Advice needed - Cap woman & Taurus man

All started 10 months ago.

I will try to be as short as possible. We've met online and it all started quickly. He (37) is in a long term relationship with a Gemini woman(39) (8 years) and I (31) am married with an Aquarius man(32). (10 years)

He let me know from the beginning that has issues in his relationship and wants an extra long relationship. I told him I am not into cheating, because it's not fair for anyone. He cheated his gemini woman multiple times over the years. He said that are just good friends now and it was never what he wanted but it was fine because he is calm and never argues.

Even though I knew it was not right, things got interesting (on several levels, not only sexual) between me and him and we've met. It was a dream come true and we imediatly got in love. It was a lot of passion, care, admiration etc etc and also a lot of jealousy. We've managed to meet each and every day till then. We neglected our relationships, especially me because his relationship was somehow distant before knowing me. I started to care too much and ask too much from him, but he always told me that he wants me to understand that he cannot let her at almost 40 years. He knows that is his fault for the situation, that he should end the relationship with her from the beginning but now it's too late to make this step. I tried to end things several times but he came back and told that has feelings for me and wants to be happy in our secret world. He feels something special for me and he loves me but unfortunately we've met too late. We had different argues because of his possessiveness and jealousy (about my husband..but it was extended to some other colleagues etc) His Gemini women wants a baby and asks him to cristal clear things. They didn't had sex since he met me.

I know I should have trust my gut from the beginning and never accept to meet him. I understood his issues but I started to care too much and want him just for me. Do you think it will be more than just an extra relationship between me and him at some point?

Me: Capricorn Sun, Capricorn Raising, Sagittarius Mars, Aquarius Venus, Virgo Moon

Him: Taurus Sun, Capricorn Raising, Scorpio Mars, Taurus Venus, Scorpio Moon

Thanks in advance!

Take a look at this 🙂

https://www.dxpnet.com/taurus-forum/my-taurus-husband-cheating-on-me-14732457/?p=20

This is stupid drama

Posted by saggurl88

Take a look at this 🙂

https://www.dxpnet.com/taurus-forum/my-taurus-husband-cheating-on-me-14732457/?p=20

Wow, that's very sad. 😶

Posted by Truemara

This is stupid drama

Yes, indeed. A lot of drama and fake intentions apparently.

Posted by Gobbie

Posted by Truemara

This is stupid drama

Yes, totally unnecessary.

If there's one red flag that shouldn't have been ignored, it's the fact that he has constantly cheated on his wife. That alone doesn't bode well for the future.

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They are not married, but doesn't matter. Yes, he cheated her from the beginning, from the first year. The argument was that he had peace and quiet with her and that was what he searched for and never had on his previous relationships.

Posted by thatlibralife

This sounds eerily similar to that Taurus man Gemini woman cheating drama couple on here omg. Surely all Taurus men can’t be like this my goodness?! I was married to one for 20 years and he too was sneaky.

Girl he ain’t going nowhere. He will not leave his wife. They like comfort and stability yet can lead double lives and lie straight to your face while doing it. I can testify to that but that’s a story for another day. His wife would have to leave him first believe me.

Do you really believe he’s not sleeping with his wife? Ten to one that’s not true.

Best advice is to stop this and reconcile with your husband but I’m sure that’s not what you want to hear…

They are not married but doesn't really matter. The thing is that when they met, 8 years ago, he was suffering from some wrong relationships and according to his sayings, the Gemini woman was there for him. He liked that she is calm and never argues, that she understood his moods etc. He was her first one (she had 31 when they met) and I suppose that this aspect counted enough on his decision to remain. He cheated her from the beginning, initially with some ex girlfriends from time to time. It was obvious that sexually they weren't compatible, but he wanted a calm relationship and that kept him there. He also had an extra relationship for 2 years with a married Pisces woman and they cared about each other but home was always home. Pisces woman ended their relationship and for three years he said that he tried to fix things with Gemini women, but it was in vain because things got even more cold and distant from a romantic point of view, she started to refused him sexually and everything turned into a good friendship. Not to mention that he is a very sexual person as a Taurus, but also due to his Scorpio placements (especially Mars). He said that being rejected sexually made him turn off and distance himself emotionally from the Gemini woman.

I know that prior to meet, he wanted from me something somehow similar with what he had with that Pisces woman: meeting twice per week, having sex, sharing details from our life, caring as friends. But according to his sayings, it was very intense between us from the beginning (I felt the same) and he started to be very jealous and we have met daily (sometimes even twice or three times per day). Things home went in the same direction for him (yes, I know that sounds weird with no sex in 10 months with her...I still don't trust that part, but I know that he was very hurt when she constantly rejected him sexually and also I know that he had a "testing" period when he wasn't initiated nothing with her 6 months just to see how she reacts and she was fine without having sex, there was nothing wrong and he was very disappointed and hurt). He said that it was not expecting to have such a good compatibility with me and the plans he initially had were somehow ruined because he started to feel deep things for me.

Now, I know that he is a sneaky person becuse I can see how speaks with the Gemini woman when we are together and what he is saying her (lies) which sounds very natural and you can never think that he would lie with that. Sometimes I am thinking that he lies me in the same way... Even if he is a very good lier, he told me clear from the beginning what he wants and never tried to promise me more than he can offer. Even if we had several "drama" episodes which went into tears from both sides, he always tried to make me understand that the situation is complicated and je don't want anyone to suffer because of him.

He is happy when the things are fine with both me and her.

For me is hard to understand how the Gemini women is not thinking that he has someone else since there are evident signs. He tried to maintain the apparences of a normal relationship there but as a women is supposed to feel when your partner is no longer interested on you in a romantic way.

In the last period he was distancing himself a bit from what we have because the Gemini woman is on her 40s almost and wants a family with him. Also he said that some of the things I have told him about what he has done over the years, hurt his feelings and started to think of it's correct what he is doing. I was very rational and always encourage him to fix the issues home and stop finding "solutions" outside. For me the things are black or white, no grey areas.

Posted by CookieMonster123

2 earth signs cheating on 2 air signs

Tables turn

Sounds funny but we discussed several times that they both are compatible as we two are 😂