Am I going to lose this aquarius male? :(

Why don't you just send a casual text. Saying hi and you hope everything is going well. This
way he sees you reached out but leaves the ball in his court.

its bed a year and you've only initiated the first call or text twice? sheesh.

and thats after the fact he pointed it out that he would like you initiating more. specificaly asked u to but u ignored it

he probably sees this as some sort of disrespect or thinks ur not as interested in the relationship he is

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. The last time I saw him/spoke to him was 3 weeks ago. He slept over and we had a great night - great conversation, chemistry, etc. In the morning I made him coffee and eggs. Then he kissed me goodbye and I haven't heard from him since. This is the longest he's gone without contacting me in a few years. I feel like he's waiting for me to contact but my insecurity seeps in and I wonder if maybe he just decided he doesn't like me anymore even though we had a perfect night last time we saw each other."

Did you have sex with him on this occasion?

No, I did not. Why?

Posted by aquaguy3000
its bed a year and you've only initiated the first call or text twice? sheesh.

and thats after the fact he pointed it out that he would like you initiating more. specificaly asked u to but u ignored it

he probably sees this as some sort of disrespect or thinks ur not as interested in the relationship he is

I like the way you think. Very logical. You're probably right.

Posted by honablue
I'm really scared I'm going to lose him. I think my issue is I still feel insecure about the relationship and I don't want to be vulnerable again. But I'm worried he thinks I don't even like him because I make zero effort..

This ^^. Your fear. Your insecurity. Your lack of vulnerability. THAT is what is going to cause you to lose him.
Fear makes us reak of desperation.
Insecurity is the first thing that will scare off an aqua. They like confident women.
Lack of vulnerability keeps us from getting close to someone.
Zero effort leaves them feeling like you could care less about them.

Posted by honablue
So if I don't start showing interest, initiating contact being vulnerable and letting my guard down, is the guy I've been seeing going to give up?

Yes. It's human nature. If he made zero effort wouldn't YOU give up?

Posted by honablue
I'm also nervous because he was at his friends house last night literally 2 miles away and didn't contact me. .

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Now, THAT sounds needy. He's with his friend and he has that right. He has to catch up with them, too, ya know. If you can't allow him his boy time, he will be resentful and you will definitely lose him.

My advice - contact him. I mean, he's already told you to do so. Obviously he wants you to. He wants to feel like you're interested in him as well.

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Posted by honablue
I'm really scared I'm going to lose him. I think my issue is I still feel insecure about the relationship and I don't want to be vulnerable again. But I'm worried he thinks I don't even like him because I make zero effort..

This ^^. Your fear. Your insecurity. Your lack of vulnerability. THAT is what is going to cause you to lose him.
Fear makes us reak of desperation.
Insecurity is the first thing that will scare off an aqua. They like confident women.
Lack of vulnerability keeps us from getting close to someone.
Zero effort leaves them feeling like you could care less about them.

Posted by honablue
So if I don't start showing interest, initiating contact being vulnerable and letting my guard down, is the guy I've been seeing going to give up?

Yes. It's human nature. If he made zero effort wouldn't YOU give up?

Posted by honablue
I'm also nervous because he was at his friends house last night literally 2 miles away and didn't contact me. .

Now, THAT sounds needy. He's with his friend and he has that right. He has to catch up with them, too, ya know. If you can't allow him his boy time, he will be resentful and you will definitely lose him.

My advice - contact him. I mean, he's already told you to do so. Obviously he wants you to. He wants to feel like you're interested in him as well.

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Wow thanks for all of your advice. You've put it into perspective nicely.

I really need to work on it. But, I'm not needy at all. I don't care if he is with his friends and not me. I just thought it was strange because he was in the area two times in the past week and we haven't spoken or seen each other so I guess I had hoped he would have reached out.