Advice please!

my question is what if you been friends with an aqua man for years and found out he loves you though other friends but he cant tell you how hes feels beacuse he has been hurt in the past?? so he keeps it as just friends. what do you do?

I agree...Nothing

If it's not coming directly to you from him then forget about it until he grows a pair and comes to you himself it means nothing, 3rd party I love you's are pointless, being an Aqua myself, I'm a bit shy in love but you better believe I will lay it on the line if I love someone, rejection is scary for an Aqua but a true Aqua is brave and fearless when it comes to people were passionate about, I wouldn't say your Aqua is scared, more like lazy, we get that way sometimes, much rather not deal with the pressures of love

Thanks he is shy in love and i really love him but i dont want to scare him away!

I don't believe men are shy in love, a woman either inspires him or she doesn't, he needs a heavy dose of inspiration

Casually spend more time with him, dont make it obvious (throwing your cleavage in his face, bouncing on his lap, or even flipping your hair and smiling incessantly to things he says that are obviously not funny). Make it seem as though your just a cool friend whose easy to hang out with. The more comfortable he gets with you and scopes you out...aqua slyly of course...he can do what he has to do then.

You cant force him to do something he's not ready to do. Ive always said, you have to make it seem like it was the aquas decision in the first place if you ever really want us to do something. We are indeed stubborn people.

Here's some inspiration: Punch him in the dick. Problem solved.

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^He's right...but that only really works on libras 😉

LOL! Libras hahaha!

yeah I would say dont do anything....Im sure if you would tell him he would run away*just like they usually do*...and then you would start going through the hot and cold adventure...he hates you...then he wants to talk to you...and then you dont hear from him anymore....just dont say anything lol

"we get that way sometimes, much rather not deal with the pressures of love"

-hahaha!!! you think...that's an understatement!!!

"Ive always said, you have to make it seem like it was the aquas decision in the first place if you ever really want us to do something. We are indeed stubborn people."

-also very true!!! extremely stubborn...

mysticgirl...your aqua friend has venus in sag, correct— my aqua bf also has venus in sag which makes them even more of a commitment phobe/ freedom lover.
good luck 😉 that's all i can say!!!

Here's some inspiration: Punch him in the dick. Problem solved.


AHH!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! I thought the same thing 😄 *high five* lol

Alot of women forget that not all men are extremely straight forward & direct with their feelings like alot of women are. Some men start to have feelings for women & hold those feelings in for many reasons:

1. He might've never expected to have feelings for you in the first place so instead of embracing those feelings, he'll just sit back & debate himself, "Is this really happening?"

2. He might still have some feelings for someone in the past & isn't actually selfish enough to start embracing his feelings for you without fully letting go any emotional attachment to any one in the past.

3. He might've been hurt in the past because of this very situation: He discovers he likes a woman before she has told him her feelings & when he finally comes out with his feelings, she just happend to be the woman to leave him with the most scars; thus every time he starts to have feelings for another woman first before she voices her emotions, it reminds him of all the times him doing that turned out bad news.

4. He might have a major fear of rejection
5. He admires you alot which is why he feels confident & comfortable to tell your friends those feelings because there is no cue of attachment in that but when it comes to speaking to you directly about his feelings for you, he will close up his heart because secretely he only "lusts" you, not loves you.

And hey, if this guy really loves you, the first thing he's going to have to understand is relaying messages through friends is childish. We've all been hurt in the past but I always it as a red flag when a man reveals himself to everyone BUT the one he claims he loves. You can't help who you love, no but you can control who you wheel in before you're ready to start all over. And it's kind of unfair. It's like he's saying, "I love you but I don't want you because my ex pissed me off." And it's like, well it's okay to love me, but don't tell me you love me if we can't go anywhere or grow together from our feelings

When you tell others that you love them, knowing deep down that because of the past, you are just creating a longer & more severe emotional roller coaster for yourself and the person involved.

Sure, it happens all the time when the guy loves the woman & when she finds out his feelings, she'll completely diss him & reject him with the quickness. He'll walk away with pride & find another girl in hopes that the next one will actually love & embrace him the same.
BUT

You've always got those situations when a woman has been told she is loved by a man & it just so happens that she had feelings for him all along. Well, when those feelings of "love" are voiced, you cannot take those words back & it's unfair to voice feelings of something so strong as love, if you can't handle what "loving" someone means. There is nothing worse than finally loving someone & not being able to move on to growth with that person.

Sometimes, I'd rather just not know you love me unless you're going to be able to fully love me the right way 100% . Love is such a strong emotion. It's almost cruel to tell women now a days that you love them if you know deep down that it'll be just a word for you & not an action because of past strings.