Gemini man stalking me, what should I do ?

Hello…I guess? 🙂

So I’m Sagittarius…25 November…he is 19 June

Blah blah blah.

We know each other for quite long time, maybe since 2017

We never actually been friends, it was always known that we have feelings for each other, right now I don’t think that I have good feelings towards him.

So it was really deep relationship, I learned a lot from him, he learned a lot from me, things didn’t work out, I ended the relationship, it was so painful for both of us, but I felt relieved when all that drama and painful love is finally over, I started to study and work more, have a lot of money, got myself a new car, and focus on myself and care about me more, like start to treat myself better, travel, and stuff like this, after the break up one year has passed, then I heard he is engaged to another woman.

I felt it before I heard anything, cuz I can feel things, you know?

Deep down I was sad..but happy 🙂

Sad because I lost him forever…that’s how I felt, but also I was happy that our story is finally over now, and for good, that’s what I thought back then.

Because he was …obsessed ..jealous, and scary when he gets angry.

I told myself..now I’m free 😢 This man have wife, and I can be myself again, cuz I sensed that he is always there…near ( I don’t know how to explain)

And yeah I planned to go to another country for vacation with the family, we did it and I really enjoyed and forgot about him, back and work and life goes on.

Then he got married, I wrote him:” I’m happy for you, please be happy “🙏🏻

He didn’t answer.

After three months of his marriage, he start to stalk me ( At first I didn’t know)

Then he wanted me to know, he started to post a picture of me (not clear one…but I knew right away it was me)

He post a picture of my car (from behind)

He was driving behind me in the highway ( a really long road)

This when things start to become really heavy, cuz I live in place were I can’t report him, the police themselves will blame me for his actions.

I start to feel scared ( I’m not that kind of person who gets scared easily…but I was, still sometimes 😢).

I discovered that he was stalking me even at the beginning of his marriage.

I was in a shock for few days, I couldn’t sleep good, I barely eat anything, I cried a lot, I felt like I’m being watched for looong time

I can’t even tell you the feelings I felt, he took a picture of me, my family, my kids, my friends, the places I go to, I loved this man in the past, I couldn’t believe that he is the same person, I felt trapped.

I couldn’t even understand what did he want from me? Because he says NOTHING

He was just stalking me, every day, he has wife, a new one.

I was thinking what have I done wrong? Should I apologize to him that I broke up with him? Is that what he wants?

I told my sister about what’s going with me, but she told me to let go of him, and that’s he now have wife, and I should leave him alone (she didn’t believe me)💔

I spent my nights awake…sometimes crying

I felt so so lonely

I started to think about what if he kidnaps me? What if he kill me? What if he rape me? Or did something bad to my kids.

I pray a lot, even tho I don’t believe in god (the irony)

Then One night I couldn’t take it anymore…I felt like dying.

And I call him, he answered

And I ask him about what he is doing and stuff

He said he is doing great

- are you happy with her?

- yeah I’m so happy with her

-then why are you doing this to me?

-what do you mean? ( he pretended that he did nothing)

-you know…(I couldn’t say it….I don’t know why) I just started crying, I told that I don’t hate him, and I’m sorry for the pain that he go through

I told him that I don’t know what I did wrong?

He told me:

I don’t hate you at all, I will never hate you

I asked him: when will this be over then?

He played dumb again:

- I don’t know what you r talking about.

I realized at that moment that he is playing games with me, some kind of sick games.

We never talk after this conversation

And…this gemini man still stalk me

I’m not afraid of him like I was at the beginning

But I hate this, I hate that I’m victim of stalking, and I don’t knwo why he is doing this

Believe me when I told you that I feel sorry for him, because I know he is not happy

Happy people don’t do that.

Ah…

I guess I’m here because I need answers, I need some kind of explanation of why this is happening to me?

Why would anyone fo this?

What should I do to stop him?

Because sometimes I feel like I can’t even work, or go out with my family

I feel like I did something wrong, Yeah I blame myself and I know it’s wrong, but it’s what it is

And sorry if the thread is so long🥺🙏🏻

Get a dashcam that records the rear too… and outfit your house with high tech cctv cameras everywhere, enable motion alerts on your phone. Are you sure he’s doing this in person? Would he risk that? He could be getting someone else to stalk you, given there’s so much at stake for him. But if you do manage to capture him on camera, you can threaten him with it- ask him to stop or you’ll send the photos to his wife. If that doesn’t work, get in touch with someone influential in your network, and ask if they can help- if not, hire someone who can enforce consequences and have them communicate it to him politely.

Also if you are living in a stand-alone house, you should consider moving to a gated community. Where did he take the photos of your kids? At school or with you/family? I’d suggest you alert the authorities at school.

Damn. I know a 19 June gemini also. He liked me and I only saw him as a friend. One time he annoyed me so much cause he kept demanding an answer from me for why I don't see him more than a friend and it was very weird really that I had to block him. He found my social media accounts and started to send me messages on it (nothing threatening though.. only wanting to communicate). He only had my number before and we were not even friends on social media. He did admit that he knows the place where I work (which I never told him about). Maybe they have a stalking streak.. I don't know what's wrong with them.

Just a fair warning:

Geminis in my experience can be worse stalkers than a Scorpio. Although, it’s a fleeting feeling and it is not malicious. Not saying there aren’t psychotic ones out there. But there is always that duality of personality that truly shocks people 😈

Let’s hope common sense prevails in this guy’s case.

It sounds like it was not a very healthy relationship with rage and jealousy and obsessive stalking on both ends. I mean, you kept messaging him and following his life even after he got married.

It’s too bad you can’t take legal action in your country. I would just always stay aware of my surroundings and be able to defend myself.

Have no fear! That’s the worst you can do. Otherwise, live your life. Eventually he will go away. Statistics say it is not likely he will harm you.

I tend to notice those that has birthdays falls on the 19th of every month has some kind of demanding and narcissist issues. And I do mean all of them. It take someone with a cool level head like me to pull them aside and set them to a reality check. I don't have nothing against them.

I know it sound strange and this might sound like this has nothing to do with this thread but my only positive feedback to this thread is be sure you know what you dealing with with those 19th birthday folks.

Posted by Krabss

Wtf, where is he posting those pics?

Do you have male friends, brothers? Same shit here, police don't do shit, tho i don't blame them. So in the mean time, after couple of stalkers, i got a contact from a guy, he is a brother of my friend who will set on fire or whatever, for money, anyone and anything. Not much cause he knows me. He is working for the police but not officially - doing dirty work i don't want to know, everything i detest, but i have to take care myself for my kid.

Tho gemini men are usually cowards. Take a baseball bat with you and go to his home and threaten to destroy him and everyone around him. He will prob cry.

I need contact of your brother’s friend!

I noticed local men are obnoxious and have very little respect for women. Although, usually, when they know I have American passport, they show slightly more respect.

But if you show them some “balls” they will back off. Unless they are truly psychotic. That’s when you need a man to handle them. Unless you wanna dirty work yourself 😝

I remember you and this Gemini

Seems cyclical.

Kill him and get on with your life

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Posted by Krabss

Wtf, where is he posting those pics?

Do you have male friends, brothers? Same shit here, police don't do shit, tho i don't blame them. So in the mean time, after couple of stalkers, i got a contact from a guy, he is a brother of my friend who will set on fire or whatever, for money, anyone and anything. Not much cause he knows me. He is working for the police but not officially - doing dirty work i don't want to know, everything i detest, but i have to take care myself for my kid.

Tho gemini men are usually cowards. Take a baseball bat with you and go to his home and threaten to destroy him and everyone around him. He will prob cry.

I need contact of your brother’s friend!

I noticed local men are obnoxious and have very little respect for women. Although, usually, when they know I have American passport, they show slightly more respect.

But if you show them some “balls” they will back off. Unless they are truly psychotic. That’s when you need a man to handle them. Unless you wanna dirty work yourself 😝

Every women or anyone, should have a contact like this when justice system doesn't work. I tried legally, never worked, my male friends are awesome, but not scary, all nerds. Prob i could protect them, but not vice versa.

Are you in italy? Just yell at them, they will back off. I will ask him 😂

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Lollllll @ your male friends!! 🤣

Omg, bless their hearts. I know that nerdy look, no muscles and no facial hair 😬 Although, they can be dangerous and psychotic if they have weapons. Just not into physical fights.

Well, just when you thought women have all the rights in USA, they go backwards 1/2 a century. Are women safe anywhere anymore?

If he posts such pictures on social media (where else are you going to see them??) why don’t you point them out to his wife and other people who are also able to see them? And why can’t you use them as evidence to make a complaint about him to police?

Also, why do you stalk his social media…? Instead of having blocked him, at least when he got married? Blocked = no mind games?

I would make copies of them as evidence. Inform the police. Then block him. Simple.

In fact, I remember me telling you to kill this guy a long time ago

But you were being a love sick puppy over a guy who wasn’t treating you right.

If you really want to help, break the cycle

Or just continue to complain out loud.

Get yourself some protection and dispense some justice.

Or do you care about him more than you care about yourself?

Posted by Undine

If he posts such pictures on social media (where else are you going to see them??) why don’t you point them out to his wife and other people who are also able to see them? And why can’t you use them as evidence to make a complaint about him to police?

Also, why do you stalk his social media…? Instead of having blocked him, at least when he got married? Blocked = no mind games?

I would make copies of them as evidence. Inform the police. Then block him. Simple.

They stalk each other.

Been going on for years

Idk why she would call him (married man) and engage him

They both play their games

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Posted by Undine

If he posts such pictures on social media (where else are you going to see them??) why don’t you point them out to his wife and other people who are also able to see them? And why can’t you use them as evidence to make a complaint about him to police?

Also, why do you stalk his social media…? Instead of having blocked him, at least when he got married? Blocked = no mind games?

I would make copies of them as evidence. Inform the police. Then block him. Simple.

They stalk each other.

Been going on for years

Idk why she would call him (married man) and engage him

They both play their games

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True. I remember muting her in the past due to her annoying and immature posts, where she complaining (read bragging) about men being obsessed with her, while she did everything to entertain their behaviour. Or another thread where she said she liked one of her daughters because she was beautiful, but not the other….

She’s got the emotional maturity of a 4 years old.