a Virgo in its number. Astrologically speaking, this earth girl is easy; but, ironically, she has the hardest time giving it away. A nod to her sign, there’s something pure and seemingly chaste about her, like your best friend’s kid sister, and she appeals to the Aries, especially, as that good girl you might take home to mother, or otherwise not engage. Meanwhile, her attraction to the Ram is mainly sexual and she signals willingness on this score via signature displays of compliance. She leaves decision making to him, hangs on his every word, and offers chunks of information on her self only when prodded. Of course, Aries will have had to make the first move, otherwise this pairing is near impossible to piece together. But she’s mastered the art of batting her eyes, like an innocent aristocrat waiting to bestow favor. She makes him want to be worthy of her.



COMPATIBILITY

Aries is, by nature, a loose cannon. Virgo, the sole mutable-earth sign, is a creature of conformity, as if made out of clay, molding herself, or letting others do so, to adapt to any circumstance or relationship of her choosing. It is tempting to the Aries to be confronted with a woman so eager to lose herself in him. He feels sanctioned as the master in this relationship, and no woman is more submissive than Virgo, whose sign motto is “I serve.” But beware ye olde master-slave inversion: She amasses power via others’ reliance on her. Playing the part of patron saint (the sign counts Peggy Guggenheim and Mother Teresa among its natives), Virgo has a giving nature but with major strings attached, especially of the emotional variety. So Aries, who likes free rein, might only imagine he increasingly has it. He finds it impossible to get around Virgo, one of a number of reasons why this bond is either make or break. But if everything were to fall happily into place, Aries will enjoy more than mere moral support; rather, Virgo can’t help contributing in tangible ways to a mate achieving life goals, something to which Aries is most oriented. The strange and beautiful thing about Virgo is she seems not to be aware that she’s such a force of nature. Chalk it up to her outsized emotional intelligence, a sentient if unspoken power that permeates the foundation of every interaction with her. It’s ironic that she can appear to be a doormat, whilst the Aries, especially, forever kisses her as the very ground he walks on. She does keep him guessing; indeed, as he relies on her, she can all the more easily pull the rug out from under him. Virgo woman is collagist in her approach to life and the formulation of ideas or plans. Aries couldn’t be more linear.



CARNALITY

That aforementioned dichotomy makes its way into the bedroom, too. Aries is a sexual straight shooter, that man on a mission, in the missionary position. Virgo’s own sexual agenda is not so much vague as it is utterly open and unfathomable. She is as unpredictable, and as molten, as the earth’s core, a word derived from Kore, the virgin goddess holding the phallic sheath, who is the symbol of Virgo, a sign that has its perks: No woman is more insatiable, and less jaded. Sex, for Virgo, nearly always feels like the first time. Remember that emotional intelligence. She is so viscerally attuned, it’s as if she has a network of special nerve pathways, for pleasure and for pain, that allow her to feel more intensely than the rest of us. Now, all of this can be a bit daunting for the Aries, but in stepping up to this sexual opportunity, he might describe it as more of a journey. She is naturally tantric, typically without realizing it, “quickie” being decidedly absent from the Virgo vernacular. And her infamous attraction to the Aries makes for some marathon sessions. Aries rules Virgo’s cosmic 8th house of sex, for one thing, as well as all manifestations of two people becoming as one to share in life’s mysteries—the house’s motto is “We have.” And indeed she wants to possess the Aries, body and soul, and vice versa: Virgo, in turn, governs Aries’ 6th house of service, which we’ve already covered in the light of day, but which takes graphic shape under cover of night. Not only are some of her happiest moments spent on her knees, but she can often entertain the full-on fantasy, complete with blindfold and collar. And what Aries doesn’t want a sex slave for his bar mitzvah? He’s always had a sneaking suspicion that women were meant to be thus objectified, despite what every other woman he’s ever met has had to say. He worships Virgo for the power of her passivity. And he actually considers her his sexual superior whom he must be in top form and practice to properly satisfy. Endurance is key to reaching the infinite plateaus of pleasure to which Virgo waves him on up in the everchanging landscape of her sexual play. Long, slow strokes whilst screwing will get her moaning like a cello. And she especially likes it from behind, if not actually in it. Touching and otherwise tweaking her in various places whilst pumping is tantamount to working that intricate nerve network of hers. And though Aries needn’t share this woman, he will come to realize she relishes multitasking in the bedroom; so, a well placed latex proxy is a welcome treat while his own manhood is being otherwise (orally) engaged. Toys are a Virgo’s stock in trade, and though the Ram isn’t naturally inclined to gadgetry, he does well to get into it. There is no end to the sexual possibilities with Virgo, and, as a result, Aries will increasingly find himself being taken hostage by her serviceability.

"as if made out of clay, molding herself, or letting others do so, to adapt to any circumstance or relationship of her choosing."

lol true i don't even have a type. my ideal is whoever i'm dating. i romanticize whoever i love 🤷‍♀🤷‍♀