Aqua girl ... stopped talking broke up I NEED HELP

My aqua and i had a beautiful relationship. She was the one to say i love you first,promise rings, moving in etc. We were together a year. It was the best relationship ever. She even told me i was her one. I told her that too. To keep it short the last few two weeks she has been distant. I havent been bugging her one bit. About a month ago she was talk to her friends at work. Her girl coworker's husband is very jealous of who she hangs out with. My aqua is like Jade is very jealous of anyone jade doesn't like me hanging out with others. I know she was joking.. But I was worried about her friends.I just wanted her friends to like me. So i facebooked her girl friend that i know too. I told her i don't care who she hangs out . I am not jealous and that i hope we all can get some drinks soon. My aqua was at a party on friday this girl said to my aqua i went behind her back. And I was full of drama. I am a sweet Leo and only had the best intentions in mind. Saturday she is like why would you facebook nikki do you like drama? I told no and tried to explain through text why i did it. She said i believe its a lack in self confidence. I tried texting her but she ignored me. ...

After this i was so confused. Why so serious to this.. This was over something stupid. I stressed to my aqua i am sorry and wanted to talk and work on this. i told her loved her and wanted to work through this. She ignored me all day.

Now the bad part. I spoke to a friend of mine. telling her how much i wanted aqua and i to work. Shes like she doesn't want you shes lying. She is distancing herself. I cried and cried in front of my friend saying how bad i wanted her and i to work. Here is the bad part. I had no idea my friend went to my aqua and said you just lost the best thing ever and you are an alcoholic etc etc. all these bad things. I get a call from my aqua .. She said your friend is pathetic and so are you. Kept saying the **** word. And said your friend now proved to me you like drama. You obviously told her things more. Good look I wish you the best..

I didn't do a thing. I vented to a friend about my aqua and i . I never wanted to break up never .. I wanted us to work. Never told my friend bad stuff about my aqua. Now I am no longer with that friend who crossed boundaries and i lost the love of my life. I tried to talk to my friend why she did this. She said i did you a favor. She didn't want you. . I am at a lost for words. I can't believe all this. And it honestly looks

And it honestly looks like drama but i really didn't start it.. aqua wont give me a chance to talk. Shes done. Can anyone help me?

She did say btw i was at work all day. So now you look bad.. You friend is pathetic. I tried to tell her i just vented to her. Never expected this to happen this way. I love her with all of my heart and

She said i never said we broke up now you are single. I didn't either. My ******* friend said that to her. I can't believe it. I wish she would just hear my side . I will always love her never had any cruel intentions or drama intentions . it just happened

My friend who is not my friend anymore.. I was vented to her about us.. This friend crossed lines. Told my girlfriend that she lost the best thing. That she was an alcoholic and that will never be a cop. Those words never came out of my mouth.. This so called friend assumed bc she parties a lot and that her knee injury is still bothering her. I had nothing to do it with. I had no clue until my girlfriend called me and told me. I am honestly surprised. I went to the friend and told she disrespected me and cross boundaires. I thought i could trust her. She told me i did you a favor she didn't want you. She did it on purpose to get her to break up with me. I am just so lost and i miss my aqua. I know its way over.😢 Lesson you cant trust all your friends.

I was honest. Told her i vented and that i didn't understand things. I asked her opinion about the coworker thing. Yeah i should have went to her. I tried to get her to talk to me. I text her .. Really said no words about wanting to break up to my friend. She said my gf was no good for me and did me a favor. I lost two people at once. REally had no intention. My aqua meant the world to me. Always will. Guess will take it as a lesson learned.

I really had no intention of drama. I loved this aqua 100 percent. I always believed in her dreams and goals. I always helped her to keep the faith when her knee was injured. I said baby you will be a cop. That is why it surprised me she believed this jerk of a friend. She was distant in the last month. Kind of being nasty. Was making me question the relationship in my head. Before my birthday she was what do you want for your birthday. I didn't hear the text and she was like what do you.. if you don't tell me you get nothing. I thought that was out of character for her. I even bought tickets for a baseball game and i knew she was not working on a sat night. Shes like oh i might have this i might have that.. So yes vented to a friend because I was seeing changed in my aqua. Never wanted to break up with her. I just don't get how something so beautiful can turn like this. I had the best intentions.

After her knee surgery . She was like thanks baby for not bailing on me. What havent you bailed yet. I told her i loved her. Shes like i really hope we move closer one day. After i went back home after her knee surgery she was being distant and talking about moving back to florida. We ended up in a fight and broke up that was june 9. She said she finds herself crying over everything and that not her. That is she angry and doesn't know who she is.. Finally we talked and Then we got back together ten days later. She said we are still together but wanted it slow. I won baseball tickets, a whole package jerseys, hotel, limo etc. I took her and it felt good. Felt normal. Then she started to do the distant thing about two weeks later. That is when she started to be a little mean. I told her i got her those tickets on a sat night bc she works m- sat at 1:00pm. Shes like oh i might have to this. i might have this. I hate planning. I thought it was cool for us to go. She was even being mean for my bday. What do you want. you better tell me what you want or you don't get anything. I ended up going to her place for my bday and it felt normal. Real normal. Sweet. Went I left she said i don't want you to go. ...Thats when the shit happened (above). I really didn't mean anything. I loved her with a full heart. I am so lost and confused.

When the bad shit happened about. I never stated those words to my friend. I just wish she knew me..

No told me to have a good life.. she can't handle drama. I didn't mean for this to happen. I never loved anyone this much. Really i never have.

I was just getting advice. Yes i am looking at it now. I should have went to her. But everytime i tried to talk she wouldn't say anything. I even told my aqua that i should have talked to her. I am a girl .. so i have girls as friends.I am just surprised she isn't hearing me out.

I never asked that girl to say those things. She wanted us to break up. This friend has a wife... I am not involved with her and no longer friends with her. She totally crossed boundaries. Do you ever think this aqua will ever talk to me

Even if she says have a good life good luck.. i can't deal with drama. Do you still think there is a slight chance she will talk.. I regret talking to that friend. I usually don't do that. It just kind of blew up in my face. My aqua was in love i know that for a fact. I do know shes afraid to get hurt. She got hurt bad in the past. I have this aquas best intentions in mind eventhough my judgement was off in that moment. I did the wrong thing by going to my friend and i had no clue she messaged her. I just wish she believe me. I was the one who believed her in her when her knee was bad. I said baby you will be a cop one day you will , you are strong. I was just so close. It sucks. I am giving her space.

all I saw was this:

But I was worried about her friends.I just wanted her friends to like me.

Ok. Why does it matter to you what her friends think of you? What matters is what SHE thinks of you.

Listen, some ladies would prefer their guys not to butt in their girlfriend's circle. It is just so unmanly to some of them.

Thank you for responding. I am so upset.

No this girl told her.. you lost the best thing that would ever happen to yo. you are an alcoholic that will never be a cop. .Never said those words. The two months she was distant my friend asked where she was.. I said at parties. This friend jumped to her own conclusions. She did it so aqua would break up.. she thought she was bad for me. I never wanted to break.. never wanted any of this to happen.

In fact in my eyes. I lost the best thing ever.

Thank you. Thats a good idea. I have given her texts about my feelings and what i did wrong.. however what my friend said wasn't what i said. Still no response.. maybe ill try the letter.

People are saying its done. but my heart i know she was in love and maybe she scared then my mistake of venting in my friend.. i hoping she will talk.

she actually said shes not pissed she thinks its funny. no time for drama

Posted by feby16aqua
Just make sure that your thoughts are clear and direct. It's worth a try imo if you are really into her.

Yes. Please. OP, your words are not very clear and it's really hard to follow.

But if you're emotionally wrought, you're probably incoherent. Take care of yourself so you don't go too insane over her.

You really believe she was in love with you huh? If that's so, she would have told her so called gf to go fly a kite (to be nice and firm, not cruel) and go serenading with you on a gondola, preferably in Italy's Venice.

Maybe she's not as forgiving even when she's in love. I dunno. It doesn't seem to go together. Love usually makes us crazy.

Do i have a chance? Ever

No.. She never met her. I felt betrayed. She found her on facebook and messged her. She did it so shed break up with me. Yeah i know this sounds like drama.. Had no intentions. I guess i have to never vent to anyone else besides who i did and ive learned b careful who you trust. Yes this is the girl that i will probably never get over.

yes i find it very strange.. she was sneaky and betrayed me. made me loose her.. she is no longer my friend

I text my ex aqua put it all out there. I told her i am looking back at what i did. i should have never disrespected our relationship by talking to my friend. I told her i was very sorry. However, what my fried told you, were not my words. i had no idea she did that . i had no intention of drama. i hope one day we can talk about this. I am sorry for the part i did. I love you always will. i know this may have ruined things but i am asking if and when you are ready a chance to talk about this. I don't want to loose you. I am so sorry for hurting you and im sorry i confided in my friend. I will give you time and i hope you give me that chance. I always have believed in us and is both of our dreams.

Going to let it go now

Posted by jade72980
No.. She never met her. I felt betrayed. She found her on facebook and messged her. She did it so shed break up with me. Yeah i know this sounds like drama.. Had no intentions. I guess i have to never vent to anyone else besides who i did and ive learned b careful who you trust. Yes this is the girl that i will probably never get over.

well..

what were your TRUE intentions in talking to her gf? Her gf probably felt you were coming on to her, and therefore, make sure you're the bloody bloke who rips hearts of innocent women.

Could be a number of things.

Not saying that that was your true intention, but maybe you wanted to learn or know more about her, so therefore you wanted to get info from the gf. And this backfired. I dunno. Maybe. In any case you should go directly to the source, and if you wanna know more about your girl, get to know her family too. But if she doesn't have a close family I can see where you'd want to get to know other girls.
Like I said, maybe.

the private stuff my friend said never came out of my mouth. my friend assumed bc she is always partying that she is alcoholic . i like to party myself .nothing wrong with it. and the cop thing.. I always believed she will be cop.. I was the only who helped her during her surgery. I kept the faith that one day she would be a cop.

Anyways i tried to fix what went wrong. i had no intention of this happening. i lost the best thing ever. I tried to get her to see ..but i know it looks bad

My heart is saying she will talk but my head.. i know i fucked up,, even though not intentional. I guess this is a lesson learned. And i will never forget her or never stop loving her.

OP, are you talking to your girl and she's reading this or you're just spouting this out to the universe?

In any case, she probably "read" your character, and thought, "god, i dont want to be with this type of guy. I'd end up hating him and disrespecting him, because of what he did."

See, some girls are looking ahead, and maybe they're doing it without realizing it. It's automatic. Because they want a good future for themselves and perhaps a future family. Especially if a girl is thinking long term.

Yes i tried talking to her.. all i get is ignoring. that last message. it hasn't been long.. but i have a feeling she is so pissed. But i wish she just talk.

If all she likes to do is "party", then it doesn't appear that she's looking to retire to the countryside soon and bear you little babies yet.

Yes a lesson learned. I should have went to her.. She was distancing herself since june/july and yes maybe that made me not as confident in us as it at first.. after the first break up it was hard to get what we had back.. lessons learned yes.. but i will always love her.. always

Def won't repeat the same mistakes. Eventhough this stings i will be ok. I hope she knows i always will love her. shes living her life and im sitting her crying. But life will gone on.

Dude im a girl with a girl. hence the emotions lol.. i know her well enough that she is done. I know i may haved messed up eventhough not intentional. Ill take it as a lesson learned.

i miss here always will. Right now going to not date and grieve this.

Okay I read your previous post last night and then finished reading this one today.

I had a similar situation where I stopped being friends with someone over 6 years ago now because of something they said to my husband during the last moments of that suckfest. Truth is looking back with 20/20 I see that she did have my best interests at heart, that my relationship with my husband was shit and she knew it as well. However fuck her and I totally understand why you are pissed off at your x-friend now as well.

ALTHOUGH

That being said, Straight up your x gf sounds wishy washy, and has been giving you huge signals since your last post on this board that she is not into you anywhere near as much as you are into her. Your x friend genuinely thought she was doing you a favour because she saw what I am seeing here..
😢
Ouch I know.
I wanted to give you that advice in your last thread but noticed you made a new one and decided to read through and wait before responding with anything.

You sound really young.
Everyone is giving you a bit of shit about the wanting to be friends thing but I think that sounds normal to me.. In some of my first relationships when I was 17-21ish I wanted to be liked by my partners friends as well. Looking back I now see that as insecure but I'd like to meet the young lady who isn't right?

Anyway if I was your good friend, and I know that I'm not but if I was I would be warning you against this girl. Seems to me she has made it clear she was using you through her problems when she wanted support and lost interest thereafter.

That's a hard pill to swallow.

You're better off IMHO trying to get over this and find someone who is as into you, as you are they.
best of luck
-CLD

Oh I forgot but I also wanted to mention I totally understand the wanting to talk to your friends about your current relationship.
It used to cause problems with me and my x husband who thought that was a betrayal.

I understand both sides of that as well... I really needed a sounding board..someone I trusted not to interfere but with whom I could share my thoughts and feelings about my relationship too when I wanted to process them before talking to my husband.

In hindsight I understand why he felt betrayed by that.

I have another ex who would talk to his friends every time we had an argument, of course spinning it his way so they ended up all hating me. I was very young and had moved to a different city to live with him so I felt completely isolated. It was pretty shitty and I never forgave him for it

so yeh I definitely see both sides of that.

it's a tough one chicka but my advice still stands, I think this girl is a no go for you.

Thanks for your opinion CancerLeo Dynamite. I wrote her an apology letter and it came from my heart. Still no response. I found out she is running to her sex friend now. Kind of stings. But one day Ill get over this. Thanks for your help.